Would you still get married.....

[Kerry]

.... if your family didn't approve of your chosen partner?

Prompted by a documentory I was just watching - would you?

[Josy]

Yes, I wouldnt care who approved or not.

[Kazanne]

.... if your family didn't approve of your chosen partner?

Prompted by a documentory I was just watching - would you?

Yes,but it would take the shine off it if my family didn't approve.:xyxwave:

[Captain.Remy]

They already didn't approve my ex-girlfriend which I stayed with for 2 years and a half, so I guess I'm kind of used to it now. They gave me and her a bad time and her family was terrible at the beginning but they also got used to it. They have to accept it and DO NOT ADD OIL ON THE FIRE, it will get worse.

[Niamh.]

em, I don't know tbh, the reason being my family are actually very accepting people and If they didn't accept my partner then I would have to seriously consider why not, as I trust their opinions and know that if they did have a concern about my partner it would be because they are looking out for me.

[InOne]

Guess it depends. wouldn't want to be one of those idiots that goes 'omgz I'm in love **** you all <3'. Depends what they knew about her and all that.

[Stacey.]

Yes, I wouldnt care who approved or not.

This

[Angus]

I went ahead and married against the wishes of my family and friends, and unfortunately, they were right about him and I was wrong as I ended up in an unhappy marriage for ten years. They say love is blind and it certainly was in my case.

[Jack_]

Yes...it has **** all to with them, as far as I'm concerned.

[Niall]

Yep.

Its my life and I'll do as I please.

[Niamh.]

Yes...it has **** all to with them, as far as I'm concerned.

I used to think like that but my family hated my ex and I ignored their concerns and stayed with him (luckily didn't get married) turns out they were right all along about him. That's what would make me think differently now, they only wanted what was best for me, I think unless your family are horrible people they wouldn't not accept your partner unless they really were concerned about you

[Princess]

em, I don't know tbh, the reason being my family are actually very accepting people and If they didn't accept my partner then I would have to seriously consider why not, as I trust their opinions and know that if they did have a concern about my partner it would be because they are looking out for me.

Same as this. I can't see my parents ever disapproving cos I wouldn't want to imagine I'd end up with someone that was so disapprovable.

[InOne]

Anyone can wear a mask for the family. It's when you're alone that matters

[Niamh.]

Anyone can wear a mask for the family. It's when you're alone that matters

people can wear masks but they're usually very see-through-able(?) and the person comes across as fake (my ex for example)

[InOne]

people can wear masks but they're usually very see-through-able(?) and the person comes across as fake (my ex for example)

Well some of the time, not always. People can keep it up for years, usually happens gradually, and when you've realised what's happened it's too late. Usually will be attached by kids, money or love or something.

[_Seth]

Yeah, ignoring the fact that marriage would mean nothing to me.

[Niamh.]

Well some of the time, not always. People can keep it up for years, usually happens gradually, and when you've realised what's happened it's too late. Usually will be attached by kids, money or love or something.

well, yeah I mean I stayed with him for 2 and half years I meant my family saw through him but I ignored their concerns, it taught me a lesson!

[InOne]

well, yeah I mean I stayed with him for 2 and half years I meant my family saw through him but I ignored their concerns, it taught me a lesson!

Good :D Can't be having our Ningle getting hurt :nono:

[Niamh.]

Good :D Can't be having our Ningle getting hurt :nono:

aawwww, no Gav is a star and all my family love him as well:hugesmile:

[Jack_]

I used to think like that but my family hated my ex and I ignored their concerns and stayed with him (luckily didn't get married) turns out they were right all along about him. That's what would make me think differently now, they only wanted what was best for me, I think unless your family are horrible people they wouldn't not accept your partner unless they really were concerned about you

It's not that though, it's just that I don't really think it's any of their business. I wouldn't tell my parents who they can/can't marry, or whether they can have a partner or not, and I wouldn't expect them to listen either...it's none of my business. And so I'd expect [and want] the same thing when it comes to me and my private life. It's just something that I've always thought is none of their business, and is none of my business.

[Niamh.]

It's not that though, it's just that I don't really think it's any of their business. I wouldn't tell my parents who they can/can't marry, or whether they can have a partner or not, and I wouldn't expect them to listen either...it's none of my business. And so I'd expect [and want] the same thing when it comes to me and my private life. It's just something that I've always thought is none of their business, and is none of my business.

well that's fair enough, I suppose it depends on the type of relationship you have with your family really, but If I thought someone I cared about was with someone who was really bad for them in some way then I would have to say something and my family do the same back.

[fruit_cake]

^ you must have a good family, I'd never let my family choose anyone for me, they've always been wrong about everything in my life.. I used to listen to them far too often which you do as a child I suppose?

These days if I ever wonder about anything, I ask them and then do the opposite of what they tell me believe it or not.

[Jack_]

well that's fair enough, I suppose it depends on the type of relationship you have with your family really, but If I thought someone I cared about was with someone who was really bad for them in some way then I would have to say something and my family do the same back.

I care about my family a lot and they care about me, but that sort of stuff I just don't agree with. Don't think they feel the same way though obviously.

[Niamh.]

^ you must have a good family, I'd never let my family choose anyone for me, they've always been wrong about everything in my life.. I used to listen to them far too often which you do as a child I suppose?

These days if I ever wonder about anything, I ask them and then do the opposite of what they tell me believe it or not.

yeah I do and it's not that I would let them choose someone for me but I would take it seriously if the disapproved of the person I had chosen and I have asked for their opinions on my husband (when I first started seeing him that is) and they have asked for mine too.

[Niamh.]

I care about my family a lot and they care about me, but that sort of stuff I just don't agree with. Don't think they feel the same way though obviously.

well I couldn't comment on your family really as I don't you or them but you should take notice of their advice if they're people who really care about you, most people learn that the hard way though! (myself included!)

[Angus]

well I couldn't comment on your family really as I don't you or them but you should take notice of their advice if they're people who really care about you, most people learn that the hard way though! (myself included!)

Exactly. It's not that my friends and family were trying to upset or alienate me by disapproving of my ex, but that, being objective (unlike me), they had seen something in him which wasn't right and they were concerned for me. They didn't actively do anything to prevent me marrying him, they just voiced their concerns to me, and they did their best to welcome him once we were married, but he didn't want to know.

[Niamh.]

Exactly. It's not that my friends and family were trying to upset or alienate me by disapproving of my ex, but that, being objective (unlike me), they had seen something in him which wasn't right and they were concerned for me. They didn't actively do anything to prevent me marrying him, they just voiced their concerns to me, and they did their best to welcome him once we were married, but he didn't want to know.

yeah exactly and the same with my family when I was with my ex. But it does of course depend on your family though, I would guess that most families only want what's best for their child/brother/sister etc

[Livia]

Every time my family have disliked someone, he's turned out to be a t*sser. Can't argue with a track record like that.

[MTVN]

My friends would have more influence over my relationships then my family would tbh

[GypsyGoth]

It wouldn't bother me if my sis didn't like my partner, but I think it would if my mom didn't like them. And I'm not sure about the whole marriage thing.

[Lewis.]

The way I see it is that it's my life so why should I be effected by what others think, even if it's your own family. At the end of the day we are all separate people and we should all live our lives how we want to. We'll learn from our mistakes in the end, if that's the case, but at least it's what we wanted to do.