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Kate!
04-05-2012, 01:02 PM
The following is an article by journalist Carolyn Anderson, from the Huffington Post, I found online.

Recently there was a tragic story of a fit 30-year-old woman who collapsed and died after running 25 miles in the London Marathon. Claire Squires was raising money for the Samaritans during this particular race and participated in other charity events including climbing Mount Kilimanjaro. She had raised £500 before her race and after her death, thousands of people donated more in her honor. At the time this article was published, the amount had reached over £900,000 (1.4 million USD).

This story got me to thinking about legacies. Claire Squires had a wonderful legacy of activism, and even in her death she was able to make a difference for others. Although it is a morbid exercise, I want you to think about what your obituary will read one day. What words will people use to describe you and how will you remembered?

It's doubtful that some of the things that consume so much of our daily lives will make it into the obituary. Have you ever seen an obituary that said "She was an avid Facebook user and loved watching Glee, Bones and American Idol"?

Most obituaries list the person's family and their contributions to society. Our families and our volunteer and sometimes professional work are the things that we leave behind and that make up our legacy. I want to be remembered as a loving daughter, wife and mother as well as someone who made a difference as a cataract surgeon and with my motivational writing.

With this in mind, take a look at your daily activities. Are your activities in line with your values and what you want to be remembered for? We all have hopes and dreams, but it is sobering to realize how little time we actually allocate to making them a reality. Figure out a way to include your legacy-building activities into your daily life.

There was a quote in the movie Barbarella that said "A life without cause is a life without effect." What effect on the world will you make? Whether is improving the lives of someone in your family, neighbourhood, country or world, start building your legacy today.

What would you like to be said about you when you eventually die, hopefully at a ripe old age and having done all the things you aspire to?

I'd like to be remembered as a loving mum most of all, and also have achievements and recognition in the fields of writing and charity work.

Stu
04-05-2012, 01:11 PM
"He came, he saw, he came again".

Mrluvaluva
04-05-2012, 01:12 PM
"Under this little sod lies another".

Niamh.
04-05-2012, 01:19 PM
I don't want an obituary, I want to be cremated

michael21
04-05-2012, 01:22 PM
i be back :suspect:

Kate!
04-05-2012, 01:26 PM
I don't want an obituary, I want to be cremated

I'd prefer cremation too. What would you like to be remembered for most then?

Patrick
04-05-2012, 01:26 PM
'A Legend until the end, he was one of a kind.'

Niamh.
04-05-2012, 01:28 PM
I'd prefer cremation too. What would you like to be remembered for most then?

hhhmmm I don't know, I'd just hope to be remembered in a good way by my kids and my friends and family

michael21
04-05-2012, 01:30 PM
hhhmmm I don't know, I'd just hope to be remembered in a good way by my kids and my friends and family

the sexiest woman to ever live :love:

Niamh.
04-05-2012, 01:32 PM
the sexiest woman to ever live :love:

:laugh2:

Thanks Michael

Black Dagger
04-05-2012, 01:39 PM
"Bit of an annoying *******"

MTVN
04-05-2012, 01:48 PM
Surely you can still have an obituary if you get cremated :suspect:

And I don't know what I want mine to say, some witty one line probably (that I can't think of myself)

Niamh.
04-05-2012, 01:54 PM
Surely you can still have an obituary if you get cremated :suspect:

And I don't know what I want mine to say, some witty one line probably (that I can't think of myself)

I thought that was the thing they put on a gravestone? Either way i don't think I want one

Smithy
04-05-2012, 01:56 PM
Isn't an obituary what goes in the paper? :suspect:

Kate!
04-05-2012, 01:57 PM
I thought that was the thing they put on a gravestone? Either way i don't think I want one

it can be Niamh, but it can also be in the deaths announcements in local press, if your family chose to do that. Or in what gets said at your funeral.

actually, strike that, just read Smithy's post - he's right, it's an epitaph that goes on your grave, I mixed them up.

MTVN
04-05-2012, 01:58 PM
Yeah I just thought it was the passage about someone's life they put in the paper

Niamh.
04-05-2012, 02:00 PM
ah right ok. I don't know then, I'll be dead anyway so it doesn't matter much :laugh:

Smithy
04-05-2012, 02:05 PM
ah right ok. I don't know then, I'll be dead anyway so it doesn't matter much :laugh:
:joker:

ILoveTRW
04-05-2012, 02:34 PM
"The Star of The Real World"

Mystic Mock
04-05-2012, 05:27 PM
The nutjob has been laid to rest.

lostalex
04-05-2012, 05:30 PM
"who?"

Mystic Mock
04-05-2012, 05:35 PM
"who?"

If your asking me then the answer would be me of course.:dance:

lostalex
04-05-2012, 05:47 PM
If your asking me then the answer would be me of course.:dance:

i wasn't.