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14-02-2018, 06:38 PM | #326 | ||
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I have never ever heard anyone say that only men abuse women. Its much much more common (especially to a level where a shelter would be required in the first place), but to say it never happens the other way around is just ridiculous Even if a few people do think that, there is nothing stopping people from fundraising for male only shelters (if they don't exist already).
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14-02-2018, 06:43 PM | #327 | ||
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14-02-2018, 06:52 PM | #328 | ||
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So again, what would be effective? Should we just do nothing at all while women are still treat like crap..
Of course not all mens lives are totally rosy either, but it really is mainly women who receive the ****ty end of the stick.
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14-02-2018, 07:03 PM | #329 | ||
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When it comes to the actual pursuit of equality, though, feminism monopolies the narrative in destructive ways and that's what needs to end. The idea that the path to equality lies solely in female empowerment is fundamentally flawed. In fact the idea that any equality battle is limited to "imbalances between the sexes" is hugely short sighted... There are huge amounts of oppression in our society, massive inequalities across the board, and yes maybe a lot of those "at the top of the pile" happen to be men but that misses the point by a country mile. Real inequality has absolutely nothing to do with penises and vaginas, its all just a distraction. |
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14-02-2018, 07:15 PM | #330 | |||
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Lets be serious, the issue is people confusing feminists with misandrists, and misandrists confusing their views for feminism. Take those idiots out of the equation, and feminism (its real meaning) is an essential part of the 21st century.
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14-02-2018, 07:23 PM | #331 | ||
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You CANNOT untangle the two at this point, it's an impossible task. The real meaning of feminism was an essential part of the 20th century, the 21st century needs to develop a more modern, nuanced and inclusive drive for equality that separates itself from that or it will simply fail. Or doggedly cling to the current rhetoric and continue to engage in confused, scrappy skirmishes forever I guess, because the mantras must be protected at all costs. That's bound to result in some really positive outcomes. |
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14-02-2018, 07:27 PM | #332 | |||
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14-02-2018, 07:32 PM | #333 | ||
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I have to go back to the "preaching to the choir" part here. If the only people who are listening to "real feminist rhetoric" are people who are *already* "real feminists"... Then it isnt worth anything. At all. Unless you are particularly fond of a good circlejerk. |
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14-02-2018, 07:35 PM | #334 | |||
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Ignoring the people discussing something they know nothing about is a much easier solution to the issue you think you have surely.
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14-02-2018, 07:40 PM | #335 | ||
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It also ignores the fact that trying to achieve equality under a banner that is fundamentally unequal is completely flawed logically to the extent that I don't think it's even feasible. |
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14-02-2018, 07:45 PM | #336 | ||
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Equality still has a far way to go for both women and men. Just puzzles me why the two are separated into different movements, one of which has like 100000x the following and both of them hating each other. It won’t ultimately achieve equality
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14-02-2018, 07:47 PM | #337 | ||
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I’m also just sick and tired of these movements holding a monopoly on the idea of equality and the victim complexes it has spawned it’s not productive whatsoever
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15-02-2018, 05:54 AM | #338 | |||
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15-02-2018, 08:20 AM | #339 | ||
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That's the thing though, even when it speaks of equality, feminism is about seeking equality from a female-lead perspective which is an oxymoron in itself. It isn't possible. You can seek empowerment from a female-lead perspective, trying to address imbalances on that side, and that MIGHT lead to equilibrium in the process... But you can only "seek equality" from an equal perspective.
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15-02-2018, 08:38 AM | #340 | |||
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15-02-2018, 09:01 AM | #341 | |||
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15-02-2018, 09:30 AM | #342 | ||
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You can sit here saying feminists would but they don’t and most of the public wouldn’t either because the media makes men out to be these sinister beings that can’t be trusted and have everything peachy. People often LAUGH when male abuse is brought up as if it’s unfathomable Last edited by Marches; 15-02-2018 at 09:32 AM. |
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15-02-2018, 10:36 AM | #343 | ||
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How is it even feasible to achieve individual equality if the very process for doing so involves dividing us into our collective "camps"? It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever? You can't overcome division by not only following the status quo OF division... But actually encouraging or even insisting on it. "Men should be the ones to ______" "Women should be the ones to ______" This is the language OF division, of sexism. And yet, somehow, accepting that "Women should be the ones to lead the way with equality issues" is supposedly part of the solution? Last edited by Toy Soldier; 15-02-2018 at 10:37 AM. |
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15-02-2018, 10:40 AM | #344 | |||
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15-02-2018, 11:30 AM | #345 | ||
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These messages get dozens of positive replies... "LOL go girl he won't do that again!!" ... relatively few saying that it's awful (because it's an all female community, and if any try to say that it's abuse they get shouted down)... but really the most worrying part, is that they get HUNDREDS of likes / loves / "crying laughing face" emoji responses. It's not very common in normal adult relationships, no (but then, is domestic abuse in general?) but to suggest that it doesn't happen, or that it doesn't get treated as "omg can't believe u did that hilarious!" a hell of a lot in certain circles, is just incorrect. I've seen multiple horrendous threads. I also can't imagine a male saying "LOL I slammed my girlfriend's hand in a door and ran over her foot " ... or even just "I thought she was cheating so I slapped her in the face" ... and not being immediately (and of course, rightly) torn to shreds for it. There's a large and actually quite well documented discrepancy. Hell I even just watched an episode of "Friends" where Joey has a "teeny" girlfriend and she keeps punching him, and he tells them all that she's hurting him and they all treat it as a joke / make fun of him as he's "a big guy and she's so little" (until she does it to Rachel and she hits her back ... heh ... at which point they conceed that her punches really were painful). Scenarios like that are really common . Even when I was at school it was quite "accepted" for girls to hit / kick guys if they pissed them off, but DEFINITELY never the other way around. |
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15-02-2018, 11:50 AM | #346 | |||
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I remember seeing a clip from an american talk show where the subject was brought up and the panel and audience were all laughing... and then later on one of them gave an apology and they all started laughing during that too
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15-02-2018, 12:15 PM | #347 | |||
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But anyway, why not campaign about that then, why do you expect women to do it for you? Women had to campaign for there own rights (and still do). I would stand right with you on any of your issues I agreed with
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15-02-2018, 12:18 PM | #348 | |||
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15-02-2018, 12:22 PM | #349 | |||
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There's always that daft macho mentality ,where they think men should be strong all the time and not affected by anything . Some think it's funny if a man gets slapped across the face by a woman and they assume he deserved it or they find it amusing still . Double standards. |
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15-02-2018, 12:23 PM | #350 | ||
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