How Quickly Do You Think You Can 'Fall For Someone'?

[CharlieO]

Well seeing as love is the best thing in the world. :amazed:

What are your opinions on the matter?

[AnnieK]

I think it takes time to truly love someone. You can be attracted immediately but it can be quite superficial until you get to know the real them. You have to know everything, all their little faults and imperfections and love them for those and not in spite of those to know its truly truly love.

[Josy]

Attraction - Immediately

Love - Takes time to grow so it all depends on the individuals involved imo.

[Cherie]

From personal experience, my OH said that he knew I was "the one" when he first saw me...:o I on the other hand thought he was not really my type,:whistle: but 26 years on we are still together so imo its not a one size fits all kinda thing.

[Niamh.]

Attraction - Immediately

Love - Takes time to grow so it all depends on the individuals involved imo.

This pretty much. That intense attraction could be considered "falling for someone" though I suppose

[Kizzy]

Cherie! I hope he never sees this...poor guy haha.
I think I've experienced love at first sight.
I saw this guy and BOOM!
Thats the only way to describe it, luckily the feeling was mutual but it didn't last.
I've heard a phrase that summed it up ' A flame that burns so bright will eventually burn itself out'
Thats kinda what happened.

[Niamh.]

Cherie! I hope he never sees this...poor guy haha.
I think I've experienced love at first sight.
I saw this guy and BOOM!
Thats the only way to describe it, luckily the feeling was mutual but it didn't last.
I've heard a phrase that summed it up ' A flame that burns so bright will eventually burn itself out'
Thats kinda what happened.

Is that really love though or just intense attraction? Depends what you consider "love" to be I suppose

[Livia]

I was in love with my husband from the off. It wasn't just attraction, I think you know when something is perfectly right and luckily for me it was reciprocated. Despite the fact we didn't get as long as we should have, I know I was really lucky to have had him for as long as I did.

[Niamh.]

So do you believe in soul mates then Livia? In my own personal idea of romantic love, love at first sight would be impossible

[Kizzy]

Is that really love though or just intense attraction? Depends what you consider "love" to be I suppose

It sure felt like love...
It was like I had always known him, and there was that (cheesy I know) we were the only 2 people in the room thing....
It was very strange.

[Livia]

Soul mates... Yes I suppose. I do think there are people that are a perfect fit in every way, that goes way beyond physical attraction. Although I do think physical attraction is also important initally.

[Jesus.]

Definitely pretty instantly. No one will ever convince anyone else of that fact though. You have to live and experience it for yourself.

[Niamh.]

mmmm at the end of the day "love" is a word, what I consider love to be and what someone else considers love to be could be miles a part. I think though, especially at the start of a relationship that whole really intense feeling isn't actually love, it's when that starts to even out is when you really discover if it's love or not.................in my opinion of course! :laugh:

[Kate!]

I've felt it twice in my life, met someone who I instantly clicked with, neither was my sons dad, he was wrong for me in every single way but that's straying off the point.

The first time with Lee, we worked together and got on from the first day, but he lived with someone so it was a no go. We all used to socialise together on Friday nights and we'd pretty much be off in our own little bubble. Everyone used to comment on it. Anyway, he was leaving to go work elsewhere and at his leaving do we kissed, outside. He hugged me for ages and then said he wasn't coming back in, he'd call it a night. He just walked away. I never saw him again.

The second time was also a work colleague but it was one sided, so although I felt intense about him he wasn't feeling it so it fizzled out. But it was strong.

That's about it really.

[Cherie]

Cherie! I hope he never sees this...poor guy haha.I think I've experienced love at first sight.
I saw this guy and BOOM!
Thats the only way to describe it, luckily the feeling was mutual but it didn't last.
I've heard a phrase that summed it up ' A flame that burns so bright will eventually burn itself out'
Thats kinda what happened.

He knows Kizzy...:joker: he turned it round quickly though, we moved in together after 4 months and I asked him to marry me...so to anyone out there who feels their love is unreciprocated keeping trying, you may get there in the end...:dance:

[Jesus.]

It sure felt like love...
It was like I had always known him, and there was that (cheesy I know) we were the only 2 people in the room thing....
It was very strange.

Probably because you were locked in a padded cell together :whistle:

[Jesus.]

I've felt it twice in my life, met someone who I instantly clicked with, neither was my sons dad, he was wrong for me in every single way but that's straying off the point.

The first time with Lee, we worked together and got on from the first day, but he lived with someone so it was a no go. We all used to socialise together on Friday nights and we'd pretty much be off in our own little bubble. Everyone used to comment on it. Anyway, he was leaving to go work elsewhere and at his leaving do we kissed, outside. He hugged me for ages and then said he wasn't coming back in, he'd call it a night. He just walked away. I never saw him again.

The second time was also a work colleague but it was one sided, so although I felt intense about him he wasn't feeling it so it fizzled out. But it was strong.

That's about it really.

That Lee story is like a Noel Coward play. Didn't you have his number or anything?

[Kate!]

No, we never had each others numbers, other than the Friday nights out as a group we were just work colleagues.

[Niall]

I don't think I've actually been in love with someone, crushes/intensely attracted sure, but not actual love.

I think what everyone else has already said in here pretty much sums it up. It's a thing that takes time to grow and mature.

[Kizzy]

Probably because you were locked in a padded cell together :whistle:

Well by the end of the relationship he was medicated and I was in a hostel..
Talk about intense!
sky scraping highs and soul destroying lows.
nothing much inbetween.
It was micky and mallory minus the murders.

[Jesus.]

Well by the end of the relationship he was medicated and I was in a hostel..
Talk about intense!
sky scraping highs and soul destroying lows.
nothing much inbetween.
It was micky and mallory minus the murders.

More like Sid and Nancy up t'north.

[smeagol]

soon as they drop their knickers lol

[Kizzy]

More like Sid and Nancy up t'north.

sid was a southerner, nancy was american...

[Jesus.]

I don't think I've actually been in love with someone, crushes/intensely attracted sure, but not actual love.

I think what everyone else has already said in here pretty much sums it up. It's a thing that takes time to grow and mature.

You just haven't met me yet:flowers:

[Jesus.]

sid was a southerner, nancy was american...

But you are a northerner - hence the "up t'north" bit. Apology accepted.

[Jesus.]

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Let's share some love

[Kizzy]

But you are a northerner - hence the "up t'north" bit. Apology accepted.

Ah, why didn't you say micky and mallory up t'north then?...
yes your apology is accepted.

[thesheriff443]

its funny how the word lover come's from the word love but has nothing to do with each other.

[Kate!]

I have a new facebook status. Cynical, but yet to meet anyone to disprove it. lol.

"What do you call a man who is good looking, sexy, faithful, funny, respectful and trustworthy?.. NONE EXISTENT."

There are good ones, they are already taken though :(

[thesheriff443]

I have a new facebook status. Cynical, but yet to meet anyone to disprove it. lol.

"What do you call a man who is good looking, sexy, faithful, funny, respectful and trustworthy?.. NONE EXISTENT."

There are good ones, they are already taken though :(

i was thinking the ending was going to be gay!:joker:

[Ammi]

I was in love with my husband from the off. It wasn't just attraction, I think you know when something is perfectly right and luckily for me it was reciprocated. Despite the fact we didn't get as long as we should have, I know I was really lucky to have had him for as long as I did.

So do you believe in soul mates then Livia? In my own personal idea of romantic love, love at first sight would be impossible

Soul mates... Yes I suppose. I do think there are people that are a perfect fit in every way, that goes way beyond physical attraction. Although I do think physical attraction is also important initally.


....I think that even if you're with someone a short time..it's what the relationship leaves you with that's important...people can be together for their whole lives and never learn or grow themselves...'it's not the quantity, but the quality'..it's finding someone who completes you, someone who accepts you as you are, someone who you connect with on a level which is much more deeper than just physical...someone who is your best friend and make you laugh more than anyone else can....someone who nurtures you to become more than you ever believed you would...

....I don't know if that's a 'soul mate'...if it is, then I think there may be more than one soul mate out there for everyone...and a lot of people don't ever find one of them...so if you are lucky enough to find one...then any time you spend with them is a lifetime....

...I was lucky enough to find the love of my life at an early age...and I love him more today than the day we were married....so whether there are 'soul mates' or not...I think that's the closest to it, it's possible to get....

[Mystic Mock]

I would say a year or two when you really start to feel something.

[Niamh.]

....I think that even if you're with someone a short time..it's what the relationship leaves you with that's important...people can be together for their whole lives and never learn or grow themselves...'it's not the quantity, but the quality'..it's finding someone who completes you, someone who accepts you as you are, someone who you connect with on a level which is much more deeper than just physical...someone who is your best friend and make you laugh more than anyone else can....someone who nurtures you to become more than you ever believed you would...

....I don't know if that's a 'soul mate'...if it is, then I think there may be more than one soul mate out there for everyone...and a lot of people don't ever find one of them...so if you are lucky enough to find one...then any time you spend with them is a lifetime....

...I was lucky enough to find the love of my life at an early age...and I love him more today than the day we were married....so whether there are 'soul mates' or not...I think that's the closest to it, it's possible to get....

I think that's true Ammi :love:

[Roy Mars III]

I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention

[Niamh.]

I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention

awwwww

[Me. I Am Salman]

Getting love advice from a Big Brother forum? :rolleyes:

[Kate!]

Nothing wrong with that though. It's anonymous. More or less.

TiBB is a good sounding board.

[Niamh.]

Getting love advice from a Big Brother forum? :rolleyes:

Don't be so rude :nono:

[CharlieO]

Getting love advice from a Big Brother forum? :rolleyes:

whos asking for advice?

[Me. I Am Salman]

Sorry that was intended for your other thread

[Mystic Mock]

I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention

I think the same will happen with me aswell:joker:, but I am training myself not to think that way in case the woman ends up being a psycho.:joker:

[Jesus.]

I think the same will happen with me aswell:joker:, but I am training myself not to think that way in case the woman ends up being a psycho.:joker:

Whenever the scenario is you and a woman, then the woman would always be the least concerning party in that story :whistle:

[armand.kay]

I've never really fallen in love I've fallen in lust but love no.

[Petershaw1984]

I fell in love with my missus over the space of 1 month.

[CharlieO]

well good cause you clearly dont take **** from anyone & the only thing you wanna do is have some fun

[Mystic Mock]

Whenever the scenario is you and a woman, then the woman would always be the least concerning party in that story :whistle:

Lol you're probably right.