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25-10-2017, 09:30 AM | #26 | ||
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"It wouldn't make sense that humans evolve from other mammals, develop a larger brain to separate them from their predecessors, and then go against all logic that millions of years of evolution taught the animal kingdom." is actually not really right at all, surely. Humans are animals yes but the evolution of the human brain is at this point so far beyond any other animal life (on earth...) that being quick to compare to the animal kingdom never really gains much. The basics being... the vast majority of animals don't love at all. We like to assign pets human characteristics - we like to pretend that our dogs love us in a human way - they simply don't, and can't, because non-human animals simply aren't capable of the level of abstract thought required for "human love"... therefore they can't really be placed in a debate about the nature of human connection. Animal instinct is relevant to a discussion about desire, or "lust", but they're completely different things. Other than the fact that (again, going back to it) most people are deeply socially conditioned to confuse the two. |
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25-10-2017, 09:34 AM | #27 | |||
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No idea, I'm not planning or petitioning for change! All I'm saying is I think polyamorous-ness is a thing that exists in all humans, but some do a better job at surpressing that to abide by our monogamous culture.
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25-10-2017, 09:37 AM | #28 | |||
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25-10-2017, 09:37 AM | #29 | |||
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25-10-2017, 09:37 AM | #30 | |||
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I think the big issue for me is if the women are coerced into the polygamous marriage and into thinking they have no options. Also that unlike a first wife then they won't perhaps have the same entitlement to a share in the house etc once they are cast aside. |
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25-10-2017, 09:38 AM | #31 | |||
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Humans aren't the only animals that "mate for life", although I'm pretty sure we're the only ones who fall in love. It seems to me giving labels like polyamarous etc. is a nice little "get-out" for people who cheat - male and female.
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25-10-2017, 09:38 AM | #32 | |||
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So you think everyone in a monogamous relationship deep down doesn't want to be? That's kind of a bold claim that you think you know how everyone in the world feels
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25-10-2017, 09:39 AM | #33 | |||
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Totally agree with everything else there. |
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25-10-2017, 09:41 AM | #34 | ||
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But anyway... that doesn'tt really even matter. To go back to the point before; the human mind has evolved to the point of abstract / philosophical thought, appreciation of personality and "the individual", which makes us entirely unique (again, on earth, there are probably plenty of emo aliens out there)... and means that social and emotional advantage will always trump evolutionary advantage for humans in every meaningful way. |
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25-10-2017, 09:41 AM | #35 | |||
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No, I think deep down they want to be because of the social construct side of things, might even be a cognitive element now we're starting to see what mess we've made to the planet. Ultimately that weighs out our evolutionary instincts.
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25-10-2017, 09:44 AM | #36 | |||
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Oh yeh, this was half my point, I just posted pretty much the same to Niamh above. But if mankind was to reset itself, our species would not be monogamous. We only are right now because of how it socially benefits us.
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25-10-2017, 09:48 AM | #37 | |||
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25-10-2017, 09:49 AM | #38 | ||
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Actual love is a very complex and abstract psychology. |
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25-10-2017, 09:51 AM | #39 | |||
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I think most birds mate for life? Swans do too off the top of my head.. mammals typically do not.
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25-10-2017, 09:52 AM | #40 | |||
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Withano I'm just going to let TS answer you I think, he's far more articulate than me but he's saying all the stuff I think
Come back to me when you actually meet someone who changes your mind though
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25-10-2017, 09:53 AM | #41 | |||
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Gibbon apes wolves termites coyotes barn owls beavers bald eagles golden eagles condors swans brolga cranes French angel fish sandhill cranes pigeons prions red-tailed hawks anglerfish ospreys prairie voles black vultures
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25-10-2017, 09:54 AM | #42 | |||
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Debateably its just phenylethylamine and dopamine reacting to one another, like it does when you eat bar of chocolate, and like it would if you met a third of forth relationship interest. Its a good feeling which other animals dont experience.
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25-10-2017, 09:55 AM | #43 | |||
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That's lust you're talking about again
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25-10-2017, 09:57 AM | #44 | |||
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No thats the chemical reaction for what we know as love, actually just googled 'norepinephrine' is in the mix too.
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25-10-2017, 09:58 AM | #45 | |||
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'However, the current Government have decided to no longer recognise polygamous marriages and there are measures in the Welfare Reform Bill which will bring this change in policy into effect under universal credit as from 2013'
http://webcache.googleusercontent.co...t=clnk&gl=uk#9
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25-10-2017, 10:00 AM | #46 | ||
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Also worth considering, I think; the vast majority of human cultures are monogamous, and were already monogamous upon discovering each other without being influenced by any obvious source in common. It's unlikely that so many disparate human cultures spread across the globe would have developed in largely the same way in this respect by coincidence... so you have to consider then that the "root" of it is likely to be something basic to human psychology that goes beyond social / cultural norms. In other words... there is a reason that it IS the social / cultural norm, and it's not because a single guiding force "artificially" took it in that direction. |
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25-10-2017, 10:03 AM | #47 | |||
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The first attraction causes us to produce more PEA, which results in those dizzying feelings associated with romantic love http://asdn.net/asdn/chemistry/chemistry_of_love.php
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25-10-2017, 10:03 AM | #48 | |||
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As a species, we are not monogamous. As a society, we sure as **** are.
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25-10-2017, 10:07 AM | #49 | ||
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It might sound twee, but I suppose you have to have experienced both to understand the difference. 10 years ago there were girls in my past that I would have sworn blue in the face that I had "loved". I now understand that what I felt towards them was the chemical response that you are describing and it is not love... nor, frankly, anything even close to resembling it. Like Niamh, I do genuinely hope that you'll get to know the difference at some point . |
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25-10-2017, 10:10 AM | #50 | |||
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Well I guess if your argument is love causes monogamy, it is difficult for me to argue against. I personally think our social construct caused it, and long after the feeling of 'love' (by any definition) was first experienced.
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