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Old 01-06-2017, 11:37 AM #1
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How crazy that we're in June already! Hope you're all having a nice day.

I ask for your advice today.

My eldest daughter is having a right old rough time of it at work at the moment. She's really not enjoying her job anymore and her boss seems to have turned on her and a few members of her team. She works in a beauty clinic.

Normally I would tell her that no job is worth being miserable over but she is now paying rent and bills for a house on her own since she kicked her boyfriend now ex out for cheating on her.

We try and support her as much as possible but we can't afford to sub all the rent and bills. Im retired. She's suggested she doesn't have many savings either.

There are many people who hate their jobs and I hate to tell her to grin and bear it for the time being. But what choice does she have? To try and keep her head up and keep looking for another job in her spare time? She's been through so much that it's heart breaking seeing her in such a bad place with work now.

Any advice would be great

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I would tell her to try and tough it out until she finds something new, start actively looking, not even in the area that she is trained in and she could probably run a mobile beauty service if she got something else? its always easier to get a job when you are in a job I think, don't let idiots drive her out, go in do her stuff and leave, we don't always get on with people we work with but needs must
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If things can't be resolved at work she could try looking for another job. But stay at her current one until she finds a new one. I once made the mistake of leaving my job without having a new one, something I will never do again.
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i'd look for a job in my spare time. a bad job is better than being homeless.
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I would tell her to actively seek out new employment but keep her job until she finds something.
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I don't get on with everyone at work, but I usually try to be polite even to those I can't stand. The way I see it, I'm there to do my job and then I can go home.
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Yes i told her to keep her job however bad it is. It was horrible seeing her break down in tears the other evening though, telling us she was 'this close' to handing in her notice. R.
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Yes i told her to keep her job however bad it is. It was horrible seeing her break down in tears the other evening though, telling us she was 'this close' to handing in her notice. R.
we have all been there Ron, is there a person alive who hasn't felt this way at one point or another...
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Yes i told her to keep her job however bad it is. It was horrible seeing her break down in tears the other evening though, telling us she was 'this close' to handing in her notice. R.
She will find a new one, but tell her not to quit. After all she still has rent and bills to pay.
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She will find a new one, but tell her not to quit. After all she still has rent and bills to pay.
Part of being an adult, but i'll always see her as my little girl. R.
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I was feeling this way at my old department. The boss was unbearable But I was lucky they changed my work area and now I feel so much better.
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You'll be doing her no favours by bailing her out, life is tough sometimes but wrapping her up in cotton wool teaches her nothing
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That is true Niamh.

I was my own boss from a very early age, never really had to answer to anyone except myself. I suppose I was very fortunate. R.
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If she previously had a good relationship with her manager has she spoken to them about their change in attitude? Is there someone else in management she could speak to? If it was a job she previously enjoyed its worth trying to get the root of the problem and trying to fix it
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Could be that everything is just getting too much for her Ronald, what with the break up of her relationship.
Maybe she just needs time to sort her feelings out, not easy, but if she can hold on to her job until she finds something better it would be better in the long run.
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