Why do people seek approval on forums???

[InOne]

Does anyone actually get affected by what people say about them on here?

[Jessica.]

Does anyone actually get affected by what people say about them on here?

I don't take things on the internet to heart but i do favour some members over others by what they say about me.

[30stone]

Its nice to hear compliments from anyone :thumbs:

[InOne]

I don't take things on the internet to heart but i do favour some members over others by what they say about me.

Yeah, I think people have been better with you lately. Plently of other people have popped up lol

[InOne]

Its nice to hear compliments from anyone :thumbs:

What about the bad stuff?

[Jessica.]

Yeah, I think people have been better with you lately. Plently of other people have popped up lol

ya i know ha

[Patrick]

Depends how many dicks take the micky out of me

[Lee.]

Does anyone actually get affected by what people say about them on here?

I think it depends on the person... I think tonight and all the "what do you really think of me" threads are proof that some people are bothered about what's said about them. SOme people are thicker skinned than others... I would imagine that perhaps the younger members will take things more personally... Might be wrong. I, personally couldn't give a rats ass what anybody thinks of me, on here, or otherwise.. :)

[Stephanie]

i don't care about the bad stuff said about me, but if someone says something really nice, i feel abit happier

[InOne]

I think it depends on the person... I think tonight and all the "what do you really think of me" threads are proof that some people are bothered about what's said about them. SOme people are thicker skinned than others... I would imagine that perhaps the younger members will take things more personally... Might be wrong. I, personally couldn't give a rats ass what anybody thinks of me, on here, or otherwise.. :)

Yeah, that inspired the topic really. Some people do get pretty personal to be fair. Especially when they post a pic and people call them fat or whatever.

[Lee.]

Yeah, that inspired the topic really. Some people do get pretty personal to be fair. Especially when they post a pic and people call them fat or whatever.

I, for one, love a good banter with friends etc and enjoy taking the piss out of people and I can take it right back, but I wouldn't say something to somebody that I knew would cause hurt or upset. It's different on a forum as you don't really know anybody and a poorly aimed insult could be somebodys weak spot and cause real hurt..

[InOne]

I, for one, love a good banter with friends etc and enjoy taking the piss out of people and I can take it right back, but I wouldn't say something to somebody that I knew would cause hurt or upset. It's different on a forum as you don't really know anybody and a poorly aimed insult could be somebodys weak spot and cause real hurt..

Yeah that is true. It's hard when you don't know people. I just prefer to abuse the idiotic posts, not the people themselves.

[Jessica.]

if someone says something really nice, i feel a bit happier
this

[Lee.]

Yeah that is true. It's hard when you don't know people. I just prefer to abuse the idiotic posts, not the people themselves.

Haha.. by the looks of it you will have plenty of abusing to do...

[30stone]

What about the bad stuff?

Meh, they like to be judged i guess.

I find it interesting finding out what people like and dislike about me.

[InOne]

Haha.. by the looks of it you will have plenty of abusing to do...

;)

[MiuMiu]

This is an interesting topic. ;)

I'd like to say that I'm above getting upset by what people say against me here, but tbh, sometimes it does get me all rattled up etc.
It's almost worse when you get critiscm on a board/forum if you know what I mean. You're being judged on your ideas and words, which are important to me etc.

Usually though, I do take it with a pinch of salt.
:)

Yay!

I would say that people do seek approval on forums becuase of exactly that, you are being judged on your ideas and words. And everyone would like their ideas to be liked and excepted and thought of as good etc.

:)

[InOne]

This is an interesting topic. ;)

I'd like to say that I'm above getting upset by what people say against me here, but tbh, sometimes it does get me all rattled up etc.
It's almost worse when you get critiscm on a board/forum if you know what I mean. You're being judged on your ideas and words, which are important to me etc.

Usually though, I do take it with a pinch of salt.
:)

Yay!

I would say that people do seek approval on forums becuase of exactly that, you are being judged on your ideas and words. And everyone would like their ideas to be liked and excepted and thought of as good etc.

:)

Yeah I know what you mean. I'll admit I have got flustered in the Serious Debates section from time to time lol

[Tom]

I know none of you, I couldn't give 2 sh*ts what you think

[Lee.]

Yeah I know what you mean. I'll admit I have got flustered in the Serious Debates section from time to time lol

Lol @ flustered. I do like that word! Don't ask me why..

[30stone]

Do you like me inone?:thumbs:

lol

[InOne]

Do you like me inone?:thumbs:

lol

Yeah lol most people don't get on with mods but you seem to fit in well.

[lily.]

I don't really give a ***** what people think of me.. here or IRL.

[InOne]

Lol @ flustered. I do like that word! Don't ask me why..

Yeah, just popped in my head lol

[InOne]

I don't really give a ***** what people think of me.. here or IRL.

Go on lass!!!!

[30stone]

Yay acceptance!

LOL

[Stu]

I know none of you, I couldn't give 2 sh*ts what you think
This.

It feels nice when someone appreciates a good post you make, and I enjoy entertaining people, but at the end of the day this is just a forum. People who take things to heart or worry about what other think must have a pretty bog standard genuine social life.

[lily.]

Go on lass!!!!

LoL.. I think you already knew that anyway..

[InOne]

LoL.. I think you already knew that anyway..

Indeed, but you seem especially feisty tonight ;)

[Twilight]

IDK tbh i think people that take stuff to heart on here are stupid

[lily.]

Indeed, but you seem especially feisty tonight ;)

A break does that .. :)

[InOne]

A break does that .. :)

True true, the passion is there!! How come it says you're offline?

[lily.]

I'm hiding.. it's the way forward.. :P

[InOne]

Haha, mysterious, I like it!

[30stone]

A break does that .. :)

Welcome back my love. :wavey:

[Stu]

Welcome back my love. :wavey:
Seconded.

[lily.]

Thankies Ben.. <3

Thankies Stu.. <3 (and back atcha)

[SiaSiaSia]

maybe some people have no life...?

[InOne]

maybe some people have no life...?

It is possible.

[Jords]

Im not bothered :)

(please say something nice to me; else ill cry :D)

[SiaSiaSia]

It is possible.


I suppose it can feel like reallife if you're on here all the time

[30stone]

Some of us are ugly and need acceptance online sadly :(

[InOne]

I suppose it can feel like reallife if you're on here all the time

Are you implying something there?

[Princess]

It's always nice to hear someone say something nice about you,even if it is online. Not to sound cocky or anything,but no has ever said anything bad about me,at least not to my face so whatever to that.

[InOne]

It's always nice to hear someone say something nice about you,even if it is online. Not to sound cocky or anything,but no has ever said anything bad about me,at least not to my face so whatever to that.

Not cocky, maybe you're just lovely!!!

[Princess]

Not cocky, maybe you're just lovely!!!

I'd like to think so! That would be the better option,lol :)

[SiaSiaSia]

Are you implying something there?

not really?
I used to spend my LIFE on tibb

there was a time the only person who had more posts a day than me was mark waldorf :sad:

[SiaSiaSia]

It's always nice to hear someone say something nice about you,even if it is online. Not to sound cocky or anything,but no has ever said anything bad about me,at least not to my face so whatever to that.

I say bad things about YOU all the time ;)

[InOne]

not really?
I used to spend my LIFE on tibb

there was a time the only person who had more posts a day than me was mark waldorf :sad:

Hmmm fair enough lol

[30stone]

Some of us are ugly and need acceptance online sadly :(

Genuine attempt for compiment..

[Princess]

I say bad things about YOU all the time ;)

:shocked: :tongue:

[SiaSiaSia]

Genuine attempt for compiment..

you're such a loser :lovedup:

[MrGaryy]

I think people who genuinely seek approval on forums are people who can't find it elsewhere, be it in school, work w/e, if they don't fit in or get on well with those around them in r/l, they come to a forum where there are lots of close knits groups of friends nand they immediately want to be accepted and taken in because its something their real life lacks. I would say a high amount of TiBB's regulars, particularly young members have or are being bullied which is why the seek so much solace in TiBB.

in my opinion anyway, I'm no psychologist.

[InOne]

I think people who genuinely seek approval on forums are people who can't find it elsewhere, be it in school, work w/e, if they don't fit in or get on well with those around them in r/l, they come to a forum where there are lots of close knits groups of friends nand they immediately want to be accepted and taken in because its something their real life lacks. I would say a high amount of TiBB's regulars, particularly young members have or are being bullied which is why the seek so much solace in TiBB.

in my opinion anyway, I'm no psychologist.

I have often thought that. And wondered if it's a place for misfits as such. But you get regular people on here too. Most people don't give alot away so it's hard to tell. But yeah, some do stand out and seem to long to be accepted in some form or other.

[Jords]

I think people who genuinely seek approval on forums are people who can't find it elsewhere, be it in school, work w/e, if they don't fit in or get on well with those around them in r/l, they come to a forum where there are lots of close knits groups of friends nand they immediately want to be accepted and taken in because its something their real life lacks. I would say a high amount of TiBB's regulars, particularly young members have or are being bullied which is why the seek so much solace in TiBB.

in my opinion anyway, I'm no psychologist.

I would agree with this, but its not the case all the time :thumbs:

[Jords]

I have often thought that. And wondered if it's a place for misfits as such. But you get regular people on here too. Most people don't give alot away so it's hard to tell. But yeah, some do stand out and seem to long to be accepted in some form or other.

ME, accept me bitches cuz I know where you live :devil:

[30stone]

I think people who genuinely seek approval on forums are people who can't find it elsewhere, be it in school, work w/e, if they don't fit in or get on well with those around them in r/l, they come to a forum where there are lots of close knits groups of friends nand they immediately want to be accepted and taken in because its something their real life lacks. I would say a high amount of TiBB's regulars, particularly young members have or are being bullied which is why the seek so much solace in TiBB.

in my opinion anyway, I'm no psychologist.

thats so me..:sad:

[MrGaryy]

I have often thought that. And wondered if it's a place for misfits as such. But you get regular people on here too. Most people don't give alot away so it's hard to tell. But yeah, some do stand out and seem to long to be accepted in some form or other.

I also think TiBB in particular draws them in due to Big Brother having quite a large female and gay following, there are a lot of young guys on here who are clearly going through some phase of realising their sexuality and of course we all know, that gays aren't exactly accepted in young teens which would result in them being bullied.

as opposed to say, a music forum, where the subject is so vague that there's a huge mix of members, young and old, straight and gay, male and female, ect.

[Jords]

thats so me..:sad:

Dont worry 30stone, ill be your buddie and we can be misfits together! :dance:

[MrGaryy]

thats so me..:sad:

i didn't want to make it a direct thing, you know. :bawling:

[SiaSiaSia]

thats so me..:sad:

hahahahhahaha shut up you whiney attention seeker
you know i'd have you any day of the week

(except tuesdays, that's when i have shaun...)

[Jords]

I also think TiBB in particular draws them in due to Big Brother having quite a large female and gay following, there are a lot of young guys on here who are clearly going through some phase of realising their sexuality and of course we all know, that gays aren't exactly accepted in young teens which would result in them being bullied.

as opposed to say, a music forum, where the subject is so vague that there's a huge mix of members, young and old, straight and gay, male and female, ect.

Haha Im 15, and not gay, I just like big brother and I came across this forum and just posted now and then, then I realised you can talk about other TV crap and music andjust normal stuff and make buds so I stayed.

I knew nothing about forums :joker:

Is this a gay & girl forum then? :shocked:

[30stone]

Its terrible i had no friends of school.
People at work bully me.

Thanks sia i would like to think you were seirous...

[InOne]

I also think TiBB in particular draws them in due to Big Brother having quite a large female and gay following, there are a lot of young guys on here who are clearly going through some phase of realising their sexuality and of course we all know, that gays aren't exactly accepted in young teens which would result in them being bullied.

as opposed to say, a music forum, where the subject is so vague that there's a huge mix of members, young and old, straight and gay, male and female, ect.

Yeah there seems a few confused teens here. It's good to get a mix really, works well sometimes, but I have noticed there are alot of clashes and sometimes on going hatered. Some people get pretty passionate on here!!!

[MrGaryy]

Haha Im 15, and not gay, I just like big brother and I came across this forum and just posted now and then, then I realised you can talk about other TV crap and music andjust normal stuff and make buds so I stayed.

I knew nothing about forums :joker:

Is this a gay & girl forum then? :shocked:

that was clearly not my point. I mentioned that BB had a large female gay and female following, so naturally a BB related forum is going to have a large female and gay percentage. That's not to imply that it only attracts girls and gays.

[MiuMiu]

Its terrible i had no friends of school.
People at work bully me.

Thanks sia i would like to think you were seirous...

But you're hot!
:o

[Jords]

that was clearly not my point. I mentioned that BB had a large female gay and female following, so naturally a BB related forum is going to have a large female and gay percentage. That's not to imply that it only attracts girls and gays.

Haha alright, my mum & dad watch it so I sort of had to watch it and now im a fan, same with eastenders pmsl.

[30stone]

But you're hot!
:o


Aww Thanks :blush:

[Stephanie]

lmfao :joker:

[Z]

I think people who genuinely seek approval on forums are people who can't find it elsewhere, be it in school, work w/e, if they don't fit in or get on well with those around them in r/l, they come to a forum where there are lots of close knits groups of friends nand they immediately want to be accepted and taken in because its something their real life lacks. I would say a high amount of TiBB's regulars, particularly young members have or are being bullied which is why the seek so much solace in TiBB.

in my opinion anyway, I'm no psychologist.


You should get an Oscar or something for that. Hit the nail on the head there!

I think people seek approval on forums because they aren't satisfied with the approval they get in their every day lives. That's not necessarily the same thing as getting no approval; some people will never get enough :tongue: but yeah, Gary's right IMO.

[Princess]

I think people who genuinely seek approval on forums are people who can't find it elsewhere, be it in school, work w/e, if they don't fit in or get on well with those around them in r/l, they come to a forum where there are lots of close knits groups of friends nand they immediately want to be accepted and taken in because its something their real life lacks. I would say a high amount of TiBB's regulars, particularly young members have or are being bullied which is why the seek so much solace in TiBB.

in my opinion anyway, I'm no psychologist.

Argee with this. I had no friends in real life when I joined. Thankfully I do now,I just like this place :P Being a 'different' teenager sucksssssssss.

[Jords]

Argee with this. I had no friends in real life when I joined. Thankfully I do now,I just like this place :P Being a 'different' teenager sucksssssssss.

ill be your friend :hugesmile:

[MrGaryy]

yes well, you know, I do try.
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii62/thebiggerbrother/Blairs/5n054.gif

[Stacey.]

THICKK SKINNEDD!! haha... :D "sorry, just thinking about john and edward!"
i dont really care what people think of me on tibb! lol :)
i like some members a LOTTT more than others lol!
but,, i dont botherr about the ones that dont like me... because i know theres a lot! lol :D

[Tom]

I think people who genuinely seek approval on forums are people who can't find it elsewhere, be it in school, work w/e, if they don't fit in or get on well with those around them in r/l, they come to a forum where there are lots of close knits groups of friends nand they immediately want to be accepted and taken in because its something their real life lacks. I would say a high amount of TiBB's regulars, particularly young members have or are being bullied which is why the seek so much solace in TiBB.

in my opinion anyway, I'm no psychologist.

Definitely something in that, and I think a lot of people spam the forum and are actively rude when not necessary (e.g. trolls signing up to slag people off) because they can't do it in real life.

[Beastie]

Maybe members seek approval after joining Tibb, like after being on a few months what impact they have made on the forums, and if they feel they are being "misjudged" then they want to win back some approval?

[atieah2009]

Does anyone actually get affected by what people say about them on here?

No. But since this is a forum sometimes my views change and sometimes i change peoples views. Don't really get hurt as you get what you expect, sadly.

[lily.]

Genuine attempt for compiment..

Ben, you're lovely.



(that better?) LoL

[Captain.Remy]

I don't really give a ***** what people think of me.. here or IRL.

I feel the same. You're not happy with what's going on here ? Simple, click on the cross and it's over.
I've been here for almost 4 years and with all the arguments I had, if it upset me then I'd have left a while ago due to all the insults thrown to each other.
It's no big deal to be honest.

But you can meet new nice people too and it's funny I think. Hearing compliments is always nice so I'll take them with pleasure.

[InOne]

I feel the same. You're not happy with what's going on here ? Simple, click on the cross and it's over.
I've been here for almost 4 years and with all the arguments I had, if it upset me then I'd have left a while ago due to all the insults thrown to each other.
It's no big deal to be honest.

But you can meet new nice people too and it's funny I think. Hearing compliments is always nice so I'll take them with pleasure.

Yeah, most of the time the good outweighs the bad.