[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Livia

That's very sweet but it would be foolish in my opinion. When my first husband died I wanted to die too. It was knowing that my family would have to cope with that, and knowing the raw, hopeless, endless feeling of having lost someone you love, I didn't want them to go through it. And it took me a good few years to feel in a normal way, to stop feeling guilty if I smiled, or if I was having fun without him. But like everyone knows, time is the best healer... and now I have a new life, and a new husband... Of course, if they both felt this is really what they want, that's up to them. But it will be harder on their kids x2.

Lovely honest post livia..I can relate x

[Cherie]

seems quite selfish if they are leaving family behind, my Dad died when I was 15, imagine if my Mom decided she was going to go as well We get it they have been together and are very happy but the human spirit is incredible and you can move on even on your own after someone close to you dies, it took my Mom a few years to get back to herself but she had a great life travelling and enjoyed her grandkids and she never forgot my Dad

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Cherie

seems quite selfish if they are leaving family behind, my Dad died when I was 15, imagine if my Mom decided she was going to go as well We get it they have been together and are very happy but the human spirit is incredible and you can move on even on your own after someone close to you dies, it took my Mom a few years to get back to herself but she had a great life travelling and enjoyed her grandkids and she never forgot my Dad

And again..I loveley honest post. .

I'm a great believer of living to make the memory of the loved one a treasured memory for all...nobody wants a finger pointed at a dissapointment of a human that was left behind.