Would you date someone who is transgender?

[Jessica.]

I know it's highly possible that there are transgender people using the forum and I would never be intentionally offensive but I am extremely curious, due to the happenings in that other thread.

Hypothetical situation.
If you got close to someone and wanted to date them and they suddenly told you they were born in the wrong body but are now living as their true gender, but haven't had gender reassignment surgery, would it bother you, or would you accept it?

If anything I said here is offensive, please let me know so I can change it.

[Munchkins]

Yes i would if i ever eventually wanted a relationship, which i doubt, what annoys me though, is they seem to attach stigma to transgender people in society, by only portraying those who do not pass very well, and still look like their original gender
They do not show people like Kim petras, who successfully transitioned young, and now looks better than most biological girls..
Not saying you need to pass, but it is annoying they dont show both sides

[Holly Christmas]

so to clarify, I would want to date a guy (as I thought) but he then told me he was born a girl and was living as a guy?

I don't know tbh, but I wouldn't dismiss it out of hand, I found Luke A attractive in BB, so I don't have an issue.

[Jack_]

If I was in love, it wouldn't bother me. I'd experiment if we were just dating to see how I felt but I'm not sure, it'd be an at-the-time decision. Couldn't possibly know now.

[Munchkins]

Kim Petras:
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lhlwf2dKyj1qe4m1ko1_500.jpg

[Tom4784]

I couldn't date someone that was pre-op but post-op wouldn't bother me.

[james130]

I have no prejudice towards transgender people or anything like that. I answered no, but thinking about it, I could maybe "date" a transgender person, but would find the whole 'anatomy' thing hard to deal with. Post-op would be different.

[Jessica.]

Yes i would if i ever eventually wanted a relationship, which i doubt, what annoys me though, is they seem to attach stigma to transgender people in society, by only portraying those who do not pass very well, and still look like their original gender
They do not show people like Kim petras, who successfully transitioned young, and now looks better than most biological girls..
Not saying you need to pass, but it is annoying they dont show both sides

Yeah, I agree with you about how transgender people are portrayed as never truly looking like their preferred gender, though it's perfectly possible to block puberty/take hormones which makes them look/develop as their preferred gender.

[Jesus.]

No. I want children in the future and internal plumbing renders that an impossibility. I don't want a surrogate, or adoption.

Also really selfishly, does anyone know what a constructed vagina is like? I don't want to find it's like having a wank with lube, then be stuck with it for life.

[Brother Leon]

Most definitely no.

[Jessica.]

I don't really know what I would do in the situation I described, but I made the thread as I know some people would have an answer to it. I think the thing that would make me lean more to a no is that we wouldn't be able to have children biologically, it's so hard to answer because I couldn't imagine loving someone other than my boyfriend, but who knows, you can't choose who you love, I don't know what I would possibly do.

[Apple202]

No, I wouldn't

[Black Dagger]

I couldn't date someone that was pre-op but post-op wouldn't bother me.

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[Munchkins]

And Jen another transgender person who does not fit into the stereotype society portrays
http://i2.ytimg.com/vi/ipSqAsu2MYw/mqdefault.jpg
http://i.ytimg.com/vi/eotd5VgwUt8/0.jpg

[Roy Mars III]

if she looked like the ones Munckins is posting

[Jessica.]

And Jen another transgender person who does not fit into the stereotype society portrays
http://i2.ytimg.com/vi/ipSqAsu2MYw/mqdefault.jpg
http://i.ytimg.com/vi/eotd5VgwUt8/0.jpg

Is she post-op?

[Munchkins]

Is she post-op?

I don't know if she is yet, but all those pictures are from when she wasn't

[Marcus.]

no i would not

[Jesus.]

Can we just establish that "having a play" is different from "dating?"

I would have a play, but not date.

[Jessica.]

Can we just establish that "having a play" is different from "dating?"

I would have a play, but not date.

Well, I mean serious dating/long term.

[Jesus.]

Well, I mean serious dating/long term.

Cool. For that reason, I'm out.

[Munchkins]

Janet Mock..
http://cdn.necolebitchie.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/janet-mock-682x1024.jpg
https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcR6SQdoPEOueZU5wFRr0SQgCBJ-kHKk2sD8Iz3PKT7B0ovLDTNO
https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcS2QfLZxvNjQiIW-3uzUzATNOoYGCoDlGehgtTge5-6OHR3f2pK

[In the Drunk Tank]

There was also that transsexual who was originally disqualified from competing in Miss Universe Canada but was then reinstated and did quite well

http://www.medyafaresi.com/g1/32d_d00c7.jpg

[arista]

I couldn't date someone that was pre-op but post-op wouldn't bother me.


You Dirty begger

[Brother Leon]

Would just be weird thinking they had a dick at some stage or still do tbh. Might be ignorant in my behalf, but that's my view.

[Kizzy]

There was also that transsexual who was originally disqualified from competing in Miss Universe Canada but was then reinstated and did quite well

http://www.medyafaresi.com/g1/32d_d00c7.jpg

And lovely Jackie from leeds :D

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/4347129/Miss-England-semi-final-for-transgender-teen.html

[Jake.]

It would be tough, not being able to have children with her would be an issue as I really want kids

[Marcus.]

It would be tough, not being able to have children with her would be an issue as I really want kids

that what i would have put

[Me. I Am Salman]

No.

[Saph]

I chose no, i'd be their friend but wouldn't want a sexual relationship with them.

[Urban Cragou]

No. I have no problem with transgender people but there's no way I'd have a relationship with one.

[Jake.]

It would be a harder situation if you were deeply in love with this person imo

[Northern Monkey]

No!I could be friends but nothing physical.

[Shaun]

Wouldn't rule it out, so I've voted yes, just because I wouldn't categorically write off a whole demographic

[MeMyselfAndI]

Nope, but I'd be their friend

[Monkey Slut]

Yes I would date them.

[Legend killer]

http://www.gifsforum.com/images/gif/wtf/grand/nba_wtf_gif.gif

[Jack.]

It would be tough, not being able to have children with her would be an issue as I really want kids

This is what I was about to put . I really want kids . So.. The answer to the poll is No

[mizzy25]

I have answered no I just couldn't really see myself with someone that used to be a girl and is now a guy. Like most people though I have no problem being friends with them. Infact the whole thing fascinates me. Maybe as when I was a lot younger like 20 odd years ago, my friends then boyfriends sister was having a sex change from woman to man. I think my fascination stems from there.

[aman201]

Absolutely no chance I would.

[Merry Mockmas]

No I can't help it but I just wouldn't be able to do it.

But maybe if I was dating them for a few months and then they told me then I might feel differently. (even though it might make me angry for a bit that they tricked me like that)

I know I'm messed up in the head as I've just contradicted myself all in one post, but that's the only way I could date them or stick it out with them.

[swinearefine]

I could easily love someone transgender but I wouldn't have sex with them because I'm only sexually attracted to men. I don't really adhere to the whole dating/relationships/monogamy thing anyway so it wouldn't be an issue.

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

It's possible. :)

[Jessica.]

No I can't help it but I just wouldn't be able to do it.

But maybe if I was dating them for a few months and then they told me then I might feel differently. (even though it might make me angry for a bit that they tricked me like that)

I know I'm messed up in the head as I've just contradicted myself all in one post, but that's the only way I could date them or stick it out with them.

That doesn't sound messed up at all, it's fair enough.

[CaudleHalbard]

I would be wary of anyone who is so unhappy with themselves but they are prepared to undertake major and unpleasant surgery in order to make themselves feel psychologically better.

[Natalie.]

I would be their friend and be accepting but I don't think I could have a sexual relationship with them but who knows I guess. Couldn't rule it out

[joeysteele]

If I was in love, it wouldn't bother me. I'd experiment if we were just dating to see how I felt but I'm not sure, it'd be an at-the-time decision. Couldn't possibly know now.

Hi Jack, good to see you back and happy new year to you.

I agree with all you say above, like you I similarly couldn't know the answer now at this time.
I guess too if I was really to fall in love with someone, it also as you say wouldn't matter then.

[Me. I Am Salman]

that post is from one year ago Joey :joker:

[joeysteele]

that post is from one year ago Joey :joker:

:joker:I know, I have just noticed that, I never saw this thread before though.

Typical of me to be playing catch up :joker:

[Jesus.]

I would be wary of anyone who is so unhappy with themselves but they are prepared to undertake major and unpleasant surgery in order to make themselves feel psychologically better.

Great point and I think it's impressive that you can sum up an important issue in so few words, whilst simultaneously dismissing anyone with gender issues.

Nothing a good cup of tea and a chat wouldn't cure. Then we could do away with all this cutting off your bollocks, nonsense.

[Chuck]

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-hvexoe14FYA/UpZBQXk-DLI/AAAAAAAAMeA/ITESQZ_I3dU/s1600/oliver+1.jpg

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-vt28hToQmpA/UpZBzUIv1qI/AAAAAAAAMeI/hukW-OTBYQ8/s1600/oliver+2.jpg

Yes

[Jessica.]

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-hvexoe14FYA/UpZBQXk-DLI/AAAAAAAAMeA/ITESQZ_I3dU/s1600/oliver+1.jpg

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-vt28hToQmpA/UpZBzUIv1qI/AAAAAAAAMeI/hukW-OTBYQ8/s1600/oliver+2.jpg

Yes

:shocked:

[Z]

I think there needs to be better coverage of female-to-male transgender people, you only ever hear about male-to-female and it's become almost this camp, pantomime thing to smirk at rather than being seriously discussed, it's kinda bad.

[T*]

It's what they are now and what their personalities like, what they were doesn't matter.

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

I look at personalty, so if i liked them then i don't see why not.

[Livia]

No. That doesn't mean I wouldn't like them as a friend.

[Z]

I'm not sure I'll ever meet a transgender person, you don't really come across anything out of the ordinary in northern Scotland :laugh:

[arista]

I'm not sure I'll ever meet a transgender person, you don't really come across anything out of the ordinary in northern Scotland :laugh:

With Your luck
you will.

[Livia]

I'm not sure I'll ever meet a transgender person, you don't really come across anything out of the ordinary in northern Scotland :laugh:

You live in northern Scotland don't you, Zee?

While there might not be many transgender people in your area, you can't tell me that you're not "out of the ordinary".

[Z]

You live in northern Scotland don't you, Zee?

While there might not be many transgender people in your area, you can't tell me that you're not "out of the ordinary".

I'm perfectly ordinary, apart from all of the things I do that aren't remotely ordinary whatsoever

[Livia]

I'm perfectly ordinary, apart from all of the things I do that aren't remotely ordinary whatsoever

You're unique, Zee... which is why I love ya x

[Z]

You're unique, Zee... which is why I love ya x

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