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20-02-2018, 06:26 PM | #101 | |||
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I didn't say they all get taken to court , but what i'm saying is there's women who will now say years ago they were "sexually harassed" if a guy tried to seduce them , even though they told him NO and that was the end of it . If the guy continues to pester the woman then fair enough it's sexual harassment . On a night out clubbing both men & women approach eachother for sex . |
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20-02-2018, 06:28 PM | #102 | ||
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20-02-2018, 06:32 PM | #103 | |||
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20-02-2018, 06:34 PM | #104 | |||
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And even if you play devil's Advocate Brendan still left the charity so clearly something happened he's NOT PROUD OF hence he still did something wrong . |
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20-02-2018, 06:35 PM | #105 | ||
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So much gross behaviour is normalized. It can be a bit of a shock to actually think back over it. Throughout my adult life I have had perverts randomly touching me intimately a LOT of times, and I am pretty average looking too so I dread to think what goodlooking people get. I would obviously not report stuff such as a guy rubbing his hardon on me 15 years back, but this does not mean I was any less sexually assaulted He could argue that it was a seduction technique too..I guess. And no doubt would, while people make excuses for such behaviour and say its nothing...and that people talking about stuff like this makes 'genuine' victims be taken less seriously, or whatever.
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20-02-2018, 06:41 PM | #106 | ||
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The problem with all this MeToo stuff is weeding out the serious crimes from the bull**** and the real ones from the false.It turned into a real witch hunt with people losing jobs for minor stuff and also an MP committing suicide. This charity stuff seems like much of it is more serious though like the Hollywood Weinstein scandal. With this Brendan Cox who knows if he just overstepped the mark a little and was too pushy or actually assaulted women.I suppose the courts will have to determine that. |
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20-02-2018, 06:45 PM | #107 | ||
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20-02-2018, 06:48 PM | #108 | ||
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Never really thought of it as getting assaulted back then.Was worst when it’s an older woman and you’re only 17 at the time. Seems like it was kind of normalised then. |
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20-02-2018, 06:50 PM | #109 | |||
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Plenty of women who aren't interested would either laugh out of disbelief or as a defence mechanism and walk away from him , or would tell him "in your dreams" kind of style and tell him to F OFF basically . I think we all know if ANYONE randomly grabs a stranger sexually /inappropriately without their permission out the blue then it's sexual assault/harassment . Looks have nothing to do with it , alcohol can play a part in it or the person might just be an arrogant predator who thinks he/ she can have anyone they want . What you experienced sounds vulgar and i would 100 % understand that being reported or the guy getting slapped across the face . Anything that physical and uncomfortable is wrong. But the problem we have today is if a guy said something rude to any of us years ago or as a joke , people now pipe up and say we were sexually harassed . When really we just ignored it or carried on with our lives . I feel like it's diluting genuine abuse and harassment that probably goes unreported . I know abuse still get's reported though . A man forcing himself on you or grabbing you isn't the same as asking you back to his hotel room and you declining and him walking away it just isn't the same . Last edited by GoldHeart; 20-02-2018 at 06:55 PM. |
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20-02-2018, 06:56 PM | #110 | ||
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It seems to be changing now, luckily. Though there is resistance to the change. Generally from the perverts in the first place who will insist that they are doing nothing wrong and its just 'banter' or whatever.
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20-02-2018, 07:02 PM | #111 | ||
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I read hundreds and hundreds of the metoo things and not one was about someone telling a dirty joke. Also all the times I was actually sexually assaulted, and when I was actually raped also, I ignored it (as much as I could) and just carried on with my life. Honestly, this 'you cannot even tell a girl she is pretty anymore', or 'we need a written contract before having sex' type outrage is just silly stuff stirred up by the likes of the daily mail. Asking someone out is not sexual harassment. Repeatedly doing so, or making lewd comments when you know the person is uncomfortable, is. I don't see how talking about 'low level' harassment/assault dilutes cases of worse assault/harassment either. And I would actually say, the more people talk about their own bad experiences, the more victims may come forward, as they realise they are not alone.
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20-02-2018, 07:13 PM | #112 | |||
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What you experienced is assault there's no question about it . What Northern Monkey said about the happenings in clubs doesn't surprise me 1 bit , i even watched a documentary about 2 toilet attendants in a London night club and this drunken woman kept walking into the men's toilet and the toilet attendant kept telling her to leave as she shouldn't be there and she kept ignoring him. Other way round if a man kept wondering into the female toilets he'd get screamed at , slapped or kicked out the club/reported . Yes it's good to raise awareness of sexual abuse etc , but i think the message get's lost when people who got asked out by someone they find unattractive now is considered "harassment" . |
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20-02-2018, 07:17 PM | #113 | |||
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It's become ridiculous , and sadly real crimes will be either missed or just treated as "ohhh here we go another allegation" . |
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20-02-2018, 07:18 PM | #114 | |||
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Is this you saying I'm wrong because JUST because I don't think the same as other people... LOL
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20-02-2018, 07:20 PM | #115 | |||
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All these buts and maybes are pointless.
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20-02-2018, 07:22 PM | #116 | |||
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That's your opinion, I disagree.
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20-02-2018, 07:30 PM | #117 | |||
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The guy is being demonised here ...for what? Joey is referring to a silly trolling comment at the beginning of the thread in relation to Jo Cox I think.
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20-02-2018, 07:41 PM | #118 | ||
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Logically you’d think men were much worse due to testosterone but from what I remember the women were just as bad. Obviously generally men are bigger and stronger but that doesn’t mean women aren’t just as bad. The charity stuff i can believe it was men taking advantage of vulnerable females and it looks bad.Also Yes Weinstein was obviously a nasty bastard. I just think it’s gone too far with women being seen as whiter than white and men are natural born predators etc. |
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20-02-2018, 07:43 PM | #119 | ||
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Yeah that is the danger of all this stuff getting conflated.It will dilute real predatory behaviour.
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20-02-2018, 07:45 PM | #120 | ||
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Or are you just joining others in a roll against a particular member. |
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20-02-2018, 07:53 PM | #121 | |||
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I noted too after vickys heartfelt confession that she too has been a victim of some pretty disgusting serious abuse the canned response from you was ...it happens to men too! Aside from the 'westminster stuff' the 'inappropriate touching' of knees and such it's not so serious if form an MP as a charity employee then... do we have a sliding scale of who is deemed capable of inappropriate behaviour, and the palaces of westminster don't have a HR department anyway? Should this Knee touching be a reference to Damian Green and Kate Maltby please be aware he is as I stated earlier refusing to acknowledge what he did, and to be clear that is NOT why he lost his job that was for breaking the ministerial code for a totally unrelated issue.
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20-02-2018, 07:53 PM | #122 | |||
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It's called film stars don't die in Liverpool , i've never heard of the actress the story is about but i read something that described her as a female woody allen as she apparently took the virginity of her step son I read a review online where they thought it was bad timing because of the whole harvey weinstein scandal . You won't get men reporting sexual harassment from women , some men are even too embarrassed to report harassment from other men . I hate hypocrisy aswell . |
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20-02-2018, 07:59 PM | #123 | |||
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Abuse is abuse and harassment is harassment whether at the hands of a man or woman . |
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20-02-2018, 07:59 PM | #124 | |||
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Haha I love how this thread has flipped... Oh boo hoo us poor men!!!! hahahaha
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20-02-2018, 08:06 PM | #125 | |||
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It isn't, female on male abuse exists, nobody has suggested it doesn't but I'm sorry there is no comparison. I just want to make that screamingly obvious.
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