Are you confident?

[Amy Jade]

I think I am confident in my looks and how people view me but I do worry that people judge me intellectually and that sometimes comes across I think because if somebody calls me stupid even as a joke I tend to react really defensivly to it.

[King Gizzard]

i will let the fact i spend most of my time on here answer this question for me

[Black Dagger]

no lolol.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

no heh

[Amy Jade]

Why guys?

You're all good looking and have great personalities.

[Withano]

Depends how drunk I am

[Ammi]

..I'm confident at work but not socially...I'm not really good at small talk...

[smeagol]

people tell me im very confident thats shocking to me lol i must be the best actor alive lol

[Drew.]

in some situations i can be confident.. if iv got some adrenaline running through me etc but besides that not really..

[Me. I Am Salman]

With friends yes, with new people not really

[Black Dagger]

With friends yes, with new people not really

Oh yeah this mainly. I'm a loud twat when I'm with friends.

[Kizzy]

I am in social situations, I'm a good mixer and get on well with all types of people. But personally my self confidence is low and how I look has a big part to play in that...I hate to say that as it sounds a bit shallow.

[Apple202]

I'm not sure, sometimes I'm really confident sometimes I'm not.

I think I'm fairly good looking - but that can often change daily. I know I'm clever though, so I'm not insecure about that. I know I'm crap at sports and everyone else knows it too so idgaf about that.

[Jake.]

Looks wise, not really. I can speak to new people, but not in the same way as people I know

[Munchkins]

Hell no! i absolutely hate my looks, i think i look rank tbh. I over analyse every single part of my appearance, until i just get to the point of hating everything about myself tbh! i get so jealous of other people aswell, which is so stupid, as jealousy is pointless :/ but i cant help it. I hardly go out with my friends, and always reject their invites, as i get so insecure, seeing everyone else at parties and stuff, and get really anxious of them judging my appearance, or just me in general so i just avoid it..
But yeah i really want plastic surgery when i get older tbh, i wish i wasn't so insecure, but oh well

[Brother Leon]

Nar, but I put on the greatest front possible to the extent people actually think I am over confident.

[Jarrod]

I was. But then some stuff happened.

[GypsyGoth]

Sometimes, it depends.

I was never really socially but I got over that by avoiding everything social.

[Niall]

I have absolutely no confidence in pretty much everything.

[Ninastar]

im pretty confident in my looks but socially I dunno. Im getting pretty good I think.

[Novo]

Yeah i'm not bad when it comes to socialising i suppose, i've met up with a few people online just to play Tennis and it's much easier when you talk about something you can both relate to, everything just comes together then and you don't need to make much effort to keep the conversation going same when your playing football as well or watching a film.. think it all depends on what kind of situation people are in.. can't stand it when someone you know stops you in town to talk and they just go on and on about different things, my secret weapon is usually one word answers but if it's one of my Mum's friends that doesn't seem to work at all

[Munchkins]

People don't realise i'm so insecure though tbh, since if you talk about it to anyone, its classed as attention seeking :/ and fishing for compliments

[Novo]

Well it doesn't really help when you say the same thing in every thread :pipe:

[Jack_]

More than I used to be for sure, there's still room for improvement but I'm getting there.

It's weird, I went from having average confidence as a kid to having pretty high confidence around 13/14, and then it kinda went downhill for seemingly no reason (well, I stopped socialising mainly, so it was self induced but not for any particular reason...think I just became lazy) and now it's probably average again. It's kinda self-inflicted with me which is annoying because it just turns into a vicious circle. Socialise less, lose confidence, struggle to socialise...annoying really. But like I said it's better now.

[Munchkins]

Well it doesn't really help when you say the same thing in every thread :pipe:

It's a forum, i really couldn't care less what people think of me :pipe: i enjoy playing up to this self obsessed image people think i have LOL it's different in real life, you can act how you want on here. At the end of the day i can just log out of this forum and not come back, whilst you cant do that in real life.

[Novo]

How silly

[Munchkins]

How silly

Nah not really, why should anyone care what people think of them online, unless they actually desire to meet the person and form a proper relationship with them

[Novo]

Just think it's a bit pointless, what have you got to gain from giving yourself a new image online? Who knows.. maybe you'll actually meet people in the future that you speak to online and it's going to be a lot easier talking to them if you act the same way as you do Online

[Locke.]

Trouble in paradise it seems

[Munchkins]

Just think it's a bit pointless, what have you got to gain from giving yourself a new image online? Who knows.. maybe you'll actually meet people in the future that you speak to online and it's going to be a lot easier talking to them if you act the same way as you do Online

Point is, i act how i actually am to the people i can trust online, through personal chats etc, theres no point opening up to the whole forum

[Munchkins]

Trouble in paradise it seems

Just No. :rolleyes:

[Novo]

No need to get uppity with John Locke

[Munchkins]

No need to get uppity with John Locke

I don't think i was tbh

[Kizzy]

It's a forum, i really couldn't care less what people think of me :pipe: i enjoy playing up to this self obsessed image people think i have LOL it's different in real life, you can act how you want on here. At the end of the day i can just log out of this forum and not come back, whilst you cant do that in real life.

Eh... That's a bit odd, yes I know 1000's of people do it but how exausting would it be to have to act all the time?
I'm a bit shocked at this revelation as you come across as quite genuine actually.

[Brother Leon]

Trouble in paradise it seems

Their usual lovers tiff. Nothing new here.

[Munchkins]

Eh... That's a bit odd, yes I know 1000's of people do it but how exausting would it be to have to act all the time?
I'm a bit shocked at this revelation as you come across as quite genuine actually.

I don't mean i fake every bit of my persona, it's just exaggerated, as it can be on the internet, :). I play up to the self obsessed bit, since im nothing like that in real life, and once i got called on it on here, i just thought it would be quite humorous to go along with it :laugh: i kinda wanna get a razzie x. It was also in relation to the topic... whereas i can act confident on here, but i could never in real life :)

[Locke.]

Just No. :rolleyes:

Miss Munchkins if you don't start showing your boyfriend and I some respect there will be consequences

[Kizzy]

I don't mean i fake every bit of my persona, it's just exaggerated, as it can be on the internet, :). I play up to the self obsessed bit, since im nothing like that in real life, and once i got called on it on here, i just thought it would be quite humorous to go along with it :laugh: i kinda wanna get a razzie x. It was also in relation to the topic... whereas i can act confident on here, but i could never in real life :)

Ah, i see :joker:

[the truth]

i agre wwith muchkins you can role play here and online and even play different characters and test different ideas, i think thats healthy and fun as long as it doesnt hurt anyone, which she would clearly never do. why do u think actors love playing different roles other than themselves? its fun

[Brother Leon]

Gotta some some roleplay to spice up life tbh.

[Jesus.]

Confidence is dynamic, and ebbs and flows as we achieve good things, or get battered by bad experiences. I've generally always been fairly confident. I've worked in proper sales environments, which isn't for shrinking violets, and now the most important part of what I do is presenting ideas and bids to directors and HR managers, and getting them to buy into me as a person, and my abilities. I don't win them all, and the losses hurt.

I'm also capable of some extremely deep lows, that none of my friends suffer with. When things get on top of me, it can take a while before I realise, and then before I can deal with it. I can manage to mask it enough to get me through the bare minimum required for life, and then retreat inside myself to try and cope at the earliest opportunity.

[Amy Jade]

I find it frustrating that such nice people who've posted aren't confident yet they're genuinely lovely.

I wish I could give you some of mine.

[the truth]

I find it frustrating that such nice people who've posted aren't confident yet they're genuinely lovely.

I wish I could give you some of mine.

trouble is the types of people who turn up drunk at every social event tend to be the bores of the century, so why would interesting people want to attend?

[Maia]

Not remotely socially :L Not really either looks wise either but I'm not too bothered there.

[Ammi]

Why guys?

You're all good looking and have great personalities.

...for me SH, having confidence isn't about how you look..it's not about 'being attractive'..it's about 'feeling attractive'..not just in appearances but everything about you...and a lot of that is inside you from childhood really..from a lot of sources who have great influence on you as well..parents/peers etc...maybe some is genetic...but whatever the reasons, it's hard to change it, so as you get older and people might comment on your looks etc..say 'you're pretty/good looking/handsome' etc..maybe for a fleeting moment you may believe them...but inside your head and your mindset will always refuse to believe them..so what you 'look like' and what people see.. and who you yourself see in the mirror are two different things...sometimes the complete opposite....

[Munchkins]

Miss Munchkins if you don't start showing your boyfriend and I some respect there will be consequences

No Locke. No

[arista]

..I'm confident at work but not socially...I'm not really good at small talk...



Thats What Matters



Keep On Keepin' On Ammi

[Marc]

I think I am confident in my looks and how people view me but I do worry that people judge me intellectually and that sometimes comes across I think because if somebody calls me stupid even as a joke I tend to react really defensivly to it.

Your username is StupidHoe... :laugh:

[Marcus.]

i am not

[thesheriff443]

Your username is StupidHoe... :laugh:

i was thinking the same thing!

[Kizzy]

Me too but didn't want anyone to think I was being nasty saying it... :joker:

[Glenn.]

That's horrible Kizzy :idc:

[Brother Leon]

Stop bullying the stupid hoe FFS!

:p

[Iceman]

I dunno ask Karl lol.