Kids and Technology.

[Lee.]

My daughter got an ipod touch for Christmas and I happened to check her internet search history today :shocked:

Amongst the usual stuff I found she had been searching for "naked butts", "dinkles", "boobs", and "snogging". I can also assume, given the amount of searches she has done, thar she fancies Zayn from One Direction! :bored:

I've deleted Safari off her ipod and replaced it with a child safe search engine and I've set all her music, apps, film downloads to just her age group, so I feel a bit more relaxed about it all. However, I can't make all mums do the same and it worries me what they may see when looking for stuff like this.. I'm pretty sure that a search for "naked butts" could come up with some explicit stuff.

The internet is a wonderful place, but man, its a worry for us parents! What's the best thing to download for my laptop to atom them seeing anything untoward?

[Jessica.]

:shocked: What age is your daughter, if you don't mind me asking?

I introduced my niece to the internet before she could read really and I taught her to only go on websites she knows are safe and about not clicking ads etc, she is 9 now and is a wiz but she knows that she should look at anything inappropriate or search for something dodgy, even when she was like 6 years old she would play Club Penguin and report anyone she saw saying something against the rules. :joker: She wasn't even taught how to do that though.

I think the best way to prevent your kids from dodgy internet stuff is just to educate them and maybe say that the search history gets sent to the ISP or something and that you'll get a report at the end of each month about what sites they were on. :joker:

[Niamh.]

:shocked: What age is your daughter, if you don't mind me asking?

I introduced my niece to the internet before she could read really and I taught her to only go on websites she knows are safe and about not clicking ads etc, she is 9 now and is a wiz but she knows that she should look at anything inappropriate or search for something dodgy, even when she was like 6 years old she would play Club Penguin and report anyone she saw saying something against the rules. :joker: She wasn't even taught how to do that though.

I think the best way to prevent your kids from dodgy internet stuff is just to educate them and maybe say that the search history gets sent to the ISP or something and that you'll get a report at the end of each month about what sites they were on. :joker:

haha, that's a good idea :laugh:

[MTVN]

:joker::joker:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

dinkles :laugh3:

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

well i just googled dinkles and all the results are shoes

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

wait no there is a strange looking turtle that slightly resembles a penis

burn the ipod

[Jessica.]

dinkles :laugh3:

What does that even mean? :shocked:

[Niall]

dinkles :laugh3:

This :joker::joker::joker:

[Niall]

What does that even mean? :shocked:

It rhymes with venus

[Lee.]

:shocked: What age is your daughter, if you don't mind me asking?

I introduced my niece to the internet before she could read really and I taught her to only go on websites she knows are safe and about not clicking ads etc, she is 9 now and is a wiz but she knows that she should look at anything inappropriate or search for something dodgy, even when she was like 6 years old she would play Club Penguin and report anyone she saw saying something against the rules. :joker: She wasn't even taught how to do that though.

I think the best way to prevent your kids from dodgy internet stuff is just to educate them and maybe say that the search history gets sent to the ISP or something and that you'll get a report at the end of each month about what sites they were on. :joker:

She's 8 (almost 9) ... and yeah, I didn't want her to know I'd been snooping so I told her her Dad had received an email saying she had been looking up rude words. :)

[Lee.]

dinkles :laugh3:

I wouldn't admiring it to her, but I was chuckling!

well i just googled dinkles and all the results are shoes

that's a relief.. what about "winkies"? That was there too

[Jack_]

How old is she can I ask?

I've seen my younger brothers' internet history on the iPad and it's all the same stuff I searched when I was their age, it's just part of growing up. Like it or loathe it everyone's going to come across this stuff at some point or another, and it never did me any harm. Thankfully I don't think anyone knew...well, my dad did when I never had my own laptop/phone and had to use the main computer but yeah.

I'm not saying that it's particularly right that kids are able to see dodgy stuff online at increasingly earlier ages but that's just life. I remember I first stumbled across a porn video aged 9 and was disgusted/wondered what the hell it was but it didn't change me as a person and it's had no lasting effects. I'm more than aware of the hyper-reality that is porn and that, on the whole, is the most important thing that any child who has or does watch it at a young age understands. If you can separate that from reality then it's not really that damaging, and so I guess that comes down to the one awkward conversation you have to have with them, or, as someone else suggested, just dropping hints.

It's all about discovering yourself and learning about the world around you, and I'll be alone in this - but I'd say in some ways it's probably a safer way of finding things out, as counter-intuitive as that sounds. Sex ed in schools isn't as good as it should be or else I wouldn't say most of this stuff, that's part of the problem, and most kids find that stuff embarrassing, in the comfort and privacy of your own home finding stuff out like that online it isn't as bad. Like I said, the only issue is ensuring they understand the difference between the murky depths of the internet and reality.

[Jack_]

She's 8 (almost 9)

Hm, okay, scrap most of what I said.

[Novo]

The Poor Girl has now had her privacy violated on an internet forum, she will never forgive you for this

[Marcus.]

oh shoot

[Lee.]

Hm, okay, scrap most of what I said.

:laugh: Thanks for your comment anyway Jack! I do agree that its virtually impossible to keep them protected from stuff forever, but I would like to prolong her innocence for as long as possible. :)

[Marc]

"dinkles"

:joker:

turns out, they're shoes!

[Niamh.]

"dinkles"

:joker:

turns out, they're shoes!

Yeah and Naked Butts are.............hats?

[MeMyselfAndI]

:laugh3:

[Lee.]

The Poor Girl has now had her privacy violated on an internet forum, she will never forgive you for this

She'll never know!
...omg! What if she were to join here when she's old enough? She'd be mortified! Especially if I was still around! That's like going to a nightclub and your mum being there!

[Marc]

Yeah and Naked Butts are.............hats?

Yep!

Lee :bored: completely taking away any sense of style your daughter wants to achieve.. terrible mother :bored:

[Marc]

She'll never know!
...omg! What if she were to join here when she's old enough? She'd be mortified! Especially if I was still around! That's like going to a nightclub and your mum being there!

I would perma ban her for you xox

[Niamh.]

:laugh2:

[Novo]

She'll never know!
...omg! What if she were to join here when she's old enough? She'd be mortified! Especially if I was still around! That's like going to a nightclub and your mum being there!

Well i am going to print screen this and then in 10 years time i will inform her what awful tricks her Mother pulled on her when she was younger, Unless off course you send me a £500 cheque right now

[Doogle]

:laugh3:

At that age I just asked what rude words meant. When I got to about 11 the first thing I did was search for an in private browsing function (not to scare you or anything)

[Lee.]

I would perma ban her for you xox

:love:

[Marc]

:laugh3:

At that age I just asked what rude words meant. When I got to about 11 the first thing I did was search for an in private browsing function (not to scare you or anything)

Dylan the perve.

[Apple202]

My daughter got an ipod touch for Christmas and I happened to check her internet search history today :shocked:

Amongst the usual stuff I found she had been searching for "naked butts", "dinkles", "boobs", and "snogging". I can also assume, given the amount of searches she has done, thar she fancies Zayn from One Direction! :bored:

I've deleted Safari off her ipod and replaced it with a child safe search engine and I've set all her music, apps, film downloads to just her age group, so I feel a bit more relaxed about it all. However, I can't make all mums do the same and it worries me what they may see when looking for stuff like this.. I'm pretty sure that a search for "naked butts" could come up with some explicit stuff.

The internet is a wonderful place, but man, its a worry for us parents! What's the best thing to download for my laptop to atom them seeing anything untoward?

:bored:

[Apple202]

oh wait she's 8 it's ok then

[Niamh.]

My son is 8, he won't be getting a phone or anything that can access the internet till he's a bit older. I do allow him on the lap top but at the kitchen table where I can see what he's doing. I doubt I'd have anything to worry about though, he closes his eyes if people even kiss on TV :laugh:

[Marc]

Awww give it 3 years Niamh x

[Lee.]

:laugh3:

At that age I just asked what rude words meant. When I got to about 11 the first thing I did was search for an in private browsing function (not to scare you or anything)

She knows what they all mean and she has a younger brother su is quite fascinated by "dinkles" :laugh: I just don't want her to type something in and be faced with something she shouldn't be seeing.

Lol.. one of my customers in the pub checked his sons history (he was older, maybe 12 or 13) and he had been looking for "big tits and hairy fannies" :laugh3:
If I remember correctly, he didn't mention it at all as he thought it was completely natural... which I agree with to a certain extent, but 8 is just too young in my opinion :)

[Niamh.]

Awww give it 3 years Niamh x

:bawling: Not my baby

[MTVN]

I remember one of my brothers friends tricked me into googling porn when I was about 9, was spelling it "pawn" at first though and so couldn't see what all the fuss was about

[Doogle]

She knows what they all mean and she has a younger brother su is quite fascinated by "dinkles" :laugh: I just don't want her to type something in and be faced with something she shouldn't be seeing.

Lol.. one of my customers in the pub checked his sons history (he was older, maybe 12 or 13) and he had been looking for "big tits and hairy fannies" :laugh3:
If I remember correctly, he didn't mention it at all as he thought it was completely natural... which I agree with to a certain extent, but 8 is just too young in my opinion :)

Oh my god :laugh3: My younger cousin got caught doing something similar to that but yeah again he was older. I feel so bad for you Lee but this story is brilliant. Obviously I can't imagine what it would be like in your situation :joker:

[Marc]

:laugh3: "big tits and hairy fannies"

[Lee.]

My son is 8, he won't be getting a phone or anything that can access the internet till he's a bit older. I do allow him on the lap top but at the kitchen table where I can see what he's doing. I doubt I'd have anything to worry about though, he closes his eyes if people even kiss on TV :laugh:

That's what I mean though Niamh.. we can monitor what they're seeing at home, but what about when they're with friends who have internet access with no restrictions? :(

[Niamh.]

That's what I mean though Niamh.. we can monitor what they're seeing at home, but what about when they're with friends who have internet access with no restrictions? :(

I know but there's nothing we can do about that bar never letting them outside the house :laugh: It's horrible thinking about it though

[Doogle]

:laugh3: "big tits and hairy fannies"

This is exactly the kind of thing I expect you to say anyway

[Lee.]

I know but there's nothing we can do about that bar never letting them outside the house :laugh: It's horrible thinking about it though

It is :(

[Withano]

You gave a 9 year old an iPod with internet access, no sympathy from me. completely your mistake. You've done the right thing now though

[Withano]

And the search engine probably had a moderate safesearch filter on by default, so you have nothing to worry about. (Unless she knows how to turn it off)

[Smithy]

Im so glad my parents were/are computer illiterate

[Niamh.]

Im so glad my parents were/are computer illiterate

Why, cos you were loooking up so much porn when you were younger? :pipe:

[Ramsay]

I remember getting caught searching up porn because i didnt know the internet even had a history..ah the good old days of being able to just fap off to a picture that took 15 minutes to load, dial up :love:
But yeah dont have a sit down serious conversation with them. thats what my mum did and it was so embarressing, it makes me feel ill even thinking about it. just be casual about it and dont make them sit down

[Lee.]

I remember getting caught searching up porn because i didnt know the internet even had a history..ah the good old days of being able to just fap off to a picture that took 15 minutes to load, dial up :love:
But yeah dont have a sit down serious conversation with them. thats what my mum did and it was so embarressing, it makes me feel ill even thinking about it. just be casual about it and dont make them sit down
Nah, I just casually mentioned it on the way home from school.. I didn't say I had been snooping, I said her dad had received an email saying that she had been looking up rude words... she wasn't embarrassed or anything, she just laughed her head off about "naked butts" :laugh: It's all perfectly acceptable to her to look for funny/rude pics but she has no idea what she could actually see! She was actually more upset when I teased her about the Zayn thing... she actually burst into tears :(

[Kizzy]

My son did that lee, at 8-9 he googled 'tits' I was shocked at him using this word, he admitted he only did it because he couldn't spell 'boobies'... :joker: