Your best mate confides in you about an affair....

[Kerry]

... what would you do? Keep the secret? Tell their partner? Urge them to tell their partner? Threaten them you're going to tell their partner if they don't? Tell them you don't want to know and it's nothing to do with you? Other?

Discuss

[Vicky.]

I had this happen a while ago. But it wasnt my best mate, it was my mother D:

[Kerry]

I had this happen a while ago. But it wasnt my best mate, it was my mother D:

:shocked:

[Smithy]

I'm a bit off a blab :blush2:

[Ninastar]

Seeing as they are my best friend I would stick by thier side, but I would try and make them tell thier partner. I would never tell thier partner myself cause its kinda backstabbing them when they had the confidence (if you like) to tell me this in the first place

[Smithy]

not on purpose i hasten to add though

[InOne]

Bro's before Ho's

[lostalex]

loose lips sink ships. So keep yur mouth shut unless yur ready to drop a f-ing BOMB.

[joeysteele]

I had this happen last year,a mate had cheated on his fiance, he told me and I suggested he decide if he really wanted to be with his Fiance or not, if he did then make sure he ended the other relationship,if he didn't want to be with his Fiance then end that relationship.

I didn't want to have to say anything but I did keep on at him to make a decision. He did and even told his Fiance too but they are still together so all worked out okay for them.

Sadly, though I know it all goes really wrong for some people. If its family or 2 close Friends then it must be really hard for someone to keep quiet knowing someone is being hurt or is really going to get hurt soon.I think I would have said something had he not made a clear decision but I also repected he confided in me so felt I was given a chance to help them if I could with any influence I may have.

[Stacey.]

I'd probably end up telling their partner D:

[lostalex]

does the partner know that you know about it? If the partner knows you know, just tell them if they don't tell, you will.

AND IF THEY DON;T, WELL THEN YUR FRIEND IS AN IDIOT FOR PICKING THIS PARTNER TO BEGIN WITH.

Judge Judy is right. You PICK your own partner, so who do you have to blame but yourself?

[Jack_]

Probably keep it a secret...I'm like that. If you tell me something then no one will ever know.

That being said, it would also depend on how much I knew/was close to their partner as to whether or not I told them...

[Stu]

Bro's before Ho's
All the way.

I have absoloutely no respect for someone who betrays their best mate.

[Kerry]

does the partner know that you know about it?

It's not a real situation. I just like getting people discussing stuff. I saw an advert on TV for some magazine which mentioned a similar story and it set me off thinking

[MTVN]

I'd keep it a secret everytime. As has been said "bro's before ho's", it's cliched but it's true and I wouldnt betray his trust and tell the partner.

[lostalex]

i Think it totally depends on the friend. I have some friends i would definitely tell, and other friends i definitely wouldn't tell.

[lostalex]

A more interesting question would be... If you found out yur Father was Cheating on yur MOther...

Would you tell yur Mother?

Now THAT's a mindfuuck.

[InOne]

All the way.

I have absoloutely no respect for someone who betrays their best mate.

I'd never get involved in a domestic. Always gets very messy. Just take on board what he told me and keep my mouth shut, it's their business.

[Shaun]

I've known people cheating on their girlfriend...I just judge them. I never tell the girlfriend...

[InOne]

A more interesting question would be... If you found out yur Father was Cheating on yur MOther...

Would you tell yur Mother?

Now THAT's a mindfuuck.

Have you ever met Wildcat!? lol

[lostalex]

Have you ever met Wildcat!? lol
no. why? did he fuuck yur mother?

[Patrick]

I'd go round to his girlfriend's place and tell her I have a secret to tell her but I'll only tell her if she gets into bed with me :love:


Then I'll put an alarm on my phone to ring in a few minutes, so I'll answer it during sex and tell her I've got to go because my house is on fire, I'll come back another time.

Then I'll repeat the process until I run out of houses to imaginary set on fire, before telling her.

[Patrick]

I'd go round to his girlfriend's place and tell her I have a secret to tell her but I'll only tell her if she gets into bed with me :love:


Then I'll put an alarm on my phone to ring in a few minutes, so I'll answer it during sex and tell her I've got to go because my house is on fire, I'll come back another time.

Then I'll repeat the process until I run out of houses to imaginary set on fire, before telling her.

[InOne]

no. why? did he fuuck yur mother?

No, he's your daddy.

[lostalex]

No, he's your daddy.

lol. if you ever met my dad, you would realize that my dad is the farthest thing from a "wildcat" imaginable. lol

My dad is the biggest nerd ever. He's awesome though.

[InOne]

lol. if you ever met my dad, you would realize that my dad is the farthest thing from a "wildcat" imaginable. lol

My dad is the biggest nerd ever. He's awesome though.

I didn't ask for your life story...

[lostalex]

I'd go round to his girlfriend's place and tell her I have a secret to tell her but I'll only tell her if she gets into bed with me :love:


Then I'll put an alarm on my phone to ring in a few minutes, so I'll answer it during sex and tell her I've got to go because my house is on fire, I'll come back another time.

Then I'll repeat the process until I run out of houses to imaginary set on fire, before telling her.

This is why nobody likes you.

[Stu]

Rage in three, two, one ...

[lostalex]

I didn't ask for your life story... sorry should i have responded with some kind of inane aggressive "fuuck you, don't talk about my family, i'll beat yur ass, pooof!"

Sorry, i'm still learning how to speak english english. *puffs out chest* I'D DIE FOR THE ST. GEORGES CROSS!!!! AGGHHH!!!!!

[Novo]

I didn't ask for your life story...

:joker:

[InOne]

sorry should i have responded with some kind of inane aggressive "fuuck you, don't talk about my family, i'll beat yur ass, pooof!"

Sorry, i'm still learning how to speak english english.

You should probably learn to type it too :tongue:

[lostalex]

You should probably learn to type it too :tongue:

you can mentor me if you like. :)

[Patrick]

This is why nobody likes you.

Who the ****** are you?
Silly woman.

[lostalex]

Who the ****** are you?
Silly woman.
I'm a man, and yur response was disgusting. I see people argue with you in basically every thread you post in. It's not a coincidence. You are disliked.

[Niamh.]

If it was my best friend then I certainly wouldn't be running to tell their partner, I'd just give them advice

[Niamh.]

does the partner know that you know about it? If the partner knows you know, just tell them if they don't tell, you will.

AND IF THEY DON;T, WELL THEN YUR FRIEND IS AN IDIOT FOR PICKING THIS PARTNER TO BEGIN WITH.

Judge Judy is right. You PICK your own partner, so who do you have to blame but yourself?

Judge Judy:love:

[Niamh.]

A more interesting question would be... If you found out yur Father was Cheating on yur MOther...

Would you tell yur Mother?

Now THAT's a mindfuuck.

absolutely, my dad is wanker

[billy123]

I think i would tell them that its something that they need to sort out and i want nothing to do with it i would put a stop to that conversation straight away its not fair to burden other people with that crap.