do men like to hug more?

[the truth]

Im a tactile person. I like a good hug off my loved ones.
But Ive found over the years Im way way more huggy than any of my girlfriends. yet the media tells me all men are more aggressive and all we want is sex all day long and women prefer tenderness and hugs and kisses? as so often the case the difference between what the media tell us is reality is a million miles away from the actual reality.

Just wondering if this varies from person to person a lot. is it a male/female thing?
obviously most people wil say oh you cant generalize? yet the media does generalize on this and many issues. besides Im basing this on 15 years experience.

Ive had the same experience with every GF over 15 years. maybe Im just not huggable :bawling:

[Black Dagger]

I love hugs. Always have.

[Marcus.]

love hugs

[the truth]

I love hugs. Always have.
have a virtual hug :wavey:

[Kizzy]

I don't hug... the kids might get a hug, on their birthday.

[Cherie]

My eldest son (16) loves a hug, and I get a hug from him every day. My youngest son (14) is not huggy at all and hugs only under duress...so I guess it depends on the person.

[Drew.]

i love a big squeeze

[AnnieK]

I am huggy when I want to be...I hug my son all the time but I like my own space too...I have some friends who hug every one they meet....I have some personal space issues unless I know someone really well...my mum wasn't very huggy so maybe that's where I get it from....(although she is totally different with her grand kids)

[Jake.]

Yeah I love a hug!

[the truth]

I don't hug... the kids might get a hug, on their birthday.

why kizzy

[Munchkins]

I love Hugs, they make me feel secure

[Cherie]

:hugesmile:I love Hugs, they make me feel secure

that's what my son says, he feels really comforted by a hug..such a big softy

[the truth]

I love Hugs, they make me feel secure

me too, have a virtual hug munchkins:wavey:
ps it would be an interesting questionaire to ask a cross section of male and females and see if there is a gender disparity here....unless women generally avoid them just in case it leads to sex they may not be in the mood for?

[Kizzy]

why kizzy

I was joking a bit, i'm like annie I don't hug random people or friends as a greeting but my lad at 16 likes a hug more than my lass whos 19.
She does hug her friends though and he doesen't so go figure haha.

In my family it's more common to hug when saying goodbye than hello too.

[AnnieK]

me too, have a virtual hug munchkins:wavey:
ps it would be an interesting questionaire to ask a cross section of male and females and see if there is a gender disparity here....unless women generally avoid them just in case it leads to sex they may not be in the mood for?

I avoid them with males and females though so its not a case of avoiding for avoidance of possible sex...I think it may be more how you were brought up....were your parents free with hugs truth? My parents weren't particularly so I don't see it is a comfort thing... Maybe thats why I am not a hugger, it wasn't usual for me???

[the truth]

I avoid them with males and females though so its not a case of avoiding for avoidance of possible sex...I think it may be more how you were brought up....were your parents free with hugs truth? My parents weren't particularly so I don't see it is a comfort thing... Maybe thats why I am not a hugger, it wasn't usual for me???

no my parents werent huggy when i was growing up, warm loving parents just not huggy? maybe i feel i need to catch up on body warmth?

[Ramsay]

I hug everyone, even people i just met

[the truth]

to underline my point, a woman in new york is making a fortune offering hugs for $60 an hour...its called the snuggery.....in a city of 20 million clearly theres a load of lonely people in those high towers, how desperately lonely would u be to actually pay for a hug? sad really

WELCOME TO THE SNUGGERY
Jacqueline established The Snuggery because she believes in the healing power of touch. The Snuggery is a place to take a break from the hustle and bustle of life and focus on the simple restorative pleasure of touch. Though science has unquestionably supported the psychological and physical benefits of non-sexual touch, Americans distinctly lack it. It's time for change. At The Snuggery, Jacqueline provides individuals with private snuggling sessions. She aims to make the world a gentler place, one snuggle at a time.

[Suze]

I feel awful admitting this, but I am just not a huggy person unless an occasion demands it and some just need a hug. I do tend to hug animals though, cats, dogs, bunnies, etc.

[Jords]

huggy huggy

[the truth]

I feel awful admitting this, but I am just not a huggy person unless an occasion demands it and some just need a hug. I do tend to hug animals though, cats, dogs, bunnies, etc.

thanks for your honesty. do u have any reason why u think this is?

[Kizzy]

Flip this feels like therapy... I'm off to find something to hug.
Maybe I don't hug enough? My son gets well jell if I hug the dog... :joker:

[the truth]

Flip this feels like therapy... I'm off to find something to hug.
Maybe I don't hug enough? My son gets well jell if I hug the dog... :joker:

sorry to be pushy...:blush: just interested to know why some are huggy and some arent? I think its an important issue.

[Vanessa]

I love a cuddle! :amazed:

[Kizzy]

sorry to be pushy...:blush: just interested to know why some are huggy and some arent? I think its an important issue.

It's fine haha, I don't like it when those I don't know try to hug me, I find it a bit threatening in fact.
Those who hug sometimes don't pick up on non-verbal signals, that's really annoying when they just steam in and accost you, it's rude and intimidating. :(

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

i like hugging men really tight so our genitals make contact

[Suze]

It's fine haha, I don't like it when those I don't know try to hug me, I find it a bit threatening in fact.
Those who hug sometimes don't pick up on non-verbal signals, that's really annoying when they just steam in and accost you, it's rude and intimidating. :(

Oh thank goodness it's not just me then. I felt bad enough that i am not a huggy person as it is. Remember being at the shops not too long ago, and someones neighbour came up and just hugged me whilst I was with them, I was not best pleased at all, but just faked a smile and left it at that, although I am sure I tried to cringe away from them.

[Benjamin]

i like hugging men really tight so our genitals make contact

Always a great moment when reading this at work and my boss walks past and reads it also...

[Kizzy]

Oh thank goodness it's not just me then. I felt bad enough that i am not a huggyfied person as it is. Remember being at the shops not too long ago, and someones neighbour came up and just hugged me whilst I was with them, I was not best pleased at all, but just faked a smile and left it at that, although I am sure I tried to cringe away from them.

Haha, no it's not just you.. Do 'space invaders' attack you too?.. they step forward and you step back during convo's so it looks like you are doing some strange 'no contact' waltz?.. :joker:

[lostalex]

i like hugging men really tight so our genitals make contact

men's genitals fit much better if you turn the other way around...

God clearly made a hole in his bottom for you to fit in.

Clearly God intended you to put your penis in his bottom, why else would he have made butt holes fit so perfectly for men's penis's?

It's obviously God's will.

[joeysteele]

I like hugs but all my family are really close and it just seems really right to me anyway.

Someone I have just met though or who hasn't indicated they like hugs then I wouldn't dream of just invading their space and doing so.
To some it is a very natural and friendly thing to do but I do know people who cringe just at the thought.

[Ammi]

I hug everyone, even people i just met



....:lovedup:

[the truth]

It's fine haha, I don't like it when those I don't know try to hug me, I find it a bit threatening in fact.
Those who hug sometimes don't pick up on non-verbal signals, that's really annoying when they just steam in and accost you, it's rude and intimidating. :(

fair enough, but what about those close to you?

[Ammi]

I like hugs but all my family are really close and it just seems really right to me anyway.

Someone I have just met though or who hasn't indicated they like hugs then I wouldn't dream of just invading their space and doing so.
To some it is a very natural and friendly thing to do but I do know people who cringe just at the thought.

..yeah, we're a huggy family as well Joey...most of my friends hug as well, but I wouldn't if I felt someone didn't feel comfortable with it....

[joeysteele]

..yeah, we're a huggy family as well Joey...most of my friends hug as well, but I wouldn't if I felt someone didn't feel comfortable with it....

:joker:At Christmas especially and other times of family gatherings we, my family, have so many Aunts, Uncles and Cousins that by the time you have got round them all it is nearly time for some to leave.

[lostalex]

God loves you.

http://img856.imageshack.us/img856/7555/tumblrm1elxysyhq1r8wz28.jpg

[Ammi]

:joker:At Christmas especially and other times of family gatherings we, my family, have so many Aunts, Uncles and Cousins that by the time you have got round them all it is nearly time for some to leave.

...LOL..awww, I think I'd love a Joeysteele Christmas...:love:..

[Kizzy]

fair enough, but what about those close to you?

No, just my kids, or my dog or people in hospital...haha

[Cherie]

No, just my kids, or my dog or people in hospital...haha

:suspect: you do know these people are trying to get well

[Niamh.]

I don't think liking hugging is gender specific haha. I like hugs, I usually limit it to my family though :laugh: also Gav has the best hugs in the world

[Ammi]

I don't think liking hugging is gender specific haha. I like hugs, I usually limit it to my family though :laugh: also Gav has the best hugs in the world

...awww, good old Gav lol..:love:..

[Niamh.]

...awww, good old Gav lol..:love:..

:love:

[Vanessa]

http://gifs.gifbin.com/052011/1306866732_cat_hugs_sleeping_kitten.gif :lovedup:

[Marcus.]

http://gifs.gifbin.com/052011/1306866732_cat_hugs_sleeping_kitten.gif :lovedup:

:lovedup:awwwwwwwwwwwww

[AnnieK]

http://gifs.gifbin.com/052011/1306866732_cat_hugs_sleeping_kitten.gif :lovedup:

Omg...that's adorable :love:

[Kizzy]

http://gifs.gifbin.com/052011/1306866732_cat_hugs_sleeping_kitten.gif :lovedup:

I would deffo hug that...:D

[sassysocks]

Im a tactile person. I like a good hug off my loved ones.
But Ive found over the years Im way way more huggy than any of my girlfriends. yet the media tells me all men are more aggressive and all we want is sex all day long and women prefer tenderness and hugs and kisses? as so often the case the difference between what the media tell us is reality is a million miles away from the actual reality.

Just wondering if this varies from person to person a lot. is it a male/female thing?
obviously most people wil say oh you cant generalize? yet the media does generalize on this and many issues. besides Im basing this on 15 years experience.

Ive had the same experience with every GF over 15 years. maybe Im just not huggable :bawling:

Aww, you certainly sound huggable. I think lots of men like hugs, they just don't think it's manly to admit it. I find that very sad as I think most women aren't impressed by all that macho nonsense anyway.


I certainly know that little boys tend to be more huggy and affectionate than little girls. I think girls are more independent by nature than boys.

[Mystic Mock]

I'm a guy and I hate hugging, it just makes me feel awkward and I always feel like my parents keep watching me whenever someone hugs me.

[Mystic Mock]

Aww, you certainly sound huggable. I think lots of men like hugs, they just don't think it's manly to admit it. I find that very sad as I think most women aren't impressed by all that macho nonsense anyway.


I certainly know that little boys tend to be more huggy and affectionate than little girls. I think girls are more independent by nature than boys.

Going by my own experiences I 100% agree with you on this.

[the truth]

Going by my own experiences I 100% agree with you on this.

yes interesting point thats not really addressed in the mainstream. who knows this unaddressed need for more affection for boys could be at the heart of some of the misbehaviour and alienation of young men?

as for those kittens how could anyone not want to hug them?:wavey:

[the truth]

Omg...that's adorable :love:

i want to adopt these NOW

[Mystic Mock]

yes interesting point thats not really addressed in the mainstream. who knows this unaddressed need for more affection for boys could be at the heart of some of the misbehaviour and alienation of young men?

as for those kittens how could anyone not want to hug them?:wavey:

If you're on about proper Kittens and not nicknames for girls then I would be worried that the Kitten might scratch my neck.:joker:

[lostalex]

I'm not a very tactile person in general, usually only with a guy i'm with am i really touchy feely, but with family members and friends i'm not into all the touching and hugging. I havn't noticed that men or women are more huggy, I think everyone's just different.

I think extroverted people are probably more naturally tactile and introverted people not as much.