is by choice or is it genetic?

Bit of both but alot of people who are gay because of genetics can change it too...

But yea it is both tbh...

Genetic.

You don't suddenly decide 'Ok I'm going to decide to be gay' or 'I'm going to decide to be straight' or whatever.

People are always what they are,some people,using Lindsay Lohan as an example might not realise what sexual orietation they are but that's realising not deciding.

I'm not gay but it is genetic. This is why rules against gay marriage and anti gay laws in some countries are unfair. Also I think the way in which you are brought up can make you gay-er (dont know the right word lol) say if you grew up with just sisters etc.

I think people are genetically predisposed to be gay allthough enviromental factors affect how people indentify themselves.

I had a friend that was straight for most of his life and some how he fell in love with someone of the same sex.

I asked him if he was always gay and he told me straight forward, No. He was never attracted to men, until he met that guy and that he still finds women attractive.

I also know other people like that and some that said, they were born gay.

All in all, I don't know. I'm leaning towards, there isn't a gay gene. Just some people are wired that way.

Being straight is 'the norm' in society. So a lot of people gravitate towards 'being it'. Being gay is no different to being straight. It's just that being gay isn't obvious from the off as it's not the norm.

Love is love...

I most definitely think it is genetic, simply because it was obvious throughout my entire childhood up until when i realised I was gay.

I always wanted dolls over cars, purple over green [the new pink and blue doncha know], my friends were girls, i was very efeminate, i liked female orientated tv shows, movies, music, ect. its also why I don't blame people for bullying me by calling me gay because I was, it was obvious to them and would soon become obvious to me.

But maybe you chose to like girl stuff over boy stuff.

Did you grow up with strictly women? Maybe you patterned your life style after your sister or a female person that you admired.

I don't know really. I mean I have two sisters no brother but they both moved about before I was 5 and altho I saw them I havent lived with them sicne so they really couldn't have effected me much, especially seeing as one of them was not happy with my effeminacy in the slightest and constantly discouraged it.

I lived with both of my parents and spent almost equal time with both tho probably a bit more with my mum but thats because I didn't get on with my dad and the fact I was probably made me drawn to her more so.

i say genetic cos you cant choose who you fall in love with and agree with princess you dont suddenly wake one day and go today i will become gay/bi
i am bi and looking back i think i knew from around 12 or 13 but i didnt except it until much later it is a huge big adjustment to realise that whats going on in your head isnt percieved as the 'norm' (whatever the norm may be)

this is the same with my best friend. People are so horrible to him because he is gay and he wont fight back or anything cause what they say is true. I always feel so bad for him but when I think about it I see that its not really offencive things being said, its basically true. Even though they are trying to mean it in a bad way, it just shows how sad they really are.

I wouldn't say "genetic", because I don't really think thats the right word, but yeah its something that you can't control.

Both. A lot of people don't understand what is meant by "choice". It isn't just a decision when you wake up and think "oh I'm going to decide to be gay".

It's not a choice at all. personally if i had the choice to be straight i would. cos its much easier and straight forward. but its also cool to be different so being gay is ok.

but i dont think you can control or chose your sexuality at all.

I have tried going straight and its just not possible lol.

I had this argument with a friend before. He was saying that you choose your sexuality () and I was trying to explain that people are just born that way and they don't "choose" cause I'm sure if they could they'd want to be straight.

He wasn't getting it.

this is the most sense making post i've seen you make for aages
so +k

Neither. You're either born gay, or your not. But it's not genetic. There isn't a "gay gene". There isn't a gene that controls who you fall in love with.

Aww thank you! x

Agreed.

Very Well put.

I think that an examination of ones parents and Mother relationship would be revealing.

I think it depends on upbringing, not out of choice.

Upbringing etc is what is meant by "choice" but people misconstrue it and think that by saying choice, it means you wake up one day and decide to be gay- an ignored point I made earlier in the thread.

Oh, come on, for ****'s sake, this topic again? Stop making threads to simply make them.