Anorexia and Bulimia (Possibly Triggering)

[InOne]

Anyone had an experience with this or know anyone has? Quite a few misconceptions of it really as 'Pretty girls staying thin'. Although most common with Females, in recent years there has been a few cases in the news of Males suffering from it. Both are classed as Psychiatric Disorders, I know most probably know that but just incase you didn't.

[MrGaryy]

I had a kind of bad case of bulimia from the years of 13 - 14, had to get my stomach pumped at one point. I'm totally out of it now, though I suspect my other has been battling with a mild case of anorexia for years. It's psychological disease, it's about being in control, or at least for me, when I was at a time when I felt my life was totally out of my control and this was a comfort.

[Ninastar]

I have not eaten for a couple of days before. I then realized I was being stupid so I stopped.

[Niamh.]

Anyone had an experience with this or know anyone has? Quite a few misconceptions of it really as 'Pretty girls staying thin'. Although most common with Females, in recent years there has been a few cases in the news of Males suffering from it. Both are classed as Psychiatric Disorders, I know most probably know that but just incase you didn't.

My cousin was anorexic. She was a perfectionist, extremely intelligent. She got the Anorexia under control after years and then became an alcoholic. She died last year at the age of 28. I think the anorexia was a symptom of some other issues she had really.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Both are selfish self indulgent psychological disorders. Often the relationship with the mother is key.

[InOne]

My cousin was anorexic. She was a perfectionist, extremely intelligent. She got the Anorexia under control after years and then became an alcoholic. She died last year at the age of 28. I think the anorexia was a symptom of some other issues she had really.

Awww sorry about that Niamh, yeah, does not sound like she was too well. Did she get hospitalized or anything at any point? As in like help

[Niamh.]

Awww sorry about that Niamh, yeah, does not sound like she was too well. Did she get hospitalized or anything at any point? As in like help

They did everything they possibly could to help her, she was in a clinic when she was younger for months which got her anorexia under control but she was still under 18 then. She was ok for a while she became a dentist and moved to England where she became an alcoholic, her parents went over and brought her home but she was an adult then and really If she doesn't want to help herself there's only so much you can do but they tried everything they could.

[InOne]

They did everything they possibly could to help her, she was in a clinic when she was younger for months which got her anorexia under control but she was still under 18 then. She was ok for a while she became a dentist and moved to England where she became an alcoholic, her parents went over and brought her home but she was an adult then and really If she doesn't want to help herself there's only so much you can do but they tried everything they could.

I guess getting institutionalized early on in life did not help either. You lose social skills that you need in those years. It's a shame when people are too far gone. Were you quite close to her ever?

[Niamh.]

I guess getting institutionalized early on in life did not help either. You lose social skills that you need in those years. It's a shame when people are too far gone. Were you quite close to her ever?

No, I wasn't close to her at all, I'm not really close to any of my cousins. It's still very sad though. They really had no choice back then though but to institionalize her, she would have died otherwise, she was in a very bad way.

[MissKittyFantastico]

I was anorexic between the ages of around 15 and 18. Just became obsessed with my weight because my two best friends were really skinny and I was quite plump as a teenager. My dad used to tease me about it and I just slowly stopped eating until I was lying to him and my step mum about having eaten, when really I was surviving on cups of sugary tea and coffee and maybe some fruit every day and that was it. I abused laxatives as well to stay super thin. At my lightest I was about 6 and a half stone which is super thin for my height of 5'6. Was never hospitalised or anything though.

I'm over it now and I actually got quite big at one point. Now I'm about average for my height and build and am happy with that.

Mine definitely stemmed from my relationship with my parents, especially my mum, she was obsessed with her appearance and always on a diet so I didn't see the problem with me doing the same. Just took it too far. My dad didn't exactly help either lol.

[Niamh.]

I was anorexic between the ages of around 15 and 18. Just became obsessed with my weight because my two best friends were really skinny and I was quite plump as a teenager. My dad used to tease me about it and I just slowly stopped eating until I was lying to him and my step mum about having eaten, when really I was surviving on cups of sugary tea and coffee and maybe some fruit every day and that was it. I abused laxatives as well to stay super thin. At my lightest I was about 6 and a half stone which is super thin for my height of 5'6. Was never hospitalised or anything though.

I'm over it now and I actually got quite big at one point. Now I'm about average for my height and build and am happy with that.

Mine definitely stemmed from my relationship with my parents, especially my mum, she was obsessed with her appearance and always on a diet so I didn't see the problem with me doing the same. Just took it too far. My dad didn't exactly help either lol.

Good on you for coming out the other side though Michelle, my cousin unfortunatley traded one thing for another and it eventually killed her.

[InOne]

I was anorexic between the ages of around 15 and 18. Just became obsessed with my weight because my two best friends were really skinny and I was quite plump as a teenager. My dad used to tease me about it and I just slowly stopped eating until I was lying to him and my step mum about having eaten, when really I was surviving on cups of sugary tea and coffee and maybe some fruit every day and that was it. I abused laxatives as well to stay super thin. At my lightest I was about 6 and a half stone which is super thin for my height of 5'6. Was never hospitalised or anything though.

I'm over it now and I actually got quite big at one point. Now I'm about average for my height and build and am happy with that.

Mine definitely stemmed from my relationship with my parents, especially my mum, she was obsessed with her appearance and always on a diet so I didn't see the problem with me doing the same. Just took it too far. My dad didn't exactly help either lol.

Awww, well done for getting through it Michelle, shows you are a strong person :)

[InOne]

No, I wasn't close to her at all, I'm not really close to any of my cousins. It's still very sad though. They really had no choice back then though but to institionalize her, she would have died otherwise, she was in a very bad way.

Yeah it's very sad when it happens like that. Like it's probably so hard cos it's basically changing your whole view on life. If people have repetative thoughts, it's hard to get rid of them and change your way of thinking.

[MissKittyFantastico]

Good on you for coming out the other side though Michelle, my cousin unfortunatley traded one thing for another and it eventually killed her.

Sorry Niamh, I didn't read your other posts before I made mine :sad: I'm really sorry about your cousin, it's always sad when someone that young passes like that. Like you said she must have been trying to deal with some underlying issues, first by controlling her eating and then the drinking. I'm really sorry :hug:

Thanks Joe xx

[Stu]

Both are selfish self indulgent psychological disorders.
Bit like religion, then.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Bit like religion, then.

No, communion would not go down well with the anorexics.

[InOne]

No, communion would not go down well with the anorexics.

So that is you making a joke out of people with a mental illness? Lovely person aren't you.

[MissKittyFantastico]

No, communion would not go down well with the anorexics.

Har Har. Very amusing. So very Christian of you.

****.

[Stu]

No, communion would not go down well with the anorexics.
You never know. The church is just full of empty promises.

[Enid]

I should be anorexic. Never been skinny, picked on about my weight at school and at home, slim friends, ****ed up relationship with my parents, superficial mother and sister obsessing about their looks every second of the day and then bitching about me when I tell them they are vain. But I never went down that road. I always put weight ON.

[InOne]

I should be anorexic. Never been skinny, picked on about my weight at school and at home, slim friends, ****ed up relationship with my parents, superficial mother and sister obsessing about their looks every second of the day and then bitching about me when I tell them they are vain. But I never went down that road. I always put weight ON.

You are lovely looking Enid, you will never have to worry. It's good you think differently to your family.

[atieah2009]

I dont if i could classify my self as a bulimia sufferer at one point, when i was addicted to gambling and drugs. really destroyed my life between 14-16. Now back on track, back with studying and normal life. But i went from literally half a piece of fish to eating like 3 cakes and just so much. Now im just back to normal but it's still scared on me there and i still have an urge to gamble:( but if i do now i usaully lay away from it. Also i used to binge alot and go to much sleepovers and parties. I abused my body so badly!

[Enid]

Cheers.

I think the way I turned out was partly due to how my family were. My dad was/is a lazy abusive slob, my mum is a weak minded superficial moron and my sister lives for the latest fashion and totally disregards anything else. I rebelled from what was thought as normal in that house and I made sure as I was growing up through my teenage years I did not turn out like my parents.

[Niamh.]

Cheers.

I think the way I turned out was partly due to how my family were. My dad was/is a lazy abusive slob, my mum is a weak minded superficial moron and my sister lives for the latest fashion and totally disregards anything else. I rebelled from what was thought as normal in that house and I made sure as I was growing up through my teenage years I did not turn out like my parents.

You sound like you had it really tough Enid but rebelling and not wanting to be like your parents is probably what saved you

[Beastie]

I have not eaten for a few days before. I was fasting to lose weight and eating fig biscuits. Then realised how stupid? I want to keep my curves and womanly figure. Therefore the best option is to eat healthy and exercise if you want to lose weight. I did this a few years ago.

[InOne]

I have not eaten for a few days before. I was fasting to lose weight and eating fig biscuits. Then realised how stupid? I want to keep my curves and womanly figure. Therefore the best option is to eat healthy and exercise if you want to lose weight. I did this a few years ago.

I have heard you can actually put more weight on by skipping Breakfast and stuff.

[Beastie]

I have heard you can actually put more weight on by skipping Breakfast and stuff.

Lol yeah, well I think I just ate breakfast and fig biscuits, I like eating a bowl of cereal everyday but what I did was stupid. Suppose a few days is a bit of experimenting. However after the few days of not eating I used to then eat a lot and complain to myself I have put on weight. It was just a phase. Now I am just now and again weary of myself.

[Crimson Dynamo]

can they not even eat wafer thin ham?

[Deirdre]

My sister had anorexia and bulimia throughout her teenage years. She was just bones tbh. It's the saddest thing to have to see anyone go through. Especially someone as close as a sister. She got help eventually, but she still has signs of it, saying she's fat and watching what she eats constantly, but I'm just happy that she's not the way she was.

[InOne]

My sister had anorexia and bulimia throughout her teenage years. She was just bones tbh. It's the saddest thing to have to see anyone go through. Especially someone as close as a sister. She got help eventually, but she still has signs of it, saying she's fat and watching what she eats constantly, but I'm just happy that she's not the way she was.

I am glad she pulled through Deirdre, must have been awful for you. And yeah, I doubt it can 100% go away, it's just about coping I guess. If people are around to support the person and not patronise them, I guess it helps too.

[Deirdre]

I am glad she pulled through Deirdre, must have been awful for you. And yeah, I doubt it can 100% go away, it's just about coping I guess. If people are around to support the person and not patronise them, I guess it helps too.

Thanks InOne. :)

[WOMBAI]

We have to look at our society - and why it creates an environment where women are made to feel undervalued and unattractive unless they look a certain way!

Young women also need to look at themselves - and the reasons why they are so easily influenced by this way of thinking. They should value themselves more. It is still a small percentage of women that have these problems.

[InOne]

We have to look at our society - and why it creates an environment where women are made to feel undervalued and unattractive unless they look a certain way!

Young women also need to look at themselves - and the reasons why they are so easily influenced by this way of thinking. They should value themselves more. It is still a small percentage of women that have these problems.

Indeed, I do think the media plays a part and people like Victoria Beckham are no role models. It is a shame the way you girls are so focused on how they appear to other people at a young age. But I guess that is what our society has become. Also there are other factors too, the enviroment around them ect. Also there can be genetic factors too, and people who suffer often have other Psychological disorders, guess as long as people are not judgemental and that, they might be ok. Like every other mental illness, it carries stigma I guess.

[Tom4784]

I knew someone from college who suffered with Anorexia, but fortunately she managed to overcome it. They're terrible illnesses and I fully sympathize with anyone who has suffered with them.

[Tom4784]

We have to look at our society - and why it creates an environment where women are made to feel undervalued and unattractive unless they look a certain way!

Young women also need to look at themselves - and the reasons why they are so easily influenced by this way of thinking. They should value themselves more. It is still a small percentage of women that have these problems.

Very true, I don't think the media is always the root cause but I do think it plays a big part a lot of the time.

[Sophii3x]

The thing with eating disorders is that once you go through it, you will NEVER be fully recovered.. the whole thing stays with you for life. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I had bullimia when I was about 13 years old and it lasted pretty long but I recovered pretty quickly from it. Then when I was 16 I just suddenly went off food, started losing weight and because obsessed with losing more and more. I starved myself for several months until I was diagnosed with anorexia. About four months into my recovery programme I went through a long phase of bullimia. I'm now healthy though I have my odd days where I just don't fancy eating anything.. but luckily I'm forced to eat by the people around me!

[InOne]

The thing with eating disorders is that once you go through it, you will NEVER be fully recovered.. the whole thing stays with you for life. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I had bullimia when I was about 13 years old and it lasted pretty long but I recovered pretty quickly from it. Then when I was 16 I just suddenly went off food, started losing weight and because obsessed with losing more and more. I starved myself for several months until I was diagnosed with anorexia. About four months into my recovery programme I went through a long phase of bullimia. I'm now healthy though I have my odd days where I just don't fancy eating anything.. but luckily I'm forced to eat by the people around me!

I'm glad you are healthy now, sounds like you had a bit of a rough time. I guess alot of family support helps too, and yeah, I agree people can never fully recover.

If you don't mind me asking, was their any certian influences that lead to it, like wanting to look like someone or something? You don't have to answer if you don't want to.

[Sophii3x]

Aw thankyou and it's ok! And not really, to be honest. Sounds wierd but I just simply suddenly went off food, like I'd feel sick when I saw it and I couldn't stand the thought of eating. It's strange I know but I didn't want to inspire to look like anyone at all. :) Hope that made sense!

[InOne]

Aw thankyou and it's ok! And not really, to be honest. Sounds wierd but I just simply suddenly went off food, like I'd feel sick when I saw it and I couldn't stand the thought of eating. It's strange I know but I didn't want to inspire to look like anyone at all. :) Hope that made sense!

Yeah, I sort of get what you mean, even though I could never fully understand of course. Did they diagnose with anything else apart from Anorexia?

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

can they not even eat wafer thin ham?

:joker::joker::joker:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

sry a guest was viewing this thread i had to bump it coz das really funny

[Ninastar]

i was scared when I saw that I posted in her in 2009 but that post was okay

[CharlieO]

People call me anorexic because I do not want to be fat again and only consume enough food to keep me the size I like. I would be prepared to starve myself to be thinner. I wouldn't say it is a mental illness.

I think it is just another case of people over diagnosing things.

[Niall]

People call me anorexic because I do not want to be fat again and only consume enough food to keep me the size I like. I would be prepared to starve myself to be thinner. I wouldn't say it is a mental illness.

I think it is just another case of people over diagnosing things.

It's over diagnosing at all. It's a valid concern Charlie, because it's abnormal. That isn't the healthy way to lose weight. You might not have the illness now, but what if this is the start of slippery slope?

[CharlieO]

But I wouldn't want to be ever so skinny that it makes me ill. If I could I would love to eat loads but be like really ripped but at the moment I cant do that so I would rather be thin.
But people telling me it is a mental illness just makes me want to do it more tbh so I don;t see how it helps by diagnosing it.

[Niall]

Well going on a diet and eating certain foods over others would be the better way to go about it, in addition to going to the gym every so often. Cutting out food entirely isn't the best idea.

[CharlieO]

Oh I haven't done that. I eat breakfast and lunch every day. Just not dinner all the time.
And I do 6 hours of vigorous exercise a week. But if my forced exercise were to stop I would have to cut down consumption further.

[Niall]

Hmm. I still think its odd to cut out on dinner. It's not good for you. If your doing as much excercise as you say, then you must be burning off more than enough calories to lose some weight, even with 3 squares a day.

[Ammi]

I agree with Niall, to obsessively control your weight and what you eat could indicate there's a psychological feeling of lack of control in other areas of your life. I think if you're consiously thinking about your food and analysing how healthy it is a lot, you just need to be aware of it.
Food and our bodies is something that is quite commonly used to give us a feeling of control

[Ninastar]

I think it's sadly a bit of a norm to starve yourself now. Like it's everywhere that you have to look a certain way. I think it mainly happens with 14 - 18 year olds though. It's sad and what's bad is that I think it's only going to get even worse.

I do think a lot of the time it's a cry for help though. Especially in the younger ages.

[Niall]

I agree with Niall, to obsessively control your weight and what you eat could indicate there's a psychological feeling of lack of control in other areas of your life. I think if you're consiously thinking about your food and analysing how healthy it is a lot, you just need to be aware of it.
Food and our bodies is something that is quite commonly used to give us a feeling of control

Exactly.

[Ammi]

I think it's sadly a bit of a norm to starve yourself now. Like it's everywhere that you have to look a certain way. I think it mainly happens with 14 - 18 year olds though. It's sad and what's bad is that I think it's only going to get even worse.

I do think a lot of the time it's a cry for help though. Especially in the younger ages.

I know, I saw this woman on TV who has the worlds smalles waist, she'd worn a corset for over twenty years and has a 15inch waist....it looked gross tbh

[ILoveTRW]

I eat next to nothing most days. and then I have a day a week where I pig out, although it probably is binge eating its just the way i find easiest to keep weight off and im 100 in the head, believe it or not.

[Marc]

These are both sad problems.

I always see them on TV programmes and you wonder why people can't just start eating more and get better (I know, that's dumb) but it's such a deep issue and really scary. I hope to god no body in my family will ever suffer from these.

[Pyramid*]

I agree with Niall, to obsessively control your weight and what you eat could indicate there's a psychological feeling of lack of control in other areas of your life. I think if you're consiously thinking about your food and analysing how healthy it is a lot, you just need to be aware of it.
Food and our bodies is something that is quite commonly used to give us a feeling of control

Could not have said it better myself Ammi. Anorexia often comes from it being one of the aspects that a person has control over in their life: and it ultimately can be one of the most damaging illnesses - and one of the most difficult to overcome.

On a side note: whilst I appreciate the thread is two years old but was bumped today by Scott - given that some members have opened up on how anorexia/bulimia has blighted them or their loved ones & that it's a serious topic - Scotts laughing smileys should be removed. It's not a topic that deserves that, and it's completly and utterly disrespectful for him to have bumped it to laugh at an ignorant 2 year old post. It's a serious discussion - clearly he has nothing serious to add to the discussion.