Thinking of coming back to the UK

[Benjamin]

So as you know, I am currently living in New Zealand. My visa is due to end in 10 weeks. I can either extend it to a second year, apply for a working visa with my company or return home.

I'm a bit undecided about what to do, I love NZ, but the idea of going home keeps cropping up more often.

I don't know what to do.

[InOne]

Go to a different country

[Ninastar]

I think it depends whats better for you job/career/experience wise.

[Josy]

Are you not enjoying that job you have over there? if you are then you would probably be better staying on for a while.

[bbfan1991]

If you are homesick and want to be close to your loved ones then come back, although NS is right consider how you are feeling in general, job wise and whether you want to maybe perhaps try out a new country to live in?:)

[Me. I Am Salman]

by far the best country in the world

[Marc]

Don't come back

[MTVN]

Reckon I would miss the UK too much if I ever emigrated

[bbfan1991]

Reckon I would miss the UK too much if I ever emigrated

Same. People who do it are brave.. I would miss my family and friends too much!:blush:

[lily.]

Do you have a job to come back to? If not, then stay where you are.

If you do though, and you think you'll be happier amongst your own people, then do it.

[Niall]

Just try and think about where you'll be happiest and take it from there. That's all I can think of really.

[Drew.]

Welcome back to England

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[Benjamin]

I love my job here, and I don't have any job to come back to, lol. I just think this stage of the travelling is making me think about home. If I stay away longer than a year it will break my record set by Australia.

[Kizzy]

Aw, are you missing the cold, the rain, the air of social and economic discord, the general malaise?
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[Brother Leon]

The UK is generally miserable and depressing. Look forward to finishing Uninand hopefully being able to go to another country. I envy you if it makes you feel better,Ben :laugh:

[GypsyGoth]

The past year has zoomed by, so I think if you chose to stay for another year, it'll go back just as fast.

I feel that you should stay and have another twelve months of fun and experiences.

[Withano]

when in doubt, bash one out

[Ammi]

So as you know, I am currently living in New Zealand. My visa is due to end in 10 weeks. I can either extend it to a second year, apply for a working visa with my company or return home.

I'm a bit undecided about what to do, I love NZ, but the idea of going home keeps cropping up more often.

I don't know what to do.

..maybe don't do anything until you do know what to do and feel it's right...hmm, I don't know when you have to apply to have your visa extended..?..

I love my job here, and I don't have any job to come back to, lol. I just think this stage of the travelling is making me think about home. If I stay away longer than a year it will break my record set by Australia.



..yeah, but that's just..'at this stage'..you've done it before and you know that feeling will pass...it's just part of the whole process and can be interpreted as 'letting go' just as easily as you may feel it's pulling you in a certain direction....

..if you don't have to apply to have your visa extended yet, maybe just give it a few more weeks to decide...and in the meantime, try not to think about it too much and just enjoy what you have and see how it feels when the decision has to be made....

..don't worry, we'll console Marc if you do come back...

[AnnieK]

You could always extend your visa and see how you feel. At least then your options are open. When I worked in the States I would have loved the option to extend but I couldn't, a year wasn't quite long enough although I soon slipped back into UK life.

[thesheriff443]

are all the sheep looking the same ben?:joker:
your doing thing's most can only dream of, you should think long and hard.

[SharkAttack]

Renew and stay a while. It's impossible for a place to feel like home unless you give it a chance. It takes nearly half a year to adjust to wtf is happening, while going about your work and life, and then another 6 months to truly see what you have...and that's just the start. Two years, minimum, and then go home if you aren't feeling it. Or somewhere else. Best wishes, Ben. :) Plus, you keep those perfect hours in between time zones to maintain steady conversation on our site here, so there's that. :joker:

[Niamh.]

Why don't you just go home for a holiday? What are your main reasons for wanting to go home and the main reasons for wanting to stay in NZ

[arista]

I love my job here, and I don't have any job to come back to, lol. I just think this stage of the travelling is making me think about home. If I stay away longer than a year it will break my record set by Australia.


Logic says
as you have no Job to return to
you must stay Down Under.

[lily.]

For once, I actually agree with Arista.

What kind of work do you do Ben? Are there prospects of employment for you if you return. The job market here is a huge mess, so you do have to consider that.

[Kizzy]

Write a list of pros and cons with the biggest at the top, then a clear answer may pop out at you?

[sooty]

We are only young once!

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[lostalex]

It won't be like you remembered it. It'll never be the same as you remembered it. That's all i'll say.

I tried to come home once. I moved to California when i was 18, tried to move home to the East Coast when i was 21... it wasn't the same. I learned you can never go back.

It won't be the same.

but good luck with whatever you decide.

[Cherie]

It won't be like you remembered it. It'll never be the same as you remembered it. That's all i'll say.

I tried to come home once. I moved to California when i was 18, tried to move home to the East Coast when i was 21... it wasn't the same. I learned you can never go back.
It won't be the same.

but good luck with whatever you decide.

That might be your experience Alex, but it is not necessarily true for everyone, many people take gap years or go travelling for a few years and return home, and carry on with their lives. I think its a given some things will have changed as time or people do not stand still!

[Benjamin]

Hhmmm, I think I will try and stay here on a sponsorship, work are willing to offer me one, I found that out this morning. I can always go home on a holiday but if I stay it won't be until October time as return flights are very expensive atm.

For those of you wondering what I do I'm an Adventure Pioneer (which means I scope out new and existing activities/hikes/places to see etc. for backpackers and often get to try them) and I also do marketing (in which I go out and train agents how to sell products/packages/tours etc to backpackers and travel groups). I also get in the shop a couple times a week to do some sales (as I do well in the commission).

I actually love this job, but the idea of being home seems to swim around my head as if home is perfect (I know it's not).

[lostalex]

That might be your experience Alex, but it is not necessarily true for everyone, many people take gap years or go travelling for a few years and return home, and carry on with their lives. I think its a given some things will have changed as time or people do not stand still!



I never said it was true for everyone.

Ben made this thread because he wanted our own opinions, so i gave him MY opinion. Sorry, should i have given him someone else's opinion? should i have taken a survey or something? he Asked for my opinion and i gave it to him, so what's the problem?

Why are YOU tryna make me feel like crap for telling him my own personal experience and MY opinion?

Do you have a problem with me CHERIE?

[Cherie]

:joker:settle down, and stop being so overly dramatic.

[lostalex]

:joker:settle down, and stop being so overly dramatic.


well i didn't see you picking out or ridiculing anyone else's opinions...

I'm not being dramatic, i was just responding to you being strangely confrontational.

[Cherie]

I did find sayng....I learned you can never go back..a touch over dramatic. Anyways apologies if you feel slighted it was not my intention.

[lostalex]

I did find sayng....I learned you can never go back..a touch over dramatic. Anyways apologies if you feel slighted it was not my intention.

no worries. Sorry if i took it the wrong way.

Back to Ben's dilemma now!

i gave my best advice (even if it was ridiculed and discounted) but anyways... hopefully someone will have better advice that Cherie will agree with :P

[SharkAttack]

Hell, Ben, if you like what you're doing, no reason to quit on it now. Perfectly reasonable "excuse" not to go home, besides special occasions. Not a bad way to go! :D

[Cherie]

no worries. Sorry if i took it the wrong way.

Back to Ben's dilemma now!

i gave my best advice (even if it was ridiculed and discounted) but anyways... hopefully someone will have better advice that Cherie will agree with :P


Aw Alex that made me lol.:joker: btw I have no problem with you at all Alex I think you are a very interesting poster and read your posts with interest.:blush:

[Joseline]

Who would choose to live in the UK? Go seek psychiatric help, is my advice.

[Lee.]

Where do you live Joseline?

The UK isn't bad at all. The weather is ****e, but I sure can think of worse places to stay.

[smeagol]

england - cold wet dark rainy miserable hole full of orcs - its a no brainer lol

[Annie]

Ben come home to me :lovedup: