T r u s t?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Is you partner trustworthy or is it the case that he/she has not been found out

or has not had the right opportunity?

can people be trusted?

[Vicky.]

I trust my partner.

He doesnt trust me though, for no reason at all.

[setanta]

Ah, he's the jealous type? Nothing worse than that... pain in the hole.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I trust my partner.

He doesnt trust me though, for no reason at all.

often a lack of trust is a fear that the partner is having the same thoughts or actions as the person..

[setanta]

often a lack of trust is a fear that the partner is having the same thoughts or actions as the person..

Agreed. That's the case more often than not.

[Crimson Dynamo]

still, i would read their texts and emails just to be on the safe side..

[Shasown]

still, i would read their texts and emails just to be on the safe side..

In the old days a kettle was sufficient, nowadays you need hacking skills. Progress eh?

[Captain.Remy]

I'm not a jealous guy to be honest, I do trust my girlfriend and I always did it with my exes and they never crossed the line, it ended for different reasons tho. I'm a very flirtatious person so I need someone who's like me and understands what it is to like dancing with other people and socialize all the time. I'm quite lucky I only dated girls like that.

However, in business situations or anything else, trust no one is my motto. People can push you under the bus when they have the opportunity to. Once a guy tried to backstab me and a friend of mine in my rugby team, we never saw him ever again.

[rapunza1977]

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[Dr.Gonzo]

often a lack of trust is a fear that the partner is having the same thoughts or actions as the person..


*Guilt transference.

And yes, I agree. I trust my missus completely.

[Beastie]

I trust my boyfriend and he trusts me. No point worrying about if he has cheated unless there is given proof. Just give people the benefit of the doubt.

[Beastie]

still, i would read their texts and emails just to be on the safe side..

Lol yeah sometimes I look at my boyfriend's phone and he looks at mine! I don't go on his emails and that though.. I tell him about TIBB and he is not interested :joker: and he likes talking to his random friends on the net about machinery and shizz.

[Dr.Gonzo]

I agree, Beasty. There's no point at all worrying about something you have no control over. Hopefully you should feel confident enough in your choice of partner to be able to sleep easy. I think to trust someone you first have to trust yourself.

[Crimson Dynamo]

you can only keep your own house in order and hope for the best

[Dr.Gonzo]

you can only keep your own house in order and hope for the best

We agree! I need a lie down.

[Niamh.]

I trust my husband completly yes.

[Crimson Dynamo]

would anyone trust a politician?

[Beastie]

would anyone trust a politician?

Freddie Fisher and Luke Marsden are the future in Politics <3

[Dr.Gonzo]

would anyone trust a politician?

I would trust them to be bastards.

[Sophii3x]

I would never trust a politician, haha.

I trust my partner completly and he trusts me. Though he does have a jealous streak, like he can be way over-protective sometimes. I don't undertand why he feels the need to act like that, he knows I'd never ever cheat on him.. he's the one who's cheated on me in the past.

[Niamh.]

would anyone trust a politician?

No, luckily my hubby isn't a politican haha

[Beastie]

I would never trust a politician, haha.

I trust my partner completly and he trusts me. Though he does have a jealous streak, like he can be way over-protective sometimes. I don't undertand why he feels the need to act like that, he knows I'd never ever cheat on him.. he's the one who's cheated on me in the past.

Ooo controversial.

[WOMBAI]

I would never trust a politician, haha.

I trust my partner completly and he trusts me. Though he does have a jealous streak, like he can be way over-protective sometimes. I don't undertand why he feels the need to act like that, he knows I'd never ever cheat on him.. he's the one who's cheated on me in the past.

That is it exactly! Guilty conscience! How can you trust him completely - when he has already cheated on you?

[Beastie]

That is it exactly! Guilty conscience! How can you trust him completely - when he has already cheated on you?

Hey WOMBAI! Oh do you have a boyfriend or husband?

[Dr.Gonzo]

Once a cheat always a cheat.... as in, if you can find a reason - excuse - to do it once, you can always find another reason if you so wish.

[Niamh.]

That is it exactly! Guilty conscience! How can you trust him completely - when he has already cheated on you?

Yeah, exactly, for me, once the trust is broken I don't think I'd ever fully trust that person again really.

[Sophii3x]

That is it exactly! Guilty conscience! How can you trust him completely - when he has already cheated on you?

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

[Dr.Gonzo]

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

You see, because he's done it, he can see how easy it is to do. If I can do it, then she can, too, he'll think.

[WOMBAI]

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

You were both very young - he may well have changed. But I would be a little concerned about his refusal to talk about it. If you need to talk about it - to lay it to rest - he owes you that!

[Niamh.]

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

and are you still friends with your "best friend"?

[Sophii3x]

You see, because he's done it, he can see how easy it is to do. If I can do it, then she can, too, he'll think.
That's what my friends say. But as I said he doesn't need to worry cause I wouldn't dream of doing it.

You were both very young - he may well have changed. But I would be a little concerned about his refusal to talk about it. If you need to talk about it - to lay it to rest - he owes you that!
He definately has. Trust me, I've tried.. he just feels it's easier to forget it knowing how much it affected/hurt me at the time.

and are you still friends with your "best friend"?
Hell to the no :P She actually went and stole the next boyfriend I had after all that. Worst.friend.EVER, I still hate her.

[Niamh.]

That's what my friends say. But as I said he doesn't need to worry cause I wouldn't dream of doing it.


He definately has. Trust me, I've tried.. he just feels it's easier to forget it knowing how much it affected/hurt me at the time.


Hell to the no :P She actually went and stole the next boyfriend I had after all that. Worst.friend.EVER, I still hate her.

Well, I'm glad to hear that atleast!! I hope he has changed for your sake, I suppose because he was so young at the time that it is more likely that it was just because of his age, If he were an adult when he did it I wouldn't be so sure though!