Moral Dilemma

[Ammi]

Your best friend is about to get married. The ceremony will be performed in one hour, but you have seen, just before coming to the wedding, that your friend’s fiancee has been having an affair. If your friend marries this woman, she is unlikely to be faithful, but on the other hand, if you tell your friend about the affair, you will ruin his wedding. Would you, or would you not, tell your friend of the affair?

[Ninastar]

I would tell them

No point in them getting married then having to file for divorce once everything has been found out

[arista]

No


Let it take its Course.

[Samuel.]

Of course. It's a lot more important than a wedding day. The pain the inevitable divorce would bring would be worse. You wouldn't be a good friend if you'd let it play out.

[Roy Mars III]

Yeah, I'd tell them. I would want to be told.

[Vanessa]

I would tell them as well.

[Mrluvaluva]

Tough one. Your friend could react either way. If you don't tell them, and they find out you knew, they may be mad at you for not telling them. If you do tell them before the wedding, they may be mad at you for trying to spoil things and may refuse to believe it anyway (especially if their partner refutes your claims). Either way, you could lose a friend. I think I would tell them, and then they had the choice to proceed how they wanted. If they held my actions against me and wanted nothing to do with me afterwards, then they weren't such a good friend after all.

[Josy]

Yes I would tell them.

Is this the same thing that Lily posted in serious debates btw? there was 10 moral dilemas I'm sure this was one of them.

[Ammi]

Yes I would tell them.

Is this the same thing that Lily posted in serious debates btw? there was 10 moral dilemas I'm sure this was one of them.

..I couldn't remember this one but it could be

[Niamh.]

I would tell them especially since they weren't married yet, you could be preventing a whole lot of hassle later on down the road

[Ammi]

I don't know whether I would tell them..I very much doubt one hour before the wedding that they would listen anyway and all it would do is make me the enemy..and they would really need friends more than ever. And I know that may make people question whther I was a true friend..but this could have been a one off and I wouldn't know how accurate the facts were or any circumstances..so there's nothing to say they wouldn't go on to have a very happy marriage.

[Z]

I love moral dilemma threads!

I would tell my friend. Even if they reacted angrily towards me and I lost a friend, I'd know that I'd done the right thing which would help me get over losing a friend I think.

[Niamh.]

I don't know whether I would tell them..I very much doubt one hour before the wedding that they would listen anyway and all it would do is make me the enemy..and they would really need friends more than ever. And I know that may make people question whther I was a true friend..but this could have been a one off and I wouldn't know how accurate the facts were or any circumstances..so there's nothing to say they wouldn't go on to have a very happy marriage.

You did say an affair in your OP rather than a one night stand

[MTVN]

I would confront the fiancée first and see what they had to say, if I came away sure she would be unfaithful throughout the marriage I guess I'd tell my friend

[Samuel.]

I would confront the fiancée first and see what they had to say, if I came away sure she would be unfaithful throughout the marriage I guess I'd tell my friend

Read that first as comfort the fiancée, lul

He needs to know regardless. He's the one who should decide if he thinks she'll be faithful or not.

[Ammi]

You did say an affair in your OP rather than a one night stand

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to

[Shaun]

If they're my best friend I'd assume they'd trust my word, since there's nothing in the OP about having any proof, and therefore I'd tell him/her.

I see what you mean about it possibly being in the past but I find the idea of someone keeping something like that from my best friend something I should tell them.

[Niamh.]

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to

I just think an affair is in such a different league to a one night stand.....even if it was over, you have other things like lying right to your friends face on top of the actual cheating. If it were me I would rather know if my future husband had done that to me before I got married

[Mrluvaluva]

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to


So the affair is now over?

I think if your friend was truly a good friend, and they know you well, then they would listen to you. Unfortunately though sometimes, the heart rules the head.

[Jords]

Id easily tell them and then persuade them not to go through with it because there wont be trust and they canwait it out if they want to work on the relationship.

[Ammi]

I just think an affair is in such a different league to a one night stand.....even if it was over, you have other things like lying right to your friends face on top of the actual cheating. If it were me I would rather know if my future husband had done that to me before I got married

So the affair is now over?

I think if your friend was truly a good friend, and they know you well, then they would listen to you. Unfortunately though sometimes, the heart rules the head.

..I would want to know too..but I'm not sure it would make any difference to me actually marrying the person..not an hour before the wedding..it would if I found out earlier and I'd had time to confirm it myself..but I would be so in love..I'm not sure I would believe it..not straight away..but it would certainly plant some seeds and the marriage wouldn't start off good..suspicion and trust..and maybe if I hadn't have been told..the affair could have ended and I could be very happy in the marriage..I don't know..it is a hard one..I've just never been any good at telling friends what I know will hurt them..and I know by not telling them it's hurting them too..but I don't know..I think I'd do what MTVN said...talk to her and tell her she must tell him..or let her walk away from the wedding

[Bollo]

I would tell them but only if I knew firsthand (i.e seen texts / emails or seen them meeting), If I had just heard it from someone else I don't think I would unless they had proof

[Niamh.]

So Ammi..............going to any weddings soon? :suspect:

[Vicky.]

I would tell my friend. No question about it.

Was actually semi-in this situation a couple of years ago. But instead of friends in the scenario...it was my parents :S

[Ammi]

Oh lol....I don't think I'm going to get asked to any now..I'm the worst friend in the world
...I just don't think I could tell anyone that when they're so in love and an hour away from marrying the girl of their dreams..and maybe she's a reformed woman and will be faithful for the rest of her life :amazed:..and they'll be incredibly happy..and have beautiful children
..see how I'm trying here

[Niamh.]

I would tell my friend. No question about it.

Was actually semi-in this situation a couple of years ago. But instead of friends in the scenario...it was my parents :S

Oh **** :shocked: What did you do?

[Vicky.]

Oh **** :shocked: What did you do?

I told my dad in the end. Was such an awful situation to be in though. My mother told me when she was really drunk that she was seeing someone else and had been for a while...

My dad couldnt believe she had put me in that situation. They split up over it (yet remained married as the had already been divorced once when we were kids), she moved out and I thought she would hate me for it...but I'm to this day not even sure he told her it had come from me because she never once mentioned it to me after that and didnt seem weird with me or anything.

I had to tell him though, I have always been closer to my dad and i couldnt stand the thought of her taking the piss out of him. As it turned out, they werent getting on much anyway and it was the straw that broke the camels back.

They only just got back together recently when she found out she had cancer, because she needed someone with her a lot and he was spending more time at her house than at home with my brother. They seem a lot happier now :)

[Niamh.]

I told my dad in the end. Was such an awful situation to be in though. My mother told me when she was really drunk that she was seeing someone else and had been for a while...

My dad couldnt believe she had put me in that situation. They split up over it (yet remained married as the had already been divorced once when we were kids), she moved out and I thought she would hate me for it...but I'm to this day not even sure he told her it had come from me because she never once mentioned it to me after that and didnt seem weird with me or anything.

I had to tell him though, I have always been closer to my dad and i couldnt stand the thought of her taking the piss out of him. As it turned out, they werent getting on much anyway and it was the straw that broke the camels back.

They only just got back together recently when she found out she had cancer, because she needed someone with her a lot and he was spending more time at her house than at home with my brother. They seem a lot happier now :)

Wow, that was a really ****ty position to be in, sounds like you did the right thing though

[Vicky.]

Wow, that was a really ****ty position to be in, sounds like you did the right thing though

Took me ages to decide what to do, in the end gav told me to just 'tell your ****ing dad' because it was really getting me down and I was taking it out on him :laugh:

[Kazanne]

Your best friend is about to get married. The ceremony will be performed in one hour, but you have seen, just before coming to the wedding, that your friend’s fiancee has been having an affair. If your friend marries this woman, she is unlikely to be faithful, but on the other hand, if you tell your friend about the affair, you will ruin his wedding. Would you, or would you not, tell your friend of the affair?

Ammi,I cannot believe what I have just read,I mean REALLY !!,I was thinking about a question to post on TIBB and I kid you not it was on the same lines as this as I thought it would be quite a dilema for us with our best friends,it is just so weird I look at the thread and you've posted it,maybe it's just that great minds think alike,lol,and as for the question I really do not know what I would do,I'de probably plump for him finding out himself.Oh cripes not sure,I might HAVE to tell him

[Benjamin]

I would tell my friend. Better to have their heartbroken now then have their heart broken later, get divorced and end up losing money etc. to the other person in the divorce settlement.

[Ammi]

Ammi,I cannot believe what I have just read,I mean REALLY !!,I was thinking about a question to post on TIBB and I kid you not it was on the same lines as this as I thought it would be quite a dilema for us with our best friends,it is just so weird I look at the thread and you've posted it,maybe it's just that great minds think alike,lol,and as for the question I really do not know what I would do,I'de probably plump for him finding out himself.Oh cripes not sure,I might HAVE to tell him

LOL..when I started to read your post I thought you were talking about me not telling the friend..but yes..great minds

I feel as though I've got to justify myself here for seeming such a cr*p friend..but the thing is because we're all of dirrenet ages and have different experiences..that's going to effect how we view things. I am someone who very much lives by 'associations'..to things that have happened in the past..and I have been in quite a few situations where I have been aware of things which I know could destroy someone I cared about..and I haven't told them..couldn't bear to..and on everyone of those occassions everything has turned out well..without me doing it..and them not getting hurt. So I guess that's what rules how I think on this...but if it had of been the opposite..I hadn't told someone something and everything was turned out worse because of it..then I would be saying the opposite.
Does that make sense Kazanne..?

[Mystic Mock]

I would tell my best friend of the affair otherwise I wouldn't be a very good friend.

[Black Dagger]

I've torn apart relationships in the past.

This would be easy.

[Kizzy]

I actually did this, a collegue was shopping for wedding shoes when I told her...The wedding was called off, she thanked me for telling her. She met a lovely fella a couple of years later and now has twins :)

[Livia]

I would tell the fiancée that the game is up, and they'd better make sure their health insurance is up to date.

[Pyramid*]

My honest answer here would be keep out of it.

If it was something that happend in the past as you've now said, rather than it happening just the night before (which is sort of what the original post sounded like - orvice versa), especially if it was over, done and dusted: unless you knew all the facts - from all sides -his and hers - there are all sorts of things that could come into play that you know nothing about.

He could have had the 'affair' during a time when they had been taking a 'quiet relationship break', with no one really knowing they were on a break - and he would technically have done nothing wrong.

It could have happened during a argument and it was a mistake that he will live with for the rest of his life, on his own conscience - and he realised that she in fact, was the best thing that ever happened to him (the bride to be I mean) - and you getting involved could totally destroy that.

She too could have had some fling along the lines and no one found out about it, apart from him - and perhaps this was his 'payback'.

Personally unless 'you' (using the tern 'you' as in the 'friend') were in a position to know every single iota of information from both sides: I'd say you'd might be getting involved in something that you shouldn't.

I do understand wanting to not let your friend be treated like an idiot by this 'guy' - but unless you know that without a shadow of a doubt - I think it's better to keep out of it.


Edit: replaces the genders...... took a 2nd reading through to realise the friend is male and the 'supposed cheater' is the bride to be.

[Kazanne]

LOL..when I started to read your post I thought you were talking about me not telling the friend..but yes..great minds

I feel as though I've got to justify myself here for seeming such a cr*p friend..but the thing is because we're all of dirrenet ages and have different experiences..that's going to effect how we view things. I am someone who very much lives by 'associations'..to things that have happened in the past..and I have been in quite a few situations where I have been aware of things which I know could destroy someone I cared about..and I haven't told them..couldn't bear to..and on everyone of those occassions everything has turned out well..without me doing it..and them not getting hurt. So I guess that's what rules how I think on this...but if it had of been the opposite..I hadn't told someone something and everything was turned out worse because of it..then I would be saying the opposite.
Does that make sense Kazanne..?

Yes Ammi,sometimes it's best just to let things sort themselves out.

[Ramsay]

of course i'd tell them..couldnt stand there at the wedding and watch them get married knowing that

[Pyramid*]

Your best friend is about to get married. The ceremony will be performed in one hour, but you have seen, just before coming to the wedding, that your friend’s fiancee has been having an affair. If your friend marries this woman, she is unlikely to be faithful, but on the other hand, if you tell your friend about the affair, you will ruin his wedding. Would you, or would you not, tell your friend of the affair?

I don't know whether I would tell them..I very much doubt one hour before the wedding that they would listen anyway and all it would do is make me the enemy..and they would really need friends more than ever. And I know that may make people question whther I was a true friend..but this could have been a one off and I wouldn't know how accurate the facts were or any circumstances..so there's nothing to say they wouldn't go on to have a very happy marriage.

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to

..I would want to know too..but I'm not sure it would make any difference to me actually marrying the person..not an hour before the wedding..it would if I found out earlier and I'd had time to confirm it myself..but I would be so in love..I'm not sure I would believe it..not straight away..but it would certainly plant some seeds and the marriage wouldn't start off good..suspicion and trust..and maybe if I hadn't have been told..the affair could have ended and I could be very happy in the marriage..I don't know..it is a hard one..I've just never been any good at telling friends what I know will hurt them..and I know by not telling them it's hurting them too..but I don't know..I think I'd do what MTVN said...talk to her and tell her she must tell him..or let her walk away from the wedding

Oh lol....I don't think I'm going to get asked to any now..I'm the worst friend in the world
...I just don't think I could tell anyone that when they're so in love and an hour away from marrying the girl of their dreams..and maybe she's a reformed woman and will be faithful for the rest of her life :amazed:..and they'll be incredibly happy..and have beautiful children
..see how I'm trying here



See the bits I've highlighted.

Far too many assumptions going on here for my liking and jumping to conclusions.

there are far too many ifs, buts, coulds, maybes in all of this.

Besides which: if this all went on in the past - why on earth would you want to leave it to the very last minute to reveal all to your friend (male I now realise) - especially when you are saying in all of the above: you have no hard facts?

[Mrluvaluva]

I think most people would try and collate as much information they possibly could about the situation within the time they had available (only an hour), and talk to their friends fiancee if that was viable. It would be a matter of telling them what you are aware of, and then leaving them to act as they saw fit. You can only advise them of what you are aware of.

Later down the line, if things go wrong and it comes to light that you knew about the affair, you may not be forgiven so easily and instead be resented by them.

The closeness of your relationship with your friend, and your understanding of how they feel about things would be a deciding factor in how to treat the situation hopefully.

[GypsyGoth]

Apart from on tibb, I don't have any guy friends. So I'm not sure.

I guess I'd wait till the priest says that part about any objections.

[Jesus.]

Responsibility to my friend, means that I couldn't let them get married like that. I'd hate myself forever.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I'd want to be told.

My sisters friend went to a massive wedding as a +1, and during the speeches, the groom told everyone to pick off the envelope from under their chairs, and it was a picture of his now wife, with his best man.

Apparently he'd gone through with the whole thing, planning for this moment of revenge.

It's genius, but it would take some serious guts.

[Mrluvaluva]

Why did he go through with the wedding though?

[Pyramid*]

I think most people would try and collate as much information they possibly could about the situation within the time they had available (only an hour), and talk to their friends fiancee if that was viable. It would be a matter of telling them what you are aware of, and then leaving them to act as they saw fit. You can only advise them of what you are aware of.

Later down the line, if things go wrong and it comes to light that you knew about the affair, you may not be forgiven so easily and instead be resented by them.

The closeness of your relationship with your friend, and your understanding of how they feel about things would be a deciding factor in how to treat the situation hopefully.



The 'bit' I am not quite understanding though is this part


Your best friend is about to get married. The ceremony will be performed in one hour, but you have seen, just before coming to the wedding, that your friend’s fiancee has been having an affair.


Ammi. I am confused When you say that an hour before the ceremony, you have seen your friends fiancee has been having an affair: what exactly do you mean by that? Did you see the fiancee in a clincher with someone? How do you know it was an affair? Did you see them having sex?

Then there is reference to it being in the past, or could have been in the past? How well do you actually know the fiancee, that you would know about 'her past behaviour' but not have spoken to your male friend about his fiancee long before wedding bells chimed?

Sorry, I'm just not getting the gist of this?:conf:

[Livia]

It's just a moral dilemma question, like the dozen or so Lily posted recently. Just a "what would you do" scenario.

[Jesus.]

Why did he go through with the wedding though?

To shame the bride in front of all the guests, and her family. The wedding was massive and paid for by her father. It would have cost him a small fortune.

[Pyramid*]

It's just a moral dilemma question, like the dozen or so Lily posted recently. Just a "what would you do" scenario.

It doesn't come across that way though.

It comes across as though this is a moral dilemma that Ammi has personally given her choice of wording throughout all of the posts - there are personal references rather than 'generalisation' - which is why I'm commenting.

If it's all theoretical: regardless: my responses would remain the same.

[Livia]

I think the scenario's just developed, is all.

[Mrluvaluva]

We'll have enough for a whole film script soon. :joker:

[Vanessa]

We'll have enough for a whole film script soon. :joker:

Four weddings 2 ! :joker:

[thesheriff443]

i would keep my nose out.

[Niall]

Of course I would. I wouldn't be comfortable with letting my friend enter into a marriage thats only going to fall apart.

[Pyramid*]

I think the scenario's just developed, is all.

Ah, I see. My mistake then.........

Part of the confusion is the chopping and changing from an affair just before the wedding / one night stand / was in the past / over and done with etc!!! It very much depends on what the scenario is - and what precisely is known before any I would make a judgement call based on my previous posts.

[Pyramid*]

We'll have enough for a whole film script soon. :joker:

:laugh3:

[joeysteele]

If a friend of mine was getting married and I knew for sure his wife to be was having an affair behind his back then in the scenario above from Ammi, I would tell her I knew all about it and give her 10 minutes to go and tell him herself or that I then would.

It's not something I would like or want to do and it may lose me his friendship for a short time but as long as his life wasn't ruined then I would have done the right thing as I saw it at the time and I would always be there for him when he realised that.

[Vanessa]

If a friend of mine was getting married and I knew for sure his wife to be was having an affair behind his back then in the scenario above from Ammi, I would tell her I knew all about it and give her 10 minutes to go and tell him herself or that I then would.

It's not something I would like or want to do and it may lose me his friendship for a short time but as long as his life wasn't ruined then I would have done the right thing as I saw it at the time and I would always be there for him when he realised that.

:worship:

[thesheriff443]

there are other things to consider,will there be a free bar
whats the food going to be like.lol

[Vanessa]

there are other things to concider,will there be a free bar
whats the food going to be like.lol

Those are the best thing about a wedding! Food and booze! :dance:

[Mrluvaluva]

there are other things to consider,will there be a free bar
whats the food going to be like.lol

Fingers crossed the reception would still go ahead even if the wedding did not. :hugesmile:

[Vanessa]

Fingers crossed the reception would still go ahead even if the wedding did not. :hugesmile:

If not, we can always raid the bar! :joker:

[thesheriff443]

or gate crash someone elses wedding.

[Vanessa]

or gate crash someone elses wedding.

Are we on the bride or groom side? :hugesmile:

[Pyramid*]

Oh...now I'm liking the sound of this now.

Free Food, free bar, Cheesy disco music and glitter ball ! right... what's the reception address again.......

:dazzler::dance2::thumbs2::cheer2:

[Vanessa]

Oh...now I'm liking the sound of this now.

Free Food, free bar, Cheesy disco music and glitter ball ! right... what's the reception address again.......

:dazzler::dance2::thumbs2::cheer2:

Me and The Sheriff are gatecrshing weddings! Wanna join us? :devil:

[thesheriff443]

Are we on the bride or groom side? :hugesmile:

both its a close family affair.lol:joker:

[Pyramid*]

Me and The Sheriff are gatecrshing weddings! Wanna join us? :devil:

So I see.... not tonight! This one is heading to bed. Not the marital one I hasten to add. Menage a trois just aint my scene!

[thesheriff443]

two of you one of me i think thats fair.lol

[Pyramid*]

two of you one of me i think thats fair.lol

Ask and ye shall receive.

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-EuOHurZxnZk/TjFApCi1xiI/AAAAAAAAAbw/elZLbSXORQo/s1600/pyramids_of_egypt.jpg

:D

[Vanessa]

Ask and ye shall receive.

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-EuOHurZxnZk/TjFApCi1xiI/AAAAAAAAAbw/elZLbSXORQo/s1600/pyramids_of_egypt.jpg

:D

Well, i'm up for it! I need something to cheer me up tonight! :evilgrin:

[thesheriff443]

Ask and ye shall receive.

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-EuOHurZxnZk/TjFApCi1xiI/AAAAAAAAAbw/elZLbSXORQo/s1600/pyramids_of_egypt.jpg

:D

those are big ones:joker:

[Patrick]

I'd wait until the ceremony when the priest asks 'Does anyone know of any reason why these two can't marry?'

Then I'll be like 'yes x.'

[thesheriff443]

I'd wait until the ceremony when the priest asks 'Does anyone know of any reason why these two can't marry?'

Then I'll be like 'yes x.'

eastenders style.lol

[Pyramid*]

I'd wait until the ceremony when the priest asks 'Does anyone know of any reason why these two can't marry?'

Then I'll be like 'yes x.'

LOL. :devil:


That is the bit where every bride and groom stop breathing for a few seconds: then give out a sigh of relief when there is silence! :D

[thesheriff443]

LOL. :devil:


That is the bit where every bride and groom stop breathing for a few seconds: then give out a sigh of relief when there is silence! :D

dam i missed your wedding.:joker:

[Redway]

I'd tell him and give the unfaithful bitch a right telling off.

[Ammi]

..as Livia said this is just a theoretical dilemma...
..I've posted on what I think I would do..and based that on past experience (nothing exactly the same as this)..and the fact that with me anyway..things somehow seem to work out the right way without me intervening..
..but the thing is with moral dilemmas..sometimes you think you know what you would do..but in reality you may act completely different..we don't really know unless it happens..
..apologies for the confusion

..another cr*p thread brought to you by the Ammi foundation

[Pyramid*]

..as Livia said this is just a theoretical dilemma...
..I've posted on what I think I would do..and based that on past experience (nothing exactly the same as this)..and the fact that with me anyway..things somehow seem to work out the right way without me intervening..
..but the thing is with moral dilemmas..sometimes you think you know what you would do..but in reality you may act completely different..we don't really know unless it happens..
..apologies for the confusion

..another cr*p thread brought to you by the Ammi foundation


LOL !! I hadn't seen the other thread that Livia was talking about so I had no idea whether it was a genuine or theoretical - either way, I'd still go for what I said, for the reasons I gave.

So true though what you say: we can have a good idea of how we think we would handle a certain situation: but it's not until it happens in reality that we find it's not what we would do afterall. It's the old saying about walking a mile in someone else's shoes - we can have preconceived ideas: which may change completely when we are placed in that situation in real life.

It's interesting reading everyone's different ways of how they would approach it though.

[thesheriff443]

im just upset me and vanessa could not interest you in trying a sausage on a stick with us.

[Marc]

Be quiet. Things will resolve themselves without you butting your nose in

[Mrluvaluva]

LOL !! I hadn't seen the other thread that Livia was talking about so I had no idea whether it was a genuine or theoretical - either way, I'd still go for what I said, for the reasons I gave.

So true though what you say: we can have a good idea of how we think we would handle a certain situation: but it's not until it happens in reality that we find it's not what we would do afterall. It's the old saying about walking a mile in someone else's shoes - we can have preconceived ideas: which may change completely when we are placed in that situation in real life.

It's interesting reading everyone's different ways of how they would approach it though.

That is definitely true. There have been occasions when something has happened, and I have done the total opposite of what I have said I would do if I was in that situation. You do not know until it actually happens what you would do, and it depends on the circumstances, and where your senses take you.

[Kizzy]

In my case I was almost sacked for letting the cat out of the bag...But I couldn't let her be duped, she was more upset that so called friends and our employer had kept the truth from her than she was at her fiance.

[Z]

I'm inspired to make another moral dilemma thread..

[Ammi]

I'm inspired to make another moral dilemma thread..

..yeah..it's a good one Zee..we need a 'dilemma of the day' thread
..this is the sort of thing I love

[Z]

I used some moral dilemma situations to talk to some pupils about, worked pretty well, you get some interesting discussion from it

[Ammi]

I used some moral dilemma situations to talk to some pupils about, worked pretty well, you get some interesting discussion from it

Yes we do that at our school..philoshophy..it's interesting posing 'problems' to 8 and 9 year old and seeing them go about solving them..and they are very astute and organised in their thought processes

[Niamh.]

I'm inspired to make another moral dilemma thread..

I love these!

..yeah..it's a good one Zee..we need a 'dilemma of the day' thread
..this is the sort of thing I love

Oh, great idea Ammi!

[Ammi]

..we could merge them in a dilemma of the day thread and change the title each day....
..mind you...do you remember when Lily put all the dilemmas in one thread.....lol...confusing
..maybe it's best having seperate threads

[Niamh.]

..we could merge them in a dilemma of the day thread and change the title each day....
..mind you...do you remember when Lily put all the dilemmas in one thread.....lol...confusing
..maybe it's best having seperate threads

That's true, a thread for each one would probably work best otherwise it would get confusing, you should do it Ammi :amazed: