A guide to forum bullies and trolls

[billy123]

very interesting read there are 4 pages of it but it sums up this forum brilliantly and demonstrates exactly how this place has destroyed itself from the inside out due mainly to people lacking the ability or courage to confront problems as they arise and either turning a blind eye or joining in out of fear of being ostracised.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/532829/online_forum_etiquette_how_to_deal.html?cat=15

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

*pulls your pig tails and steals your lunch money*

[Niamh.]

That was a good read Bobnot

[ILoveTRW]

Bobnot is the biggest troll on here

[InOne]

Saying that this place has been destroyed by bullies and trolls is rather dramatic lol Might be to do with the fact BB ended!

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

Saying that this place has been destroyed by bullies and trolls is rather dramatic lol Might be to do with the fact BB ended!

you told me to die last night

http://carcat.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/sad_puppy_762581.jpg

[billy123]

That was a good read BobnotI thought so.
So much of it sounds so familiar its uncanny you can just about predict the type of responses it will get from the different types of members that use tibb some defensive some will make light of it some will get angry about it.

[InOne]

you told me to die last night

http://carcat.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/sad_puppy_762581.jpg

We've always had a love hate relationship I don't really want you to die :bouncy:

[Lee.]

Uncanny!

[billy123]

Bobnot is the biggest troll on hereThats an odd response from someone i dont think ive ever talked to on here but if you had bothered to read the article if being labelled as a troll for confronting people who behave badly on here is what i get then so be it ;)

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

We've always had a love hate relationship I don't really want you to die :bouncy:

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ldunej8bAH1qc5zl2.gif

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

this is just another thread about thomas :bored:

[ILoveTRW]

Thats an odd response from someone i dont think ive ever talked to on here but if you had bothered to read the article if being labelled as a troll for confronting people who behave badly on here is what i get then so be it i know which side of the fence i would rather fall on. ;)

bitch, you stalked me all summer.

[Niamh.]

I thought so.
So much of it sounds so familiar its uncanny you can just about predict the type of responses it will get from the different types of members that use tibb some defensive some will make light of it some will get angry about it.

well, this forum is my first experience of a forum community but I can definitely see some of what the author is saying alright, I suppose it's like life though, people naturally take different roles on to fit in

[InOne]

Yeah I do wish people would stop bringing stuff like this up :bored:

[billy123]

Yeah I do wish people would stop bringing stuff like this up :bored:If it bores you or makes you feel uncomfortable there are other threads on here :conf:

[InOne]

No, I feel like trolling this thread, problem? :bouncy:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

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[Mystic Mock]

very interesting read there are 4 pages of it but it sums up this forum brilliantly and demonstrates exactly how this place has destroyed itself from the inside out due mainly to people lacking the ability or courage to confront problems as they arise and either turning a blind eye or joining in out of fear of being ostracised.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/532829/online_forum_etiquette_how_to_deal.html?cat=15

i read some of that and i completely agree with you.

[Stacey.]

I think you should give this link to Thomas. :amazed:

[Kazanne]

very interesting read there are 4 pages of it but it sums up this forum brilliantly and demonstrates exactly how this place has destroyed itself from the inside out due mainly to people lacking the ability or courage to confront problems as they arise and either turning a blind eye or joining in out of fear of being ostracised.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/532829/online_forum_etiquette_how_to_deal.html?cat=15

Very good read and needs to be read by the members as a guideline.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

Very good read and needs to be read by the members as a guideline.

quiet you

[Kazanne]

quiet you

The day I am quiet will be the day hell freezes over!!

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

k

[InOne]

Kazanne bullies me

[Lee.]

Very good read and needs to be read by the members as a guideline.

Yeah, but the problem on here is that the bullies are too pig headed and blinkered to even realise what they are!

Merry Xmas by the way! :D

[Z]

While I read that I had one particular member in mind and was literally sitting there like "check, check, check" :laugh2:

[Lee.]

While I read that I had one particular member in mind and was literally sitting there like "check, check, check" :laugh2:

Me too!

[Josy]

While I read that I had one particular member in mind and was literally sitting there like "check, check, check" :laugh2:

Same......

[Z]

And I imagine we're all thinking of different people :laugh:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

who? :shocked:

[Lee.]

And I imagine we're all thinking of different people :laugh:

Hahaha.. yeah probably!

Although I have a feeling Josy and I are thinking the same

Josy, were you thinking Greg?

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

gypsygoth

[Ammi]

Unfortunately I don't think the worse culprits will even think it could be aimed at them, they are subtle and am sure think they do no wrong. The members who are quite aggresive in their posts are not necessarily bullies they are just passionate in their views.

[InOne]

Someone name some names and stop beating around the bush

[MTVN]

Ah this place isnt that bad, there's no real hierachy on here like the article suggests is always present on a forum

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

lol yes there is

[MTVN]

lol yes there is

Why? Everyone just attacks each other a lot of the time, there's no universally accepted king or queen or anything like that

[Vicky.]

PMSL. Good read...but I think its a bit over the top :p

I actually took it as more of a joke article tbh...surely noone takes forums that seriously :laugh:

[ILoveTRW]

Shaun is probably the person who it applies to the most.

[Stacey.]

Shaun is probably the person who it applies to the most.

:joker:

[MeMyselfAndI]

cba to read all that

[MeMyselfAndI]

Shaun is probably the person who it applies to the most.

:laugh2:

[MTVN]

:laugh2:

You just said you didnt read it..

[Jessica.]

You just said you didnt read it..

They pretended to be a 12/13 year old girl, you shouldn't be surprised when they lie.

[Jack_]

They pretended to be a 12/13 year old girl, you shouldn't be surprised when they lie.

:joker:

[Jordan.]

cba to read all that

My exact thought.

[Shaun]

oh aye, what a bully I am, being targetted for my appearance all the time. jog on.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

They pretended to be a 12/13 year old girl, you shouldn't be surprised when they lie.

:joker::joker::joker::joker::joker:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

kazanne is a bully

[Lee.]

kazanne is a bully

Haha.. SHe's the furthest thing from a bully! :nono:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

^ bully

[Lee.]

^ fud

jk

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

lol spoiler fail

[Jordan.]

Kazanne got me a christmas present. :love:

[Lee.]

hahah.. indeed!

[Stacey.]

Kazanne got me a christmas present. :love:

I got you better ones :love:

[Jordan.]

I got you better ones :love:

hehe. :evilgrin:

[Jamietwo]

no one is all bad isn't it

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

no one is all bad isn't it

ily

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[Twilight]

I was reading that, and had one member in my head the whole time.

[GypsyGoth]

gypsygoth

:love:

I try :laugh:

I'm going to bully the **** out of the next person who joins.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

I'm going to bully the **** out of the next person who joins.

:joker::joker::joker::joker::joker:

[Josy]

:love:

I try :laugh:

I'm going to bully the **** out of the next person who joins.

:laugh3:

[Claymores]

:love:

I try :laugh:

I'm going to bully the **** out of the next person who joins.

I thought you liked Thomas

[MTVN]

:love:

I try :laugh:

I'm going to bully the **** out of the next person who joins.

:laugh2:

[Kazanne]

Yeah, but the problem on here is that the bullies are too pig headed and blinkered to even realise what they are!

Merry Xmas by the way! :D

Yes that is so true lots of lovely people on here shame a few assholes spoil it,ah well it takes all sorts,lol, Xmas has gone but hope you had a good one and all the best for 2011

[BB_Eye]

I don't think I've ever joined or used an internet forum where I haven't seen it happen at least once. It's possibly even more common than elsewhere with it being a totally unregulated environment.

[bbfan1991]

I terrorise the soap forum:devil:.

On a serious note I try my best to ignore trolls, however some are very good at fooling everyone...

[Zippy]

I was reading that, and had one member in my head the whole time.

spill???

[Niall]

I do think there is a bit of a hierarchy on here tbh. I think there are definitely a group of outcasts, and a group of people who are accepted. I don't think there is a ringleader at all though, or if there is it changes round a lot (if you get what I'm saying?).

And before any of you lot ask I'm not getting my first infraction tonight by naming names :nono:

[JobsForTheBoys]

Where do I stand?:conf:

[Niall]

Where do I stand?:conf:

Well I guess you're still quite new so you're semi-accepted? Sorry if that sounds mean, I'm not trying to be. :)

[Mystic Mock]

kazanne is a bully

no she isnt.:nono:

good avatar and signature by the way scott.

[JobsForTheBoys]

Well I guess you're still quite new so you're semi-accepted? Sorry if that sounds mean, I'm not trying to be. :)

I suppose a semi is better than nothing, at least thats what our lass says.:joker:

[Stacey.]

Well I guess you're still quite new so you're semi-accepted? Sorry if that sounds mean, I'm not trying to be. :)

:o

Don't be such a bully, this should get you your first infraction

[JobsForTheBoys]

:o

Don't be such a bully, this should get you your first infraction

He'll have to try a lot harder than that.:hugesmile:

[Niamh.]

I suppose a semi is better than nothing, at least thats what our lass says.:joker:

:laugh2:

[Niall]

:o

Don't be such a bully, this should get you your first infraction

:nono: I was nice!

He'll have to try a lot harder than that.:hugesmile:

Exactly. I like you :hug:

[Niall]

I suppose a semi is better than nothing, at least thats what our lass says.:joker:

:joker::joker::joker:

[JobsForTheBoys]

Exactly. I like you :hug:


:shocked:

[Niall]

:shocked:

What :(

I was saying I like you (As a friend btw).

[Stacey.]

What :(

I was saying I like you (As a friend btw).

:evilgrin:

[Niall]

:evilgrin:

/Perv. :evilgrin:

[Zippy]

:evilgrin:

I wonder if Twilight means you? :evilgrin:

I just wanna use that smiley for the first time

[Niamh.]

I wonder if Twilight means you? :evilgrin:

I just wanna use that smiley for the first time

zippy:evilgrin: sorry I did too

[billy123]

Pretty predictable responses i had a list of members in mind beforehand:

Those that would make a joke of it rather than comment.

Those that would deny it exists on here.

Those that would try and discredit it because they feel a bit ashamed about ignoring it.

Those that would get annoyed by it.

Those with the social awareness to recognise it and see it as a problem.

I can honestly say most of you slotted right into where i thought you would :) social profiling FTW.

[GiRTh]

Great read that. Some very defensive comments from varous people in this thread.

[InOne]

The main 2 forum trolls are permbanned, the forum is now a better place.


End.

[Pyramid*]

Interesting read: I liked this part the best


How to Spot a Forum Bully
The key is in the comments. Look at how most forum members reply to comments. Most are polite. They may disagree but they do so with a level of respect for the opinions of others, unless those opinions are genuinely ludicrous. The forum bully does not respect anyone but herself. She respects the power of others in the group, but nothing else. Everyone is beneath her. Her comments are made without regard to the feelings of anyone but herself. And if she is wrong, she cannot admit it. To do so would undermine her power. While others in the group will add prefaces to their comments or phrase their comments in the form of suggestions,the forum bully will tell others what to do, like a master issuing orders to slaves. When called on this approach, the forum bully's followers will claim the bully is just being blunt.


From Day one since I joined here, I spotted within about 2 days, quite a few members here - male and female - who follow the 'above' right down to the letter. What they don't realise is that rather than being powerful, all they are doing is showing themselves up to be weak - attack is the best form of defence - and a particularly good method when the person knows they cannot defend themselves: the only thing left for them to do is attack.

What's actually funny is that they have no idea that people who can see right through them fall between laughing at their pathetic (and very obvious) attempts at 'bullying' or trying to 'Rule the Roost' - or simply pity them for being so pathetic in the first place.

They'd never last a minute out in the real world - with REAL bullies - so they do what the 'can' online, where they can hide behind screens. They'd probably sh!t a brick if they were faced with someone who had their 'online persona' - out in the real world.

[Lee.]

Interesting read: I liked this part the best



From Day one since I joined here, I spotted within about 2 days, quite a few members here - male and female - who follow the 'above' right down to the letter. What they don't realise is that rather than being powerful, all they are doing is showing themselves up to be weak - attack is the best form of defence - and a particularly good method when the person knows they cannot defend themselves: the only thing left for them to do is attack.

What's actually funny is that they have no idea that people who can see right through them fall between laughing at their pathetic (and very obvious) attempts at 'bullying' or trying to 'Rule the Roost' - or simply pity them for being so pathetic in the first place.

They'd never last a minute out in the real world - with REAL bullies - so they do what the 'can' online, where they can hide behind screens. They'd probably sh!t a brick if they were faced with someone who had their 'online persona' - out in the real world.


Agree completely.. Pyramid for Queen Bee! :evilgrin:

[Pyramid*]

Agree completely.. Pyramid for Queen Bee! :evilgrin:


LOL!!! Bee... or 'B'. :evilgrin:

[Lee.]

LOL!!! Bee... or 'B'. :evilgrin:

:laugh2:

Good xmas?

[Pyramid*]

:laugh2:

Good xmas?

Fine thanks. Enjoying lie ins and lazing about..... lazy midden that I am.

Good one at your end I hope?:blush:

[Lee.]

Fine thanks. Enjoying lie ins and lazing about..... lazy midden that I am.

Good one at your end I hope?:blush:

Yes, very nice indeed ta! Not had much time off but I am off tomorrow then Friday Saturday and Sunday :)

[Stacey.]

I wonder if Twilight means you? :evilgrin:

I just wanna use that smiley for the first time

I did actually think she might've meant me :L

[InOne]

I remember when you bullied Raph off the forum Stacey :nono: lol

[Stacey.]

I remember when you bullied Raph off the forum Stacey :nono: lol

:laugh:

Same, he went actually crazy

[Stu]

I'm on a few hot headed forums dominated almost entirely by male, educated, patronising movie buffs. We slag each other off constantly when we disagree with each other and it makes for some downright hillarious discussions which everyone forgets about in the morning. Trolls and people who simply can't be arsed making interesting, informative posts are mercilessly hounded out and instantly banned. Are we all bullies?

One glove does not fit every hand. These are also forums where no kids are allowed, there is only one or two very strict moderators who are outside the group dynamic, there are relatively few year end competitions, you leave your feelings and personal life at the door, every thread is usually relevant and highly readable, nobody bothers double accounting, drama about the forum off the forum simply doesn't exist ... and really the groups on these forums tend to be intelligent, caustic old bastards far worse than Shaun at his most scathing being mainlined through the veins InOne levels of alcohol abuse whilst being force fed all my adolescent years of general nihlism.

Then again according to the theme of this thread we are all reprehensible bullies on those forums. Then again it doesn't apply to us because only those who can handle it, post with us, and leave all personal and real life emotions and connections at the door are those allowed stay and enjoy the mere anarchy of it all.

See what I'm getting at? I know my defensive post, again by thread theme, spotlights me as some tyrannical monster but hey at least I contributed more to the thread than, say, Jordan's post. If we had all at one time or another been obnoxiously respectful to one another MeMyself&I and Raph would still have vaginas, BigLover would still be undergoing chemo, and Thomas would be welcomed as a darling of enigmatic discussion. And virtually three quaters of this forums best moments and threads would never have happened.

Sounds like a crap forum to me. To let needless decency to strangers get in the way of honesty and quality control.

[Pyramid*]

I'm on a few hot headed forums dominated almost entirely by male, educated, patronising movie buffs. We slag each other off constantly when we disagree with each other and it makes for some downright hillarious discussions which everyone forgets about in the morning. Trolls and people who simply can't be arsed making interesting, informative posts are mercilessly hounded out and instantly banned. Are we all bullies?

One glove does not fit every hand. These are also forums where no kids are allowed, there is only one or two very strict moderators who are outside the group dynamic, there are relatively few year end competitions, you leave your feelings and personal life at the door, every thread is usually relevant and highly readable, nobody bothers double accounting, drama about the forum off the forum simply doesn't exist ... and really the groups on these forums tend to be intelligent, caustic old bastards far worse than Shaun at his most scathing being mainlined through the veins InOne levels of alcohol abuse whilst being force fed all my adolescent years of general nihlism.

Then again according to the theme of this thread we are all reprehensible bullies on those forums. Then again it doesn't apply to us because only those who can handle it, post with us, and leave all personal and real life emotions and connections at the door are those allowed stay and enjoy the mere anarchy of it all.

See what I'm getting at? I know my defensive post, again by thread theme, spotlights me as some tyrannical monster but hey at least I contributed more to the thread than, say, Jordan's post. If we had all at one time or another been obnoxiously respectful to one another MeMyself&I and Raph would still have vaginas, BigLover would still be undergoing chemo, and Thomas would be welcomed as a darling of enigmatic discussion. And virtually three quaters of this forums best moments and threads would never have happened.

Good post. And no, I wouldn't class that as bullying. I'd class that as getting rid of driftwood and the very type that actually bring good forums down.