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09-11-2018, 10:01 AM | #126 | |||
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09-11-2018, 10:03 AM | #127 | ||
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And no, it doesn't explain why this kid was disrespectful. I quite clearly said that the default should be respect. He should have been respectful towards the driver because he should be respectful towards everyone and likewise vice-versa. The reason he was disrespectful was not "because he hasn't been taught to unquestioningly respect his elders", and the reason for him having a generally bad attitude CERTAINLY isn't "because he didn't get hit enough". You're battling a point from a purely subjective stance of what you believe to be true and what you have been raised to believe is true. You have absolutely NO objective evidence for any of it, other than what you believe to be true and what you want to be true, and a few unsubstantiated observations that have far too many variables to be conclusive of anything at all. |
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09-11-2018, 10:14 AM | #128 | |||
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“Objective evidence. Unsubstantiated claims.”
You don’t sound any smarter by throwing around academic terms like that. Especially where emotionally toned topics go. I hope you know that. You can quote my words literally and take them at face value or you can take the substance of what I’m saying. Either way it’s all subjective so long as she and cultural differences come into it. That’s why no one other than you’s linking up ‘conclusive studies’ to substantiate something that all comes down to personal interpretation.
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09-11-2018, 10:41 AM | #129 | |||
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Oh and to add to this, I'm not only calling people from non western cultures lazy parents btw, plenty of parents in Western cultures still use corporal punishment too(just read this thread for a start) so you can stop trying to paint me as a racist or something. You're the one who brought culture into it not me, I disagree with it regardless of culture.
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09-11-2018, 10:48 AM | #130 | |||
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Bottom line is whether you’re in agreement with different practices or not corporal punishment to kids is so deeply rooted in some cultures it’s seen as an essential part of child training. Dismissing it as lazy just because it doesn’t resonate with you comes off as just a little bit offensive.
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09-11-2018, 10:51 AM | #131 | ||
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I'm not "throwing around terms to seem smarter", and you should be careful when assuming that just because a topic is emotionally toned for you due to your own personal circumstances, that it's that for everyone else involved in the discussion. I have little to zero interest in the emotional or cultural attachment to using physical punishment against children. I'm interested in whether or not it's objectively damaging to psychological development and the creation of stable, respectful, non-violent adults. To state that this kid is disrespectful towards adults because he wasn't physically punished enough is at absolute best complete guesswork - not least because we have no idea whether he was or wasn't. It's a guess based on another guess. To state that it's acceptable for an adult man to physically put his hands on anyone - let alone a minor, let alone one who is a stranger to him - is in my opinion morally dubious, and legally just plain false. |
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09-11-2018, 10:54 AM | #132 | |||
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You say it's a way of child training. It was also a way of training dogs in the past but dog trainers have updated their methods because they realised it was less effective and a bit cruel. Hitting puppies/dogs as a way of training them makes dogs fearful which in turn can make them dangerous/aggressive. It makes sense. It's logical. I'm not going to ever sit here and say it's ok to hit a child because it offends you btw, not ever.
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09-11-2018, 10:58 AM | #133 | |||
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But to go on and call half the world’s parents bad parents all because you’re not in agreement with their mode of discipline kind of is offensive isn’t it.
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09-11-2018, 10:59 AM | #134 | |||
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I never once said bad parents, I said lazy parenting in regards to disciplining their kids.
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09-11-2018, 11:06 AM | #135 | |||
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There’s always a difference between hitting a kid out of laziness and out of deeply rooted tradition.
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09-11-2018, 11:11 AM | #136 | |||
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A tradition is putting up a Christmas tree not using physical force against a child without questioning it's merits, surely? I understand what you're saying, it's the way it's always been done however should we always just carry on doing what our parents have done and their parents before without ever looking at whether or not it's the right thing to do? If we did that society as a whole would look alot different to what it does now.
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09-11-2018, 11:13 AM | #137 | |||
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09-11-2018, 11:21 AM | #138 | |||
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Indeed, i like a good ol debate
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09-11-2018, 11:24 AM | #139 | ||
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I also think there's some conflation between "hereditary habit" and "culture and tradition" here because I can't imagine many people unironically saying "Of course I hit my kids - it's tradition!"... more likely a much more generalised "Well sometimes it's necessary and my parents did it and it hasn't done me any harm" etc etc. I would add there though my opinion that refusing to challenge and think through the merits of tradition (no matter which side someone then eventually comes down on) is indeed lazy, or perhaps just stubborn, but either way not ideal in terms of parenting. Parents should always and repeatedly be considering what's the best move and assessing what does and doesn't work. Again I feel like I need to double down on saying that this is my opinion. |
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09-11-2018, 01:10 PM | #140 | ||
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I think when a parent resorts to violence to raise their kids then they have failed as parents.
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09-11-2018, 01:29 PM | #141 | |||
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09-11-2018, 01:30 PM | #142 | |||
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09-11-2018, 01:31 PM | #143 | |||
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Don't be silly now, this is not a violent episode
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09-11-2018, 01:40 PM | #144 | ||
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You sound very sure of that LT, I have two under 10 and my youngest is (mostly) non-verbal autistic and can be very, very destructive and can lash out herself, and I'm literally always tired, often operating on 4 hours sleep and never more than 6.5. I've never so much as tapped either of them (other than playfully, as they both like to wrestle and tbh the little'un plays bloody rough) and neither has my wife . Again I'm not going to condemn every single person who has momentarily lost their cool, but you talk about it like it's an inevitability when it isn't.
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09-11-2018, 01:44 PM | #145 | ||
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I honestly think this is a totally different debate to the parenting one though and I don't get how people are defending it... it's literally illegal and not excusable to do this to someone else's kids and encouraging it is bloody stupid. For the pusher AND the person doing the pushing. Honestly, all it takes is that kid being "pushed off the bus" to fall and properly hurt himself and that guy's life is wrecked. Definitely job lost, very real possibility of criminal charges. Even if you don't AGREE that pushing people should be illegal, IT IS and pretending that it's OK to do it and someone taking that advice is going to land them in trouble.
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09-11-2018, 01:45 PM | #146 | ||
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Here's another thought to muddy the waters;
I don't imagine for a second that people would be coming down so heavily in the driver's favour if this was a girl mouthing off, and he called her "fat bitch", threatened to "punch her face in" and physically shoved her off the bus. Give that some thought, and think about why that wouldn't be OK. Now think about why it's apparently OK to do it to a teenage boy. |
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09-11-2018, 01:56 PM | #147 | ||
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Or maybe you should not make the mistake of thinking that your patience and experiences are a baseline to hold everyone to. There are plenty of parents in worse situations that don't resort to hitting their kids. Instead of making out that everyone hits theirr kids, you should probably consider why you are endorsing it so much.
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09-11-2018, 02:01 PM | #148 | |||
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The post of mine you quoted was talking about the comment that was made about "If the boy had been hit by his own parents then he wouldn't have behaved that way", so you're replying to a point I didn't make there
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09-11-2018, 02:03 PM | #149 | |||
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09-11-2018, 02:27 PM | #150 | ||
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Oh I'm sure some people would, but I do think it would be fewer, with there being an idea that a "real man" wouldn't let a young boy talk to them a certain way and not respond aggressively.
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