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Originally Posted by Twosugars
 so that's why you're always so composed  |
I always think everyone needs a little bit more zen in their life, but
baby steps ...
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Originally Posted by rusticgal
Maru...you are too nice and so thoughtful. If I'm honest...sometimes I'm in the mood for a bit of mud slinging |
I think my problem is I empathize too easily with other people, especially online as there's no real boundaries there aside from ignore list... I used to be a really heavy poster, and I developed a lot of close relationships with certain people that way, but then I also realized too that it became too easy for me to "relate" to those folk and also feel for them when they were bullied online (as an example)... and when someone is ****posting, especially if it's towards someone I really respect and who I feel is being treated poorly even if they did enable some of it. It was hard for me not to feel very negative about that, even if I understand both sides, which is sometimes worse, because then I feel both people's stress... so now I just ignore out of compassion for myself.
I still lurk, so it's not like I don't read those conversations when I'm logged out. But when they're squished, I know not to focus on them too much and then it just becomes habit and I probably don't even need ignore for 80% of those on it now (and half are long gone).. but I like the comedic effect of strolling into a thread and there are literally tiny crushed DIVs boxes everywhere, completely obliterating the thread.. I look forward to pulling back those layers sometimes and seeing a giant dumpster fire. It's like catching on the latest Donald Trump news/his twitter feed/media outrage. If I can't sleep, I just google his name right before bed or I read the latest SD news/dumpster fire... does the trick for my insomnia.