What do you fear the most? [Archive] - ThisisBigBrother.com

GypsyGoth

13-07-2010, 01:33 AM

I have a fear of getting a stroke, it's probably silly to worry about, it'll happen to me or not, but I just dread the thought of them. The idea of losing part of my mind, and being aware of what I lost, it's horrible. And I wouldn't say I stress out about them, however it does worry me. It's probably my biggest fear, but closely followed by being kidnapped, I think that's more understandable.

Hmm... and the most afraid I've been in the past. There are two that come to mind. One is the rats in my bedroom wall that woke me. They were scurrying about and their nails made this creepy scraping sound, it gives me shivers thinkin about it. I still won't sleep with my head close to the wall. And then there was a zombie film I watched at a sleepover. It scared the bejesus out of me.

LemonJam

13-07-2010, 01:40 AM

Oh, forgot about the "the most" part. Fail

I guess whatever I do in life I always want to be the best and be successful. I seriously hate failure of any kind. I mean you have one life to live and the last thing I'd want to have is an uninspired lowlife job, alone because I can't find anyone to spend my life with and generally being unsuccessful in any endeavours I attempt throughout life. I mean, alot of people would say that life isn't about success it's about having a good time but I strongly disagree, because being successful for me is the best feeling you can possibly get.

Why I've always felt the need to prove myself so much I don't know, when I lose something even as simple as a video game, I'll try work out to myself where I went wrong to try make improvements.

My sisters a top art student so I guess I've always felt alot of pressure needing to beat her. Also going to a Grammar school where everybody was smarter and more athletic than me was a kick in the nads and make me think "Hey, I can be better than them." That could be where it came from, plus influences of the media contantly saying "You're not good enough" is probably never helpful.

-is having forum breakdown- ah\

GypsyGoth

13-07-2010, 01:48 AM

Are you a perfectionist LJ?

Shaun

13-07-2010, 01:53 AM

The thing that scares me the most...I think being buried alive would be the worst thing I could possibly experience. Total darkness, certain death, the isolation and the claustrophobia of it all.

As for in the past...it's hard to say. I think the most 'dread' I've ever experienced was when I walked to what I knew would be a very awkward, angry end-of-a-friendship confrontation. I decided to play "How It Ends" by DeVotchKa on my iPod as I walked to it...I guess walking there knowing that I had done wrong and that I'd ruined a friendship was the thing that's made the most dreading.

But as for fear...I guess coming out, and the emotions I was experiencing as I decided to do so, were probably the best I have to offer.

Kerry

13-07-2010, 01:54 AM

Due to my username,this is a strange reply,:joker:

An aeroplane crash,when ever i get on a plane i always think,this is the one that will crash.:shocked:

I watched a doc about the Concord crash earlier today *shudders*

Tom4784

13-07-2010, 01:59 AM

I think getting seriously ill is a worry for me, I think I could be a bit of a hyperchondriac. I think every spot could be cancer and I just freak out a little if I get an illness that's out of the ordinary for me (I've got bad tonsils so I get throat infections and Tonsilitis a lot along with colds and the flu). It's become quite a problem over the past year really.

Kerry

13-07-2010, 02:02 AM

The ultimate fear is anything happening to my family

But I also fear things like torture or something like blindness or deafness. I can never comprehend how people come to terms with those things :(

I have a lot of dreams about falling too which are pretty freaky at the time. Not sure what thats all about though

But generally my fears in life are my first point which on the whole are pretty self explanitory but as I've lost so many people is probably heightened

Princess

13-07-2010, 03:16 AM

Not being able to have children. Because it seems like it's always the ones who want to have the most can't and I really want them so that thought terrifies me. Also scared of the people I love dying or getting some horrible illness and not remembering who I am. I also never want to have some horrible illness.

In the past? I'm not too sure about that,feeling like my world was falling apart really.

Stacey.

13-07-2010, 06:44 AM

Just purely death, like how I'll die. D:

CaraRawr

13-07-2010, 07:05 AM

Eels, they're so ****ing scary. I don't really like death either.

MrGaryy

13-07-2010, 07:24 AM

My ultimate fear in life is failure. It scares me just thinking about it. I feel in many ways I've been privileged and lucky in life. Lucky to be born into a family that were at a stage where they could give me the best of everything. Lucky to be born with a talent that I so desperately want to make a career out of. Like I've had every opportunity I could need or want open to me. In terms of living situation, education, ect. I've been blessed. I was born at the right time in the right place. I grew up in a family hugely successful people, even my sister has been almost totally successful in everything she's attempted and in a not just passed but passed with flying colours sort of way.

And so because of that I feel if I were to wake up aged 30 and have failed at life I couldn't live with it. I had everything to make myself great and I still managed to flop? I could not deal with that. In many ways I feel immense pressure on myself to succeed, pressure I've ultimately brought on myself. But yeah I don't even like to think of failing at life.

As for the past. I'm not sure really. There was a period where I was scared of my sister's plans to move to Australia as I really felt I needed her. But whilst I still depend on her greatly I've matured to knowing that I love her enough to want her to always be happy and if moving to another country [which ironically doesn't seem likely anymore] is what she wants to do I could never stop her.

I'm quite fearless when it comes to more conventional fears. The prospect of death genuinely doesn't phase me at all, coming out was never something I stressed about.

Callum

13-07-2010, 07:33 AM

Probably death or needles. With death I always fear just closing my eyes one night and not waking up in the morning, that really scares me and I always think about what happens after death and I get paranoid that I will go to hell if it's real. I just hate the uncertainty of death, nobody can tell you what happens after it and that for me is information I wish was available. Needles because I used to have a huge phobia of people injecting themselves with heroin and they still scare me now, not as much but the sight of them makes me feel queasy.

13-07-2010, 11:26 AM

I'm scared of being murdered. Death in itself scares me, but the thought of someone else taking control of my destiny and ending my life before its time scares me and makes me very angry. I'm very paranoid if I'm walking somewhere alone; if I am aware of someone walking behind me I tend to take a weird route home to shake them off, even though they have no interest in me. Films like Taken affect me to a ridiculous degree; just the realistic, believable aspect of them. I have such a fear of strangers as a result of this. I can't get into the car of a friend's friend, because I don't know them. I would never do a one night stand. I don't go to parties if I don't know the host well.

In the past... probably failure. I'm not a perfectionist by any means; rather, I don't want to do things that I know (or "know") I won't be good at. I don't see why I should do things that I won't be able to do; the scope for improvement doesn't factor into my head as a reason to try something, I just don't want to start in the first place. I cringe when I think of things I've failed at that I was bullied into doing. I can't deal with doing things that I didn't want to do; so where possible I avoid such situations.

Niamh.

13-07-2010, 11:31 AM

Losing someone close to me frightens me the most. It is going to happen at some point which is the worst thing about it. One of my kids dying would be the most horrific and I'm hoping that I'll be well gone before them. I don't know if I could function if I lost one of them.

Chels

13-07-2010, 11:44 AM

As stupid as it sounds, being alone. It just worries the sh*t out of me to think that there might not be anybody out there for you, and only you. It's odd as I'm still very young and I shouldn't be worrying about anything this for a while yet as well, sure I have a lot of close friends and it makes me think if there's somebody out there for them and not for me then I'm basically screwed for life. The thought of having to live alone and fend for yourself just frightens me.

King Gizzard

13-07-2010, 11:49 AM

Growing up

Cliche but I don't want to get older, I want to be young and carefree for a while yet, but suddenly i'm expected to be grown up with a job, car etc like everyone else my age

xDramatick

13-07-2010, 11:51 AM

Mine's definitely failure.
I've chosen to take an extremely competitive career path in the Performing Arts, &I'm immediately at a disadvantage because I didn't have all the singing/acting/dance classes most people who are successful within the industry had from a young age. Not to mention several battles with confidence as I became more determined that it was the career for me.
I recently achieved a triple distinction at college (studying Performing Arts, obviously) which is the highest grade you can get, but now I feel under more pressure at uni to continue the success. I guess I'm scared of being the 'worst of the best', so to speak. I've had a lot of people doubt me - my dad, friends, my uncle, even my boyfriend, who all suggest I should just give it up and go into teaching and become a drama/dance/singing teacher. It's not really what I want & although it's my backup plan, I'm determined to be successful as it is what I want, and to prove them wrong. I don't wanna be famous or anything, just successful.

I'm also really scared of death, especially dying in a horrific way (where you just go missing & your body's never found, or a really brutal/twisted murder/torture).

Lewis.

13-07-2010, 11:52 AM

My biggest fear is pain. I have hardly any pain threshold at all and live life on the safe side. I don't know what it is but I just cannot stand pain. I know that pain is something that no-one really wants to go through but I especially do quite fear it. Another fear of mine is death. I hate the idea of not knowing what is going to happen next. I'm a huge lover of life and I hate the idea that one day I'm going to be taken away from everything I've ever known and there is nothing I can do to stop that, as hard as I try, it's going to happen. Another fear of mine is having someone I dearly love being kidnapped and tortured. Whenever my little brother is 10 minutes late coming in, all sorts of images run through my head and it's horrible. I hate thinking about people going through torture, it's just another thing to do with pain I think. the idea that there is someone out there now being tortured for information and not physically being able to escape the pain really frightens me. I am a strong emphasiser and I think that backs up that fear.

30stone

13-07-2010, 12:22 PM

Losing a family member, my girlfriend or a close friend.. couldn't handle that.

The two times when ive been most scared.. 1 was last summer one was this sunday just gone.

The first one was where two bouncers got stabbed (one in the leg one in the arm) in 2 nights.. so they all had to wear stab proof vests etc.. anyway they said they were going to come back the 3rd night with guns.. And my brother had to work that night, he was working the night the other 2 got stabbed aswell so after they said they were going to come back with guns, i felt so scared when my brother went to work.. i stayed up until 3:45am worrying that he would be okay.

And the other was sunday.. i went to west witterings beach this saturday was out in the sun for a long time.. and well my face got burnt basically. Sunday morning i woke up, and my face was yellow and blistered all the way across, i had to go doctors and at first they thought i could potentially have scarring from how bad it was, and it scared me so much i looked terrible (ive got to have a week off work) i was so scared because i take pride in my appearance.. and i could end up with scars all across my face. First time id actually felt like crying in a long time. Ive been told now that it wont scar as it wasnt deep enough luckily.

As vain as that sounds..

Natalie.

13-07-2010, 12:38 PM

Being hurt in a relationship and family members dying.. both are inevitable I guess. Also being murdered.

pinkmichk

13-07-2010, 12:55 PM

gonna sound daft but mankind in general just the way the world seems to be going with wars violence hatred terrorism and so on its gonna be our own undoing and the thought of bringing my daughter up in this world really scares me cos the future is so unsure i try to not watch the news cos its always so full of doom and gloom its just not how it was for me when i was younger this also extends to my family and friends cos if something were to happen to someone i love dearly because of one of the things i mentioned it would well and truly break me

BB_Eye

13-07-2010, 02:06 PM

Getting old... while still stuck in this shithole

Miss Ivy Balls

13-07-2010, 04:36 PM

Failing to get into the police.

Miss Ivy Balls

13-07-2010, 04:43 PM

The most scared I have been in the past is when my dad had a car accident. I thought he was going to die.

RosieRed xxx

13-07-2010, 06:15 PM

I was at a funeral yesterday so at the minute I have a big fear of losing someone close to me :(

LaLaLand

13-07-2010, 06:25 PM

Falling ill, whatever it may be even if it's a small, common cold. Being ill or feeling like I'm getting sick terrifies me.

Say if someone in my college class has been ill, I will go extremely out of my way to constantly wash my hands after touching surfaces that may have "illness germs" on them. Kind of OCD in a way I guess.

Don't even talk to me about vomit, either.

Lewis.

13-07-2010, 07:18 PM

I suppose I also have a thing about acceptance. I crave being accepted and will not be my 100% self if I think it means that people will not accept me.

sooty

13-07-2010, 08:17 PM

Similar to Shaun a bit. Claustrophobia.

Waking up in a coffin and realised I was not dead but could not get out.
Has anybody seen a film called "Double Jeopardy"?
A woman was trapped in a coffin, luckily she had a gun so she managed to break the coffin and escaped. The scene was so scary just think about it.
I must make sure I will have a bell in my coffin. ha ha

Entering an old escalator, scary moment. I always make sure there is any emergency button.

In the past the most horrified thing was;
It was too long story but I arrived in a country for a week holiday, only was told I needed visa which I did not and was asked to leave the country immediately.

Christina

14-07-2010, 02:49 AM

My loved one's dying. I watched my Nan die holding my hand and it was the most heartbreaking thing i've ever had to witness in my whole life. I never, ever want to experience the pain of anything like that ever again.. and that scares me so much because i know it will happen again to my other loved ones sooner or later. I stupidly pray and ask that no one else will die but in reality of course i know they will :(

Ramsay

14-07-2010, 02:57 AM

One of my best friends dying
i have like a small little knit of 3 best friends
if anything happened to any of them
god i dunno how id be able to cope
i would never be the same again thats for sure
id rather die myself then one of my friends

Kore

14-07-2010, 08:06 AM

Loved ones dying and Heights, even though I love flying in planes, I couldnt do a bunjee jump. I'll conquer it oneday...

setanta

14-07-2010, 08:37 AM

Fear itself. It's a right pain in the ar$e sometimes. I mean obviously biologica/reactionary fear is important, the fight or flight instincts that all creatures possess, but it can be a hugely debilitating factor for the sentient, perceptive beings that we humans are so caught up with irrational fear and anxiety. That's how wars, violence, depression etc set in.

Boothy

15-07-2010, 08:52 PM

Losing someone close to me. I know it's a cliché, but I genuinely would take a bullet for my family and close friends if push came to shove. Purely in a selfish way though, like, I wouldn't want to live if I didn't have certain people around, and losing them would be too much to take.

That and being buried alive are my only fears really. I've never been properly scared.

Braden

15-07-2010, 08:54 PM

Being Lonely or death.

\PJ/

15-07-2010, 08:59 PM

Probably one of the strengest fears ever but im affraid of taxidermy basically stuffed animals like this one:
http://www.allgametaxidermy.com/images/lion.jpg
It all started when i went on a boat ride like this when i was like 5:
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Stu

15-07-2010, 09:05 PM

I fear not having the same mind I do now when I am older. Like how people fear loosing the ability to walk, but mental rather than physical. I fear not feeling as creative or whatever as I do now. Not being in the same frame of mind, so to speak. Dementia and Alzheimer's terrify me, and if I stopped being myself I would just go down the path of Euthanasia.

Death? **** death. Death is a preferable option to many other more interesting fears.

sooty

15-07-2010, 09:52 PM

setanta

15-07-2010, 10:13 PM

My husband loved ballroom dancing.

When he was young, he used to say, if he could not dance for any reasons, he would kill himself.

Now he is on wheelchair (failed spinal operation) and shows early stage of dementia. Before his meals he cleans his hands throughly. One time I told him the hands have full of jam. It shows clearly he wants to live.

Sometimes I suddenly worry things. but I am not good at thinking too complicated matter. Think about it some other day.

It's a terrible thing to see a person you love struggling or in pain. You have my sympathies hun. Don't worry; you're there for him and he knows and loves you even more for it, that's all that matters.

sooty

15-07-2010, 10:18 PM

It's a terrible thing to see a person you love struggling or in pain. You have my sympathies hun. Don't worry; you're there for him and he knows and loves you even more for it, that's all that matters.

Oh thank you setanta.:)

BB_Eye

15-07-2010, 10:21 PM

My husband loved ballroom dancing.

When he was young, he used to say, if he could not dance for any reasons, he would kill himself.

Now he is on wheelchair (failed spinal operation) and shows early stage of dementia. Before his meals he cleans his hands throughly. One time I told him the hands have full of jam. It shows clearly he wants to live.

Sometimes I suddenly worry things. but I am not good at thinking too complicated matter. Think about it some other day.

Awfully sorry to hear that sooty. :shocked:

I think some people's will to live, whatever the circumstances is remarkable. You should be really proud of him and yourself. I find that I have learned to value life above all other things as I've matured.

setanta

15-07-2010, 10:30 PM

Oh thank you setanta.:)

You're welcome. Chin up darling. Just give him plenty of cuddles and kisses and you'll be fine. :hug:

sooty

16-07-2010, 09:07 AM

BB_Eye, setanta

I was little bit embarassed. But thank you so much.

Lee.

16-07-2010, 09:29 AM

My biggest fear is definitely losing loved ones, especially my kids. I just do not know how parents cope with that. I was at a friends funeral the other day; he was the same age as me and to see his parents grief was devastating. Obviously, I dread anything happening to my mum and other older family memebers but I realise that it is inevitable, whereas losing a childs is something I don't think any parent should have to face.. it's just a horrific thought..

My other main fear is fire... I've been involved in a few fires and since then I feel panic if I see or smell fire and even get nervous if I see firemen. I have a bedtime routine which involves unplugging everything in the house apart from the fridge/freezer and I test the smoke alarm probab;ly more often than is necessarry!

I suppose the last time I felt scared was after my mum had been in a serious car accident and the b!tch nurses at the hospital wouldn't let me see her or tell me anything about her.. I asked if she was still alive and they just said "we can't tell you anythin". It's the only time I remember feeling panic; I was frantic. (The nurses were very lucky to not have a few injuries themselves!)

Oh and when I had to go to hospital to have my wisdom teeth removed.. I felt fear that day! :)

setanta

16-07-2010, 04:01 PM

BB_Eye, setanta

I was little bit embarassed. But thank you so much.

Don't be silly. You don't have to be embarrassed about it at all. It was lovely and touching to hear you being so candid about your situation. Makes a change to the usual stuff you get online.

supernoodles!

18-07-2010, 11:46 PM

It sounds stupid although its probably quite common but moths.I think it stems from when I was about 5-6 and I was on a day trip to flamingo land with my mam and her friend and her daughter.There was a huge moth at the back of the coach and my mam was going mad trying to get it out lol.Ever since then I`ve been petrified of moths,I don`t even get scared by other insects,give me a spider anyday but moths,yuck.
When I was little,before I`d even been on a flight I had a really bad phobia of flying.I diddn`t go on a plane until I was 18 and by then I was absolutly fine and now I love flying however when I was little I was really terrified by the thought of ever getting on a plane.
I was scared of everything as a child tbh,I was fascinated by the after life,religion,superstition and myths/legends.I would read books about them and I loved it but it terrified me at the same time.

Peppa.

21-07-2010, 04:12 PM

getting seriously ill with like cancer of something scares me.. also dying.

Lee.

21-07-2010, 04:14 PM

:wavey: Hello Peppa. I see you're new here. You keep popping up in all these threads that I have already posted in :)

Ninastar

21-07-2010, 04:16 PM

I have loads of fears but I think my biggest fear is the sea. I dont mind it when the water is clear but its when its really blue or black that I get the most freaked out. Sometimes I even have to change the Channel if its about the ocean. Eugh I just dont like it at all.

Novo

23-07-2010, 04:57 AM