just had some bad news

[Siouxsie]

A very good friend of mine was killed yesterday on his motorbike he lost control and died instantly crashing into a metal lampost in durham.He was a special lad who was single didnt drink or smoke and lived for his bike i feel totally numb

[Dan_]

Sorry to hear that Scooby.

[Di2001]

Oh Scooby, how awful. Sorry to hear such sad news............

[BigSister]

sorry to hear that bad news Scooby

[Siouxsie]

i just had to share this with someone cos im devistated havent been on much as i was feeling pretty low but i needed to speak to someone i feel absoulutely gutted

[Siouxsie]

he was 43

[Siouxsie]

i really dont know if i can cope with this

:bawling:

[Dan_]

It will be hard Scooby but he won't want you to be sad all the time. I have had 2 mates who died and the first few weeks were hard but you get used to it.

[Siouxsie]

aww thanks mate

[Kaz]

So sorry to hear your sad news, scooby.

Life's just not fair sometimes.

If it helps to talk ..... we're here to listen, hun. http://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/liebe/a042.gif

[Dan_]

No worries, I know what you're going through. Such a shame when someone young dies.

[Siouxsie]

ive been feeling prety low myself lately :bawling:so havent been her much but this just about makes me feel life is not fair :bawling::bawling:

[Dan_]

No it does not seem fair that nice young people die. We are all here to listen Scooby.

[Z]

I'm really sorry to hear that! A friend of a friend died a few months ago, and although I didn't really know him, I'd met him a couple of times... He was 16...

[Siouxsie]

id known him for 10 years

[Siouxsie]

i feel numb

[sol]

aww dont worry scooby my half brother died when i was 7 i only saw him once cause of family disagreements. I know what you are going through scooby
it will get better after you have grieved scoobs - good luck xx

[Corkie]

im so so so sorry too hear this scobbs were all here to talk too

[Sunny_01]

So sorry to hear the tragic news about your friend Scooby - you will feel numb right now but give yourself a little time to let it kind of feel real to you then you will be able to start coping with the future.

:dog:

[bbslilspy]

sorry to hear that mate

[jrc]

So sorry to hear that, Scoobs. :bawling:

[Fangz]

Oh Scoobs, that's awful! I'm so sorry!

[~Kizwiz~]

Oh scoob... I am so sorry for your loss! Please remember that if you ever need to talk you know my addy. You will feel numb for a while and this loss will be great but remember you have a strong family around you xxxx

*big hug for sccob*

[Nicola]

*hugs* Sorry to hear that Scoobs!

[guttridge]

sorry to hear that ever want to talk just u2u me or go on msn sorry

[Ruth]

Scoobs, I am so sorry to hear that. Something very similar happened to a friend of mine last month, and it is awful.

Thinking of you.

[Siouxsie]

thanks to all of you the phone has never stopped all day i am worn out but need to be here to try take my mind off things a bit. Nice to hear from you gutteridge

[guttridge]

yeh where have you been all this time i got a warning boo hoo but it will go soon!

[Romantic Old Bird]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend scooby.

The sad thing about life is that as the years go by, we all lose people we care about, and life really isn't fair.

Despite your numbness now, you will, in a while, start to remember him and smile about some of the good times you had together. I'm sure that'd what he would want.

Perhaps the cruellest thing of all is that life DOES go on. We learn that none of us are immortal, and that no matter how much we hurt, the world keeps turning.

The other more important thing he would want you to do is make the most of being alive. Savour every day, appreciate the beauty around you, the autumn leaves as they fall from the trees, the sunshine in the mornings, the taste and smell of fresh bread.

It's a cruel world, but it's a wonderful world too.

I'll be thinking about you, and, as everyone else has said, we are here. xxxx

[guttridge]

Everything is for a reason and it is fate i think

[Siouxsie]

aww thats very nice i am glad i came back here to share my loss with you all

[guttridge]

where did you go you have not been on here for days

[Dan_]

It's good to get things off your chest Scooby. My dad has lost a few mates to motorbike accidents.

[Siouxsie]

havent been on here for a bit cos i just got the feeling i was getting in to one or two arguments which i hate. Hopefully i will be back to myself soon.

[~Kizwiz~]

http://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/liebe/a042.gif for scooby

[Siouxsie]

thanks kizwiz

[guttridge]

good luck scooby :love:

[lily.]

Originally posted by Romantic Old Bird
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend scooby.

The sad thing about life is that as the years go by, we all lose people we care about, and life really isn't fair.

Despite your numbness now, you will, in a while, start to remember him and smile about some of the good times you had together. I'm sure that'd what he would want.

Perhaps the cruellest thing of all is that life DOES go on. We learn that none of us are immortal, and that no matter how much we hurt, the world keeps turning.

The other more important thing he would want you to do is make the most of being alive. Savour every day, appreciate the beauty around you, the autumn leaves as they fall from the trees, the sunshine in the mornings, the taste and smell of fresh bread.

It's a cruel world, but it's a wonderful world too.

I'll be thinking about you, and, as everyone else has said, we are here. xxxx

That was very well put. It's hard to know what's the right thing to say when someone experiences a tragic loss. I think R.O.B pretty much summed it up though. Our thoughts are with you Sue. I guess that's all we can do from here. x

[Siouxsie]

thanks mate:thumbs:

[Siouxsie]

stropz that was so nice well im pretty exausted tonight hopefully i will feel better soon and once again thank you all for all your kind words at this sad time. Ill be back hugs and kisses to everyone xxxxxx

[Siouxsie]

take care everyone life is short

[lily.]

Take care girl.. get some rest.

[Sticks]

This has been reported on the BBC Website here (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/wear/4279954.stm)

Learning of someones death is always a shock especially if it is sudden and unexpected. This year I lost two people I knew.

One was a guy who used to go to the same newsagent and lady that used to be my next door neighbour. Last week, also a family pet died after a number of years.

Lastweek a co-workers father died, and to complicate matters, he died whilst abroad.

Our thoughts go with you.

Any word on any memorial service?

[Ruth]

How are you feeling today Scoobs?

I remember when my friend died - he was knocked off his bike (not a motorbike), and I just felt so unbelievably sad and shocked. He was only 34. Then less than three weeks later, my boyfriend's dad died. A terrible time.

Although it still hurts, I can at least look back at the good times and smile, as ROB said. But remember, if you need a good cry, just let it all out - I still do, and it does help.

Hope you're okay.

[Fangz]

Wish there was something I could do to help, scoobs.

[Legend]

Don't think u know me but im soooo sorry to hear that.

I can't even say i know what ur going thru but i really am sorry !

[Siouxsie]

aww thanks again i have spoken to you before legend i am still in shock but i am trying to get through the best i can

[Corkie]

very nicely put rob

i dont know what your going through but i hope your back to yourself soon my thoguhts are with you

[Siouxsie]

ta mate :love:

[Legend]

Oh yeah i must of spoken 2 ya lol. Anyway hope ur alrite :thumbs:

[Princess]

Scoobs,sorry im saying this a bit late but im so sorry. I got goosepimples just reading that.I know youre going through a really hard time right now,dont forget we are all here for you.

[Sticks]

I am goiing to sound harsh here

But when these things happen, like ROB said, you have to carry on.

Much as it seems like it, time does not stand still, life goes on.

I try and maintain an air of detachment and throw myself into the day to day grind of living. That is how I try and cope with these things.

The only problem is, it makes you appear heartless and indifferent.

I just remember the slogan of the Royal British Legion, whose appeal I support every year, "Remember the dead, but don't forget the living"

[guttridge]

Yes that what i think too. Try to remmber his good bits.

[Siouxsie]

well i have remembered some of his silly pranks and had a bit of a smile today god bless him