How did you come out?

[Ninastar]

or how did any of your friends come out?

This is inspired by a drunk heart to heart with a friend the other day where we spoke about our openly gay friend. He was bullied for so many years yet he came out in class. (he had told two friends, and his family but then he told a whole class) This was only in year 11, so there were still some immature idiots in school.

I never really realised how much courage it took him. I guess i have a better understanding now though

Did you come out in a special way, or know anyone that did?

[Black Dagger]

Mum, Dad, I have something to tell you, but I know you already know anyway, because I overheard you talking about how you can't wait for me to find a lovely man and adopt... so yeah, I like boys.

Oh and then I told a few people through the power of dance, told my best friends in a dramatic 'shock annoucement' then came out to everybody on Facebook.

I'm glad it wasn't too difficult. Although I still have my moments where I do hate myself for being gay.

[Mystic Mock]

I don't know much,I remember I was meant to be 10lbs but was only 9.2lbs because I had stopped feeding.:bawling:

[King Gizzard]

the thread last less than 10 minutes without a joke

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[Black Dagger]

THIS WAS A SENSITIVE SUBJECT YOU BASTARDS.

:idc:

[Stu]

When I was sixteen I bunked off school and got hammered by myself at home because I still had eight cans of Dutch Gold under the bed from the week prior when we were meant to be going out [buying drink, storing drink secretly etc being a big deal back in those days].

So I started drinking at around 9 in the morning I guess and my mum arrived home abruptly [she was meant to be working until 6] at about lunchtime. So I'm sitting there plastered in the kitchen and she asks me whats going on and I literally used coming out as an excuse to trivialise the fact that I was drunk as ****.

Told her I was gay ... I wasn't gay. I was and am playing both fields but I sort of just blurted it out. It took me a year or so then to have the balls to just casually start to drop in to convorsation that oh yeah I'm not gay I'm bisexual after all.

Looking back on it that year crippled me. I basically spent a year being 'gay' before I set things straight. Keeping that bottled up was probably the catalyst for the rampant substance intake that would follow.

Mind you I'm the wussiest kind of bisexual possible. I wouldn't see a bloke as anything more than a short term, physical thing. It's basically an aesthetic attraction I have to a very small percentage of men. I know that's cliche for women nowadays to be a bit bisexual for the laugh but there we go.

[Mystic Mock]

THIS WAS A SENSITIVE SUBJECT YOU BASTARDS.

:idc:

:joker:

[Maia]

*assumes aromantic-asexuals can talk about this too*

I've never come out to my family because saying what I am isn't really a simple case of announcing it and I'm done, because most people don't even know what it is :tongue: I suppose they don't really need to know though, they might already have an idea by the fact I never show interest towards people in that way.

Told one of my friends (some of you will know her as Lizzy) on the phone though, and it was fairly easy to describe it to her.

[Benjamin]

I have recounted my story so many times on this subject. :laugh:

It's a long story but I was ousted out twice, once to my friends and then again to my family. Weird experience but glad I never have to experience those pre-coming out days again, they were so hard sometimes.

[Mystic Mock]

I imagine if I was gay that it wouldn't be nice to tell your family that your gay,especially if one of them was homophobic aswell.

[Ninastar]

I imagine if I was gay that it wouldn't be nice to tell your family that your gay,especially if one of them was homophobic aswell.

like half of mine are, so that's why i find it hard

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

when i was on a psych ward i grabbed this nurses dick (ya a male nurse) well i didnt grab it was complicated and he was leading me on and stuff so :hmph: so he had to tell the guy in charge and he got my parents in and told them and they was like why did you do that do you like men and i was like ya hai/ that was when i was 16 and still, nearly 5 years later my mum is still telling me i need a gf :bored: bitch im gay deal w/ it

[Shaun]

my mum asked if i was gay and i replied "yeah a bit"

[Marc]

:laugh: Shaun :love:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

:joker:

[Ninastar]

my mum asked if i was gay and i replied "yeah a bit"

my friend and I asked our gay friend in person if he was gay, and he was like 'no I'm bi' but then on facebook he told me the truth

asking the person is so intimidating and I never realised

were you scared when your mum asked you?

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

oh i came out to 1 person before that aswell this is gonna sound sf gay i was 14 and i just watched kemal come out of big brother and i was like wow such an inspiration so me and my friend went out and got pissed on a bridge and i told her then i woke up the next day and instantly regretted it and i went to blackpool with her the next day so it was super awkward but she didnt tell anybody and when i came out to everybody when i was 16 i was like well she already knew and they were like omg why didnt you tell me but ik other people would have said stuff :hmph:

[bbfan1991]

I'm not gay of course, although my friend confessed to me that he was gay and I thought that took guts because he was going through a rough patch with some certain people and just things elsewhere getting to him.

[Shaun]

To my friends though I decided to on a night out... I was very drunk and my hair was a mess and I also decided to come out as being in love with one of my best friends.

GREAT IDEA.
Well it was all taken fine and it was a weight off my shoulders but looking back it was a bit cringe.

[mizzy25]

im not gay but years ago a lass i worked with came out we all knew anyway but it was very hard for her the people we worked with were very easy going me included in that and we became good friends she even ended up having a relationship with another girl we work with. she was mega worried about telling her mam and dad incase they disowned her but after a talk with me and me saying her parents wud love her no matter wot and they prob knew anyway, she did come out and they were totally fine.

[Lee.]

I think a lot of people struggle with coming out to their parents over their friends..

One of my friends told me he was gay years ago and I was the only person in the world who knew... I tried telling him that if he came out properly, nobody would have a problem with it.. he wouldn't even think about it. He could be a right twat sometimes tbh, he was bitchy, bitter and sooo temperamental! I think he actually hated what he was and as a result, began to hate the world.

Eventually, after a long story and about two years, he took his mammy out for a meal and told her. I think he found the whole thing horrific tbh, but she was supportive and understanding and I swear he changed almost overnight. It was like a huge weight had been lifted from him: he became chilled out and happy to be himself. I think he saw his mum as the biggie to have to tell and after that was out the way, he found it quite natural to be able to tell other friends etc.

So yeah, I reckon the parents are probably the biggest problem when coming out... I reckon it takes a lot of bravery, but I think the majority of parents will be on your side. :)

[Ramsay]

Friend of mine told me over a joint
It was chilled

[bbfan1991]

I think a lot of people struggle with coming out to their parents over their friends..

One of my friends told me he was gay years ago and I was the only person in the world who knew... I tried telling him that if he came out properly, nobody would have a problem with it.. he wouldn't even think about it. He could be a right twat sometimes tbh, he was bitchy, bitter and sooo temperamental! I think he actually hated what he was and as a result, began to hate the world.

Eventually, after a long story and about two years, he took his mammy out for a meal and told her. I think he found the whole thing horrific tbh, but she was supportive and understanding and I swear he changed almost overnight. It was like a huge weight had been lifted from him: he became chilled out and happy to be himself. I think he saw his mum as the biggie to have to tell and after that was out the way, he found it quite natural to be able to tell other friends etc.

So yeah, I reckon the parents are probably the biggest problem when coming out... I reckon it takes a lot of bravery, but I think the majority of parents will be on your side. :)

It is a shame for those people who come out and their parents are unable to deal/accept it and in some cases disown their son/daughter or chuck them out of the home:(.

[Lee.]

To my friends though I decided to on a night out... I was very drunk and my hair was a mess and I also decided to come out as being in love with one of my best friends.

GREAT IDEA.
Well it was all taken fine and it was a weight off my shoulders but looking back it was a bit cringe.

:joker: I like how one of the things you remember about that night is the fact your hair was a mess!

[Lee.]

It is a shame for those people who come out and their parents are unable to deal/accept it and in some cases disown their son/daughter or chuck them out of the home:(.

I agree.. its something I will never understand and to be honest, any parent who acts like that should be ashamed of themselves! A parents love should be unconditional.

[Mystic Mock]

like half of mine are, so that's why i find it hard

Ouch,I reckon it would take them awhile to get used to it but I think they would be fine in the end,I could have just watched to much TV though.:joker:

[Sam:)]

Im not gay or bi so I didnt but everyone I know that came out to there family said their parents said they already knew:L

[Ninastar]

Ouch,I reckon it would take them awhile to get used to it but I think they would be fine in the end,I could have just watched to much TV though.:joker:

i think they will be okay with it in the end too, but she has told me before that she doesn't like it

and my dad said it's unnatural. he didn't mean it in a bad way though

[Niall]

It's weird for me seeing as my parents are in two different countries.

My mum found out via my Internet history (the less I say about that the better). She then decided to tell my dad and I've just never spoken with him about it since. I cant take the awkwardness of it and the whole thing has become a taboo subject with he and I. Conversely, mum and I are totally open about it now.

As for my friends however, only a very small amount know. I told a couple friends over Facebook (around 9/10 close friends) and that's it. I'm planning to come out at school en masse later in the year, but the only problem with that is that I can't decide how to do it. I was going to use Facebook initially but certain members of my family who I have on there, aren't all that accepting. My nan (who's something of a second mum to me as my own mother hasn't lived here since I was 5) is super religious and if she ever found out omg I couldn't bear to see her reaction.

[Mystic Mock]

i think they will be okay with it in the end too, but she has told me before that she doesn't like it

and my dad said it's unnatural. he didn't mean it in a bad way though

I don't know your parents obviously but by the way your describing your parents,they don't think before they speak and I also don't think they would say stuff like it's unnatural if they found you was gay or bi,I don't know which sexual category you are in,sorry.:joker:

[LemonJam]

Honestly, I'm 20 tomorrow and I'm not fully out. My parents are super Christian and some of my flatmates are homophobic so lolnottellingthem. Only close friends (and you bunch of strangers who could easily screw me over) know.

This sounds awful and probably offensive to a lot of people here... but being bi as long as I don't fall in love with a guy I can be happy with just girls, so I don't feel I'd need to tell parents/flatmates. Then there's the whole argument about being yourself yadayada. [/possibly offensive]

ANYWAY on topic, I told close friends online around age 14 and haven't really told people since. They've just found out when I'm drunk playing drinking games such as I have never etc :p

[Ninastar]

Honestly, I'm 20 tomorrow and I'm not fully out. My parents are super Christian and some of my flatmates are homophobic so lolnottellingthem. Only close friends (and you bunch of strangers who could easily screw me over) know.

This sounds awful and probably offensive to a lot of people here... but being bi as long as I don't fall in love with a guy I can be happy with just girls, so I don't feel I'd need to tell parents/flatmates. Then there's the whole argument about being yourself yadayada. [/possibly offensive]

ANYWAY on topic, I told close friends online around age 14 and haven't really told people since. They've just found out when I'm drunk playing drinking games such as I have never etc :p

I don't think that's offensive at all. I used to feel the same, but then I had a better understanding of who I am.

I'm still not 100% sure, but I don't think anyone is at this age

[Shaun]

i am offended

-tells elproximo-

[Lee.]

I'm offended too

-plans ways to tell your dull flatmates-

[Firewire]

I came out to one person at first and she was cool with it. I then told the guy that I'm closest to and he was very supportive and helped me out a lot. I told him that I'd tell people over time. It just came to the point where you tell people you can't trust and everyone finds out. But no one really ever spoke about it. One conversation at lunch where someone asks and you just reply "yes". Before this though I told my other closest friends and they were great with it, in fact pleased that I was gay. My parents don't know yet, although they probably suspect.

[fruit_cake]

*assumes aromantic-asexuals can talk about this too*

I've never come out to my family because saying what I am isn't really a simple case of announcing it and I'm done, because most people don't even know what it is :tongue: I suppose they don't really need to know though, they might already have an idea by the fact I never show interest towards people in that way.

Told one of my friends (some of you will know her as Lizzy) on the phone though, and it was fairly easy to describe it to her.

I often feel a bit like that, a bit vague and uninterested. I don't think sexuality is black and white for some people it's just a bit vague really.

[lostalex]

my parents found my porn.

[LemonJam]

I'm offended too

-plans ways to tell your dull flatmates-

pfft you don't like minge you can't be offended. :hmph:

[LemonJam]

i am offended

-tells elproximo-

omg not ma padre ah\

[Lee.]

pfft you don't like minge you can't be offended. :hmph:

I quite like my own :hmph:

[Shaun]

dw lee i like it too

[Z]

My mum's heartbroken and we don't talk in the way we used to. I know she loves me but I don't think she'll ever accept me. My dad's a lot more understanding but neither of them were expecting it, apparently, which I found surprising because I've never played up to any particular stereotype or lived any kind of lie, I've just kind of... existed. Maybe that's why they were surprised. I'm not even sure what I am, I think I might be asexual. I like the whole idea of romance but I just don't care about the sexual aspect. If I don't know, nobody knows :tongue:. My mum was snooping through my brother's things and found a letter I'd sent to him a few months ago talking about some stuff and she made it all about her and how she thinks everyone is laughing at them because they didn't know and all this stuff... I don't get it, I think she's got this idea into her head that because she didn't know, I must have had this seedy secret life that I really haven't had at all... meh.

[Shaun]

DOES SHE KNOW ABOUT ZETA ah\
-writes down more questions for Friday-

[Z]

DOES SHE KNOW ABOUT ZETA ah\
-writes down more questions for Friday-

My mum was Hugo :bawling:

[Jords]

Greg came out gay?

[CharlieO]

Greg came out gay?

I don't think he came out as gay. He came out as 'not straight' I think. But not gay.

[Ninastar]

my mum was hugo :bawling:

lolol

[Black Dagger]

Greg came out gay?

To be fair, I don't know who is gay anymore on this forum.

I remember there was a poll a while back with statistics of ages/sexuality etc, then it got hijacked and people ticked every box so I got confused =(.

[Shaun]

he's bi~

[Niall]

Bisexuals are just greedy people /controversial

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

idg 50/50 bis do they even exist
like surely you must have a preference for one or the other

[Jords]

idg 50/50 bis do they even exist
like surely you must have a preference for one or the other

I think youd have a preference but it might change from time to time :shrug:

[CharlieO]

idg 50/50 bis do they even exist
like surely you must have a preference for one or the other

That's like saying gays don't exist. Just because you don't understand something doesn't make it untrue.