IT'S Monday morning again and I'm ready to put the world to rights, or at least try.
Myself and thousands of others tuned in to watch Football: Sex, Money, What's Gone Wrong? last week – and yes, I starred in it too.
Having been going through the motions of this crap for so long now, this documentary did me justice, with feedback on Twitter refreshingly good.
I had the odd dense moron shouting 'brass' or 'homewrecker', bla la bla, but I was chuffed to see some people change their mind about me.
Although I don’t really care what a stranger thinks, when I see the odd comment 'Helen's not actually that bad' or 'I can see where she's coming from' it does catch my attention, it's good to know people are willing to not just stick to what they think they know and instead actually listen.
In my interview with Amal Fashanu, she asked, "Do I feel guilty for the wives of footballers who have cheated?" Instant response and a truthful one, I said no.
If a woman takes back a man with open arms who has done the dirty, I don’t feel sorry for them. Perhaps pity, maybe?
Though I'd only ever pity a woman with low self-esteem who felt she couldn’t leave. I certainly don’t feel sorry for WAGs, or any other girl who puts up with that kind of carry-on. You waiver it once, shut the f up, and prepare for it again, it WILL happen because YOU gave the green light, harsh but true.
Here's what I don’t understand… once upon a time I had an idea I was being d***ed around, but told myself I was being a paranoid weirdo as that’s what my ex had drilled into my head. Then once confirmed, through evidence I found myself, it was strange, I wasn’t even mad or sad.
I thought, 'Well, there we go, at least I'm not cuckoo after all.'
After nights of crying and being put through to voicemail while he was no doubt balls-deeping some bird, all I needed was that one tad of evidence, and instead of my world crumbling, I felt like a huge weight was lifted. I was right all along (as usual).
That's what led to getting caught up in the Big Brother fairytale and kissing a guy on TV, which I hear didn’t go down too well in his prison cell.
The whole football stigma will never change, who do I blame? I blame the cheats, of course.
If a footballer cheats and his wife/partner is there for her red-bottom Louboutins, Prada bags and Bentley on the drive, not for love, she's a prostitute. You cannot sugarcoat this.
I mentioned in the interview for BBC3, would some of these WAGs be with these men if they worked in a chippy peeling spuds? Let's not talk BS now, would they balls.
Having said this, when watching Amal's mum, who claims she was cheated on by John Fashanu (a claim he has denied), I felt for her. She had her heart broken, choosing to leave and say no to that kind of marriage.
Yes, it's wrong that girls sleep with these married men, but when I've spoken to three of the God knows how many girls who were banging my ex, I don't hold anything against them. I wasn’t angry, I didn’t give them the girl code crap. I've never been near a guy who’s girlfriend I know personally, I don’t deserve a medal I know, but sleeping with a man who is spoken for isn’t the girl's problem if the s**t hits the fan.
It's wrong on all accounts, yes, but the woman is not to blame. Although I've had fumbles with guys who are hitched, as I've got older, my mindset has changed.
Years ago, an affair would have seemed quite fun to be honest, now, hell no, through time I've realised you do reap what you sow, maybe because of what I used to do, resulted in the dirty being done to myself, I hate the word karma but it would kind of make sense.
The Ched Evans scenario, I have to say, what the actual ******* is his other half thinking? Now, I'll tread carefully as whether Ched and his alleged victim did or did not have consented sex is a matter for the court and his appeal, but aside from the actual verdict, he still cheated, right?
Yet his girlfriend sits next to him in an interview, standing by her man in an act of solidarity.
I'm sorry, am I the delusional one here, she's comfortably perched beside her man, who is up for rape, his plea is that he shagged with consent.
How can a woman listen to those words, sit on TV with MUG written all over her, embarrassing. As a woman, a woman who’s also been cheated on, I cannot get my head around someone who puts themselves out there to be this much of a walkover. How does someone get to that point where they think holding the hand of a cheating/convicted rapist is okay? It's not, it's really not, get help.
Take aside what he may or may not have done, leave that out the equation, he sits holding his girlfriend's hand, who now I believe is preggers, he states "the allegations that night are not true and the sex was consented" or something along those lines, now either his missus has a Goliath portion of wax collected in her ears OR she chooses to just blissfully ignore the fact her boyfriend is admitting to consented sex, meaning he's a cheat?
Another great example (she's on a roll) of the mug-type WAG, besides the obvious, but we won't go there, is Ryan Giggs' wife. Now there's already looking like a complete twonk through ordinary cheating, i.e. with a colleague/milkman, but come on, he was nailing his sister-in-law.
Can't imagine that feeling of knowing that whilst you were once all sat around pulling crackers at Christmas, carving the turkey, you then find out your hubby was getting his very own cracker pulled and was stuffing the turkey (with all the trimmings) behind your back – yet you still take him back.
I don't believe she stuck with him because she's got low self-esteem, I think it's the lifestyle. Or am I just on another pissing planet here (rhetorical)?
Abbey Clancy, had the gall to slate girls in a magazine the other week for kiss 'n' tells – yep, not a fan of girls who set out to ruin lives either – but don't grill a lass about having zero self-respect when your grasshopper of a hubby allegedly chucked his sausage up another bird and you still took him back and continued to breed with him. YOU girl, have no self-respect.
Could have any guy she wants, but chooses to just watch life go by knowing she's most likely being lied to the majority of the time. Cool maaayn. Again, rather be sat at home with a bunch of cats than be thinking he said he was at golf, but is he really? ******* that.
I'm going to conclude today's rant by saying, don’t put up with it, if your man is out there banging every Anita, Deeta and Rita, know your self-worth and get out of there, whether there's kids involved or not. Trust me, they can pick up on the emotions you think you're masking.
I don’t believe people just make that mistake once, a leopard never changes its spots. Here for a good time not a long time, isn’t it best to be with people who don’t make a mug out of you?
That’s how I think anyway, I'd sooner be single until I meet my maker than be lying there on my death-bed thinking that I'd shared most of my life with someone who had zero respect for me.
Have a great week of fidelity, girls and guys.
Love always, Hels Bels xxx
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