Online Dating

[zotler.]

Do you see dating someone over the internet as a bad thing or a good thing?
I can personally see more disadvantages than advantages, such as the fact that there's obviously no physical benefits to the 'relationship' which I'm sure in the long run would do more harm than good, as even though physical affection can be seen as unnecessary, it's beneficial...
I know someone who met her husband online and dated over the internet before they met and married and was glad she met him online.
Opinions?

[\PJ/]

Meeting somone online,you don't really know them well just what they have typed where as meeting somone out in real life you know they are real but still you don't really know them so im ok with it TBH.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I doubt it will ever beat working in close proximity with someone or sharing an activity or interest with someone who lives near you.

It kind of is a hoover for those who are either back in the market and do not qualify for points one and two above and or the hapless.

[Patrick]

Good to have ya back Zoe ;)

And yeah, hmm its alright I think Online Dating is abit sad tbh but yeah if you do run out of women to chat up in your local area, the girls you do know all have a bad opinion of you, then you may need to turn to the good old internet.

My Dad uses online dating sites, and picked up a few girls.
Most of them were ugly,horrible,bitches,mean and sluts.
But one of them was a really nice women, she wasnt that nice in looks but she was a nice girl and I use to think Online Dating was filled with Peados/Sluts/Old People.

I think spending the time on the Internet is alright to get to know someone, and if you do decide to meet up and see how things go then yeah, thats cool. :thumbs:

[Shasown]

So long as you accept the limitations of the relationship initially, its a perfectly acceptable form of meeting people. There are advantages and disadvantages same as there are with any other method of meeting people.

I think the main stigma comes as a carry over from the fact that most of the earlier online dating sites were set up for casual sexual encounters.

[Niamh.]

Meeting someone online is ok but I think it would definately be wise to meet in person before deciding to become a couple. These people who decide to get married before they've even actually met eachother in person are crazy imo!

[WOMBAI]

Meeting someone online is ok but I think it would definately be wise to meet in person before deciding to become a couple. These people who decide to get married before they've even actually met eachother in person are crazy imo!

How could anyone even think of marrying someone they hadn't even met - incredible! Called desperation!

[Niamh.]

How could anyone even think of marrying someone they hadn't even met - incredible! Called desperation!

It must be desperation because I know you can get on with people through just speaking to them and all but you need to meet them to see if there's a spark atleast, plus I really am a firm believer in you don't really know a person until you live with them and don't even think people should decide to get married until they've lived with eachother for a bit first.

[WOMBAI]

It must be desperation because I know you can get on with people through just speaking to them and all but you need to meet them to see if there's a spark atleast, plus I really am a firm believer in you don't really know a person until you live with them and don't even think people should decide to get married until they've lived with eachother for a bit first.

I agree totally!

[InOne]

If they connect on the net meet irl, see how it goes, if it happens it happens.

[rapunza1977]

I think it's ok - I have friends who do it and have met some ok guys but also some weirdo guys!

I am not someone that trusts too easily so I think I would have reservations and also think when they are contacting me and meeting me they are online loking for the BBD!

[WOMBAI]

No problems with it in principle - but wouldn't do it - too risky!

[Possiblehousemate]

i have met friends this year but never any relationship!

90% of it doesnt seem to develop into anything though, you just stop chatting and forget that person existed!

[arista]

No problems with it in principle - but wouldn't do it - too risky!



Nothing Wrong with Risks

That is Life.



Life In The City.

[InOne]

No problems with it in principle - but wouldn't do it - too risky!

Elaborate on risky my dear....

[rapunza1977]

Elaborate on risky my dear....

potentially married men, diseased men, con artists, yadda yadda yadda

[InOne]

potentially married men, diseased men, con artists, yadda yadda yadda

Women could be just the same to be fair.

[GypsyGoth]

I think I'd be too scared to try it.

[Niamh.]

Women could be just the same to be fair.

of course they could I don't think she was saying it was only men were like that

[MarkWaldorf]

I think it depends on the situation.

[rapunza1977]

No of course! Thanks Niamxho.
Women can be just as bad - I am just talking about from a woman's perspective. That is my thoughts, however I am sure you guys have your own reservations.

[InOne]

Indeed, women are crazy. lol

[rapunza1977]

Indeed! :)

[Z]

I think being in a relationship with someone you know over the Internet's a bit ridiculous; but I think the benefits of meeting people over the Internet are pretty obvious; "the one" isn't necessarily going to live next door; those who were saying "you need to have something in common"; what if you met someone who was into the same things as you are over a forum that specialised in said activity? I think using the Internet as a way to get to know someone before dating is more than acceptable, but as Niamh said, you don't really know a person until you live with them.

[Shasown]

Indeed, women are crazy. lol

Of course they are, a womans menstrual cycle will as she matures, coincide with the moon, irrational behaviour based on the phases of the moon was the reason behind the word Lunacy, nowadays we call it Mad Cow's Disease.

[WOMBAI]

Of course they are, a womans menstrual cycle will as she matures, coincide with the moon, irrational behaviour based on the phases of the moon was the reason behind the word Lunacy, nowadays we call it Mad Cow's Disease.

Back in the days when old wives tales passed as fact! :hugesmile:

[Shasown]

Back in the days when old wives tales passed as fact! :hugesmile:

Hey there is a couple of genuine facts in there! pmsl

[rapunza1977]

i am a crazy woman on PMT - madness ensues and my boyfriend can actually tell from one phone conversation or the tone of an email

poor sod!

[Raph]

i find it a little bit creepy tbh :$

[AndyJK]

Been a few dates with people I have met on dating sites, including Match, Dating Direct and Plentyoffish. The reason I used them is because I moved to Wales from England. Besides Im really terrible at coming out with corny chat up lines in clubs.

Only registered with Plentyoffish now.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Been a few dates with people I have met on dating sites, including Match, Dating Direct and Plentyoffish. The reason I used them is because I moved to Wales from England. Besides Im really terrible at coming out with corny chat up lines in clubs.

Only registered with Plentyoffish now.

if you think that finding love involves meeting women in clubs and using "lines"

you may need more help than online dating

[AndyJK]

if you think that finding love involves meeting women in clubs and using "lines"

you may need more help than online dating

Men go to clubs to chat up women for all sorts of reasons, I never said anything about going to clubs to meet women specifically to "find love". My point was I find it difficult going up to complete strangers and striking up conversations. I feel easier and more myself speaking to people online. Besides it's easier dealing with rejection.

When you move 300 miles to a new area and don't know anybody these sites are a good way of making friends, getting dates, finding love and so on.

[Niamh.]

Men go to clubs to chat up women for all sorts of reasons, I never said anything about going to clubs to meet women specifically to "find love". My point was I find it difficult going up to complete strangers and striking up conversations. I feel easier and more myself speaking to people online. Besides it's easier dealing with rejection.

When you move 300 miles to a new area and don't know anybody these sites are a good way of making friends, getting dates, finding love and so on.

That's understandable, it's not easy to chat up perfect strangers at all