[Redway]

Just-about everyone with a stable sense of self-identity probably has certain opinions about certain things or ideologies that remain relatively consistent over time but maybe this time last year you were particularly unforgiving of something that you’ve mellowed down on since, or you were more against something that you’ve warmed to a little now. What would they be in your individual case (to the extent that you’re comfortable sharing here, obviously)?

[Mystic Mock]

I'm probably more open to different types of Music now than I was last year.

Tbh that's probably always my biggest growth in opinion every year.

[UserSince2005]

No I’m militant gay now

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Redway

Just-about everyone with a stable sense of self-identity probably has certain opinions about certain things or ideologies that remain relatively consistent over time but maybe this time last year you were particularly unforgiving of something that you’ve mellowed down on since, or you were more against something that you’ve warmed to a little now. What would they be in your individual case (to the extent that you’re comfortable sharing here, obviously)?

And obviously self-identity is an internal thing, for people who think being loud and particularly externally confident makes you complete and at peace.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I'm probably more open to different types of Music now than I was last year.

Tbh that's probably always my biggest growth in opinion every year.

Open-mindedness is almost always a good thing.

Generally speaking it pays to mellow things down unless you’re dealing with people you truly absolutely hate (which is fair enough). The slightest thing (however innocuous truly) can be taken as a threat and you seen as a passive-aggressive bully if someone doesn’t have the same values as you or have the same strength of being anti-something you consider very wrong. People are always going to push your bottoms and cross boundary-lines where you’d rather they didn’t but it’s not always worth saying something. Sometimes it genuinely is though.

As for me personally I still hate the people I hate with every fibre of my being but that’s people, not values or general opinions. But I’m definitely more mellow when it comes to the whole issue of discrimination (different kinds of it) and things that get in the way of appreciating healthy diversity (again, of different types). I still stand for what I stand for but I don’t express those opinions with the same level of vitriol and passion that I used to.