[Robodog]

'What you see is what you get' doesn't excuse rude, loud behaviour

But i'd rather that than have people who secretly bitch and manipulate others behind my back

At least you can actually make progress with the Helen's of this world by being as direct with them as they are about you.

With people who operate in shadows, sneaking and backbiting - they are slippery and sly and won't come to the table for a frank discussion. Much more frustrating.