[Chrizzle]

I've just been told that my parents are splitting up.
I don't know what to do. I've just been crying for over an hour now, and my Mum has gone. They are on good terms, and don't hate eachother, I think the 'spark has just gone'

But I dont know what to do, I made this thread because I want to know how other people in the same situation coped. Its just me, my dad and my sister, and my sisters off to Uni this month.

I don't know whether to feel sympathetic, or whatever.

I always find it hard to show my true emotions anyway, so yeah..

[TopzTom]

I was told the same thing a few weeks back. It's hard to deal with, but I realise that they've both come to certain stages in their life where they want different things and I believe that them leading seperate lives will make them both happier.

Since they told me, they seem to have got on really well - a lot better than beforehand, anyway.

[Lauren]

Are you staying in the custody of your dad?

Must be really hard but just think you'll get to see them both as often as now probably, it would have been worse to be in a house where they argued a lot or didn't enjoy living with one another.

I'm afraid only time can heal this.



When I was younger my parents were divorced (they got remarried, long story!) and although it was hard when I first found out - it was easier with time.

[~Kizwiz~]

Awww honey, it must be a very confusing time for you all. This must have come as a shock

The best way to cope with the way you are feeling is to take time, dont blame anyone just try and understand them. It must also be difficult for your parents too.

I was lucky, my parents split when I was only 5 so I dont really remember it.

Just remember we are all here if you need us

[Captain.Remy]

Message original : Chrizzle
I've just been told that my parents are splitting up.
I don't know what to do. I've just been crying for over an hour now, and my Mum has gone. They are on good terms, and don't hate eachother, I think the 'spark has just gone'

But I dont know what to do, I made this thread because I want to know how other people in the same situation coped. Its just me, my dad and my sister, and my sisters off to Uni this month.

I don't know whether to feel sympathetic, or whatever.

I always find it hard to show my true emotions anyway, so yeah..

Awww Chris I'm sorry for you, it would be terrible. I can't say I understand because my parents didn't split but we are all here if you need some help.
If you don't feel to join the show tonight, leave it there is no problem, I understand.

[Chrizzle]

Thanks guys. Remy, Ill think about the show. Ill see how im feeling at 8. I might have cheered up.

Lauren, I think they have told us that we can choose who we want to stay with. My Mum told me to stay here as it has my friends etc.

[Captain.Remy]

Message original : Chrizzle
Thanks guys. Remy, Ill think about the show. Ill see how Im feeling at 8. I might have cheered up.

Lauren, I think they have told us that we can choose who we want to stay with. My Mum told me to stay here as it has my friends etc.

You're welcome, it's normal to help friends when they are in a difficult case.

[:)tom:)]

my parents split a few years back but after the shock you begin to feel better and things WILL get better.

[Nicola]

I've never experienced parents separating and divorcing first hand, but it's happened to a few of my friends and cousins. I've known people to be badly affected by family breakup and hope you're not one of them.

[Z]

=[ That's really, really crap, Chris! If I were you, I'd try and focus on other things, I think you should proceed with the show tonight, it'll keep you distracted! Oh well, at least your parents are on good terms with each other, and it's not like either of them are abandoning you, you'll have regular contact! Try and look at the positives! It's making your parents happier, being apart, and eventually you'll be fine with it! =)

[Flavaflav]

so sorry in the long term it will probably work out my parents arent divorced but fight an awful lot and its annoying

[Shaun]

Hope everything works out well soon, Chris. My parents separated a couple of years ago and it was a little difficult, but it's much better now that they're happy apart rather than arguing together.

[Ruth]

Sorry to hear your news Chrizzle - it must be difficult for you.

Take care of yourself
x

[Chrizzle]

Thanks Ruth, and eveyone else!

Its getting easier, but I do keep having little cries. Its hard not to to be honest, but im just getting people to cheer me up on MSN and its working.

[BigSister]

awww im sorry to hear that chris i dunno what to say because ive never experienced it but my best friend parents split up but they are on good terms now i dunno what to say sorry

[BigBrother_x*]

my mum and dad split up a few months ago... and it wasnt on good terms either which made it even worse! and my mum left and it was all tearful and i was really distraught and i didnt eat that night.. it was really horrible! but the next day we was out and then the day after she came back and they were sorting things out but i think they might be planning to split up in the next year but there okay with each other now...

Youll be okay ..

[Ruth*Star]

Aww i'm sorry to hear this, i have never experenced this so i don't know what to say other than sorry
xxx

[supernoodles!]

Hey ,im sorry to hear that your feeling sad atm,its understandable though and im sure everyone on tibb i here for you if you ever need a chat
Ive never actually been through this but when i was little my dad wasnt around alot although he was still married to my mam and lived in our house,he just never took any interest in me or my siblings anyway when i was 11 my mam found out that my dad had been having an afiar with another woman for three years and she was pregnant.They argued obviously and things were chaotic at home,but they went to marriage guidence and the woman he had an affair with had an abortion so they`ve never actually split up.I can sympathise with you a little though becuase of what happened in my childhood and basically id just say,time helps,in a way your lucky becuase your parents are still on good terms and they seem to have your best interests at heart so arguments will be kept to a minimum if at all.Things will be tough for you at first but your parents will be sympathetic to this and even though you say your sisters moving away to uni this happening could actually bring you both alot closer together.
I hope your feeling happier soon and remembr its normal to feel this way right now don be ashamed to talk to people,your parents,sister-it will probably help a great deal

[Chrizzle]

Thanks so much people

Ruth- I u2ud you back but it wouldnt send, not sure why.
Just said that your u2u was so nice thank you

[SiMoN!]

aww
you just have to look for the good things that will come out of it

my mum and dad wasnt together when i was born so they never told me the will splitt up lol

[Red Moon]

Oh Chris I have just found this thread and I feel for you.

I'm sure things will get better once the shock is over.

Good luck Mate.

[Legend]

Sorry to hear that Chris. I wish I had some advice for you.

And you don't even have BB to cheer you up either.

[Benji]

Yeah im sorry too

[Matt08]

Sorry to hear about your bad news Chris. Some good will come out of it, even if you can't see it now. I expect your parents will get on better when they are apart. I'm glad to hear that they are still on speaking terms, that must make things a little easier. I expect that you'll get to see your Mum and Dad whenever you like. Hopefully things will get better for you soon.

[goroos1994]

chrizzle. if you want to talk please u2u me. it has happened to me before a few years ago. i am 13. so if you wanna chat you can always pm me. sorry to hear about this though. but to me it makes you stronger. you will get good out of it though as well. wait and see