Ideal age to be a parent?

[Ninastar]

What is yours?

I want to be 20 - 24.
I dont want to be older than 25. I hate it when people have babies at like 40 (sorry if you have or anything), I just think its too old too have children.

[Shaun]

Definitely not before my 30s.

[Smithy]

26+

[Stu]

Relative to the person I guess, but I think it makes sense to enjoy as much of your life as you can without children. Not that I have anything against children, just keep them away from me.

[Stephanie]

23

[ILoveTRW]

25 to 30

[Stacey.]

About 28 :)

[Twilight]

20 - 40

[Ninastar]

Yeah I meant as in yourself. I should have made it more clear. Sorry

[GypsyGoth]

I don't want to have kids, ever.

But I really dislike seeing girls younger than me pushing a buggy, with their friend who is also pushing one, not that it makes them a bad parent, I just think they're too immature.

So I reckon mid twenties to mid thirties.

[Ninastar]

I don't want to have kids, ever.

But I really dislike seeing girls younger than me pushing a buggy, with their friend who is also pushing one, not that it makes them a bad parent, I just think they're too immature.

So I reckon mid twenties to mid thirties.

I hate it too. And why dont you want kids? Do you not like them? You dont have to say if you dont want x

[GypsyGoth]

I hate it too. And why dont you want kids? Do you not like them? You dont have to say if you dont want x

I don't mind them, I can see why people think they're cute, but to have one forever, to look after everyday, no thanks, doesn't appeal.

And don't get me started on being pregnant, even if it didn't seem like the most painful experience ever, I still wouldn't want a baby growing inside me.

[MeMyselfAndI]

ummm 20 or 21

[Ninastar]

I don't mind them, I can see why people think they're cute, but to have one forever, to look after everyday, no thanks, doesn't appeal.

And don't get me started on being pregnant, even if it didn't seem like the most painful experience ever, I still wouldn't want a baby growing inside me.

Lol. awww, I know what you mean though. It is actually really wierd thinking about it all. sometimes it makes me cringe, but sometimes it makes me feel happy. lol its hard to explain.

[Smithy]

I don't mind them, I can see why people think they're cute, but to have one forever, to look after everyday, no thanks, doesn't appeal.

And don't get me started on being pregnant, even if it didn't seem like the most painful experience ever, I still wouldn't want a baby growing inside me.

I think, you'll hit an age and settle down and become all broody and want one. Thats what usually happens to women who say they don't want one.

[Patrick]

14

[30stone]

26 - 29.

[pinkmichk]

i dont think there is a ideal age it depends on the person i had my daughter at 21 it wasnt how i had mapped out my life but i adjusted to it pretty quickly if i could do it all over again i would like to have got to around the age i am now (26)

[LemonJam]

24-30

[Beastie]

25-30.

[setanta]

I suppose I'm at an advantage being a man and can hold it off for a fair bit longer than women, but in saying that I still don't think that there's a right age for anyone, especially since the average lifespan is lengthening all the time. I'd say I'll be around 35 or so when I have a child. Can't see myself having one before that.

[WOMBAI]

Don't think you can put an age on it - it is just when the time is right for you!

[Crimson Dynamo]

the ideal age is the age when you are in love, married and have had say a couple of years married together to get sorted.

get the basics right and give yourself a chance.

[Jords]

24

[Niamh.]

I had my daughter when I was 21, I think I was too young, I had my son at 24 which was better of course I had already been a mother 4 years by then so I reckon maybe
25-30 is ideal, though of course every person is different

[Niamh.]

i dont think there is a ideal age it depends on the person i had my daughter at 21 it wasnt how i had mapped out my life but i adjusted to it pretty quickly if i could do it all over again i would like to have got to around the age i am now (26)

sounds similar to me, though having kids when you're younger does have it's advantages also

[Beastie]

I heard that your fertility rate drops 90% by the time you reach the age of 30. I think this is for women!

[Niamh.]

I heard that your fertility rate drops 90% by the time you reach the age of 30. I think this is for women!

just as well I'm not having anymore then!

[Enid]

Can't be dealing with all this family talk.

[Beastie]

just as well I'm not having anymore then!

Well I think it is because.. I know people are living longer but I suppose people in the twenties or teens like to drink a lot.. and so forth..

Ahh I don't know.. suppose just have the child when you are ready!

Can always adopt if I can't have them naturally. (Thinks of the worst case scenario)

[Brad.]

25-35 ideally.

[Jayson]

30-35

[Scarlett.]

30-33 ideally

[M X]

When you are ready. I think when you're about 30 is the right time to start trying for babies, but that's if your ready and if your ready before that its fine.

[Tom]

I think once you're ready to a) stop going out every week, b) you're financially stable and c) you're in a decentish relationship that could be sustained even if you split then you're ready. I think anything over 23ish is kind of respectful, theres a bit of a stigma attached to being a parent if you're in your late teens or early 20s. That said I'm nearly 21 and not bothered anymore, if it happens it happens. Had a scare the other week- luckily it never amounted to anything but it was a wake up call and a good reality check.

Its completely up to the couple I guess and where you're at in life.

[Vicky.]

About 30 I think...

[Beastie]

I think once you're ready to a) stop going out every week, b) you're financially stable and c) you're in a decentish relationship that could be sustained even if you split then you're ready. I think anything over 23ish is kind of respectful, theres a bit of a stigma attached to being a parent if you're in your late teens or early 20s. That said I'm nearly 21 and not bothered anymore, if it happens it happens. Had a scare the other week- luckily it never amounted to anything but it was a wake up call and a good reality check.

Its completely up to the couple I guess and where you're at in life.

This. Yeah Im at the age at of it happens it happens but I rather it be planned when I am fully ready!

[WOMBAI]

This. Yeah Im at the age at of it happens it happens but I rather it be planned when I am fully ready!

Not before 30 - for either sex!

[Tom]

Not before 30 - for either sex!

30 is the age where I won't have any :joker:

I want to be a youngish dad. Defo in the next 5 years I'd say (gf is 23 and wants them before shes 30 also assuming we're still together).

[Beastie]

Not before 30 - for either sex!

Yeah well I am nearly 21 and my boyfriend is 25 next! I think mid to late 20's I would want my first kid!

I probs would be like 30 if my boyfriend was the same age as me.. but he is older so I rather have my first kid a bit earlier than 30! but if not.. doesn't matter!

[Christina]

About 27-30ish i want to actually do stuff before i decide to have a children (travel, uni, learning to drive etc..)

[Beastie]

About 27-30ish i want to actually do stuff before i decide to have a children (travel, uni, learning to drive etc..)

You are a wise, sophisticated and classy woman Christina!

[Christina]

You are a wise, sophisticated and classy woman Christina!

Why thankyou :D haha! I was actually talking about this with my Mum today.. there was this girl my age (17ish) at some place i went to and she was pregnant and had dropped out of all education. I just wouldn't be ready for a baby so early what with all the things i'd like to do!