Why do women get offended when I call them dear?

[InOne]

Why?

[Beastie]

Sounds patronising? But I don't mind being called "dear" if it is in a nice way with good intentions...

[NettoSuperstar!]

I dont I just think you sound like a prat :)

[setanta]

I dont I just think you sound like a prat :)

Lol. I never use dear in a convo. Sometimes darling though.

[bansheewails]

i say Dear a fair bit, but no one gets offended. Maybe its because I am a woman though. And it could be the way you say it. :D

[Kerry]

Like with anything, depends how it's put across

[InOne]

I dont I just think you sound like a prat :)

Shush dear :)

[WOMBAI]

Why?

Would you say it to a bloke?

[GiRTh]

Why do you call them dear? Its a bit too familiar. IMO

[Captain.Remy]

Where's WOMBAI when you need her...

edit: oh wait she already posted, I thought she didn't because I didn't recognize her avatar...

LET THE SHOWDOWN BEGIN !

[InOne]

Would you say it to a bloke?

No because you're meant to say it to women!

[WOMBAI]

No because you're meant to say it to women!

Like many other things - it is the context in which it is said! Men and women call each other dear all the time as a term of endearment! But when a man says it to a woman he hardly knows - it is often meant in a patronising way - hence why most women don't like it! Men who use it that way though - aren't worth listening to!

[Chels]

Here we gooo...

[NettoSuperstar!]

Lol. I never use dear in a convo. Sometimes darling though.

Aye its all about context...but who says dear these days? sounds like Alf Garnett...my dear

[Captain.Remy]

They also don't like when you call them "birds" or "walking shag" or "dick eater"

[WOMBAI]

Where's WOMBAI when you need her...

edit: oh wait she already posted, I thought she didn't because I didn't recognize her avatar...

LET THE SHOWDOWN BEGIN !

Michael Ball - the best avatar in town! :hugesmile:

[Stephanie]

i don't mind being called dear rofl.

[InOne]

Like many other things - it is the context in which it is said! Men and women call each other dear all the time as a term of endearment! But when a man says it to a woman he hardly knows - it is often meant in a patronising way - hence why most women don't like it! Men who use it that way though - aren't worth listening to!

I use it in a chamring way ;)

[Vicky.]

Its patronising and it sounds like an animal.

Hinny is worse than dear though :D

[Kerry]

Calm down dear, it's just a commercial


Christ, pissed myself off now....

[30stone]

the best is "love" by a long way



"You alrite luv?"

They love it!

[bansheewails]

Maybe the people Inone is offending are Post-Feminist Feminists?

[spitfire]

Why?
Because they are 'cheap'.:joker:

[Kerry]

Because they are 'cheap'.:joker:

Dear oh dear

[30stone]

Trust me call them "love" they will prefer it :)

[InOne]

They love it really. All the dears out there :tongue:

[Shaun]

I call anyone dear, regardless of gender. But it's usually meant in a condescending tone, so, y'know...

[Vicky.]

Trust me call them "love" they will prefer it :)

Love is better.

Or sweetheart...I like that for some reason.


Hinny, duck, dear, lass, lover (?! got called it at work yesterday) I hate...

[bansheewails]

But men don't like being called numb nuts, they don't like that term of endearment at all! :nono:

[WOMBAI]

Trust me call them "love" they will prefer it :)

No they won't! :hugesmile:

[30stone]

No they won't! :hugesmile:

Yep :)

I come home and say alrite love to my mum she HATES it.

Seems only builders say it often.

[Lee.]

Doesn't offend me in the slightest Joe dear! :)

Are people really offended by being called dear??

[Vicky.]

Doesn't offend me in the slightest Joe dear! :)

Are people really offended by this??

Nah, it doesnt offend me...I just dont really like it :)

[WOMBAI]

Yep :)

I come home and say alrite love to my mum she HATES it.

Seems only builders say it often.

The ones with their trousers half-way down their backsides - the experts on good taste! :joker:

[30stone]

The ones with their trousers half-way down their backsides - the experts on good taste! :joker:

Yep for sure..


how are ya love?

[Lee.]

Nah, it doesnt offend me...I just dont really like it :)

I know you work in a bar the same as me.. I've just been thinking about all the "pet names" I get called and can't really think of one I don't like. I never used to like "doll" but I have a female friend who calls me doll all the time so I kinda like it now..
Actually, I'm not to keen on "pal" It's always the younger ones that call me pal and it makes me feel kind of asexual..lol, if you know what I mean. Maybe a bit mannish!!

[NettoSuperstar!]

I like love I say it all the time to men and women

[Vicky.]

I know you work in a bar the same as me.. I've just been thinking about all the "pet names" I get called and can't really think of one I don't like. I never used to like "doll" but I have a female friend who calls me doll all the time so I kinda like it now..
Actually, I'm not to keen on "pal" It's always the younger ones that call me pal and it makes me feel kind of asexual..lol, if you know what I mean. Maybe a bit mannish!!

As I said, I got 'lover' yesterday...I didnt like that

Hinny...pet...anything like that

Never had pal...

But the worst of all... OI! :laugh:

[Lee.]

As I said, I got 'lover' yesterday...I didnt like that

Hinny...pet...anything like that

Never had pal...

But the worst of all... OI! :laugh:

Nah.. lover isn't good :nono:
Oh christ! I know what I hate! "haw blondie"

[Vicky.]

Nah.. lover isn't good :nono:
Oh christ! I know what I hate! "haw blondie"

Tits...also...is annoying as hell.

God, you get called all sorts when you work in a bar :laugh2:

[NettoSuperstar!]

Nah.. lover isn't good :nono:
Oh christ! I know what I hate! "haw blondie"

lover is ok if its said in a Bristol accent..."alrite my lovverr"

[GiRTh]

When I had that job that took me all over the country I used to love going North West. Women used to call me pet, love, bonny lad - I loved it.

[Lee.]

Tits...also...is annoying as hell.

God, you get called all sorts when you work in a bar :laugh2:
Tits?? Somebody has called you tits!! Oh I wouldn't like that!

[InOne]

I call them broads sometimes too. Although that is a bit yankish lol

[Vicky.]

Tits?? Somebody has called you tits!! Oh I wouldn't like that!
Yes...luckily I was a little tipsy at the time...and found it quite funny...
I call them broads sometimes too. Although that is a bit yankish lol

Broads :bored:

Horrible :(

[WOMBAI]

Yes...luckily I was a little tipsy at the time...and found it quite funny...


Broads :bored:

Horrible :(

Broads is cheap - unpleasant little word!

[King Gizzard]

I don't like calling girls darling

Maybe its just a northern thing

[Shasown]

Try changing it to 'my dear' it isnt anywhere near as patronising.

Or you could use 'sugartits'.

[InOne]

Yes...luckily I was a little tipsy at the time...and found it quite funny...


Broads :bored:

Horrible :(

Was kidding :tongue:

[InOne]

Them amount of times I've heard "Don't dear me" lol

[Enid]

I love "broad" and "doll".

When I am called dear it makes me feel very very old.

[Angus]

Why?

Because women take exception to being patronised by sad, neanderthal misogynistic a*seholes trying to compensate for their miniscule penises?

[InOne]

Because women take exception to being patronised by sad, neanderthal misogynistic a*seholes trying to compensate for their miniscule penises?

You are a very angry woman. Have you been bitten in the past?

[Sophii3x]

I find being called dear a bit patronising. It's a bit old-fashioned too :P
Personally prefer love/doll/babe ect..

[InOne]

This was a half joke thread btw, I'd only call somone dear who knew my humour. I don't go around calling everyone it :joker:

[Angus]

You are a very angry woman. Have you been bitten in the past?

Oh no, I did all the biting:hugesmile:

[InOne]

Oh no, I did all the biting:hugesmile:

I bet lol

[Ninastar]

Mate is the worst. "You okay mate", Erm NO I'm not actually, I am NOT your mate. go away fool.

[Stacey.]

They probably think you're a man-*****.