[Shaun]

Right, I've just had a row with my mum about my A Level result (singular, yes. I got an A in English, E in General Studies, am retaking Politics in January...and would like to do others in future).

Basically, she's 'disappointed in' and 'expected better of' me, because I only have one grade and I'm just a bit...angry about it.

The hypocrisy of this is that she, and my two older brothers, haven't even got any ****ing GCSEs, let alone A Levels, and she has the audacity to have a go at me for "just one" A grade.

To rub salt in the wound I had asked if a couple of friends could stay over at our house tonight because we WERE going out to celebrate but now she's being petty and saying they can't stay over.

Am I in any wrong here at all?

[AlexBigBrother]

nah, as long as you think you tried
your mam shud be proud of you whatever, your a nice lad, youve given me advice before!
you should be congratulated for your A and allowed to celebrate, and supported and comforted for the results where you feel you could have done better

[Marc]

No your not, don't worry my first year i got DCU... and my rents were not really happy, they were slightly disappointed in me, but the second year I really improved. At the end of the day there is no point in arguing with them, make it your challenge to prove them completely wrong and come back next year with better grades!

[Kate..]

No not at all, I can't tell you how glad I am that my mum says as long as I try my best the results don't matter and I feel soo sorry for my friends that have fits about getting A's and nothing less. You did well and it's not your fault your mother doesn't realise that. If you tried your hardest, you should be proud.

[Christina]

I know youve probably heard this before but as long as you done your best isnt that all that counts. You can magically always get A's and stuff. I dont think your wronge atall tbh, my mums the same she winges on and on at me when she didnt even do what was best for her education. She also tells me off when i get letters home about talking when she was exactly the same!! Oh and well done on the A hehe x

[Shaun]

Thanks everyone

[Marc]

Basically slap your mum with a wet fish

[Kevin]

She shouldn't say things like that imo...

You can only try your best at things. Aslong as you gave it your all, then go you.

[Legend]

Oh I've just had the same off mine, fair enough I got no A'S, or B's or C's but it isn't the point, they have no right to say what they do to you and should at least give you a 'well done for passing'.

Plus, especially as my brother who is naturally a lot more smarter than me and is on for 10 A's at GCSE's might fail cause he can't be bothered, it is irritating but I never then feel as though I have to prove myself, cause I'm quite happy with what I got, knowing I can re-sit.

[BigSister]

sorry to hear that Ant and Shaun but as long as you know in yourself that youve tried your best then that all that matters IMO

[Bells]

I'm in the same boat Shaun, but my problem is that my parents did their exams pretty well and therefore are in position to put me down. The point is though, you've already said you're going to do the Politics later.

I told my parents that this was my life so it was essentially my decision (since this is my future), and they had a go at me saying it affects them just as much - and the longer I stay in the house, the more I'm feeding off them! I guess it's true, but it hurts all the same.

[kerri]

Parents just want better for you better than they had themselves its only cos they care but as long as you know you tried your best they will come to see that too and stopping you from celebrating is harsh i hope they come round soon and good luck when you re sit x

[Nicola]

I was in that position years ago Shaun - my parents felt I had a lot of academic potential and came down on me if I didn't get the grades expected of me (I've failed exams and been reduced to tears by their reaction to it in school and college), but once I'd got the actual results they were pleased with what I'd managed to achieve - I know I struggled a bit with A-levels but passed, even if it was at low grades and my parents and teachers were satisfied with the overall outcomes. I feel that looking back, I would have been better off going to university after I left college in order to improve my long-term prospects further, then I would have had the career and lifestyle that my parents expected me to have at this point in my life.

I think you should at least get credit for passing and getting an A, I remember when I did my GCSE's and A-levels I seemed to get moaned at more for what I'd failed rather than being praised for what I'd passed. Good luck with the resits anyway, I know I would have taken that opportunity to really work at them and prove myself to my parents and teachers.

[Shaun]

Update on the situation: She's sort-of appeased me by letting me still have some friends over, so I feel slightly better now, but she didn't really apologise for what she said...moreso discussed what my options are from now on.

[Xander]

If you know you tried your hardest thats all that counts, Surely you mum is likely to be disappointed at first. Perhaps its because she wants you to better than your brothers did and wants you to do well?

[Shaun]

Lol, I don't need to try better than my brothers...one's a drug addict who's stolen from my mum to pay for his addiction...the other regularly argues with her (though they're on good terms normally). Actually, the second oldest one isn't so bad (called Dermot).

The thing is she always used to sing praises about me because I got into a grammar school and always had great exam results, including GCSEs, so I guess she was just disappointed with just the one result this time.

[Xander]

^ Sorry to hear about that with one of your brothers. I guess all you can do is just to try that much harder when the next lot of exams come up. Just prove her wrong.
Im going to get the same thing from my parents with my GCSE results, even if i get B's and C's they will still be disappointed in me."

[supernoodles!]

Shaun i know the feeling,when i got my gcses i only got a b in eng language and was predicted a* and my dad said 'just a b?'but it was the way he said it,dissapointedimo an A for eng and a level is fantastic esp for your first year so congratulations and have fun tonight you have obviously worked hard!

[AngRemembered]

Originally posted by Marcjswp
Basically slap your mum with a wet fish

Just be careful you dont hurt the fish hey,,,

[Fom]

Originally posted by Angiebabe

Just be careful you dont hurt the fish hey,,,

Yeh some people on this forum might get angry and start raising up the point that fish have rights!