Do we give new members too much of a hard time?

[InOne]

Or do they deserve a bit of a grilling to see if they can tough it out or not?

[Doogle]

I felt welcomed and no one gave me a hard time. :amazed:

[Smithy]

No

We should dunk them all, if they drown they're real, if they survive permban them for being a multi

[Ninastar]

No, they deserve it for being new

[joeysteele]

Most people on here are welcoming to new members,I don't think anyone has the right to grill someone who joins a forum. All forums 'need' new members,be unwelcoming to them and grill them,then they are not likely to stay or recommend the forum to others.

New members are needed, this is not just an exclusive club for some to the detriment of new opinions, new thinking and new people joining.

[King Gizzard]

Considering the ratio of new members in the past just being existing members I can understand why people are doubtful but questioning them as soon as they post their first thread is a bit too much.

[Redway]

Considering the ratio of new members in the past just being existing members I can understand why people are doubtful but questioning them as soon as they post their first thread is a bit too much.

You didn't accept my friend request...but I've had to suffer this sort of "abuse". LOOL...

[Ramsay]

seeing as TIBB is such a wee circle of a group i can see why new ones get grilled but they shouldnt
i always try and be nice as i can

[MTVN]

I think generally this forum's not too bad, but as soon as one person get suspicious of a new member then everyone seems to :laugh:

[Redway]

I think generally this forum's not too bad, but as soon as one person get suspicious of a new member then everyone seems to :laugh:

True. I was so annoyed yesterday - everybody was accusing me of being a PBU. I was drunk, too, so I may have been talking some rubbish...:joker:

But I do think that's a horrible reputation to have on here - it's no wonder some members join other forums.

[Redway]

Considering the ratio of new members in the past just being existing members I can understand why people are doubtful but questioning them as soon as they post their first thread is a bit too much.

A bit? You only need to look at yesterday's posts, and see how I was accused. It's not at all welcoming. I'm not suprised that a lot of users join other forums. I think that members on here need to at least be welcoming and set a good reputation of this site. Being accused of PBU on your first day doesn't exactly make you feel welcome.

[Novo]

We have a few Bully's on the forum like Vicky Ukturtle Iceman and Niamh but then we have members like Myself Locke Scott Shaun and Stu who make the newbies feel welcome

[Vicky.]

I would imagine its very off putting to new members to straight away be accused of being another member. or have their welcome threads full of :suspect:

However, I can also understand why most are automatically suspicious of new accounts. Not really any need for everyone to jump on them though :/

[Zippy]

...Not really any need for everyone to jump on them though :/

this

so cringey when members gang up. Even if I don't like somebody Ill back off if I see others already at them.

[Shaun]

only the ones that're quite blatantly trolls. Which sadly seems to be over 50% of new members atm.

I mean, Doogle, CharlieO and Black_Dagger are some examples of new members who I think everyone's accepted.

[seanraff07]

They deserve to be welcomed.

If not then no one will replace the members that leave.

[Redway]

We have a few Bully's on the forum like Vicky Ukturtle Iceman and Niamh but then we have members like Myself Locke Scott Shaun and Stu who make the newbies feel welcome

You? You sent me a threatening PM...:hugesmile:

[Redway]

They deserve to be welcomed.

If not then no one will replace the members that leave.

Thank you! :)

[Redway]

I would imagine its very off putting to new members to straight away be accused of being another member. or have their welcome threads full of :suspect:

However, I can also understand why most are automatically suspicious of new accounts. Not really any need for everyone to jump on them though :/

I being the latest victim. ;)

[Novo]

You? You sent me a threatening PM...:hugesmile:

:crazy:

[Redway]

:crazy:

Yup! Vicky, thank goodness, deleted them. :)

[Novo]

you are insane

[Patrick]

No.

If they 'type like dis n 4nk dey no everyfin about big bruva as if we hve neva seen it b4'.

Then they deserve to be banned and insulted.
If they just be cool and fit in and be normal, then it's all good.

[Lee.]

It's one thing that annoys me about Tibb: the way that new members are treated. It's a public forum and members have as much right to post here as older members!

[Redway]

you are insane

Nope. Ask Vicky. She'll tell you. You posted on my visitor's messages wall telling me to back off before you "kill me". ;)

[Redway]

It's one thing that annoys me about Tibb: the way that new members are treated. It's a public forum and members have as much right to post here as older members!

Definitely! You can barely post a message without being called a PBU!

[Zippy]

You? You sent me a threatening PM...:hugesmile:

nosey + bored =

what did the PM threaten?

[joeysteele]

I think you will find Redway,over time that the vast majority of people on here are welcoming and supportive at times too.

I am sad that you feel you have not had a good welcome,I have only been on 1 year nearly but I would have to say that in that time I have come to respect a lot of people on here even though I may strongly disgree with them.

I hope your continued time on here is better for you and that you see the really good side of the forum members too.

Happyland has just said virtually what I was going to. She is 100% correct

[Redway]

No.

If they 'type like dis n 4nk dey no everyfin about big bruva as if we hve neva seen it b4'.

Then they deserve to be banned and insulted.
If they just be cool and fit in and be normal, then it's all good.

But they don't. That's my point. If everybody could stop being so judgmental and see what they have to offer.

[Redway]

nosey + bored =

what did the PM threaten?

Look at the last few posts of the latter page. :)

[Redway]

I think you will find Redway,over time that the vast majority of people on here are welcoming and supportive at times too.

I am sad that you feel you have not had a good welcome,I have only been on 1 year nearly but I would have to say that in that time I have come to respect a lot of people on here even though I may strongly disgree with them.

I hope your continued time on here is better for you and that you see the really good side of the forum members too.

Happyland has just said virtually what I was going to. She is 100% correct

It's posts like these that make you realise that some people are here to bring good will. I like you. I'll add you. :)

[joeysteele]

It's one thing that annoys me about Tibb: the way that new members are treated. It's a public forum and members have as much right to post here as older members!

Straight to the point post Happyland,as ever you are totally right.

[seanraff07]

Thank you! :)

No problem. You seem reasonably nice anyway not sure why people would treat you unfairly.

[Stu]

The only people who get treated bad are those who are clearly trolls or previous members. It's that simple. Or in extreme cases of course people who are neither but can barely speak English, clearly have an agenda, or are generally just mongs but then again that's not limited to new members is it.

[Redway]

No problem. You seem reasonably nice anyway not sure why people would treat you unfairly.

Thanks. I was drunk yesterday, so...you may check my posts. :)

[Redway]

The only people who get treated bad are those who are clearly trolls or previous members. It's that simple.

Once again, you are completely incorrect.

[joeysteele]

It's posts like these that make you realise that some people are here to bring good will. I like you. I'll add you. :)

Thank you,

[Redway]

This shouldn't even be asked as a question - it's that obvious.

[Judas]

only the ones that're quite blatantly trolls. Which sadly seems to be over 50% of new members atm.

I mean, Doogle, CharlieO and Black_Dagger are some examples of new members who I think everyone's accepted.

- wonders if I am still considered new -

[Stu]

Once again, you are completely incorrect.
Oh no sir I apologisd to you yesterday but you must have been too drunk to remember - after all as you are keen to point out to anyone that will listen you were totally drunk which is what caused you to post all those overly kind, perfectly typed, oddly non drunken looking posts :).

[Shaun]

-can't remember life without judas-

[Redway]

Oh no sir I apologisd to you yesterday but you must have been too drunk to remember - after all as you are keen to point out to anyone that will listen you were totally drunk which is what caused you to post all those overly kind, perfectly typed, oddly non drunken looking posts :).

:rolleyes:

[Niall]

Redway, for the love of God. Please use the multiquote button. Your driving me insane with all these singular posts. askjfdskjfha :bawling:

[Patrick]

But they don't. That's my point. If everybody could stop being so judgmental and see what they have to offer.

Yes they do.

The majority of new members are either Spam Bots for Walmart in America or silly 10 Year olds who think because they've hit the double digits they can join a Big Brother forum now.

That's the honest truth.
I love new members - it's like fresh meat and new minions.

But it has to be said the majority join up and advertise something like their Sims Big Brother series or how Taco Belle are doing great deals in San Francisco or make a thread about how they know something about BB12 we don't - when it's either or not true, or we found it out like 3 weeks before.

[Redway]

Redway, for the love of God. Please use the multiquote button. Your driving me insane with all these singular posts. askjfdskjfha :bawling:

No probs! :cool:

[Redway]

Yes they do.

The majority of new members are either Spam Bots for Walmart in America or silly 10 Year olds who think because they've hit the double digits they can join a Big Brother forum now.

That's the honest truth.
I love new members - it's like fresh meat and new minions.

But it has to be said the majority join up and advertise something like their Sims Big Brother series or how Taco Belle are doing great deals in San Francisco or make a thread about how they know something about BB12 we don't - when it's either or not true, or we found it out like 3 weeks before.

Fair enough. :)

[Zippy]

You seem reasonably nice anyway not sure why people would treat you unfairly.

theyre jealous of his mighty fine ass

[seanraff07]

theyre jealous of his mighty fine ass

Noice

[GypsyGoth]

I think new members get welcomed, even when there is doubts about them, look at all the one post wonders in the Lounge, they have a similar way of wording posts but most are greeted warmly, even though they are probably sometype of spammers.

The only two times recently I noticed new members getting treated with suspicion are Redway and Mr CW. And I think it was because of posting style in both cases.

[Glenn.]

Idiot new posters should be pushed out by verbal abuse from the superior members, its the way of life.















:joker:

Not really. Except for the idiot posters like Patrick imitated.

[Pyramid*]

I think new members get welcomed, even when there is doubts about them, look at all the one post wonders in the Lounge, they have a similar way of wording posts but most are greeted warmly, even though they are probably sometype of spammers.

The only two times recently I noticed new members getting treated with suspicion are Redway and Mr CW. And I think it was because of posting style in both cases.

Well in fairness; one of them made a bit of a song and dance about DS - about being banned, handing out advise on how to reregister after being banned etc....and then went on to announce that they had been permabanned several times but kept reregistering - ie: they are in fact, not new to being a PBU on DS - and more than once or twice. Given that information being freely volunteered by said individual - it's not surprising people will have doubts. Especially when they have only just joined another forum (tibbs).

[Beastie]

I think newbies should be welcomed. It's not nice if they came on and members starting having a dig at them.

I remember the lights of Stu were brutal with me when I first joined. He's not as brutal now though.

Captain Remy was a bit brutal too! :shocked:

[Benjamin]

I made clear the other day that jumping on new members won't be tolerated. We should be encouraging new members to stay.

If you do have suspicions though, then PM a mod/admin and we'll look into it for you. :thumbs:

[Zippy]

I made clear the other day that jumping on new members won't be tolerated...

can we jump on them sexually? :evilgrin:

[Benjamin]

can we jump on them sexually? :evilgrin:

Be my guest, but you'll have to beat Scott to it. ;)

[Redway]

I made clear the other day that jumping on new members won't be tolerated. We should be encouraging new members to stay.

If you do have suspicions though, then PM a mod/admin and we'll look into it for you. :thumbs:

Thank you! My complaints got dismissed the other day. :)

[Redway]

can we jump on them sexually? :evilgrin:

Go ahead! :D

[Redway]

I made clear the other day that jumping on new members won't be tolerated. We should be encouraging new members to stay.

If you do have suspicions though, then PM a mod/admin and we'll look into it for you. :thumbs:

That's with I being the latest victim. You should've seen what happened two days ago. Accused of being a PBU, called a "prick", etc. My complaints were totally dismissed. I was really annoyed, and was about to leave this site. Still here. ;)

[Redway]

Well in fairness; one of them made a bit of a song and dance about DS - about being banned, handing out advise on how to reregister after being banned etc....and then went on to announce that they had been permabanned several times but kept reregistering - ie: they are in fact, not new to being a PBU on DS - and more than once or twice. Given that information being freely volunteered by said individual - it's not surprising people will have doubts. Especially when they have only just joined another forum (tibbs).

Yeah, but it's not, though. Since I got banned from DS, I thought to myself, why not join another forum? There's nothing suspicious at all, and it's got nothing to do with you if I did anyway, which I didn't. If you don't believe me, go and see a moderator/administrator about it. ;)

[Pyramid*]

Yeah, but it's not, though. Since I got banned from DS, I thought to myself, why not join another forum? There's nothing suspicious at all, and it's got nothing to do with you if I did anyway, which I didn't. If you don't believe me, go and see a moderator/administrator about it. ;)

Steps ahead of you, steps ahead. ;)

Of course it's suspicious. You happily admit to being a PBU (and several times a PBU) within days of you joining Tibbs...... therefore it's entirely feasible that you may have been a PBU on Tibbs as well as DS. Entirely feasible.

Whether you are or not time will tell. If and when that time comes, I will be the first one to offer my apology to you. Until then however, enjoy Tibbs.

[Redway]

Steps ahead of you, steps ahead. ;)

Of course it's suspicious. You happily admit to being a PBU (and several times a PBU) within days of you joining Tibbs...... therefore it's entirely feasible that you may have been a PBU on Tibbs as well as DS. Entirely feasible.

Whether you are or not time will tell. If and when that time comes, I will be the first one to offer my apology to you. Until then however, enjoy Tibbs.

Thank you! I am telling you I'm not, but, still. We're all entitled to do what we want. Go ahead. ;)

Thanks for offering that apology to me - which you will - and I'll be here waiting for you. ;)

[Pyramid*]

That's with I being the latest victim. You should've seen what happened two days ago. Accused of being a PBU, called a "prick", etc. My complaints were totally dismissed. I was really annoyed, and was about to leave this site. Still here. ;)

Weren't you extolling the virtues of the mods only the other day - how fab they were - and now you're saying they dismiss your complaints. How confusing!!

Thank you! I am telling you I'm not, but, still. We're all entitled to do what we want. Go ahead. ;)

Thanks for offering that apology to me - which you will - and I'll be here waiting for you. ;)

thanks for letting me know I'm allowed my own opinion - quite unecessary.

As for the completely smarmy reply ....... I might just rescind that offer after all. ;)

See you around ;)

Just for you here's another one ;)

:hugesmile:

[Redway]

Weren't you extolling the virtues of the mods only the other day - how fab they were - and now you're saying they dismiss your complaints. How confusing!!



thanks for letting me know I'm allowed my own opinion - quite unecessary.

As for the completely smarmy reply ....... I might just rescind that offer after all. ;)

See you around ;)

Just for you here's another one ;)

:hugesmile:

:D

See you around. ;)

[CharlieO]

I felt welcomedish but I didn't really join then post loads straight away, I also never made a hey I'm new thread so I kind of just think I slowly seeped in and I guess now I'm like a regular. But perosonally I think memebers without an avatar seem much more suspicious than otherwise so I'd advise new members to make sure they have a memorable picture.

[Pyramid*]

I felt welcomedish but I didn't really join then post loads straight away, I also never made a hey I'm new thread so I kind of just think I slowly seeped in and I guess now I'm like a regular. But perosonally I think memebers without an avatar seem much more suspicious than otherwise so I'd advise new members to make sure they have a memorable picture.

LOL... I recall when I joined: I got the usual suspects Stacey, Jordan, Jack et al, jumping on me with the most vicious comments and personal insults - and I remember one post, within about my 5th post or something giving real grief (I think it was 'In One' or The Beast?? sorry guys if it wasnt you!!) - and my reply was a polite but very firm version of 'Don't piss around with me mate.....' :hugesmile:

[CharlieO]

LOL... I recall when I joined: I got the usual suspects Stacey, Jordan, Jack et al, jumping on me with the most vicious comments and personal insults - and I remember one post, within about my 5th post or something giving real grief (I think it was 'In One' or The Beast?? sorry guys if it wasnt you!!) - and my reply was a polite but very firm version of 'Don't piss around with me mate.....' :hugesmile:

Omg, when I joined stacey was lovely to me, probably the most welcoming person out of everyone at the time. No one gave me propper greif at all.
I dont even remember when I started posting to be honest, I joined in november becuase of the BB12 news and BBDVD's and I dont think I was even noticed until january if even that early.

[Pyramid*]

Omg, when I joined stacey was lovely to me, probably the most welcoming person out of everyone at the time. No one gave me propper greif at all.
.

Redway has taken a wee shine to you too!!! LOL

[CharlieO]

Redway has taken a wee shine to you too!!! LOL

:joker:

[joeysteele]

No one, I have to say was really awful to me when I first joined.I'm not a suspicious person in that I don't look for reasons to doubt anyone,I prefer to look for what is good in people.
Even the people who sometimes annoy me on here, I still can agree at times with lot's that they say and I still try to get along with them.

I think new members do need to be welcomed and both old and new members could try to respect each others different ways of posting,
Writing things you want to say down, doesn't always to the reader come across the way it was intended to,a humerous comment could be construed as an angry and confrontational one not actually hearing how it is said but only by how it's written.

[Suze]

Omg, when I joined stacey was lovely to me, probably the most welcoming person out of everyone at the time. No one gave me propper greif at all.
I dont even remember when I started posting to be honest, I joined in november becuase of the BB12 news and BBDVD's and I dont think I was even noticed until january if even that early.

I think it has more to do with 'when' a newbie joins. I joined about the time of the Ben, Mario, and JJJ debates. Although for the most part I had no big problems with the supporters of JJJ, I always seemed to have a Molette or two on my back. So it was a lot with who supported whom in BB11 at that time, so it was more to do with that than having troubles with some members. Since then, I have managed to gauge most of the style and wit of the posters, especially the more prolific posters and get where some are coming from and with better understanding hopefully. This helps in how I relate then to posts :) There will always be a very few members who get on my wick, but that is the same as people in the outside world, you just can't gel with everyone as there will always be those clashes with some, but hopefully can a majority of them.

[joeysteele]

I think it has more to do with 'when' a newbie joins. I joined about the time of the Ben, Mario, and JJJ debates. Although for the most part I had no big problems with the supporters of JJJ, I always seemed to have a Molette or two on my back. So it was a lot with who supported whom in BB11 at that time, so it was more to do with that than having troubles with some members. Since then, I have managed to gauge most of the style and wit of the posters, especially the more prolific posters and get where some are coming from and with better understanding hopefully. This helps in how I relate then to posts :) There will always be a very few members who get on my wick, but that is the same as people in the outside world, you just can't gel with everyone as there will always be those clashes with some, but hopefully can a majority of them.

I agree Suze,really strong and enlightening post, I was a Ben supporter and got some jjames people getting at me but that was part of the debate as you say.
You are right in your statement as to getting used to the way posters post their comments, it takes time to work out where they are coming from and how they mean things.I try to do that and think in the main I manage to.

[Niamh.]

Innocent until proven guilty I say!

[Niamh.]

lol at the order of the tags

[joeysteele]

Innocent until proven guilty I say!

Well said, as ever a reasoned, fair and right comment.

[Niamh.]

Well said, as ever a reasoned, fair and right comment.

lol, thanks Joey:love:

[Niall]

lol at the order of the tags

:joker::joker::joker::joker::joker:

[michael21]

No one gave me a hard time when i join last year :hugesmile::hugesmile::hugesmile:

[Livia]

Or do they deserve a bit of a grilling to see if they can tough it out or not?

I came here from a different forum, one where any kind of cliquiness or insult would not be tolerated by the mods, whether or not they knew you and despite how long you'd been a member. I don't think I've ever been on another forum where members are allowed to insult other people the way they do here, despite what it says in the rules. It's a proper struggle for newbies, I think, as some people seem to delight in being rude and insulting to new members knowing no one will do anything because they've been here a while.

Of course, not everyone is like that, and everyone's experience is different. I've also met some really nice, intelligent, friendly people here. Like you, InOne. But you're somewhat outnumbered.

[Ammi]

I don't think its ok to give a new member a hard time based on who and what you think they are, thats different to not necessarily agreeing with their opinions. If mods are suspicious of them, then they will deal with that when they know for sure. Otherwise, its not up to members to be judge and jury. By the way, welcome to the forum Redway. I'm sure you will fit in well when the paranoia dies down. :wavey:

[CharlieO]

I think it has more to do with 'when' a newbie joins. I joined about the time of the Ben, Mario, and JJJ debates. Although for the most part I had no big problems with the supporters of JJJ, I always seemed to have a Molette or two on my back. So it was a lot with who supported whom in BB11 at that time, so it was more to do with that than having troubles with some members. Since then, I have managed to gauge most of the style and wit of the posters, especially the more prolific posters and get where some are coming from and with better understanding hopefully. This helps in how I relate then to posts :) There will always be a very few members who get on my wick, but that is the same as people in the outside world, you just can't gel with everyone as there will always be those clashes with some, but hopefully can a majority of them.

I can agree with that, there are people I don't gel with but I wouldn't like to single them out to others just because they aren't my cup of tea. I think being rude to new people because they are new isn't very nice because I know myself if people were rude to me just based on being new I would probably not want to come back here. Obviously arguments because of BB are inevitable but at the moment I don't think new members should be singled out at all.

[Benjamin]

Yeah, but it's not, though. Since I got banned from DS, I thought to myself, why not join another forum? There's nothing suspicious at all, and it's got nothing to do with you if I did anyway, which I didn't. If you don't believe me, go and see a moderator/administrator about it. ;)

One thing though which does annoy me slightly. You reply to everyone in an individual post but you can use the multiquote option and reply to them in one post. I don't know if you were aware of that, so thought I would let you know. :)

[Redway]

One thing though which does annoy me slightly. You reply to everyone in an individual post but you can use the multiquote option and reply to them in one post. I don't know if you were aware of that, so thought I would let you know. :)

Oh. Thanks. :)

That's what I got banned from DS for! :)

[michael21]

I can agree with that, there are people I don't gel with but I wouldn't like to single them out to others just because they aren't my cup of tea. I think being rude to new people because they are new isn't very nice because I know myself if people were rude to me just based on being new I would probably not want to come back here. Obviously arguments because of BB are inevitable but at the moment I don't think new members should be singled out at all.

One thing though which does annoy me slightly. You reply to everyone in an individual post but you can use the multiquote option and reply to them in one post. I don't know if you were aware of that, so thought I would let you know. :)

Oh. Thanks. :)

That's what I got banned from DS for! :)

Sorry i not use this multiquote thing befor just want to see how it works :hugesmile:

[Vicky.]

Sorry i not use this multiquote thing befor just want to see how it works :hugesmile:

:D

[Jords]

Some yes, some no.

Depends if theyre trolly but I just tend to ignore it tbh.

[Zippy]

Sorry i not use this multiquote thing befor just want to see how it works :hugesmile:

:joker::joker:

yo crazy, bitch

[Kerry]

Only the suspicious ones that I've noticed get grilled. Only natural if they do arise suspicion in how they act on here

[Jarrod]

I know when i joined i felt really uneasy.. :L now i just get on with everyone :L

[Josy]

I deleted some posts, stop with the arguing in here please.

[Redway]

Thanks JS. Mum situ was inevitable but that's besides the point.

I will however not accept any member (new or otherwise) MAKING OUT that they are some poor wee victim being picked upon, making out that they were being given some sort of unjust treatment -when they were/are more than capable of being incredibly nasty, personal and out of order. The regrettable part is that the thread in question has been deleted - which doesn't show the amount of personal insults directed to me - before they place the most offensive post - at which point I reported it - as they had literally gone too far.

What I don't quite get is that the member concerned claims they were so drunk that they didn't know what they 'they had no idea what they were saying' (BUT somehow knew the very persons - at least 4 other members - to whom to offer an apology to for their 'drunken' comments - you know, the 'drunken comments' that they allegedly 'had no idea of saying' in the first place).

But hey: let's move on................................ :blush:

Really sorry to hear about your mum, Pyramid. :)