Your view on bullying?

[Benjamin]

Why do people bully others? Have you been bullied? How do you feel about it?


I myself have been bullied before because I used to be very overweight. It was one of the worst experiences of my life, constantly having abuse hurled at me everyday for 3 years until finally they got to me and I gained an eating disorder until I was 23. I will never forgive the bullies, but now look at them with pity, not anger, as they seem to be the people now that are wasters and do nothing with their lives (Which also pleases me)

[Jordan.]

I dont like bullying and i dont like Mods insinuating me and Stacey are bullying another member because of a fall out.

[Tom]

Its sad but if you're going to be walked allover then you wont get anywhere in life. People need strength of character, and if someone calls you or hits you then do it back but harder

Maybe I just have a tunnel view though because I've never been bullied

[Niamh.]

I dont like bullying and i dont like Mods insinuating me and Stacey are bullying another member because of a fall out.

? Guilty conscience there?

[Niamh.]

Its sad but if you're going to be walked allover then you wont get anywhere in life. People need strength of character, and if someone calls you or hits you then do it back but harder

Maybe I just have a tunnel view though because I've never been bullied

very easy to say that if you've never been in the situation

[Stacey.]

Its sad but if you're going to be walked allover then you wont get anywhere in life. People need strength of character, and if someone calls you or hits you then do it back but harder

Maybe I just have a tunnel view though because I've never been bullied

Actually this..

[Stacey.]

I dont like bullying and i dont like Mods insinuating me and Stacey are bullying another member because of a fall out.

Exactly :bored:

[Benjamin]

Its sad but if you're going to be walked allover then you wont get anywhere in life. People need strength of character, and if someone calls you or hits you then do it back but harder

Maybe I just have a tunnel view though because I've never been bullied

What about if over a course of years a person is tormented and given abuse by a large group of people they cannot get away from?

[Jordan.]

? Guilty conscience there?

Not at all.

[Patrick]

I stopped being bullied.

Now it's started again, mostly the whole 'You're gay, we're going to ******ing stab you after school you homo' and then in the next breath calling me a pervert for fancying a girl :rolleyes:

It's like,

Make up your mind you stupid ******ing chavs.

And then on the bus today I was coming home and a group of people from my school started throwing like stuff at me, Chips, Chocolate Bars, A Bottle Of Lucozade etc


My other friend was there, it was so hard to keep a straight face I literally wanted to cry.

And then I come home to my mum and that arguing with me about how my attitude is bad, well it's like 'Wtf do you know! You don't live in my life you don't know what goes on when I leave this house so st.fu!'

Earlier in Technology too, my mate.. one of my best mates actually, who I always look out for and actually recommended counselling to because I was worried about him,

He actually told a few 'hard lads' in the class that I was bullying him!

So then these guys started shoving me and threatening me when I didn't say two words to my 'friend'.

******ing horrible, the worst part is the teachers SEE it going on with their very eyes and do ****** all about it.


It's like last year when it happened,
And I was basically going to hang myself.

And what did they say 'You should of told us Patrick'.

So I tell them and now it's just 'Okay well sort it'.

And ****** all is done.

[Tom]

What about if over a course of years a person is tormented and given abuse by a large group of people they cannot get away from?

Nip it in the bud, ie when it first starts with one person, and it wont escalate

[Ninastar]

I stopped being bullied.

Now it's started again, mostly the whole 'You're gay, we're going to ******ing stab you after school you homo' and then in the next breath calling me a pervert for fancying a girl :rolleyes:

It's like,

Make up your mind you stupid ******ing chavs.

And then on the bus today I was coming home and a group of people from my school started throwing like stuff at me, Chips, Chocolate Bars, A Bottle Of Lucozade etc


My other friend was there, it was so hard to keep a straight face I literally wanted to cry.

And then I come home to my mum and that arguing with me about how my attitude is bad, well it's like 'Wtf do you know! You don't live in my life you don't know what goes on when I leave this house so st.fu!'

Earlier in Technology too, my mate.. one of my best mates actually, who I always look out for and actually recommended counselling to because I was worried about him,

He actually told a few 'hard lads' in the class that I was bullying him!

So then these guys started shoving me and threatening me when I didn't say two words to my 'friend'.

******ing horrible, the worst part is the teachers SEE it going on with their very eyes and do ****** all about it.


It's like last year when it happened,
And I was basically going to hang myself.

And what did they say 'You should of told us Patrick'.

So I tell them and now it's just 'Okay well sort it'.

And ****** all is done.

Patrick this has actually made me feel really upset :(

If you ever want to talk about it I'm here :) x

[Benjamin]

Nip it in the bud, ie when it first starts with one person, and it wont escalate

Unfortunately in the world we live in, nipping it in the bud doesn't stop it. Take instances on here for example, it still goes on even though it tries to be nipped in the bud.

I find bullies total cowards, that feel the need to make others feel bad to make themselves feel better because obviously they have a lot of insecurities.

It's a shame they don't realise how hurtful they can actually be, people have killed themselves for being bullied. :sad:

[Niamh.]

Nip it in the bud, ie when it first starts with one person, and it wont escalate

so do you think that people who don't or can't do that are fair game then?

[Patrick]

Patrick this has actually made me feel really upset :(

If you ever want to talk about it I'm here :) x

Thank You :)

[Tom]

so do you think that people who don't or can't do that are fair game then?

Its sad and I've got sympathy for them but its survival of the fittest

9 times out of 10 if you stand up to a bully they'll stop. Its when it moves away from being 1 on 1 that problems start

[Benjamin]

Its sad and I've got sympathy for them but its survival of the fittest

9 times out of 10 if you stand up to a bully they'll stop. Its when it moves away from being 1 on 1 that problems start


9 time out of 10 if you stand up to a bully they will then gather a group.

[BB_Eye]

Been bullied my whole life. Adult bullies are not such a rare species and they mostly end up the way they are thanks to feckless parents (many of them who are bullies themselves). They also thrive in the public sector, big business, politics, the press, you name it.

Bullies don't just go away when you stand up to them. They are experts at manipulating people, gaining the upper hand in a verbal argument and establishing groups of acolytes and supporters to back them up.

[Patrick]

Its sad and I've got sympathy for them but its survival of the fittest

9 times out of 10 if you stand up to a bully they'll stop. Its when it moves away from being 1 on 1 that problems start

This.

It's like everyone says that but now I've realised how true it is.

About 2 months back, This kid was bullying me since first year and I just couldn't take it anymore, especially when he was calling me gay and other gay slang words infront of my girlfriend, when he's the one that came out as gay a few days back,

So I basically punched him and we got into a fight which lead to him splitting his head open.

And since then he's been cool with me, like he hasn't opened his mouth to insult me since and he's been like just normal it's so weird how just standing up to people can change it.

But I agree when it goes from 1 on 1 to someone getting a gang to bully you too, then it's a bit out of order.

[Niamh.]

Its sad and I've got sympathy for them but its survival of the fittest

9 times out of 10 if you stand up to a bully they'll stop. Its when it moves away from being 1 on 1 that problems start

9 times out of 10? is that an actual proven statistic? what about a kid who's picked on because they're small and skinny and the tough guy picks on him, how does he stand up to the bully? And are you saying that people who are not lucky enough to be as brave and confident as you are don't deserve to be protected?

[Twilight]

I have been bullied both in real life and online, mainly because of my looks :/ but its best not to let it get you down to much. Its so sad to think people have killed themselves over it :'(

[Tom]

9 times out of 10? is that an actual proven statistic? what about a kid who's picked on because they're small and skinny and the tough guy picks on him, how does he stand up to the bully? And are you saying that people who are not lucky enough to be as brave and confident as you are don't deserve to be protected?

Just made up but judging by characteristics of a typical bully and if people have problems with how skinny they are then they know where the gym is

Sorry to sound blunt but its how it is. Its sad and sounds terrible but there are bigger problems in life. People grow out of it. its just part of growing up

[Vicky.]

I despise bullying. It is pathetic and the people who do it only do it to feel better about themselves by putting others down.

Luckily I have never had a problem with bullies, mostly because whenever the 'bully gang' started with me(at school)...I kicked the hell out of them before anything even started properly. There was only 3 of them, they went round thinking they were great, turned out they had big mouths but nothing to back it up. Probably not the best way to go about it, I'm not a violent person now...unless I have to be, but it sure as hell made my school years a lot easier.

I have also been lucky enough not to come across any adult bullies either...

[Tom]

I despise bullying. It is pathetic and the people who do it only do it to feel better about themselves by putting others down.

Luckily I have never had a problem with bullies, mostly because whenever the 'bully gang' started with me(at school)...I kicked the hell out of them before anything even started properly. There was only 3 of them, they went round thinking they were great, turned out they had big mouths but nothing to back it up. Probably not the best way to go about it, I'm not a violent person now...unless I have to be, but it sure as hell made my school years a lot easier.

I have also been lucky enough not to come across any adult bullies either...

Exactly my point.

[Shaun]

I don't think I've ever been bullied. I've picked up on a few people making snide comments about my weight or whatever, but that's irrelevant to me. People continually pointing out physical flaws in others are never going to be happy with themselves; it's water off a duck's back to me.

[GypsyGoth]

I've been bullied and I bullied someone.

[Z]

I find it a bit of a ridiculous assumption that bullies are bullying someone because they're insecure - if anything bullying behaviour happens because people want to gain the approval of someone else. A variety of examples: guys being confrontational towards guys they see as threats to the relationship they're trying to build with a woman they want to impress; an inherent intolerance for a specific aspect of a person's personality - whether it be an aspect of their appearance, gender, sexual preference, race, religion et cetera; one work colleague demeaning another because they're trying to look like a better employee in the eyes of a manager...

I could go on inventing hypothetical (but very real) examples.

I think, unfortunately, bullying is something that most of us have to go through. The severity of bullying is subject to the bully, the victim and the observer's perspective as well - a bully might beat a victim to a pulp and justify it in their mind because they "deserved it"; on the other hand a bully might say something derogatory about a victim's appearance in a passing remark and not think any more of it - but the victim is absolutely in pieces over the comment and sees it as bullying.

I was bullied to an extent during my early school years for my appearance (glasses, fat) but, luckily for me, it was only the occasional comment which I managed to rise above by not taking them seriously, playing along to some extent and generally making it impossible for them to find a flaw in my response to pick away at. The worst that happened to me was somebody hid my P.E. bag once, found it a few days later after searching the school with my year head. I got accused of bullying a girl in my year who was, to put it politely, extremely sensitive and craved attention - she accused a lot of people of bullying her and eventually stopped getting taken seriously because of her constant complaining.

I don't think there's any easy way to overcome bullying. People will be cruel if they want to be cruel. A lot of people are mean in their early teens but grow out of it and tend to feel bad for what they did in their younger years, but some people never grow out of that mentality and will always be bullies...

[Niamh.]

Just made up but judging by characteristics of a typical bully and if people have problems with how skinny they are then they know where the gym is

Sorry to sound blunt but its how it is. Its sad and sounds terrible but there are bigger problems in life. People grow out of it. its just part of growing up

I do understand what you're saying but you have to understand that everyone doesn't think like you do or have the same self belief and self confidence as you have

[BB_Eye]

Just made up but judging by characteristics of a typical bully and if people have problems with how skinny they are then they know where the gym is

Sorry to sound blunt but its how it is. Its sad and sounds terrible but there are bigger problems in life. People grow out of it. its just part of growing up
Totally meaningless cliches. This is why people need to be educated on bullying. Bullying happens, because a target of bullying cannot defend themselves and there are people who don't know any better that leap to the defense of a bully. Classic victim blaming.

[Shaun]

I find it a bit of a ridiculous assumption that bullies are bullying someone because they're insecure - if anything bullying behaviour happens because people want to gain the approval of someone else. A variety of examples: guys being confrontational towards guys they see as threats to the relationship they're trying to build with a woman they want to impress; an inherent intolerance for a specific aspect of a person's personality - whether it be an aspect of their appearance, gender, sexual preference, race, religion et cetera; one work colleague demeaning another because they're trying to look like a better employee in the eyes of a manager...

I could go on inventing hypothetical (but very real) examples.

I think, unfortunately, bullying is something that most of us have to go through. The severity of bullying is subject to the bully, the victim and the observer's perspective as well - a bully might beat a victim to a pulp and justify it in their mind because they "deserved it"; on the other hand a bully might say something derogatory about a victim's appearance in a passing remark and not think any more of it - but the victim is absolutely in pieces over the comment and sees it as bullying.

I was bullied to an extent during my early school years for my appearance (glasses, fat) but, luckily for me, it was only the occasional comment which I managed to rise above by not taking them seriously, playing along to some extent and generally making it impossible for them to find a flaw in my response to pick away at. The worst that happened to me was somebody hid my P.E. bag once, found it a few days later after searching the school with my year head. I got accused of bullying a girl in my year who was, to put it politely, extremely sensitive and craved attention - she accused a lot of people of bullying her and eventually stopped getting taken seriously because of her constant complaining.

I don't think there's any easy way to overcome bullying. People will be cruel if they want to be cruel. A lot of people are mean in their early teens but grow out of it and tend to feel bad for what they did in their younger years, but some people never grow out of that mentality and will always be bullies...

All of the things I've bolded ARE examples of insecurity :conf2:

[Benjamin]

All of the things I've bolded ARE examples of insecurity :conf2:

You saved me a job.

[Tom]

Totally meaningless cliches. This is why people need to be educated on bullying. Bullying happens, because a target of bullying cannot defend themselves and there are people who don't know any better that leap to the defense of a bully. Classic victim blaming.

Bullying starts small with a few digs and if there is no retaliation then it will escalate and escalate until it becomes more serious and more people get involved. Its mainly psychological, not physical.

[Niamh.]

Bullying starts small with a few digs and if there is no retaliation then it will escalate and escalate until it becomes more serious and more people get involved. Its mainly psychological, not physical.

Not always, alot of times its groups of people who pick out a weak person so straight away you're up against a gang

[Mystic Mock]

ive been bullied at least 3 times and 2 of them tried to kill me and the other one i punched him in the face,anyway bullies are sad and pathetic.

[Angus]

I have to say that I was never bullied because I would thump anyone who thumped me, which goes to prove the point that the only way to fight fire is with fire. I never went looking for trouble, but I always stood my ground, even if I was terrified inside:laugh:

I told my sons,both of whom were bullied in primary school for a short while, that if a bully hit them, hit them back twice as hard (preferably out of sight of any meddling teacher who might get hold of the wrong end of the stick) - not conventional, politically correct advice, but extremely effective in that the bullying ceased instantly. In other words, don't take any sh*t from anyone. I should add that this advice was given to them by me after the school failed to do anything to stop it - in fact telling my sons to stay away from their bullies, rather than compelling the bullies to stay away from my sons!

[BB_Eye]

Bullying starts small with a few digs and if there is no retaliation then it will escalate and escalate until it becomes more serious and more people get involved. Its mainly psychological, not physical.
You're right, but psychological bullying runs on the same principles. By this, I mean most adult bullies. Isolate, weaken and subjugate your target. Some folk can give as good as they get and fairplay to them, but bullies are not interested in these sorts of people.

[Patrick]

I've been bullied and I bullied someone.

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Woah.

[Ninastar]

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Woah.
she bullies me all the time :( she pokes me, it hurts and when I ask her to stop she says no :(

[Livia]

Bullying starts small with a few digs and if there is no retaliation then it will escalate and escalate until it becomes more serious and more people get involved. Its mainly psychological, not physical.

I read in your first post that you've never been bullied. And yet you sum up the solution so simply. If it was so black and white it wouldn't be the enormous problem that is is now. Bullying goes much deeper than you know, although you are right about it being psychological, which can be a lot more terrifying than getting thumped. If you retaliate the bully tries harder, and if you retaliate well and humiliate them in some way, it goes off the scale. I was bullied at school, which I admit was a while ago now LOL... but I have never forgotten the sense of hopelessness, powerless and total isolation. I am very different now, personally and professionally. I would never let anyone screw with me now, but at 13... it was like a waking nightmare.

[GypsyGoth]

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Woah.

:laugh:

It was about three years ago, and although I did it to please someone else, looking back I really should have known better.

she bullies me all the time :( she pokes me, it hurts and when I ask her to stop she says no :(

:nono: It's for your own good.

[Princess]

Bullies would probably be one of the things I hate most in life. I was bullied in both primary and secondary,for being little and for being weird or different or whatever else. I was an easy target really. They're assholes really,they just take their issues out on someone who doesn't deserve it.

[Ninastar]

:laugh:

It was about three years ago, and although I did it to please someone else, looking back I really should have known better.



:nono: It's for your own good.

if you say so :bawling:

[MTVN]

Some of these stories are quite sad actually

I've been really lucky to never have been bullied, the worst I've had is the odd bit of name-calling and even then it's more in jest than anything. I really cant stand bullies though, and I particularly hate seeing people getting bullied.

It's quite weird how acceptable bullying is really, "mild" bullying anyway. I was probably guilty of it myself, when our friend group used to wind up another bunch of kids. I always thought of it as just a bit of fun, and it was mainly minor stuff, but it went too far sometimes, and I suddenly had a moment of realisation that I was being a bit of a bully. I stopped after that, and I'm on quite good terms with the people I used to do it to.

[Captain.Remy]

Yeah I was back in the day, I was about 10. I was fat and all but after a big diet, I went back and I got my sweet revenge. I didn't hurt them, I've enjoyed watching them failing their studies and life right in front of me yet some had the balls to ask me for help.

Payback is a bitch, you should have known I was the wrong person to **** with.
To make it clear, they threw everything at me but I threw one thing back, bleach, and they all ran like roaches because when Remy tells you to shut the **** up, you'd better shut the **** up or you're going to get ****ed. They didn't see that coming and also the fact I became much more popular than them.

At the end of the day, I don't care about them anymore, I run my thing, I'm doing good, they're not and that's it, I'm done with them. :hugesmile:

[Jack_]

I personally think it's disgusting and it baffles me as to why some people do it, enjoy doing it, or don't seem to realise the full extent of the psychological damage they're doing. When you consider that extreme, prolonged bullying can lead to a victim committing suicide - I find it odd that bullies don't take a step back and realise 'woah, we need to stop here'. It's actually quite disturbing.

I wouldn't say I've ever been properly bullied, I have had the odd 'dirty look' from the so-called 'popular kids', you know the one where they 'look down' on you - basically it's their way of making themselves feel better about themselves - cause at the end of the day they're probably the ones who go home and cry about their insecurities in front of the mirror. And that's the most pleasing thing about bullies - knowing that they're more often than not the ones with the problems and that they are too weak, ignorant and pathetic to sort themselves out so instead they have to resort to picking on the weaker in order to strengthen their self-confidence and massage their ego.

I often take a step back in situations [on this forum as well] and re-evaluate what I'm about to say, saying, or about to do/doing...because I worry whether it's crossing the line over into bullying. I would hate to be classed as a bully, or have people insinuate that I'm a bully - because that's the last thing I am. But there is a line between joking around and patronising someone [which, I'll admit - I do] and then being a bully. It's just getting the balance right. The thought of ever being the person that just tips someone 'over the edge' to a point where they do something life-threatening is a very scary thought to me.

[Miss Ivy Balls]

It is disgusting.

And to think it happens on a forum too.

Happens everywhere really. Except the people who do it on forums haven't got the balls to say it to my face. They know they can get away with it.

I was bullied, people calling me gay, fat, feminine, sausage fingers...etc etc.

You name it. People taking the piss out of my ears, my hair colour, the way I speak.

I just got isolated so had no friends at school for like 2 years. I'd just spend my break-times in the boys' toilets with the door closed hoping no one would come in. Then at lunchtimes I'd go in the ICT room.

I was more bothered about people thinking I didn't have friends, and I didn't, but I hated the looks I'd get as I walked round school on my own trying to cling on to people like I was part of their clang.

I even got bullied from a lad who was a couple of years younger than me once. I had to stop myself from being violent towards him. Rise above it. There were these two girls who were really nasty as well.

Lots of people bullied me, though, so it is hard to pin point.

It didn't stop when I left school into full time work either. I got called the green giant and all sorts of stuff.

Some people can stick up for themselves, but I'm not like that. I will just bottle it all up inside.

Patrick, that is very sad. PM me if you ever need to. You have my msn, but I'm sure you blocked me. :( :)

[_Seth]

the worst part is the teachers SEE it going on with their very eyes and do ****** all about it.
OMG that is so true. Teachers should specifically look out for it. :mad: I used to hate it when the teacher would leave the room and mayhem would start.

Bullies are ****ing idiots, it's all about being insecure and fun going too far.

I've never been bullied badly. When I have, it's been by girls, and for someone if someone was born with tits and a fadge, you can't hit them. :confused: But that bullsh!t sexism didn't stop me once.

[Miss Ivy Balls]

I personally think it's disgusting and it baffles me as to why some people do it, enjoy doing it, or don't seem to realise the full extent of the psychological damage they're doin

They don't realise at all.

I think it is why I'm the way I am today because of all the bullying.

I can't walk down the street without thinking someone is probably judging badly on my ginger hair or fatness. Going to the extreme, even my freckles. And If I wasn't made to feel like the way I do today by past bullying then I don't think I'd be as bad.

[Mystic Mock]

OMG that is so true. Teachers should specifically look out for it. :mad: I used to hate it when the teacher would leave the room and mayhem would start.

Bullies are ****ing idiots, it's all about being insecure and fun going too far.

I've never been bullied badly. When I have, it's been by girls, and for someone if someone was born with tits and a fadge, you can't hit them. :confused: But that bullsh!t sexism didn't stop me once.

oh i hit 3 girls who were bullying me once ( they were in year 6 while i was in year 2) and i lost in the end because all 3 of them launched themselfs at me,but i sure did give them a fight.

[LemonJam]

I used to stand up for kids that did get bullied at school because I didn't like people being picked on over something that they are. Of course in turn this never really made me very popular :p but I'd rather be disliked for that than following the crowd.

[_Seth]

oh i hit 3 girls who were bullying me once ( they were in year 6 while i was in year 2) and i lost in the end because all 3 of them launched themselfs at me,but i sure did give them a fight.
Yeah but since there were two who were a lot older than you, the sexist pr!cks who say men shouldn't hit women would probably allow that.
They don't realise at all.

I think it is why I'm the way I am today because of all the bullying.

I can't walk down the street without thinking someone is probably judging badly on my ginger hair or fatness. Going to the extreme, even my freckles. And If I wasn't made to feel like the way I do today by past bullying then I don't think I'd be as bad.

Maybe it's because of how weird you are... I mean look at your signature. Act like a normal person. You probably skip down the street in a dress. I'm not having a go at you.

[Vicky.]

Teachers are useless at spotting/stopping bullying IMO. They always seem to be on the side of the bullies. Some girl got her collarbone broke at our school, after 2 girls jumped on her (for seemingly no reason...even if there was a reason, 2 on one is pathetic) and she bust one of their noses trying to defend herself. And the teacher actually put the girl in detention for hitting back. Pathetic.

Primary schools are no different. Me and gav are having a bit of a problem with this right now. His oldest son, is 7 and is getting picked on at school. gavin has been up numerous times about it, only to be told that everytime he gets hit, noone is looking so they cant do anything. Despite the other kids telling the teachers who it is, and other kids also getting hit off the same person. We think the teacher is scared of the kids mother. Shes a beast, and a big mouth :laugh:

I'm in a really bad situation though, because usually my way of sorting this as it has gone on too long, would be to confront the mother of the little bastard. But, I'm currently waiting on my police check coming through (which needs to be clear so I can get my personal license for a bar). And I KNOW that if I speak to her it will end in a fight, shes just one of those types. I dont care about that as I am more than capable of handling myself, and she would soon realise she has tried it with the wrong person, but IF the police get involved, theres my chance of getting a bar ****ed.

Teachers dont give a **** about the kids, they just want an easy life. Why worry if some child is getting hit...when if you step in and do something about it you might get a mouthful off some bitch?

[Vicky.]

Maybe it's because of how weird you are... I mean look at your signature. Act like a normal person. You probably skip down the street in a dress. I'm not having a go at you.
Being weird is not an excuse to pick on someone.

[_Seth]

But sometimes the teachers ACTUALLY do see the bullying right in front of their faces, but they do nothing about it.

I remember a substitute teacher was WATCHING AND SMILING at a kid getting kicked on the floor. The stupid *****ing b!tch.

[Mystic Mock]

But sometimes the teachers ACTUALLY do see the bullying right in front of their faces, but they do nothing about it.

I remember a substitute teacher was WATCHING AND SMILING at a kid getting kicked on the floor. The stupid *****ing b!tch.

a teacher spotted me getting strangled the once and they only gave him detention.:mad:

[Patrick]

Thanks Thomas.

And I didn't block you lol I just never come on anymore :)


I've never been bullied badly. When I have, it's been by girls, and for someone if someone was born with tits and a fadge, you can't hit them. :confused: But that bullsh!t sexism didn't stop me once.


I know right!

Today when the chavs were throwing sh*t at me, I realised the majority of them were girls.

And I was like 'What The ******?'
And in school, one time just before I was in quite a big fight, this girl kept getting all up in my face and I was like 'Who the ****** are you love?'

And she actually hit me, I mean why is it girls can hit lads but if we do it, you're branded a woman beater and everyone hates you :rolleyes:

I've never hit a girl, nor do I condone in but I agree, I mean it's not right they get away with walking all over boys who did nothing to them and we can't even stand up to them in a physical way because it's seemed as being horrible.

[Vicky.]

I dont believe in any of this namby pamby bull that girls can hit guys but the guy cant hit them back.

If you think you are big enough to hit a bloke, you are big enough to get a slap back. Simple as.

[Mystic Mock]

Thanks Thomas.

And I didn't block you lol I just never come on anymore :)




I know right!

Today when the chavs were throwing sh*t at me, I realised the majority of them were girls.

And I was like 'What The ******?'
And in school, one time just before I was in quite a big fight, this girl kept getting all up in my face and I was like 'Who the ****** are you love?'

And she actually hit me, I mean why is it girls can hit lads but if we do it, you're branded a woman beater and everyone hates you :rolleyes:

I've never hit a girl, nor do I condone in but I agree, I mean it's not right they get away with walking all over boys who did nothing to them and we can't even stand up to them in a physical way because it's seemed as being horrible.

i think its unfair aswell,if boys cant hit girls then girls shouldnt be able to hit boys its as simple as that.

[Patrick]

But sometimes the teachers ACTUALLY do see the bullying right in front of their faces, but they do nothing about it.

I remember a substitute teacher was WATCHING AND SMILING at a kid getting kicked on the floor. The stupid *****ing b!tch.

OH MY GOD REALLY? :shocked:

So true though.

Today, in English we had a sub that's about 50, I mean the thought that she could of been someone's nan and let this happen,

This boy was calling my mum a slut and stuff and basically hitting me in the back of the head looking for a reaction.

And I knew I was going to snap, so I put my hand up and was like 'Ms, Could You Tell Him To Be Quiet?'

And she was like tutting and just ignored me :shocked:

And then he carried on infront of the whole class, and I put my hand up again and was like 'MISS TELL HIM TO SHUT THE ****** UP NOW!' and she actually threw ME out when it was him throwing stuff about and hitting me :rolleyes:

Pathetic.

[Jords]

Disagree with Tom completely, nobody should have to face bullying and its not survival of the fittest at all!!! Were not hunting for food here y'know, bullying can really lower your self confidence depending on who you are, you might be some cocky twat but others are not and cannot handle it well.

Ive been bullied in the past, both primary + secondary school, I give what I get and have a pretty sharp tongue when needed but that does not say it doesnt affect me simply because I stuck up for myself, it makes you feels low and ****ty even if you dont show it to them.

And '9 times out of 10' its never 1:1, they always bring others in, even if they are just laughing at what theyre doing to you, not nice and plain cowardly.

[BB_Eye]

The teachers at my school were completely clueless. Most didn't give a sh*t, my art teacher even joined in with the others humiliating me in class and then sent me out the classroom for forgetting an pencil. :conf2:

Complete scumbag

[Jack_]

Teachers dont give a **** about the kids, they just want an easy life.

I agree with this - all they care about is their pay cheque at the end of the month. I find it laughable that some [or most] teachers, especially heads of years stand there and say 'we want you to do well because we care about you'. Do you ***** - you just want to impress the boss and couldn't care less what happens, so long as you get paid.

I also find it laughable that some people that work in schools essentially get paid for shouting at kids [the people who work in Behaviour Departments etc]. What sort of job is that? :joker:

[_Seth]

OH MY GOD REALLY? :shocked:

So true though.

Today, in English we had a sub that's about 50, I mean the thought that she could of been someone's nan and let this happen,

This boy was calling my mum a slut and stuff and basically hitting me in the back of the head looking for a reaction.

And I knew I was going to snap, so I put my hand up and was like 'Ms, Could You Tell Him To Be Quiet?'

And she was like tutting and just ignored me :shocked:

And then he carried on infront of the whole class, and I put my hand up again and was like 'MISS TELL HIM TO SHUT THE ****** UP NOW!' and she actually threw ME out when it was him throwing stuff about and hitting me :rolleyes:

Pathetic.

With the boy being kicked on the floor, it could have been seen as play fighting, but the stupid evil hag could have still done something.

Right a few years ago in Religious Studies, this boy kept kicking my chair from behind while the teacher was standing at the back of the class so she could see it all, and I was like "dude what's your problem", he kept doing it so I said "P!ss off" and the teacher told me off. She KNEW he was kicking my chair, but she says ****all. I just wanted to go mental and kill her. :joker:

[Jack_]

Oh, and I agree that the notion of 'guys can't hit girls' is complete bollocks. Thanfully, I've never had a proper physical fight yet [no reason to, I generally avoid physical conflict]...but if a girl were to hit me I would hit them the **** back. What's gender got to do with anything?

[Mystic Mock]

Oh, and I agree that the notion of 'guys can't hit girls' is complete bollocks. Thanfully, I've never had a proper physical fight yet [no reason to, I generally avoid physical conflict]...but if a girl were to hit me I would hit them the **** back. What's gender got to do with anything?

nothing i just think its sexism as there saying that girls cant fight back against guys.

[joeysteele]

I was never bullied,I had a close group of Friends who I was always with so guess I was fortunate,but, there was a lad who was really small compared to the other lads and for 2 years he was bullied.

He had to cough up money,had to run errands for the bullies who were,it turned out 3 lads and 2 girls of the same age.
They would walk him home if he said he had no money so he could get some,they would be great with his parents who were oblivious as we all were to him being bullied.

They took turns to meet him when school finished,one was always near him in the rooms in case he said anything.

He was often off ill, his grades fell, he got wrong off his parents for that, the teachers had no time for him, just said he was unable to concentrate.
By accident some of my Friends eventually noticed he wouldn't go out at break time,also that he always looked near to tears. Eventually some of us watched him and once these bullies got him alone they were rotten but appeared to be his friend when anyone was around.He was petrified to say anything but in the end, we did, we told teachers,his parents and made sure he wasn't alone until the bullies were dealt with.

Thankfully they were,he got sorted out and is fine now but for me, bullying is the lowest act possible by total disgusting cowards.
I don't care how old they may be or how young, they are a rotten stain on society.They never give up until they are caught doing it,anyone being bullied should confide in just one person they know they can trust,sadly they don't and for 2 years this lad suffered mental torture.

The main thing is that once the bullied person wants to tell someone, they need to choose a person who they know will not dismiss it, will act with them and for them to stop it and be there during and after the whole sorry process.

The sad thing is some people being bullied never tell anyone and just suffer or end their lives and that is awful to think of. I was annoyed with myself that all those of us around him never suspected anything for those 2 years,once some of us did, thankfully it wasn't too late.

[Patrick]

Woah :shocked:

I never realised how many people thought that, I know it's only like 4 people on this forum but still it's kind of opened my eyes.

Lmao


Guys, do you reckon I should report what happened to me today?

> The guys calling me gay, Like it's really getting to me now

> The girl hitting me a slap in TD

> People accusing me of bullying my best mate and threatening me

> Girls and a Lad from my school, throwing stuff at me on the bus.


Is it worth reporting to the Deputy Head?

[Mystic Mock]

I was never bullied,I had a close group of Friends who I was always with so guess I was fortunate,but, there was a lad who was really small compared to the other lads and for 2 years he was bullied.

He had to cough up money,had to run errands for the bullies who were,it turned out 3 lads and 2 girls of the same age.
They would walk him home if he said he had no money so he could get some,they would be great with his parents who were oblivious as we all were to him being bullied.

They took turns to meet him when school finished,one was always near him in the rooms in case he said anything.

He was often off ill, his grades fell, he got wrong off his parents for that, the teachers had no time for him, just said he was unable to concentrate.
By accident some of my Friends eventually noticed he wouldn't go out at break time,also that he always looked near to tears. Eventually some of us watched him and once these bullies got him alone they were rotten but appeared to be his friend when anyone was around.He was petrified to say anything but in the end, we did, we told teachers,his parents and made sure he wasn't alone until the bullies were dealt with.

Thankfully they were,he got sorted out and is fine now but for me, bullying is the lowest act possible by total disgusting cowards.
I don't care how old they may be or how young, they are a rotten stain on society.They never give up until they are caught doing it,anyone being bullied should confide in just one person they know they can trust,sadly they don't and for 2 years this lad suffered mental torture.

The main thing is that once the bullied person wants to tell someone, they need to choose a person who they know will not dismiss it, will act with them and for them to stop it and be there during and after the whole sorry process.

The sad thing is some people being bullied never tell anyone and just suffer or end their lives and that is awful to think of. I was annoyed with myself that all those of us around him never suspected anything for those 2 years,once some of us did, thankfully it wasn't too late.

them bastards should be ashamed of themselfs,i wouldnt be surprised if they got abused themselfs.

[joeysteele]

them bastards should be ashamed of themselfs,i wouldnt be surprised if they got abused themselfs.

They came from a really good family JF, outside of their bullying activities,you would have thought butter wouldn't melt in their mouths,that is another rotten part of the bullying the false facade and manipulation and deviousness they operate,even to being thought as great examples or great Friends to the bullied person by others.

Not just rotten to the core but from the core.

[Mystic Mock]

They came from a really good family JF, outside of their bullying activities,you would have thought butter wouldn't melt in their mouths,that is another rotten part of the bullying the false facade and manipulation and deviousness they operate,even to being thought as great examples or great Friends to the bullied person by others.

Not just rotten to the core but from the core.

well what the heck made them bully your friend then?

[Miss Ivy Balls]

Yeah but since there were two who were a lot older than you, the sexist pr!cks who say men shouldn't hit women would probably allow that.


Maybe it's because of how weird you are... I mean look at your signature. Act like a normal person. You probably skip down the street in a dress. I'm not having a go at you.

Being weird isn't an excuse to bully someone and I don't think you can define normal. We're all different.

[joeysteele]

well what the heck made them bully your friend then?

For fun they called it. For fun. He was easy prey and once it started and they got away with it, it got worse.

I don't know where they are now but they were removed from the School.

[Mystic Mock]

For fun they called it. For fun. He was easy prey and once it started and they got away with it, it got worse.

I don't know where they are now but they were removed from the School.

hopefully they got a taste of there own medicine.

[Miss Ivy Balls]

Disagree with Tom completely, nobody should have to face bullying and its not survival of the fittest at all!!! Were not hunting for food here y'know, bullying can really lower your self confidence depending on who you are, you might be some cocky twat but others are not and cannot handle it well.

Ive been bullied in the past, both primary + secondary school, I give what I get and have a pretty sharp tongue when needed but that does not say it doesnt affect me simply because I stuck up for myself, it makes you feels low and ****ty even if you dont show it to them.

And '9 times out of 10' its never 1:1, they always bring others in, even if they are just laughing at what theyre doing to you, not nice and plain cowardly.

I agree Jords.

[_Seth]

Being weird isn't an excuse to bully someone and I don't think you can define normal. We're all different.

I know it isn't an excuse, but you probably make yourself stand out loads. idk...

[Miss Ivy Balls]

I know it isn't an excuse, but you probably make yourself stand out loads. idk...

Nope because I don't go out. I go work which is half a mile down the road. I don't go anywhere else and I wear normal clothes when going out. As you'll see in many of my pictures, but...hay...yeah...w/e

[InOne]

I am going to become a Travis Bickle type hero. You have been warned...

[_Seth]

Nope because I don't go out. I go work which is half a mile down the road. I don't go anywhere else and I wear normal clothes when going out. As you'll see in many of my pictures, but...hay...yeah...w/e

Then you were being bullied for no reason. :(

[Miss Ivy Balls]

Then you were being bullied for no reason. :(

There's no reason for bullying at all, regardless.

We all probably have thoughts and sometimes may bitch and talk, but I don't think we'd go out our way to make that known if it is going to insult that person. I know I wouldn't. That is just cruel.

I was bullied for being me. Who I am. The way I talk, the way I walk, mannerisms, hair, weight etc etc. 'Who I am'.

[Tom4784]

I got bullied briefly in Year 7 but I put paid to that straight away. I'm very unassuming but wickedly manipulative & crafty when I want to be. Never take on a bully head on, just turn everyone against them and put them on the outside. By the time they tried to retaliate I had friends in a lot of places so they knew they couldn't try anything. Knowledge is power but numbers ain't bad either. That and I do quite a good impression of being unhinged :laugh:

That's my advice if you can do it, turn everyone against them. Morally grey? Yes but very effective.

Typing that has made me realise how much I've changed sicne my school years really.

[Novo]

oh i hit 3 girls who were bullying me once ( they were in year 6 while i was in year 2) and i lost in the end because all 3 of them launched themselfs at me,but i sure did give them a fight.

Can't believe that at all to be honest... Year 2 you are about 6/7? year 6 you are about 10?

[Livia]

Then you were being bullied for no reason. :(

So you believe there can be a good reason to bully someone?

Nice to know people can come to you and you can decide whether or not them being tortured was justified.

[_Seth]

So you believe there can be a good reason to bully someone?

Nice to know people can come to you and you can decide whether or not them being tortured was justified.

No there's never a reason, I was just thinking of WHY he might have been targeted.

[_Seth]

^That's not bullying, that's just getting your own back.

[30stone]

Never been bullied which is weird considering i was always pretty short until like year 9 and until i started weightlifting i wasnt exactly built.

I was quite in with the sort of popular group so it has never been a problem, had a couple of people start things over nothing but nothing happened, dig in the ribs and they soon shut up.

People can often have more respect if you stand up for yourself.

Now i dont like to see bullying, and although you can stop it for a day.. as ive stepped in a few times for people, but you cant be there all the time so its impossible.

Certain types become more determined in life due to bullying though.

[Mr XcX]

Had a few remarks at me but it just made me thick skinned.

If you cannot cope with these idiots then you will never get far in life.

Bully's knew I would have them if they resorted to physical attacks. They would not dare.

[Angus]

Never been bullied which is weird considering i was always pretty short until like year 9 and until i started weightlifting i wasnt exactly built.

I was quite in with the sort of popular group so it has never been a problem, had a couple of people start things over nothing but nothing happened, dig in the ribs and they soon shut up.

People can often have more respect if you stand up for yourself.

Now i dont like to see bullying, and although you can stop it for a day.. as ive stepped in a few times for people, but you cant be there all the time so its impossible.

Certain types become more determined in life due to bullying though.

That last sentence reminds me of the Ricki Lake show when she has people come on who were bullied and they want to show their tormentors (now all grown up) how they've changed.

The amount of times the victim says "I want to thank you, because you motivated me to change myself". What sort of a message is that to send out - not everyone can deal with bullying in that way, some are crushed to the point of suicide. I would never change anything about myself to suit someone else's idea of what I should look like, or who I should be - if you don't like me for whatever reason, deal with it. Why would you want to seek approval from a bullying arsehole?

[Boothy]

Once, in year 7, some year 9 kid burnt my PE bag and all my stuff that was in there while I was playing football to look big in front of his friends. I t**tted him when I found out and never had any grief from anyone after that. He even bought me a new bag, PE kit etc.

Don't know if that's really classed as bullying but I think the best way to deal with it is ignoring it tbh.

[Benjamin]

Had a few remarks at me but it just made me thick skinned.

If you cannot cope with these idiots then you will never get far in life.

Bully's knew I would have them if they resorted to physical attacks. They would not dare.


Why should some people have to deal with bullies? And if you cannot deal with them, you won't get far in life? Absolute narrow minded comment.

[Mr XcX]

Why should some people have to deal with bullies? And if you cannot deal with them, you won't get far in life? Absolute narrow minded comment.

Deal with it then!

That is how I coped!

[Mystic Mock]

Can't believe that at all to be honest... Year 2 you are about 6/7? year 6 you are about 10?

its true they attacked me when i was in year 2,they were cowardly bastards aswell as they never took me on one on one.

[Patrick]

Had a few remarks at me but it just made me thick skinned.

If you cannot cope with these idiots then you will never get far in life.

Bully's knew I would have them if they resorted to physical attacks. They would not dare.

You think you're so 'ard it's unreal :rolleyes:

I agree with Turtle, only I'll say it in my way, you're talking complete and utter bollocks.

People shouldn't have to be bullied to 'get far in life'.
You get far in life by being a good person and working hard.

[Novo]

its true they attacked me when i was in year 2,they were cowardly bastards aswell as they never took me on one on one.

Why would three year 6 girls bully someone in year 2?

[Patrick]

Why would three year 6 girls bully someone in year 2?

Nice SIG.

[Mystic Mock]

Why would three year 6 girls bully someone in year 2?

to make themselfs look tough.

[Mr XcX]

You think you're so 'ard it's unreal :rolleyes:

I agree with Turtle, only I'll say it in my way, you're talking complete and utter bollocks.

People shouldn't have to be bullied to 'get far in life'.
You get far in life by being a good person and working hard.

Well then darling, let the bully walk all over them!

They will be walked all over in life.

[Niall]

Bullying is horrible. I was bullied myself in primary school because of how I look: I wear glasses, I'm overweight, had black hair and people used to call me a nerd, most of my friends were outcasts too you could say as well. And my Mum lives abroad, which didn't exactly help. One day the whole class (apart from a couple of my friends) turned against me, and next thing I knew I had about ten or so kids around me with a bunch of them beating me up. For no reason :(

It used to make me really angry whenever someone insulted me because of what happened to me throughout primary school too, but about halfway through Year 7, I was past the point of caring. I've learnt that there's no use getting angry and that I should just go along with it (e.g if someone insults me) or just ignore them. The less of a reaction a bully gets out of you, the less he will actually bully you.

So now I'm a lot more mellow about it when someone starts calling me names. I do think my past experiences have affected me negatively though - I almost always will avoid any form of conflict. I hate it. Argument/fight I'm like a doormat :(

All in all, bullying is horrible thing no one should go through.

[Benjamin]

Well then darling, let the bully walk all over them!

They will be walked all over in life.

Again absolute narrow minded comment. I was bullied for a very long time, and I'm doing very well in my life.

Still doesn't excuse bullies who obviously have some insecurities of their own that they are trying to repress.

[Mr XcX]

Again absolute narrow minded comment. I was bullied for a very long time, and I'm doing very well in my life.

Still doesn't excuse bullies who obviously have some insecurities of their own that they are trying to repress.

Well I think you are narrow minded.

I was Bullied but I dealt with it swiftly and they never bothered me again!

Also, I apologize if you think I was insinuating people who are bullied never are successful. I did not mean that.

[Mr XcX]

Bullying is horrible. I was bullied myself in primary school because of how I look: I wear glasses, I'm overweight, had black hair and people used to call me a nerd, most of my friends were outcasts too you could say as well. And my Mum lives abroad, which didn't exactly help. One day the whole class (apart from a couple of my friends) turned against me, and next thing I knew I had about ten or so kids around me with a bunch of them beating me up. For no reason :(

It used to make me really angry whenever someone insulted me because of what happened to me throughout primary school too, but about halfway through Year 7, I was past the point of caring. I've learnt that there's no use getting angry and that I should just go along with it (e.g if someone insults me) or just ignore them. The less of a reaction a bully gets out of you, the less he will actually bully you.

So now I'm a lot more mellow about it when someone starts calling me names. I do think my past experiences have affected me negatively though - I almost always will avoid any form of conflict. I hate it. Argument/fight I'm like a doormat :(

All in all, bullying is horrible thing no one should go through.

This happened to me. People just making comments about me, I just found them pathetic. Probably doing nothing with their lives now.

[Niall]

This happened to me. People just making comments about me, I just found them pathetic. Probably doing nothing with their lives now.

Exactly. Whenever someone insults me now (usually one of the chavs) I'll just agree which usually shuts them up, or ignore them. No use getting angry over someone who's gonna be working in McDonalds for the rest of their life.

[Mystic Mock]

Exactly. Whenever someone insults me now (usually one of the chavs) I'll just agree which usually shuts them up, or ignore them. No use getting angry over someone who's gonna be working in McDonalds for the rest of their life.

why do bullies have to work at mcdonalds?:bawling::joker:

[Niall]

why do bullies have to work at mcdonalds?:bawling::joker:

Because they will get nowhere in life if they treat people like dirt! :thumbs:

[BB_Eye]

[/B]

Who are you to call an idiot. Your response just show's what a vile person you are. I was sharing my personal experience. I WAS BULLIED and I dealt with it!!!!

I never let the comments take me down but if they got physical I would deal with them!! By in which ways actually going straight to the bully's house, telling my parents etc.

Plus the things I have highlighted in bold are maybe what others experienced but I never had!

Bye!Right, I'm a 'vile person' for calling you an idiot (ON AN INTERNET FORUM) and calling you out on that excruciatingly patronising and clueless post. :rolleyes:

Forgive me if I don't appreciate you lecturing people who have to 'deal with' bullying on a daily basis, sometimes for years at a time, and telling them it will just stop if they 'stand up for themselves'.

And going to their house and telling their parents? How does that work with adult bullies? Not that it would work with school bullies anyhow as it's normally the feckless parents that bring them up that way in the first place and so are more than likely to defend them. Why do I get the feeling you don't know jack about the subject?

[Mr XcX]

Right, I'm a 'vile person' for calling you an idiot (ON AN INTERNET FORUM) and calling you out on that excruciatingly patronising and clueless post. :rolleyes:

Forgive me if I don't appreciate you lecturing people who have to 'deal with' bullying on a daily basis, sometimes for years at a time, and telling them it will just stop if they 'stand up for themselves'.

And going to their house and telling their parents? How does that work with adult bullies? Not that it would work with school bullies anyhow as it's normally the feckless parents that bring them up that way in the first place and so are more than likely to defend them. Why do I get the feeling you don't know jack about the subject?

Well it does work as I did it when I was younger and they never bothered me again.

Plus learn to read as it was not patronising.

[BB_Eye]

Well it does work as I did it when I was younger and they never bothered me again.

Plus learn to read as it was not patronising.
Irony

[Z]

All of the things I've bolded ARE examples of insecurity :conf2:

I should have made myself clearer; I don't think bullies sit and think "god I feel so insecure - I'm going to go pick on someone to make me feel better", but you are of course right, those are all examples of insecurity :tongue:.

EDIT: I think a lot of bullying comes down to asserting a status or position in some social context; which to me is slightly different to insecurity.

[Kazanne]

Everyone here or anywhere when asked will say bullying is wrong,because we all know it is, BUT, it goes on so people ARE bullying even on the net,imo,it is a sign of a control freak,who always has to be right,it's their way or no way,they are close minded and usually lacking in social skills and use swear words a lot to make them look 'good',they do not listen to anothers point of view,they like to be top dog,bullies,imo go on to make the worst parents and thus spawn more of the same unfortunately,I myself have never been bullied but I know people that have and it has a lasting effect.

[Barbie]

Bullying is one of those things where i don't think you can win unless you bite back on the first go. After that it doesn't seem to matter how you react, whether its to have a go back or ignore it, the sad bullies love it. Lose Lose situation.
Having been bullied i've now got a sharp tounge, i don't use it often but if someone gives lip i've learnt the best way is to chop them down before they bloom. People are surprised when they see me do it because its so unexpected. Been at work a year and i've never been moody or at all argumentative, one person tried it on and suddenly i go off on one. Needless to say they haven't tried again!

[CaraRawr]

Totally against it. Been bullied since I was 9 (almost fifteen now) because of my looks and because I used to be really shy and awkward so you know.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

http://sci.waikato.ac.nz/bioblog/lunch%20money.jpg

[Danielle1232]

I Was bullied moved school because of it most people should move if its at school.

[Miss Ivy Balls]

I Was bullied moved school because of it most people should move if its at school.

OK, I understand. :)