What aspirations do you have?

[Marc]

Okay just a little poll, only two options.

Are you somebody who holds their education/career in a higher stead than your social development and keeping your friendships as strong as possible/making new friendships where opportunities arise, or are you the opposite to this, would you prefer to be a social butterfly and do you consider friendships to be a greater asset to you than a good education/career.

I have deliberately picked only two options because it helps to cut a clear divide in two of the most pivotable things in people's lives. There are plenty of other aspirations that people may have which could isolate or even include both of those above options but if you had to pick one, which would you pick and why?

[Marc]

Poll up.

[Ammi]

I don't think I can do this....I have very strong friendships with a few of my work colleagues...and friendships in general are very important...but my job is important too

[Marc]

That's why I made the poll LOL

It's supposed to be difficult! :laugh:

[MTVN]

Hmm I find it quite hard to get academically motivated tbh, I have no idea what I want for a job and I'm not the kind of person who's got really big career aspirations I don't think, would prefer a good job obviously but I don't want my life to revolve around it so I'd probably pick the latter even though I wouldnt call myself that much of a social butterfly either :laugh:

[Patrick]

Social, but I'm too young to be focussing on Education to that extent anyway.

[Livia]

Education/career... it means independence and the means to do the fun stuff. Having a good education and a successful career brings it's own social circles anyway, if you're that way inclined... which I am not.

[King Gizzard]

Well I hardly have either, so I have no idea

*wishes there was a random option*

[Samuel.]

Despite my laziness, definitely education/career. Achieving those goals would mean more to me than anything. I hate the thought of failing those aspirations, I'd feel like I had wasted my life as I know I'm capable.

Both are important though.

[ILoveTRW]

Career aspirations are definitely more important, its something you have to actually work at and make happen
Social stuff just happens, even though when im 80 and on my deathbed im sure these will be the moments that i will be looking back, and not the car i bought when i was 30

[Doogle]

I've grown to dislike people more recently. I love my friends but I'd rather have a small amount and focus on things like education and careers now. I'm so excited for getting a job one day and working my way up. That appeals to me more than just talking and maintaining friendships with people.

[Beastie]

I am neither. I am not too sociable and job wise I have a job I am content with. I could develop myself within the job if I really want but I suppose that means more stress and I am happy where I am.

Suppose I should develop more in social terms and be more confident around people.

[Beastie]

However which is more important to me? Probably the career one. I rather have a job than not have one and just lounge about with friends and not really have anything to look forward to.

[Ammi]

..well I'll have to choose career I guess...I'm certainly not a social butterfly

[Ninastar]

Career. I want to do the best I can career wise so I know that I'm doing okay financially when I'm older.

[Princess]

I don't think I have any career aspirations, I just wanna fall in love, get married and have loads of kids, oh and move to London. I belong in the 1940's.

[Marc]

I wont even lie to myself, at the moment I find it so much easier and more rewarding to actually make friends, be somebodies good friend and have a good laugh with people.

I am unsure of what I want to do when I finish Uni and it scares me to think of what my life is going to become, but I know what social skills and aspirations will always stay static in my life regardless of what path I take and as a result I definitely see my social aspirations being more of an asset to me as a person. I made a tit out of myself today to somebody on this forum and I felt so genuinelly horrible, my gut wrenched and I just felt awful.

[Locke.]

Social.

[Ammi]

I wont even lie to myself, at the moment I find it so much easier and more rewarding to actually make friends, be somebodies good friend and have a good laugh with people.

I am unsure of what I want to do when I finish Uni and it scares me to think of what my life is going to become, but I know what social skills and aspirations will always stay static in my life regardless of what path I take and as a result I definitely see my social aspirations being more of an asset to me as a person. I made a tit out of myself today to somebody on this forum and I felt so genuinelly horrible, my gut wrenched and I just felt awful.

I think you're probably right atm Marc...and quite often your 'social world' can lead to your career path too. For me, I think more than the two options you gave, the most important thing is confidence, it will help you to succeed in every area of your life. I've never had it myself but it is definately something I made sure I gave my sons.

[Marc]

Yeah, like I said in the OP there are sooo many aspirations but I found these two hardest to split really and wanted to see if others also did :laugh: It's an interesting result atm actually.

[Maia]

Social for me.

[Livia]

Find a job you love and never work again. I think that's the key, career wise, getting something out of what you do instead of having to go to work just because they pay you and not having any real connection with it. I don't get as much out of what I do as I used to so I'm going for a career change. The change is possible because I worked hard at my education. God, I'm a bore... I bore myself sometimes.

[Kizzy]

I was never carreer orientated, then i got to 36 trapped in a minimum wage job i hated being looked down on by call centre workers!...i went back to school, it was either that or go insane.

[Ammi]

Find a job you love and never work again. I think that's the key, career wise, getting something out of what you do instead of having to go to work just because they pay you and not having any real connection with it. I don't get as much out of what I do as I used to so I'm going for a career change. The change is possible because I worked hard at my education. God, I'm a bore... I bore myself sometimes.

..I could describe you as a few things, Livia...boring is not one of them. It's great you have a choice and even better that you intend to make the change..it's easy to talk yourself out of these things. I'm lucky, I love my job...I mean really love it, it's a vocation so I probably get more from it than I give

[Niamh.]

Social definitely, my family and friends are my main priority in life, If I didn't need to work, I wouldn't

[Ammi]

Social definitely, my family and friends are my main priority in life, If I didn't need to work, I wouldn't

....am I the only one who finds that funny

[Niamh.]

....am I the only one who finds that funny

I don't know what you're talking about :idc:

[Roy Mars III]

This is a hard one.

My biggest education aspiration is to get my doctorate in European history something I wanted for awhile though my laziness is worryingly getting the way a lot but I don't know if it's more important than my social aspirations to have a family,my friends, etc. So I have no idea.

[King Gizzard]

Better get off TiBB roy

[Ammi]

I don't know what you're talking about :idc:

...I knew you wouldn't...I mean you're *working* Niamh
* disclaimer...'working' is entirely fictional...no similarity to actual work was ever intended*

[Niamh.]

...I knew you wouldn't...I mean you're *working* Niamh
* disclaimer...'working' is entirely fictional...no similarity to actual work was ever intended*

I can multi task :idc:

[Niall]

Career. I want to do the best I can career wise so I know that I'm doing okay financially when I'm older.

This.

[mizzy25]

social i work part time to get money not in any way coz i want to or i love it lol

[RichardG]

The way I look at it is if I concentrate on my education and career, I can get a good paying job (hopefully!) and be fairly comfortable while still having some friends as well. However if I was to concentrate on friends only, I wouldn't be able to get a goob job. Focusing on my career seems to be the best option because you can have both.

[Marsh.]

Education/Career.

At this point in my life it's this that matters most as it determines where the rest of my life is headed, and sets me off on my independence. Without it I'd be living at home until I'm 40 most likely.

But, I've never been a "social butterfly". I get on well with work colleagues and I have my close friends and casual friends but constantly meeting new ones isn't a priority in any way, shape or form.

But, during the past year at uni we've had a lot of conference trips and talks so I've had the chance to mix with new people a bit.