Can men and women just be friends?

[InOne]

Do you think they can? Or will there always one wanting more... Like I never buy this whole "best friends" thing when a couple break up. It's like a nice way of saying you can hang around but nothing is ever going to happen again.

[Benjamin]

Yes. ;)

[Kizzy]

No...

[Benjamin]

But honestly, I think they can be, I know plenty of guys that have female friends and don't want more, especially from tom boyish girls.

[Livia]

Yes, until sex spoils the friendship. I don't think you can be just friends with someone you fancy.

[Kazanne]

Yes,unless you fancy them.

[fruit_cake]

In general no I don't think so, but sometimes there are exceptions

[thesheriff443]

they can if one is gay or one is a lesbian or both!:joker:

[Redway]

Yeah. Some people want just that - friendship, be they same-sex or opposite-sex ones.

That said it doesn't work very well with teenagers in general. They'll always want a bit more than that and usually aren't mature enough to come across a genuine opposite sex friendship - and allegedly nothing more than that - without slinging around the "X and X sitting in a tree ... " bollocks.

[fruit_cake]

can anyone really be friends in this dog eat dog world

[GypsyGoth]

can anyone really be friends in this dog eat dog world

:laugh:

[Raph]

Absolutely yes.

[LemonJam]

I don't understand why they can't tbh.

[Joelle.]

Of course they can :)

[Mystic Mock]

Of course men and women can just be friends otherwise you would be having multiple different relationships going on.:joker:

[Maia]

I think I am proof this certainly can be the case

[Mystic Mock]

I think I am proof this certainly can be the case

Hmm....:devil:

[Maia]

Or not it would seem

[joeysteele]

From my own experience and seeing lot's of others too, definately, My family from Mum and Dad downwards all have female and male friends, I have female friends as well as male friends.
I also think people who have been married can also be good friends too, I have a Cousin for instance whose wife left and got involved with someone else but they now get on like a house on fire as opposed to when they were together.

[InOne]

I guess when sexuality comes into it, if they're man being friends with a woman is gay, or the woman being friends with the man is lesbian then it's different. Or asexual of course. But in terms of hetrosexuality I think like Livia said, a drunken kiss or even more between 'friends' can certainly change things. And if you do end up kissing, the feeling were probably there anyway.

[CharlieO]

Entirely, what if theyre ugly

[Brother Leon]

If the man finds the woman attractive in the slightest,then most likely no.

[Shaun]

it's such a lazy gender stereotype, of course they can

[Vanessa]

No. I'm trying my best to stay friends with my male boss, but he fancies me. So it's mission impossible! :tongue:

[Black Dagger]

If we are not taking sexuality into account and they are both straight I still believe that a male and female can have a strong friendship.

[Vanessa]

If we are not taking sexuality into account and they are both straight I still believe that a male and female can have a strong friendship.

I agree, unless one of them fancies the other. :hugesmile:

[Livia]

I was talking about heterosexuals. My best friend is a man, he's also gay. He's seen me virtually naked, we've shared a bed, it's innocent and comfortable. It's not the same as being friends with a heterosexual male because sex is not on the agenda and it's never going to be on the agenda. I do have hetero male friends but I wouldn't sleep with them or it would ruin things.

[Gillian-73]

Yes. My best friend is a man we've been best friends for nearly 20 years and friends is all we are and all we've ever been. We've had people say over the years, you must have slept together you must have done this etc etc why just because we're the opposite sex....pft! I love him like one of my brothers and trust him with my life.

[lostalex]

what a silly question. it's like asking if a jew and a muslim can be friends.

If there is attraction on just 1 side, well so what? can you be taught by a teacher you are attracted to? can you work for a boss that you are attracted to? Just because you are attracted to someone doesn't mean that it's going to drive you crazy and make you incapable of ignoring it and having a normal non-sexual relationship..


People are different, and it's much more fun being friends with people who are different than you. My best friend and I are complete opposites. and she has admitted being attracted to me before, it's never effected our friendship.

[InOne]

what a silly question. it's like asking if a jew and a muslim can be friends.

Well I guess that's the reason for your silly answer.

[Vicky.]

Yes.

Most of my best mates are men, I dont tend to get on with women in general.

[Lee.]

If there is attraction on just 1 side, well so what? can you be taught by a teacher you are attracted to? can you work for a boss that you are attracted to? Just because you are attracted to someone doesn't mean that it's going to drive you crazy and make you incapable of ignoring it and having a normal non-sexual relationship..

Yeah, I agree. It's silly to imagine men and women can't be friends... I've always preferred male company and some if my closest friends have been men. I find I am much more myself around males. However, I do think ad people grow older, and settle down into relationships, it is harder to have male/female friendships. I'm not talking about already established friendships, but new ones.

[thesheriff443]

I was talking about heterosexuals. My best friend is a man, he's also gay. He's seen me virtually naked, we've shared a bed, it's innocent and comfortable. It's not the same as being friends with a heterosexual male because sex is not on the agenda and it's never going to be on the agenda. I do have hetero male friends but I wouldn't sleep with them or it would ruin things.
i knew there was a bonus to being gay!:joker:

[Kizzy]

i knew there was a bonus to being gay!:joker:

Are you gay?..... you sometimes creep me out with your sexual references but if you're gay its fine :joker:

[fruit_cake]

I don't think it's really possible, I've tried many times to be friends but I've found it just doesn't work out.

[Niall]

Of course they can. :conf2:

[InOne]

I don't think it's really possible, I've tried many times to be friends but I've found it just doesn't work out.

Wise words, from a wise fruit_cake

[Joelle.]

Three of my closest friends are female. Doesn't mean I want to have sex with them.

[Munchkins]

I think I am proof this certainly can be the case

Me too Mollie x :)

[nicole_burks]

Of course.

I have plenty of guy friends that I would never think of dating in any sense.

[Novo]

If there attractive your obviously going to try your luck, it could be a few weeks or it could be a couple of years but something is bound to happen sooner or later

[InOne]

Three of my closest friends are female. Doesn't mean I want to have sex with them.

But if they offered would you?

[Legend killer]

Lettuce be cereal here maybe when you are younger but once you get a bit older no you can't. It's sad TBH and to be fair i think it is more on the man's part