How old is too old to be a father?

[Kerry]

We've seen the endless discussions about being an older mother, what about a father?

Simon Cowell believes he may be too old (he's 50 I believe??) yet the Des O'Connors of this world are knocking them out in their 70's

I was borne to older parents (40's) so I suppose have to be grateful yet at the same time both were deceased by the time I was 10.

Is there ever a good time to say no?

Personally I'd think upto 60 is OK to be a new father. After that, no

[Stephanie]

50.

[Omah]

27 .....

[Novo]

50

[Claymores]

27 .....

Bluddy hell - that's when boys start to grow up

[MTVN]

Guy in my village is 71 and has a 11 year old daughter :shocked:

[arista]

Guy in my village is 71 and has a 11 year old daughter :shocked:


Spiffing

[Claymores]

Guy in my village is 71 and has a 11 year old daughter :shocked:
Hi Matt - my old dad's cousin is 2 years younger than me.

I think in official terms, he's my 2nd uncle as we shere some DNA

Who cares - he's a nice bloke in my extended family !!!!!

His dad was 65 when had him - lovely 2nd uncle!

[Niamh.]

I would say no more than 45 if you want to be fair on the child.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Depends on how old the parents live to and how well they are.

It seems the OPs parents both died very young so maybe not a great example.

20 years of good parenting is better than 40 of bad

[Twilight]

i'd say 45? my parents were both in their 40's when they had me.

[Niamh.]

i'd say 45? my parents were both in their 40's when they had me.

I'd say about that too, I'm working it out by adding 20 years on which taking university into account etc when your responsibility ends (not that you ever really stop feeling responsible for your child but education wise etc.) that would make the father 65 and to me any older is too old

[Crimson Dynamo]

A ninety-year-old man went to the doctor and said, “Doctor, my eighteen-year-old wife is expecting a baby.”

The doctor said, “Let me tell you a story. A man went hunting, but instead of a gun, he picked up an umbrella by mistake. When a bear suddenly charged at the man, he picked up the umbrella, shot the bear, and killed it.”

The man said, “Impossible. Someone else must have shot the bear.”

The doctor said, “My point exactly.”

[Niamh.]

A ninety-year-old man went to the doctor and said, “Doctor, my eighteen-year-old wife is expecting a baby.”

The doctor said, “Let me tell you a story. A man went hunting, but instead of a gun, he picked up an umbrella by mistake. When a bear suddenly charged at the man, he picked up the umbrella, shot the bear, and killed it.”

The man said, “Impossible. Someone else must have shot the bear.”

The doctor said, “My point exactly.”

:laugh2:

[Lee.]

You need a lot of energy and patience to have children, both of which probably reduce with age, so I reckon 40 odd is the oldest first time parents should be..

[Omah]

Bluddy hell - that's when boys start to grow up

If you haven't done it by 27, then forget it, have kids, bring them up, boot them out and then enjoy the fruits of your labours while you're still (relatively) young, otherwise you'll be paying for university and weddings out of your pension ..... :eek:

[Crimson Dynamo]

You need a lot of energy and patience to have children, both of which probably reduce with age, so I reckon 40 odd is the oldest first time parents should be..

and when the the earliest time?

[Niamh.]

and when the the earliest time?

I reckon mid twenties

[Crimson Dynamo]

a 15 year window?

crikey

[Jordan.]

50. Anywhere after that it'll just be embarrassing for the child when they are growing up with a pentioner parent. :bored:

[Beastie]

For mothers and fathers the oldest age to have a child should be 45.

First expectant mothers and fathers.. mid 20's. Some people have kids when they are 20-25. That is fine if they are mature enough and financially stable. Having kids younger than 20 is too young.

[Lee.]

and when the the earliest time?

Anwhere from early twenties to early thirties?

[Niamh.]

a 15 year window?

crikey

yep, 15 years is long enough!

[Iceman]

I dont want any kids until im 30 at least and I dont mind how many I have.....I would like to think I wouldnt have any after the age of 40 though....

['Conor]

any man over 50 being a father again is disturbing.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I dont want any kids until im 30 at least and I dont mind how many I have.....I would like to think I wouldnt have any after the age of 40 though....

your wife, circumstances and luck will be your master, not you

[Niamh.]

your wife, circumstances and luck will be your master, not you

we're talking ideally here LT, I mean I had both my kids before I was 25 but I think, ideally, I would have been better waiting a bit longer.

[Claymores]

You need a lot of energy and patience to have children, both of which probably reduce with age, so I reckon 40 odd is the oldest first time parents should be..

Good answer Lee - I never had the patience or wish so 21 was too old. Unfortunately my partners wished to procreate which led to lots of fell0
-outs

[Crimson Dynamo]

we're talking ideally here LT, I mean I had both my kids before I was 25 but I think, ideally, I would have been better waiting a bit longer.

there is no right time

thats said after 25 does have many advantages.

[Niamh.]

there is no right time

thats said after 25 does have many advantages.

well, I mean obviously every person is different but in general I mean.

[Claymores]

any man over 50 being a father again is disturbing.

Why? It is natural - think of animals, lions where the old man spreads his seed. It is an inate drive to keep the DNA going

[Crimson Dynamo]

I do agree that having children is a womans job

call me sexist but thats my opinion

[Claymores]

I do agree that having children is a womans job

call me sexist but thats my opinion

In the highlands with white military jumbos your "job" is what then? To go out and find the food?

[lostalex]

Considering the huge number of kids in foster care and group homes, i find it offensive when people, especially older people spend thousands of dollars on surrogacy or IVF, when there are so many kids in need of a good home.


If yu adopt, then yur never too old imo.

[Niamh.]

Considering the huge number of kids in foster care and group homes, i find it offensive when people, especially older people spend thousands of dollars on surrogacy or IVF, when there are so many kids in need of a good home.


If yu adopt, then yur never too old imo.

That's a very good point actually, especially when having a baby when you're over 40 (as a woman) you're risking having a baby with health problems