Who is meaner: boys or girls?

[Liberty4eva]

Generally speaking in school are boys meaner or are girls meaner?

[Kerry]

Girls

[arista]

Generally speaking in school are boys meaner or are girls meaner?


Both are Mean


Both are Nice


It depends on how the Teachers control the blighters.

[joeysteele]

I guess probably both can be mean to others, but at School, mine was all boys anyway so I saw a lot of very mean lads there.

[CharlieO]

Both in different ways. Girls can be bitches, Boys will up front bully someone. It depends what hurts you more backstabbing, or being made fun of.

[Niall]

Girls.

[MTVN]

I'd say boys are generally meaner but girls are bitchier

[Lee.]

Girls.. by far! I can think of loads of girls from school who were bullies/bitches/fighters/up their own arses, but I can't really think of any boys who acted like that.

[Vicky.]

At school...girls.

Boys get it out of their system by punching each other a few times then are ok with each other. Girls carry problems on for literally years :bored:

[Pyramid*]

Both as bad as each other in different ways.

Males tend to be upfront and say what they think and don't give a damn really.

Females tend to be back stabbing - you know, pretened to be nice, all sweetness and light to your face, but rip you to shreds behind your back. You can normally see through the ones that are like that though.

[Stu]

Girls by far. Boys have that Jean Claude Van Damme straight in your face harmless stuff. Girls go all Kevin Spacey in Se7en with the gradual mind****s and nastyness.

[Pyramid*]

Girls by far. Boys have that Jean Claude Van Damme straight in your face harmless stuff. Girls go all Kevin Spacey in Se7en with the gradual mind****s and nastyness.

Oh I don't know....there are plenty of men who are experts at that. Ask any woman who's had a control freak in her life - ie: the female can't have a life or have enjoyment without that male control being there - that's when you experience real manipulation, mind**** and nastiness.

[Jords]

I agree with both in different ways.

Dont agree that boys are 'straight up in your face', maybe back in the day but many just make snide remarks getting a small crowd having a giggle. Theyre more harsh than girls, but girls start it for stupid reasons and keep it up for longer and can be very 2-faced without you knowing.

[Beastie]

Both in different ways. Girls can be bitches, Boys will up front bully someone. It depends what hurts you more backstabbing, or being made fun of.

Backstabbing hurts more. This is why I was more hurt by people I thought were my "friends" at school. At least I knew where I stood when I was picked on/bullied by someone I couldn't give a toss about.

My group of friends at the time were mostly girls. So I am guessing girls are meaner.

[Beastie]

I agree with both in different ways.

Dont agree that boys are 'straight up in your face', maybe back in the day but many just make snide remarks getting a small crowd having a giggle. Theyre more harsh than girls, but girls start it for stupid reasons and keep it up for longer and can be very 2-faced without you knowing.

I think personally girls are meaner to girls. Mostly down to jealousy/insecurities.

[Beastie]

Oh I don't know....there are plenty of men who are experts at that. Ask any woman who's had a control freak in her life - ie: the female can't have a life or have enjoyment without that male control being there - that's when you experience real manipulation, mind**** and nastiness.

Yeah there are a few insecure bitchy boys that are just as bad as girls.

[CharlieO]

I think guys are worse than girls with giving someone a hard time.

[Pyramid*]

Backstabbing hurts more. This is why I was more hurt by people I thought were my "friends" at school. At least I knew where I stood when I was picked on/bullied by someone I couldn't give a toss about.

My group of friends at the time were mostly girls. So I am guessing girls are meaner.

I think personally girls are meaner to girls. Mostly down to jealousy/insecurities.


completely agree with both of your comments. Very few of us don't have a bitch now and then, that's human nature - it's a rare person who never ever does:- but backstabbing as you say is one of the most nasty, vile, behaviours ever and woman I think do indeed excel in this. I agree with your thoughts: it's usually down to jealousy or their own insecurities. A lot of woman I know think they are 'leaders' when in fact, they are just 'followers' - because they are so insecure.

As I said earlier though: there are men out there that are as bullying but on a different level: but equally as nasty for the recepient.

[Stu]

Oh I don't know....there are plenty of men who are experts at that. Ask any woman who's had a control freak in her life - ie: the female can't have a life or have enjoyment without that male control being there - that's when you experience real manipulation, mind**** and nastiness.
Oh yeah it's generalizing on my part obviously. Plenty of men are like it too. Especially those sorts you mentioned.

[Captain.Remy]

Guys can give a harder time to people than girls. We're more straight forward, loud but when we're in a group, we belong to the group, we have each other's back.

But girls are backstabbing sneaky bitches. They're treating each other like crap 24/7 and turn on people the same way Britney having another mental breakdown. However, they have a nicer deep than boys because at the end of the day, they care about your ass.

Therefore I'll say girls are meaner. Not being sexist or anything but DAYUUUUM, have you seen girls fighting and whipping each other's hair? For real, girls today are probably more dangerous than boys.

[Beastie]

completely agree with both of your comments. Very few of us don't have a bitch now and then, that's human nature - it's a rare person who never ever does:- but backstabbing as you say is one of the most nasty, vile, behaviours ever and woman I think do indeed excel in this. I agree with your thoughts: it's usually down to jealousy or their own insecurities. A lot of woman I know think they are 'leaders' when in fact, they are just 'followers' - because they are so insecure.

As I said earlier though: there are men out there that are as bullying but on a different level: but equally as nasty for the recepient.

Yeah. I mean I talk about people behind their back. Not friends though.. I usually have a laugh with someone about managers at work.. which ones we like.. which ones we are unsure of. With friends I don't bitch about them. Or at the very most.. if I had a problem with a friend then I would ask someone for advice then go back to that friend.

Don't see a point in backstabbing someone your always nice to. It's like living a lie.

Suppose in school we were all confused. Going through puberty. All insecure in some way or other. No excuse for people's extreme horrible behaviour though.

[Pyramid*]

Oh yeah it's generalizing on my part obviously. Plenty of men are like it too. Especially those sorts you mentioned.

To be fair, I think generalising 'on your part' is what we're all doing to an extent. Many types of bullying exist in various forms. It all very much depends on the type of bully. - regardless of whether male or female.

I often hear about 'cheating men' and 'men are b's'. for every man that falls into that category: there is equally a woman is exactly the same. Certainly from what I've seen in my years anyway. It's all relative.

[Pyramid*]

Guys can give a harder time to people than girls. We're more straight forward, loud but when we're in a group, we belong to the group, we have each other's back.

But girls are backstabbing sneaky bitches. They're treating each other like crap 24/7 and turn on people the same way Britney having another mental breakdown. However, they have a nicer deep than boys because at the end of the day, they care about your ass.

Therefore I'll say girls are meaner. Not being sexist or anything but DAYUUUUM, have you seen girls fighting and whipping each other's hair? For real, girls today are probably more dangerous than boys.

In this respect. I could not agree more. Both mentailly - and physically. I've seen women behave in a way that women very rarely ever behaved in years gone by - as though they are overdosed on testosterone. (sp). I'm not entirely convinced we (the human race) are evolving for the better.

[Pyramid*]

Yeah. I mean I talk about people behind their back. Not friends though.. I usually have a laugh with someone about managers at work.. which ones we like.. which ones we are unsure of. With friends I don't bitch about them. Or at the very most.. if I had a problem with a friend then I would ask someone for advice then go back to that friend.

Don't see a point in backstabbing someone your always nice to. It's like living a lie.

Suppose in school we were all confused. Going through puberty. All insecure in some way or other. No excuse for people's extreme horrible behaviour though.

first part in bold: this is what female 'true' friends do. they will broach the subject and clear the air. The 'supposed' friends don't....they will agree with you to your face, then rip you to shreds with others (males and females) within their social groups. Gang mentality I suppose coming into play and trying to be top dog, seeming to be popular (back to insecurity etc).

second part in bold. You again are right......with maturity comes experience -and any lesson learned personally through experience tends often to be the best lesson in which you learn from.

EG: how many times do you hear people say, "i'm never turning into my mother / father"..... whizz to 20 years on, and they find they are doing exactly that!!! lol

A lot of the same principle applies. Also very much depends on the emotional maturity (and self confidence) of the 'younger' individual.

[Doogle]

Boys can be nasty but they often just say stupid things to be cool, and don't neccessarily mean it.

Girls can be very bitchy for no reason whatsoever and usually mean it in a malicious way, so I'll go with girls from what I've seen. :joker:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Girls

Boys are too busy doing things.

[BB_Eye]

I went to a single-sex school so it's difficult to say. Most boys in my school were absolutely revolting. Nobody was ever quite as bad in sixth form, but I would say boys still had a slight edge in the nastiness stakes. Not by much though. Plus I am not female, which means I don't really bear the brunt of women's wrath. :D

[Patrick]

Girls.

Men are just chilled out.
The song 'Girls Just Want To Have Fun' should of been made for lads - obviously a less camp version though.

Because men are usually laidback, just want to have a good life.

Women are bitchy ******ers, that aren't happy until everyone else around them is miserable.
Then they use their periods as an excuse for their stroppy tantrums, the ******s.

[Niall]

Girls.

Men are just chilled out.
The song 'Girls Just Want To Have Fun' should of been made for lads - obviously a less camp version though.

Because men are usually laidback, just want to have a good life.

Women are bitchy ******ers, that aren't happy until everyone else around them is miserable.
Then they use their periods as an excuse for their stroppy tantrums, the ******s.

*Points out to Patrick that if he turns Gay he won't have to deal with women* :evilgrin:

[Patrick]

*Points out to Patrick that if he turns Gay he won't have to deal with women* :evilgrin:

:joker::joker::joker:

[Josy]

Girls can be right bitchy when they feel like it.

[hannah.]

girls are bitchy and malicious sometimes, usually only about other girls because of their own insecurities (I do this), and generally boys are mean to peoples faces because they either don't realise or don't care. although I know a lot of people who flip that analogy, so it does depend entirely on the person. for example my boyfriend says things behind peoples backs but is fine with them face to face, because he doesn't want anyone to dislike him (it really pisses me off) and his housemate is SO bitchy behind people's backs and snotty with them when he sees them (in the way bitchy girls do) so I dunno. I think it depends on the person and we're stereotyping

[Pyramid*]

Girls.

Men are just chilled out.
The song 'Girls Just Want To Have Fun' should of been made for lads - obviously a less camp version though.

Because men are usually laidback, just want to have a good life.

Women are bitchy ******ers, that aren't happy until everyone else around them is miserable.
Then they use their periods as an excuse for their stroppy tantrums, the ******s.


Given the very descriptive and foul mouthed adjectives that you have used about the female sex ...... :oI'd very much say you have proven your own point wrong about 'men are just chilled out'. :hugesmile:

[Stu]

To be fair, I think generalising 'on your part' is what we're all doing to an extent. Many types of bullying exist in various forms. It all very much depends on the type of bully. - regardless of whether male or female.

I often hear about 'cheating men' and 'men are b's'. for every man that falls into that category: there is equally a woman is exactly the same. Certainly from what I've seen in my years anyway. It's all relative.
I reckon girls as a whole are more malicious than boys though, especially at a school level.

For every controlling man there is a legion super controlling woman dominated relationship that aren't made that big a deal of because it's been trivialized and humored in society as just the man being 'pussy whipped'. These form literally 90% of my males friends relationships that I know of. They need to just grow a pair and tell her to feck off sometimes. You wouldn't believe the stuff I hear.

And yes, personal experience, generalization, blah blah i'ts just my opinion that as far as cunning, maliciousness and calculated meanstreaks go women have men's number.

[Pyramid*]

I reckon girls as a whole are more malicious than boys though, especially at a school level.

For every controlling man there is a legion super controlling woman dominated relationship that aren't made that big a deal of because it's been trivialized and humored in society as just the man being 'pussy whipped'. These form literally 90% of my males friends relationships that I know of. They need to just grow a pair and tell her to feck off sometimes. You wouldn't believe the stuff I hear.

And yes, personal experience, generalization, blah blah i'ts just my opinion that as far as cunning, maliciousness and calculated meanstreaks go women have men's number.


overall.......agreed! though dont' think it's stays in school - honestly. I think some females have this as an ingrained part of their being - they are either 'like that' or not - and that continues throughout their lives - regardless of age. 'some' not all...

[Liberty4eva]

Seems to me that when people say girls backstab they mean they spread rumors behind people's backs. If that's as far as they go I'd be hard pressed to say they're meaner than guys.

[Pyramid*]

Seems to me that when people say girls backstab they mean they spread rumors behind people's backs. If that's as far as they go I'd be hard pressed to say they're meaner than guys.


I can't speak for anyone else, but that's not entirely what I mean. What I mean by backstabbing is that they will say one thing to your face, but then discuss the 'subject' in a totally different light to others behind your back.

The ones that are all sweetness and light, ones that you think you can trust, only to find that what was meant to be discussed in private between both of you, you find that in fact, not only do they betray that trust, they revel in the fact that you did trust them, and they then revel in telling others when revealing all behind your back. It happens in work, play and rest!

"Man speak with forked tongue" (in this case, woman!!). Men can be sometimes as bad - though my experience is that women are worse at this type of thing.

[Liberty4eva]

I can't speak for anyone else, but that's not entirely what I mean. What I mean by backstabbing is that they will say one thing to your face, but then discuss the 'subject' in a totally different light to others behind your back.

The ones that are all sweetness and light, ones that you think you can trust, only to find that what was meant to be discussed in private between both of you, you find that in fact, not only do they betray that trust, they revel in the fact that you did trust them, and they then revel in telling others when revealing all behind your back. It happens in work, play and rest!

"Man speak with forked tongue" (in this case, woman!!). Men can be sometimes as bad - though my experience is that women are worse at this type of thing.

Maybe you and I have different standards for meanness. Men can be saddistic also but maybe in different ways. For example, if I woke up one morning and discovered that my house had been egged I would be stunned if a girl had done it. Guys are mean in ways that incorporate the physical and, to me, that's more mean than the verbal he said she said stuff.