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Originally Posted by Marsh.

My god. Does he not have therapy or anything to help with the anxiety?

That must be so frustrating to be like that in public.

It's expected with the work. I just have to make sure to give him some daily therapy at home. But in serious-ness, we're quite conscious of it and how far we let the work seep into our lives and that anxieties are talking about/addressed... they do give ample comp time, personal time, family time (for family issues, medical, etc)... he could take off a whole month and then some from comp for pretty much any reason... our benefits are also excellent so that helps... he's debating scheduling some Acupuncture appts to help with stress, to decomp...

But yeah, that's part of why divorce rate is so high for police work... and suicide... but the Catch-22 of therapy with anything law enforcement, military, if it's on record it can affect promotions... which is kind of understandable really, especially in the military... do we really want to send someone who may pop unexpectedly into a dangerous setting and actually have them lead other people?... so yeah, it could be a red flag for promotion... but they actually told him about a program yesterday, it's anonymous and held by the department... he can come in for counseling, family assistance (like helping with home repairs, etc) and other things... so that was great to hear actually because the pressure to perform keeps people from going... people tend to become very close-knit in that work (and the families as well), so yeah... officers will cry on each other's shoulders or talk privately about something bad if necessary... so that does help a lot I think that it is a very supportive community...

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

we need all the facts before we reach for the picthforks

We're only speculating at this point... that's fine, it's a forum.

Originally Posted by Marsh.

I'm not expecting her to invite him in for a sleepover.

I don't really socialise with my neighbours, but I recognise them when I see them.

I also know what living room is mine and what is someone else's.

I think I haven't stressed enough how dodgy some Americans can be in a normal social setting. From everything I've read, relative to our overseas comrades, we seem to be significantly more paranoid about random encounters... we're just so independent, so that's part of it as some people here are really hermetic now (particularly the young), and obviously we compete over everything...