[Ammi]

..I think that seeing justice done is definitely a factor with it ..when my son was attacked, his attacker was never brought to justice and I think after seeing my son was going to be ok etc, I found that probably the hardest thing to accept..his dad found it even harder I think and probably meant that it took longer to 'move on'/forgive etc but I think you still have to in the end because if you don't it means that you've allowed that person to damage your family even more and as I say, I think for me, you have to for yourself...that's not as extreme as murder of course so I can't say if I would feel the same way...but also, I think how I feel is that even with something like an attack on your child..if I wished his attacker harm/= in any way..?..I would only be wishing his mother to feel how I did and I think I would feel the same even if it was murder....