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Old 22-07-2019, 09:18 AM   #1
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Dear LT: 'How can I stop my husband holding court at parties?'


My husband and I used to be extremely sociable: we went out a lot, and kept an open house. Friends used to visit us almost every weekend. That has changed in the course of time.

I recently began to notice that my husband gesticulates too much at the parties we still occasionally attend. He does it as if according to a pattern.

First, he catches peopleís attention and then holds that attention, raising his voice, speaking faster and faster, mobilising his hands to gestures, like tossing pancakes or throwing his arms like crucified Jesus. I believe he thinks his speeches, because thatís what they are, are extremely interesting: he tackles what I call ďheavy problemsĒ.

When he is in full flow, I notice that people look around trying to interrupt, change the subject or say something themselves. But no, my husband must be the leader of conversation.

I feel we are invited out less and less and worry itís because friends donít want to subject themselves to his arm-waving and speechifying.

How can I tell him to change his body language, to try to listen more and generally calm down?

Evita, Maidstone

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Old 22-07-2019, 09:22 AM   #2
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I suggest never going out again, or if you do tying his hand behind his back
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like tossing pancakes or throwing his arms like crucified Jesus.

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Old 22-07-2019, 09:31 AM   #4
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he sounds like your typical remainer
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Old 22-07-2019, 10:08 AM   #5
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I would suggest leaving him at home....
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Old 22-07-2019, 10:16 AM   #7
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maybe the woman should stop obsessing and watching her husband and make an effort herself

she sounds like a right controlling witch
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Old 22-07-2019, 10:26 AM   #8
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Divorce him.
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she sounds like a right controlling witch
she could start waving her arms about and knock him out
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Dear evita....stop dressing like a frump when you go out with your husband, then his wandering hands may wander somewhere else.
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Old 22-07-2019, 01:59 PM   #12
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maybe its Boris's girlfriend?
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Maybe she should for warn the guests that he has a medical problem and his arm flinging and loudness is involuntary
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She might suggest her husband finds himself a hobby while she finds someone else to go to parties with.

Oh!... Oh!... She needs a gay mate. They're well turned out, stand their round, not afraid to dance and you don't have to **** them at the end of the evening.

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she could send him to speakers corner
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Hmmm... not sure she should be encouraging the "saying it out loud" thing.
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Oh!... Oh!... She needs a gay mate. They're well turned out, stand their round, not afraid to dance and you don't have to **** them at the end of the evening.
Stand thier round.....yer having a laugh ain't ya. .


Not from m experience they don't. ..
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It’s refreshing they go to parties together they need to go in the garden behind the shed and get giggy.
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Old 22-07-2019, 04:08 PM   #21
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Stand thier round.....yer having a laugh ain't ya. .


Not from m experience they don't. ..
I got a gay friend who would kick the f out of most, your wrong if you think all gays are like those that go on bb.
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I got a gay friend who would kick the f out of most, your wrong if you think all gays are like those that go on bb.
From my experience...and that is all I can judge with.

A gay friend I have is hard as nails as well....tight as **** though.
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From my experience...and that is all I can judge with.

A gay friend I have is hard as nails as well....tight as **** though.
id have thought that would be a good thing?
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Maybe she should stop being such a judgmental cow and realise that people probably are interested in what he is saying and realise that she is the dull one and the reason they get invited less and less is because she stands there all night looking grumpy giving evils to her husband who people like
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