De friended.. :(

[Kizzy]

You notice you have been de friended, do you..
ask why?
get very offended/hurt?
get very angry/vengeful?
not care at all?

[LemonJam]

don't care. they're obviously not worth my time if they don't feel I'm worth theirs.

[Z]

I don't care, because I regularly de-friend people. For me anyway, it's never done in a personal, spiteful way, it's more because I'm very paranoid about my online privacy and if I notice my friend count is creeping way up, I'll prune it back down again. At the moment I'm on around 250-260 people I think, it's an alright number, I'll probably delete more people again in the new year.

My general rules of thumb are:
1) would I stop to talk to them in the street and tell them anything about my life? If no, why are they on my Facebook where they can find out that kind of information anyway?
2) have I seen them in, say, the last year? If not, do I plan to see them when we can next conveniently do so? If not, bye bye.
3) are they massively irritating on Facebook? If yes, bye bye.

[Shaun]

generally when it happens it's people I knew in high school and no longer talk to, so I'm not bothered

There was one time a close friend did it and I was a little confused and hurt, and in the end it was because our friendship circle at school was sort-of split into two, and I was torn between them. I prefer hanging around with the group he's in, though, and last year when we met up for Christmas he apologised to me in advance and sent me a really sweet message, and we're good friends again. We just didn't speak about it before because we're on opposite sides of the country.

[MTVN]

Happened to me a couple of times when people have done purges of their friend lists, wasn't too bothered because I've never known them that well but in general I think it's a pretty rude thing to do tbh

[Ramsay]

Been de friended and even completely blocked for no reason whatsoever a few times
Maybe its because of some drunken incidents that i have no recollection of lol

[King Gizzard]

more offended when people i know unfollow me on twitter tbh

[Benjamin]

I don't defriend anyone unless they really annoy me with FB updates or invites, then they get deleted. I keep all the people I meet as I travel a lot and may need to use them for contacts/a place to crash when in their country.

[Niamh.]

Meh doesn't really bother me, I do ****** all on FB anymore anyway, so I don't think I'd even notice if someone defriended me

[Apple202]

Don't care at all

[lily.]

I don't have Facebook, but I wouldn't care unless it was someone I considered a proper friend and spent time with outside of FB. In that case, I'd ask them wtf they were playing at. Seems to me that the majority of people's FB friends are just casual acquaintances anyway.

[lily.]

I don't care, because I regularly de-friend people. For me anyway, it's never done in a personal, spiteful way, it's more because I'm very paranoid about my online privacy and if I notice my friend count is creeping way up, I'll prune it back down again. At the moment I'm on around 250-260 people I think, it's an alright number, I'll probably delete more people again in the new year.
.

You used to laugh at me for this. Did I plant the seed of doubt...?

[Jake.]

don't care. they're obviously not worth my time if they don't feel I'm worth theirs.

Yeah this :laugh:

[Kizzy]

Sorry, should have said it's my tibb friends list not fb.

[Niamh.]

Sorry, should have said it's my tibb friends list not fb.

Ohhhhhhhh :laugh: I wouldn't even notice tbh, I have no idea who I'm friends with and who I'm not on here

[Suze]

:o *Runs to check friends list on Tibbs*

If you have a big Tibbs friends list, how would you know though? would it say who de-friended you?

[Jake.]

I've only got 9 friends on here so I think I'd notice

[Vicky.]

I havent ever noticed that I have been de-friended, though I dont doubt its happened a few times. I wouldnt care tbh.

[Suze]

I've only got 9 friends on here so I think I'd notice

Yeah, I have eight, and one only very irritating ignore :D but those with loads of Tibbs friends in their list, would they notice? must go check if anywhere in friends list tells you if you have been de-friended though :(

[Kizzy]

Well I can't say how I knew without giving away who it was,
friend requests on their way for jake and suze :)

[Jesus.]

I'm guessing whomever it is, knows this thread is about them.

You should probably PM them and ask them, as you've obviously noticed the issue and are left wondering.

Nothing wrong with asking someone a question.

[Niamh.]

It would actually never even occur to me to de friend someone on here :laugh:

[Jesus.]

It would never occur to me to ask someone to be my friend on here, to be honest.

[arista]

You notice you have been de friended, do you..
ask why?
get very offended/hurt?
get very angry/vengeful?
not care at all?


No Kizzy
Life Can Be Real Short.


Move on

[arista]

I've only got 9 friends on here so I think I'd notice


Thats a Good Amount

[Josy]

Haven't noticed anyone de-friending me on here, how do you find out?

[Kizzy]

Yeah, I have eight, and one only very irritating ignore :D but those with loads of Tibbs friends in their list, would they notice? must go check if anywhere in friends list tells you if you have been de-friended though :(

Do you have a friend list suze, I can't find it to request you :conf:

[Josy]

Actually it would have to be the persons friend list you checked wouldnt it, rather than your own?

[Suze]

Do you have a friend list suze, I can't find it to request you :conf:

Yeah I do. No idea why you can't find it, but don't worry Kizzy :)

[Jesus.]

Do you have a friend list suze, I can't find it to request you :conf:

click on her profile and the option to add her to your friends list will be under "user lists".

[Niamh.]

Suze has obviously blocked you Kizzy, I found her friend list no problem :idc:

[Kizzy]

Actually it would have to be the persons friend list you checked wouldnt it, rather than your own?
I did check theirs too, but deffo not on it now. I was looking on mine last night for vicky to look on her threads for the ATOS one when I noticed.

[Suze]

Suze has obviously blocked you Kizzy, I found her friend list no problem :idc:

:laugh3:


:D I have one on ignore which I don't do or for long usually, but I hate to say it, this one person can be so irritating at times, and no it's not you Kizzy :)

[Jake.]

I might stick someone on ignore but I just don't see the point if they can see my posts and quote me

[Niamh.]

It's Josy isn't it Suze? I have her on ignore too don't worry!

[Suze]

It's Josy isn't it Suze? I have her on ignore too don't worry!

Yeah but ... no but ... yeah but ... I would never put any of you lovely mods on ignore :love: Anyways, I would get an infraction if I did :joker:

[Niamh.]

Yeah but ... no but ... yeah but ... I would never put any of you lovely mods on ignore :love: Anyways, I would get an infraction if I did :joker:

:laugh: I don't think you actually can put us on ignore

[Jake.]

:laugh: I don't think you actually can put us on ignore

No we can't, you'd have been long gone by now.

[Niamh.]

I'm sorry did Jake say something?, I have him on ignore :idc:

[Jake.]

I'm sorry did Jake say something?, I have him on ignore :idc:

Then you wouldn't have known I'd posted. Try again.

[Kizzy]

Well in that case if a mod I want to ignore posts they are getting this!
:hmph:

[Niamh.]

Then you wouldn't have known I'd posted. Try again.

http://i.imgur.com/oQ2Ji.gif

[Kizzy]

Jake, if someone has you on ignore other people tell them you have posted so they can respond to you....
:joker:

[Beastie]

Ahhh. Bloody facebook and twitter. Tell ya what.. just concentrate on the friends you actually see or you actually ring, text, talk to! **** the rest.

[Niamh.]

Jake, if someone has you on ignore other people tell them you have posted so they can respond to you....
:joker:

Yes, thanks for the tip off Kizzy :pipe:

Ahhh. Bloody facebook and twitter. Tell ya what.. just concentrate on the friends you actually see or you actually ring, text, talk to! **** the rest.

Hey Beastie, long time no see :love:

[Beastie]

Yes, thanks for the tip off Kizzy :pipe:



Hey Beastie, long time no see :love:

Niamh :elephant:

[Niamh.]

Niamh :elephant:

Where have you been hiding?

[Beastie]

Where have you been hiding?

Been working a lot recently and had a break from here to be honest! The place got a bit steady at one point but now it's nice to be back! :D

[Niamh.]

Good to have you back too Beastie :love:

[Jake.]

http://i.imgur.com/oQ2Ji.gif

Then turn up your hearing aid.

[InOne]

Sorry, should have said it's my tibb friends list not fb.

Who have you been annoying this time kizzy :nono:

[Kizzy]

I don't annoy I educate joe. :nono:

[InOne]

Oh that's what they call it now

[Jake.]

Oh that's what they call it now

:joker:

[Maia]

Dunno about on here but it's bloody annoying when people unfollow you on Twitter for no reason, even when you're following them back. Just been having to return the favour to a lot of those perpetrators :idc:

[Jake.]

Dunno about on here but it's bloody annoying when people unfollow you on Twitter for no reason, even when you're following them back. Just been having to return the favour to a lot of those perpetrators :idc:

oh that reminds me firewire followed me and I didn't follow him back

[Kizzy]

Oh that's what they call it now

Yes I do.

[AnnieK]

It makes me smile on here that if you wanted to de-friend someone you have to click "Break Friendship". It makes me think of being in primary school when you broke friends every two minutes with someone because they pissed you off...... Then you had to do that weird handshake thing where you promised to "make friends, make friends, never never break friends" etc only to fall out with them again the next day....

[Kizzy]

What is the difference between contacts and friends on here?

[Jesus.]

What is the difference between contacts and friends on here?

If you'd finger them, they are friends. If you wouldn't, they are contacts.

[lily.]

Sorry, should have said it's my tibb friends list not fb.

Ah... in that case, I'd definitely not care. TiBB is not real life, therefore not worth my energy as regards to caring about such things.

It would never occur to me to ask someone to be my friend on here, to be honest.

What if someone requested you? Would you accept, decline or leave it pending?

What is the difference between contacts and friends on here?

Contacts are people you add to your list. Friends are people you request to also add you and they accept.

[Z]

You used to laugh at me for this. Did I plant the seed of doubt...?

Yes haha! It was a good thing though, you said it years ago and I started doing it too - and with all of these recent legal issues with things people have posted on Twitter and the like, I'm glad I followed your advice years ago! People are too lazy about their online information.

[Niall]

It depends on who it is. If it some moron from school that I never talk to anyway or something like that, then I don't care.

But if it's someone I know quite well then I wouldn't exactly be hurt, but more confused as to what made them do that.

I've had it happen to me a few times anyway. I was Facebook friends with a most of my Aunts on my Mum's side of the family and there's a bit of a rift between my Mum and them. So something happened (I think they must have seen my Mum's name in my friends list or whatever) and 3 of them blocked her in addition to deleting and blocking me. It pissed me off a little bit because it's quite rude really. But if they want to be childish assholes then so be it. :idc:

[Jesus.]

Ah... in that case, I'd definitely not care. TiBB is not real life, therefore not worth my energy as regards to caring about such things.



What if someone requested you? Would you accept, decline or leave it pending?



Contacts are people you add to your list. Friends are people you request to also add you and they accept.

If someone requested, then I wouldn't reject them. I've only ever rejected Salman, and that's when he was a complete nause. He seems OK now, though, so I wouldn't now. I'd probably reject one from "the truth", but the chances are, he wouldn't request one from me, anyway.

[Marcus.]

be like why do that

[lily.]

Yes haha! It was a good thing though, you said it years ago and I started doing it too - and with all of these recent legal issues with things people have posted on Twitter and the like, I'm glad I followed your advice years ago! People are too lazy about their online information.

Yet another reason I never last more than a week on FB..

[lily.]

If someone requested, then I wouldn't reject them. I've only ever rejected Salman, and that's when he was a complete nause. He seems OK now, though, so I wouldn't now. I'd probably reject one from "the truth", but the chances are, he wouldn't request one from me, anyway.

-requests you now-

[Stu]

I want to be friends with Jesus, too.

He has to request me, though. In an inane twist of traditional born again values.

[Locke.]

Don't really notice on Facebook, I have most people hidden from my news feed anyway and hardly ever view anyones profile. Don't know about on here either, have never really bothered adding peoples as friends or anything.

[arista]

I want to be friends with Jesus, too.

He has to request me, though. In an inane twist of traditional born again values.


No Stu


he will take all your wacky backy

[lily.]

I want to be friends with Jesus, too.

He has to request me, though. In an inane twist of traditional born again values.

He's officially my friend now. I'm the atheist who's friends with Jesus..

[arista]

I don't annoy I educate joe. :nono:


Thats Sexy

[arista]

He's officially my friend now. I'm the atheist who's friends with Jesus..


You are most wise

[lily.]

You don't have to tell me that. I'm aware. ;)

[Jesus.]

No Stu


he will take all your wacky backy

High five.

[lily.]

I already took all his ganja.

[Stu]

It's damp gear. You'll die of schizophrenia.

[lily.]

My system can handle it.. lol

[Kizzy]

It's damp gear. You'll die of schizophrenia.

I knew you would agree with me in the end stu... ;)

[Shaun]

Good to have you back too Beastie :love:

lol

[Shaun]

just got a friend request on here that's since been withdrawn :suspect:

[lily.]

Wasn't me.

[Kizzy]

just got a friend request on here that's since been withdrawn :suspect:

I requested you but you ignored me :bawling:

[InOne]

I wall post with about 3 people on my friends list here LOL it really is pointless. Some people have them private though so I guess that's what you need the request for

[Stu]

Nobody ever wall posts with me. It's like they're afraid to. Sometimes I just feel alone, y'know?

[lily.]

Nobody ever does it with me either. :/

[King Gizzard]

I TRY TO BUT IT'S BEEN IMPOSSIBLE FOR YEARS YOU knob

[lily.]

What are you implying.. ?

[King Gizzard]

that you are swedish

[lily.]

jag älskar dig ju

[King Gizzard]

http://i.imgur.com/B24Lq.png?2

[lily.]

idfk

[Stu]

I wonder what that was?
























And ... why you were going so far back through her messages.

[King Gizzard]

it was the first page of her profile :laugh:

[King Gizzard]

i guess we just see when people delete stuff

[lily.]

Ooooh Modly powers. Musta been somethin good.

[lily.]

What does the 'user notes' contain?

[King Gizzard]

shot myself in the foot here haven't I, think that's just a generic one every profile has after the switch over from the old forum

[King Gizzard]

yeah

http://i.imgur.com/Ay2ak.png

[lily.]

haha.. giving away state secrets sunshine..

[King Gizzard]

JSYK You were imported from France and brainwashed into being called Linda from Scotland

[lily.]

Sounds good.. Did Remy have anything to do with this?

[King Gizzard]

I don't remember what the forum looked like when I wasn't a mod

[lily.]

Bland.

[MTVN]

Nathan what the **** are you doing

[King Gizzard]

Don't worry the towers is still in tact

[Kizzy]

Thankyou to those who accepted my friend requests :hug: is there anyway of seeing who posts regularly, apart from the whos online thingy?

[MTVN]

I was honoured to receive your request kizzy

[Kizzy]

See, i'm not such an evil old bitch am i?

[MTVN]

Of course not

[lily.]

I guess when you come here regularly you get to know who's around at the same time as you.. so you build up friendships that way Kizzy.

[Beastie]

Lily looks like Lily Allen!

[lily.]

O_o

[Kizzy]

I guess when you come here regularly you get to know who's around at the same time as you.. so you build up friendships that way Kizzy.

Lily, trust me i'm trying :)

[Cherie]

It would never occur to me to ask someone to be my friend on here, to be honest.

I know I just can't be arsed.

[Shaun]

sorry kizzy, have added you now :p

[Marcus.]

if i get one

i add them

[Cherie]

if i get one

i add them

oh me too, just too lazy to ask.

[Petershaw1984]

Get over it

[lily.]

So helpful.

[Cherie]

So helpful.

On a scale of 1 to 10, I'd give it a 9.5:thumbs2:

[lily.]

I agree. :)