Were you smacked as a child? Do you agree ?

[Marc]

I'm just watching the One Show and they have a section on it today focuses on parents smacking children.

Were you ever smacked as a child? did it work?

Do you agree with parent's smacking their children?

[Lewis.]

I was never smacked as a child

[30stone]

Yeah i was, glad i was, if and when i have children i will them.

[Mrluvaluva]

I was smacked as a child. Not sure if it works though. I can't really remember.

What I would say is that any kind of physical punishment could have the opposite of the desired effect. I was caned at school on....ahem....several occasions, but it just made me more rebellious as I wasn't happy with my "punishments".

I believe in discipline, but I don't think it necessarily has to be of the physical kind. None of us have the answer to the correct way to handle such matters though, and I suppose it depends on the individuals concerned, Smacking is perceived as a way to teach a young child what is right and what is wrong. They do wrong, they get smacked, and they then learn what they can and can't do.

It's up to the parent to choose the best way they seem fit to bring up their child (within limitations of course). There is no guide book for such matters.

I do however detest seeing mothers out throttling their kids and then having them scream the place down. Especially in supermarkets. :mad: That shows more about the parents than the child.

[bronaaaa]

I was, my two wee sisters wern;t and I seriously notice the difference in their behaviour compared to me and Ciara's at that age, so I agree..I think

[Marc]

I agree with baz.. I hate screaming children in supermarkets, having experienced it for 4 years!

I was smacked as a child and I definately agree with it, within their own homes, its up to the parent to decide how they treat/discipline their children. I have much more respect for my parent's for disciplining me in such a way that I feared to do wrong

[Lauren]

Only if I did something absolutely terrible; and I'm glad I was, extremely. It was only a quick little smack to teach me whose boss, and I think it really is needed. It instills mutual respect, and shows you who you should be listening to.

I disagree with the parents you see smacking their children for basically nothing, in the supermarket if they cry etc. That's going to do nothing but bad.

[Jayson]

I was, and it has done me a world of good. I agree with smacking kids when they are badly behaved 100%.

[Tom]

Only as a last resort so when I was hit it had 1000 x the impact

and yes it worked

[*mazedsalv**]

Yes I was. Ran through the whole family because where we come from, its normal.

And yes it often stopped me doing things. If I wasn't, I would have done loads of bad things when i was 13/14 like drugs and stuff like that, my friends rebelled at the age of 13 because their parents werent doing anything . I wouldnt really react to someone shouting at me, I would continue doing it, so a smack shut me up most of the time, but sometimes that wasnt even enough :bigsmile:, Ive got a really big mouth and never shut up.

Its kind of made me get on with parents more now, they trust me to go anywhere.

UI dont agree with doing it in public, if I was bad in public (LOADS of times) I would get a little smack, and then when we got home, I would get a proper one.

Like when i did something really bad one time, My Mjum said "I'l smack you when you least expect", and thats even more scary because your just waiting "When will it be?", I remember 6 days later, sitting at the dinner table. SMACK! "Thats for last week!" and I responded "WTF!", is funny now looking back :joker:

[30stone]

Originally posted by *mazedsalv**

Its kind of made me get on with parents more now, they trust me to go anywhere.

Same as, its not just that, its just ive been brought up to not lie about anything to them to.

So i have a great relationship with my parents now, and same with me, they trust me to go anywhere etc.

Though im 18 now so thats to be expected, but they did at like 16 to.

[\PJ/]

Yes i was,i don't really think it was the right way to handle things TBH,because when a women is hit by a man ohhhhh thats bad but when a child is hit by a parent it's ''yeerr it never hurt me when a was a kid''.And it's ok for somone to say that only if it was really bad but what is really bad,smashing a window,throwing things round a room.I might have waffled on but what im basically saying is is violence the awnser?

[Lauren]

Originally posted by PJ
Yes i was,i don't really think it was the right way to handle things TBH,because when a women is hit by a man ohhhhh thats bad but when a child is hit by a parent it's ''yeerr it never hurt me when a was a kid''.And it's ok for somone to say that only if it was really bad but what is really bad,smashing a window,throwing things round a room.I might have waffled on but what im basically saying is is violence the awnser?

I think domestic violence is an alltogether different issue than a parent smacking a child. Domestic violence is very often more than a quick smack, it's longterm and abusive, and with no result behind it.

[HalfwitFTW]

I was smacked as a child.

I dont agree with smacking children and I dont believe in punishing kids because they are still learning and don't know the difference between right and wrong.... so why punish them when they don't know any different?

We wouldnt hit an adult who made a mistake so why hit someone so much smaller and weaker than we are?

[MrGaryy]

no never I think my dad tried it once and I went ****ing insane LOL. I was a self righteous little ****.

[Enid]

I was smacked by my father and now I wish he was dead. I guess it didn't do me any good.

[Scarlett.]

I was hit as a kid, not too often, but it taught me respect

[\PJ/]

Originally posted by Lauren
Originally posted by PJ
Yes i was,i don't really think it was the right way to handle things TBH,because when a women is hit by a man ohhhhh thats bad but when a child is hit by a parent it's ''yeerr it never hurt me when a was a kid''.And it's ok for somone to say that only if it was really bad but what is really bad,smashing a window,throwing things round a room.I might have waffled on but what im basically saying is is violence the awnser?

I think domestic violence is an alltogether different issue than a parent smacking a child. Domestic violence is very often more than a quick smack, it's longterm and abusive, and with no result behind it.
I guess your right,i feel awful now.

[Alf]

yes i was smacked by my parents and by my school teachers, and i have so much respect for them. i'm 31 and never been arrested in my life, and i have respect for others especially my elders.
how many under 25 year old's could say that nowadays
britain used to be a nice place when i were a lad.

[GypsyGoth]

I was hit as a child. I don't know if it was right, but I did behave.

I won't have kids, but if I did I wouldn'd hurt them, I'd talk to them.

[sexyb4ck]

I was beaten as a child he wasnt even my real dad but it made me scared of him and i started weting the bed till i was 13 then it was payback:bigsmile:

[Marc]

What a good thread...

[LemonJam]

Honestly, I was hit as a kid, but it didn't make me respect my Dad, it makes me scared of him. Sure I'm generally sensibly behaved but it put a strain on our relationship.

[flemin]

Disagree, violence is never the answer and smacking kids IS violence imo.

[Brad.]

I was never smacked as a child and i would never do it to any children i may have in the future

[BBUK4LYFE]

I used to get my ass beat.

Do I agree with it?

Yep. As long if its not abuse, I'm cool with it.

[Tom]

Originally posted by Enid
I was smacked by my father and now I wish he was dead. I guess it didn't do me any good.

Might not just be that :tongue: I wish my dad was dead but he never raised a finger to me :whistle:

heh just realised how harsh I sound :blush2:

[MrGaryy]

wow this thread got depressing in a hurry with all the dead dad talk LOL.

[BGT-FAN!]

The thing is, the kids who arent hit grow up to be stupid chavs who could get away with murder

[Marc]

Umm.. yeah lets refrain from all the sadistic death talk kplzthnx

[Tom]

Originally posted by MrGaryy
wow this thread got depressing in a hurry with all the dead dad talk LOL.

Didn't mean to, blame Enid. My posts usually get ignored anyway so just act as normal and talk about the topic :laugh:

[Twilight]

Umm well i was kinda but i never had a really bad smack, but imo if you say no but they still do over and over again, then give them a smack but not a bad one.

[kisywisy]

i was smacked a hell of a lot as a child and i smack my daughter too. i don't smack her often coz she doesn't need it. she gets warnings, things taken away from her, shouted at and then smacked if she still doesn't behave. usually getting her wii/laptop taken away is enough. even then it's a smack round the arse

i started smacking her hand when she would do something dangerous, like touch the fire when she was very small. or smack her if she ran out onto the road. i think it's important for them to know how serious those type of things are. i don't smack hard, it's more the shock that i'm aiming for

you can't reason with a young child with words alone. they just don't have the skills

[kisywisy]

Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
Yes I was. Ran through the whole family because where we come from, its normal.

And yes it often stopped me doing things. If I wasn't, I would have done loads of bad things when i was 13/14 like drugs and stuff like that, my friends rebelled at the age of 13 because their parents werent doing anything . I wouldnt really react to someone shouting at me, I would continue doing it, so a smack shut me up most of the time, but sometimes that wasnt even enough :bigsmile:, Ive got a really big mouth and never shut up.

Its kind of made me get on with parents more now, they trust me to go anywhere.

UI dont agree with doing it in public, if I was bad in public (LOADS of times) I would get a little smack, and then when we got home, I would get a proper one.

Like when i did something really bad one time, My Mjum said "I'l smack you when you least expect", and thats even more scary because your just waiting "When will it be?", I remember 6 days later, sitting at the dinner table. SMACK! "Thats for last week!" and I responded "WTF!", is funny now looking back :joker:

my dad had no problem pulling our pants down and smacking us in public. my mum was different though. she wouldn't do it if anyone could see. she would take our hand and squeeze it really hard til you thought it would break, or she would take us back to the car to smack us around.


**** my parents were really bad when it came to hitting!! i had ponies, so i had whips around the house, my mum would sometimes use them. she had these bloody sandels she would smack us with too, the ones with the one strap and a big buckle :mad:

my dad, oh my god!! there were 3 of us that were close in age and we were wee ****ers. he used to line us up and make us touch our toes. he had a MASSIVE cookery book and used to smack us on the arse with that. we'd fall down and then have to stand back up and get it again. we hid the book once so he used a bloody bible!!! lol

i'd never hit my kids the way that they did. i think they took it too far, but i think i'm a better person for it.

[BlackOrWhite]

Kid's don't listen unless you smack them. That's why people keep saying kids are *****ed up now and they get away with anything. That's because they don't get smacked! There's no other way of getting through to them.

[Jessica.]

I was hit and i believe its really wrong children don't think about things when i was younger I didn't think " If I do this I will be hit" It just happened. Children don't relate hitting with bad behavior they just think it is something parents do to them. My brother was hit worse than me when he was young. He is ten yeas older than me and he then started hitting me because he thought it was right. He ended up hitting me so bad and not leaving me alone my mother had to actually ring 112 and get him arrested about 3 times. Hitting defenseless children just because YOU are angry is wrong.

[SurferJay]

No I was never hit and could count on one hand the ammount of times I was punished in any way so I was a bit of a spoilt brat lol, which makes me kind of wish I was hit or at least punished every now and then.

When I have kids I wont hit them though, dont have the heart for that sort of stuff and neither did my dad,
I mean in theory its easy to agree with for some people but doing it just seems completely wrong :nono:

[*mazedsalv**]

Yeah, even though I was, I wouldnt do a harsh smack, just for serious things. I dont think I would have the courage of smacking my children.

[Chantel]

smacking them doesnt make a difference

[Vicky.]

Yes I was.

And yes, I agree with it. As long as its not too extreme.

[staceyxxx]

it doesnt work,, its stupid!

[alchemists1]

I was smacked as a child.

I dont agree with smacking children and I dont believe in punishing kids because they are still learning and don't know the difference between right and wrong.... so why punish them when they don't know any different?

We wouldnt hit an adult who made a mistake so why hit someone so much smaller and weaker than we are?

Totally agree.

[alchemists1]

I was smacked by my father and now I wish he was dead. I guess it didn't do me any good.

Same hear but I wouldnt call it smacking id say I was battered but anyways I suppose I don't know if smacking works cause id say battering and smacking are totally different.
Either way ive a daughter and wouldnt smack her ever and don't understand how smacking a young child would work or could work?
There's plenty other ways to get your point across and punish a child if needs be.
And there's nothing worse than seeing a parent smack a child outside in front of people especially when the parent is doing it outta there own anger rather than cause they are trying to teach a lesson.

[Fom]

I was smacked as a kid, not as much as my brother and sister but I still was. I think it is a load of rubbish people saying 'Children are still learning', yes of course they are thats why people smack their kids... if you steal chocolate then get hit you are not going to hurry back to the chocolate are you?

Ive grown up perfectly normal and with great manners so my mums done something right.