Smacking your kids

[Niamh.]

Is it right or not?

[Prole]

Smacking, yes. Beating, no.

[Twilight]

Its right imo if its not really hard like just a tap on the fingers or something..

[*mazedsalv**]

I got smacked properly and A LOT all the way up to 3 years ago or something!

[Stu]

It's not necessarily bad but it's not necessarily necessary either. Learn to control your kids verbally. Smacking reminds me of chavs on the street who drag and smack the kids around because they never bothered taking the time to control or teach them.

In fact, it probably just aggravates the kid even more anyway.

[Stephanie]

yes

[Niamh.]

It's not necessarily bad but it's not necessarily necessary either. Learn to control your kids verbally. Smacking reminds me of chavs on the street who drag and smack the kids around because they never bothered taking the time to control or teach them.

In fact, it probably just aggravates the kid even more anyway.

Yeah, this is the way I feel about it too. I wouldn't want my kids to be afraid that I'd physically hurt them. There are other ways I think. You can't smack an adult when they're bold(unfortunately) so why can you smack a little person??

[Crimson Dynamo]

A smack by a parent who is not losing their temper and is designed to shock rather than hurt is a good way to correct bad behaviour.

Whacking a kid because he/she has wound you up is a no no and probably makes up 90% of smacks

[Niamh.]

A smack by a parent who is not losing their temper and is designed to shock rather than hurt is a good way to correct bad behaviour.

Whacking a kid because he/she has wound you up is a no no and probably makes up 90% of smacks

I've never seen a "cotrolled" smack!! It's always people who are angry with their kids

[Princess]

It's wrong. They're children,it's horrible to hit a little child,there are other ways of disciplining.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I've never seen a "controlled" smack!! It's always people who are angry with their kids

it can happen, if you find you 3 year old trying to insert a screwdriver into a socket for example you will not be angry you will be scared and you want to make the scolding impactful so that it NEVER happens again..

[Niamh.]

it can happen, if you find you 3 year old trying to insert a screwdriver into a socket for example you will not be angry you will be scared and you want to make the scolding impactful so that it NEVER happens again..

Yeah, I suppose you're right but my hubby shouting is scarier than a smack lol

[Crimson Dynamo]

I got a bare bum smacking for going on some garage roofs when i was 4 and so far I have never gone on a garage roof again.

so that is 1 in the "for box"


however as an adult I have spent £30,000 on dominatrixes so that is "one against"

[WOMBAI]

I got a bare bum smacking for going on some garage roofs when i was 4 and so far I have never gone on a garage roof again.

so that is 1 in the "for box"


however as an adult I have spent £30,000 on dominatrixes so that is "one against"

What salvation army and dominatrixes all in the 'breathe' - somewhat of a contradiction don't you think?

[Crimson Dynamo]

What salvation army and dominatrixes all in the 'breathe' - somewhat of a contradiction don't you think?

Ok it was £35,000

happy now?

[Oldmansteptoe!]

Is it right or not?


I have never met your kids but if you want I can arrange it for next week!
:joker:

[Niamh.]

I have never met your kids but if you want I can arrange it for next week!
:joker:

ehhhh, no, it's ok lol:joker:

[arsenalforever]

Niamh, i knew my question affected you ;)

i think some kids deserve a smack across the bum or head from time to time
too many spoiled kids about these days who are rude and have no manners

[Niamh.]

Niamh, i knew my question affected you ;)

i think some kids deserve a smack across the bum or head from time to time
too many spoiled kids about these days who are rude and have no manners

Yeah, it made me think alright Steve!! Yes, there are kids like that but thats more to do with the way their parents are rather than them not being smacked. I don't smack my kids and they're very well-behaved and polite!!

[arsenalforever]

Yeah, it made me think alright Steve!! Yes, there are kids like that but thats more to do with the way their parents are rather than them not being smacked. I don't smack my kids and they're very well-behaved and polite!!

i'm not saying smack your children outright but if they are rude and disrespectful to Elders give 'em a clip around the ear.

Most parents let their Kids away with murder these days its disgraceful

[Niamh.]

i'm not saying smack your children outright but if they are rude and disrespectful to Elders give 'em a clip around the ear.

Most parents let their Kids away with murder these days its disgraceful

I know but there are other as effect ways of disciplining your kids

[arsenalforever]

I know but there are other as effect ways of disciplining your kids

i suppose niamh if i ever have kids maybe i be like you but the kids today are a awful bunch

[WOMBAI]

Not always possible though ie a stressed mum out shopping in the local supermarket - child plays up - can't stick them on the naughty step - talking to them may not work - especially if mum is embarrassed and stressed - small tap on the leg is most practical.

[Niamh.]

i suppose niamh if i ever have kids maybe i be like you but the kids today are a awful bunch

Hitting someone so small and defencless just doesn't feel right to me. I'd feckin' kill someone if they laid a hand on one of my kids so why on earth would I do it to them myself?

[arsenalforever]

Not always possible though ie a stressed mum out shopping in the local supermarket - child plays up - can't stick them on the naughty step - talking to them may not work - especially if mum is embarrassed and stressed - small tap on the leg is most practical.

true, kids can be little horrors at times
i've seen mums go crazy and smack their kids crazy
it was frightening

[Niamh.]

Not always possible though ie a stressed mum out shopping in the local supermarket - child plays up - can't stick them on the naughty step - talking to them may not work - especially if mum is embarrassed and stressed - small tap on the leg is most practical.

I've been there! but I still managed to get them under control by giving out to them

[arsenalforever]

I've been there! but I still managed to get them under control by giving out to them

its a tough job but some mums aren't probably as easy going as you Niamh
and a smack is a easy way out of it

[30stone]

A little smack on the back of the legs or the bum is fine.

Smack my puppy when he tries to bite like visciously not just playing.
It works (obviously i donthi him hard)

[arsenalforever]

A little smack on the back of the legs or the bum is fine.

Smack my puppy when he tries to bite like visciously not just playing.
It works (obviously i donthi him hard)

until he gets big and bites you in the neck :joker:
dogs have to be trained so a smack is needed

where you smacked as a kid Ben/

[Stu]

A little smack on the back of the legs or the bum is fine.

Smack my puppy when he tries to bite like visciously not just playing.
It works (obviously i donthi him hard)
Are we comparing puppies to kids now, yeah?

[30stone]

until he gets big and bites you in the neck :joker:
dogs have to be trained so a smack is needed

where you smacked as a kid Ben/
Yeah i was. Turned out fine.. i think lol.

Are we comparing puppies to kids now, yeah?

No, im saying you show discipline the same way.

You change your tone of voice, but dont shout.
And you give them a little tap and they know.

[Niamh.]

Yeah i was. Turned out fine.. i think lol.



No, im saying you show discipline the same way.

You change your tone of voice, but dont shout.
And you give them a little tap and they know.

I have 2 dogs and 2 kids, I treat them very differently!!

[Stu]

Yeah i was. Turned out fine.. i think lol.



No, im saying you show discipline the same way.

You change your tone of voice, but dont shout.
And you give them a little tap and they know.
No you don't. Dogs are dogs and children are children.

The whole 'giving them a little tap' thing too is ludicrously misguided. If your not actually going to hurt your children, what's the point in slapping them? I know that sounds rather odd, but really, what good does it do if the child actually knows that there really isn't any actual threat of violence?

It will just aggravate the kid and turn the little thing into an even more temperamental brat, who will more than likely hit out at you in the future because that's the way it was raised!

[30stone]

No you don't. Dogs are dogs and children are children.

The whole 'giving them a little tap' thing too is ludicrously misguided. If your not actually going to hurt your children, what's the point in slapping them? I know that sounds rather odd, but really, what good does it do if the child actually knows that there really isn't any actual threat of violence?

It will just aggravate the kid and turn the little thing into an even more temperamental brat, who will more than likely hit out at you in the future because that's the way it was raised!

Obviously there are a lot of differences but the ones i named..
Thing is i dont have a kid so i woudlnt really know. But if i was to have one now thats how id do it.

I was smacked as a child and i wasnt a brat i just shut up when it happened.
and id never hit my parents and same with my brother and counsins and most of my friends so that theory of that they are more likely to hit you goes out the window.

[Niamh.]

Obviously there are a lot of differences but the ones i named..
Thing is i dont have a kid so i woudlnt really know. But if i was to have one now thats how id do it.

I was smacked as a child and i wasnt a brat i just shut up when it happened.
and id never hit my parents and same with my brother and counsins and most of my friends so that theory of that they are more likely to hit you goes out the window.

Yes, but I don't think you weren't a brat just because of being smacked. You probably weren't a brat because you had parents who disciplined you and I'm sure if they had choosen to discipline you a different way, that probably would have worked equally as well!

[30stone]

Maybe so we will never know...
I believe its still a thing you should be able to do if you choose to.
I think it helped towards me not being a little brat.

[Stu]

Obviously there are a lot of differences but the ones i named..
Thing is i dont have a kid so i woudlnt really know. But if i was to have one now thats how id do it.

I was smacked as a child and i wasnt a brat i just shut up when it happened.
and id never hit my parents and same with my brother and counsins and most of my friends so that theory of that they are more likely to hit you goes out the window.
Err no, it's pretty much a parental fact of life. One instance involving your own personal life can't disprove a whole theory :shocked:.

[30stone]

Think ill just tell my girlfriend (when i get one) im not a fit dad and just not have kids now.. lol.

[Niamh.]

Think ill just tell my girlfriend (when i get one) im not a fit dad and just not have kids now.. lol.

:joker:

[arsenalforever]

Think ill just tell my girlfriend (when i get one) im not a fit dad and just not have kids now.. lol.

oh the self pity:joker:

[Stu]

Think ill just tell my girlfriend (when i get one) im not a fit dad and just not have kids now.. lol.
See you have this fathering thing nailed already :thumbs:.

[30stone]

Lol, in all seriousness i think id be a good dad lol, im sure everyone wouldnt agree though!

[Niamh.]

Lol, in all seriousness i think id be a good dad lol, im sure everyone wouldnt agree though!

You never know though you might change your mind about the smacking thing when you actually have your own child. They look to you for protection and are so defencless

[arsenalforever]

You never know though you might change your mind about the smacking thing when you actually have your own child. They look to you for protection and are so defencless

A smack is what is needed really

[30stone]

Maybe, but i have a strong belief in how my parents brought me up being the right way and the way id like to follow.

[30stone]

Anyway i have to go work now 1:30pm - 10pm

Shop's first day open for 2 weeks so will be packed. lol.

Cyah all.

[Niamh.]

Anyway i have to go work now 1:30pm - 10pm

Shop's first day open for 2 weeks so will be packed. lol.

Cyah all.

see ya later Ben:wavey:

[AfroMullet]

My mumma beat my ass black and blue, and i turned out fine.

[WOMBAI]

Hmm - really?