Mother takes son out of school because he was attacked for being ginger

[arista]

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/06/12/article-2340147-1A460791000005DC-781_306x456.jpg
Sonny Carver, 11, has been removed from
school by his mother, Sarah (both pictured)
after she claims he was bullied for two years

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2340147/I-took-son-school-attacked-ginger-Pupil-11-removed-lessons-mother-years-bullying.html#ixzz2W0IVLdBN


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[GiRTh]

Are there any forum members that can relate to this dilemma?

[arista]

Are there any forum members that can relate to this dilemma?

One of the mods

[Z]

Are there any forum members that can relate to this dilemma?

Definitely not because gingers don't have feelings



On a serious note though, that's a shame for the boy, hope he's not left traumatised for life, it's just his hair colour... elsewhere in the world, ginger hair is really valued because it's so rare

[Jake.]

Marc?

[Kazanne]

I like ginger hair,i don't get peoples problem with it.

[Cherie]

Now look at their faces, I doubt either of those two were ever bullied. Attention seeking yes definately.

[King Gizzard]

Poor guy. He's not even proper ginger

[Jake.]

Now look at their faces, I doubt either of those two were ever bullied. Attention seeking yes definately.

Did you read the article lol?

[Ammi]

...it shouldn't have happened but it sounds as though he'll be much happier in his new school, poor little guy...

[AnnieK]

Oh god...poor kid. I dread my little boy getting bullied for being ginger. I had the usual teasing, ginger nut, copper top and my favourite Duracell (the battery with the copper coloured top) but I wouldn't say I was bullied.

[Ammi]

Oh god...poor kid. I dread my little boy getting bullied for being ginger. I had the usual teasing, ginger nut, copper top and my favourite Duracell (the battery with the copper coloured top) but I wouldn't say I was bullied.

..I think the thing is Annie, when these stories receive publicity then it makes you worry that it happens all the time and in all schools but it doesn't..he's at a new school now and seems happy, it shouldn't have happened at all and he shouldn't have had to move, but don't feel that this is the norm...

[Cherie]

Did you read the article lol?

I did, and it was a bit of a tongue in cheek comment, however, I am perplexed now that he is settled at a new school why she would want to advertise the fact that he was bullied on a National Newspaper, you would think the kid would want to put it behind him, he is 11, so next step High School if you get my drift.

[fruit_cake]

the bullying seems to start so young these days, it's awful.

[Mystic Mock]

Bullying always happens and while I feel sorry for this kid, there's much worse bullying going on at other Schools.

[arista]

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[arista]

someone should teach him Judo

[Cherie]

Bullying always happens and while I feel sorry for this kid, there's much worse bullying going on at other Schools.

Exactly any parent who thinks there is a "bully" free school is deluded, you have to teach your kids how to deal with taunts and insults, and not hope the school will deal with the issue, because they might in Primary but in Secondary while they try to deal with these issues, the bullies are far too savvy to get caught.

[fruit_cake]

it seems the nature of today's society seems to encourage bullying sadly

[the truth]

wheres the school teachers and headmaster/head mistress in all this? wheres the boys father?

[GypsyGoth]

Why didn't his own kind protect him?

[fruit_cake]

so many unanswered questions

[Kizzy]

It's just kids being kids, fgs at school they take the pee out of each other all the time... fatty, spekky, spotty, ginger... it's all going a bit mad.

[Marc]

:( Brings back too many horrible days/weeks/months.

Kids can be horrible and its even worse when adults shout abuse at you. You'll never felt so small or pathetic as you do when somebody shouts abuse at you for no good reason.

[AnnieK]

It's just kids being kids, fgs at school they take the pee out of each other all the time... fatty, spekky, spotty, ginger... it's all going a bit mad.

I agree that you have to expect some teasing at school for whatever reason but the line has to be drawn when that escalates into physical violence. Too many stories now about kids taking their own lives due to bullying.

[AnnieK]

:( Brings back too many horrible days/weeks/months.

Kids can be horrible and its even worse when adults shout abuse at you. You'll never felt so small or pathetic as you do when somebody shouts abuse at you for no good reason.

Did you get a lot of grief over your hair Marc? I do think its harder for ginger boys, I got teased a bit with name calling but the worst thing with being ginger for me was I couldn't get away with anything as I was too recognisable. I was the only ginger kid in year so I was always spotted.

[Ammi]

I agree that you have to expect some teasing at school for whatever reason but the line has to be drawn when that escalates into physical violence. Too many stories now about kids taking their own lives due to bullying.

..I agree Annie, bullying has obviously always happened both inside and outside of the school environment, but there hasn't always been 'the power of the internet' which makes it much easier to make people's lives miserable..I know that's not what has happened in this case but because bullying is having a much more increasing and tragic effect, I think that's all the more reason why schools, police etc have to take it more seriously and for schools not to just have policies in place that say all the right things but to act on them as well...imo, there are a lot more pressures on young people than there used to be, both socially and educationally...

[Jake.]

Just horrible how people and kids can be that shallow and nasty over the colour of somebody elses hair :( sorry to hear about you two getting bullied/teased (Marc and Annie), it's horrible how low a person can be made to feel over something like that

[Marc]

Did you get a lot of grief over your hair Marc? I do think its harder for ginger boys, I got teased a bit with name calling but the worst thing with being ginger for me was I couldn't get away with anything as I was too recognisable. I was the only ginger kid in year so I was always spotted.

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

[AnnieK]

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

Aw that's rough Marc.. Definitely worse for biys i think I worry for my little boy. At the moment everywhere I go we get stopped because of his "beautiful" hair but I know he's going to hate it when he gets to school. Although there does seem to be more kids with it now.

I was pretty lucky I guess I didn't get worse, it could have been awful especially when you consider I had ginger hair, glasses and fixed braces. I think people thought I had it rough enough without pushing it further (that and I had a popular big brother so people were nice to me to get in his good books. Little did they know he probably would have liked them more if they were horrible to me, would have saved him a job :laugh:).

[Marc]

Aw I had sisters who sort of stop their friends from saying stuff and anybody in their year from being horrible. But they left when I was in yr9

[Cherie]

Marc :bawling:

It's not a given though that you will be bullied because of hair colour, my friends's son is Year 11 and he has bright ginger hair, freckles the lot and he goes to a school which has a quite high percentage of black kids and he hasn't had too many problems, the odd thing here and there, but nothing out of the ordinary. At any age there are people who revel in putting others down or making them feel uncomfortable, we need to learn how to deal with it, because adults can be nasty too!

[Jake.]

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

Ah Marc that's so awful :(

[RichardG]

I've had people shout abuse at me for the same reason over the past 5 years and i'm actually thankful for it. It's made me a much stronger person. I used to come home crying every day in years 7/8 but now, it's happened so often I've become totally desensitized to it. People can call me anything they want to and i'll forget about it a second later. I've been told that that's a bad thing and it should never have got to such a stage that this would happen, but ultimately if it means I go through life without caring about peoples insults then that can only be beneficial. :p

[Kizzy]

That is a very positive message, I would never condone physical violence and is against any schools rules anyway. What I meant to say was it's important to instil confidence and self esteem in a child to help with any teasing.
I'm surprised to hear you are still so affected marc as you regularly mention your hair yourself, I for one won't be mentioning it again.

[arista]

That is a very positive message, I would never condone physical violence and is against any schools rules anyway. What I meant to say was it's important to instil confidence and self esteem in a child to help with any teasing.
I'm surprised to hear you are still so affected marc as you regularly mention your hair yourself, I for one won't be mentioning it again.


In todays Metro
they are moving him to a new school

[Kizzy]

I read the mail article thanks ( through gritted teeth) :laugh:

[Niamh.]

Grief.. did I ever. Got physically attacked, got spat on. And there was never a day when I didn't get some abuse shouted at me. Just because of my hair.. so a lot of the time when people jokingly mentions my hair now I feel meh

awww really? There were people with ginger hair in my class in school, I don't ever remember anyone mocking them over their hair colour though, strange. I'm sure it doesn't happen to the red haired kids in my kids classes either

[GiRTh]

Why didn't his own kind protect him?Great post :joker:

[arista]

I read the mail article thanks ( through gritted teeth) :laugh:



Bless you

[Kizzy]

awww really? There were people with ginger hair in my class in school, I don't ever remember anyone mocking them over their hair colour though, strange. I'm sure it doesn't happen to the red haired kids in my kids classes either

Is it more socially acceptable in Ireland? my mum talks of my grans 'beautiful red hair' that lots were envious of and she was proud of.
(not that anyone shouldn't be proud of it)
Or are kids just particularly cruel in Yorkshire, seriously anything even slightly different and you would be teased.

[GiRTh]

My post seems really insensitive now I've read the rest of the thread.

Marc and Annie, it must be terrible being picked on like that. :hug:

[Niamh.]

Is it more socially acceptable in Ireland? my mum talks of my grans 'beautiful red hair' that lots were envious of and she was proud of.
(not that anyone shouldn't be proud of it)
Or are kids just particularly cruel in Yorkshire, seriously anything even slightly different and you would be teased.

It must be, I don't ever remember people getting teased because of having ginger hair. I remember a ginger kid in secondary getting teased but it was because he had green teeth not red hair :laugh:

I also remember a girl in my class who had ginger hair but it was really lovely, it was so thick and curly and a really nice shade. She never got teased, she was pretty popular actually

[GiRTh]

Green teeth?:joker:

[Niamh.]

Green teeth?:joker:

Well more like green gums really :shocked:

[AnnieK]

Well more like green gums really :shocked:

Sounds delightful. :laugh:

[GiRTh]

Well more like green gums really :shocked:

That's even funnier. Did he have scurvy or something?:spin:

[Niamh.]

That's even funnier. Did he have scurvy or something?:spin:

lol I don't know, he did walk around with a parrot on his shoulder though so it's possible argh

[GiRTh]

lol I don't know, he did walk around with a parrot on his shoulder though so it's possible argh:joker:

[Kizzy]

Bliddy hell that sounds grim :(
I thought 'flaming red hair' was a very attractive too. Tried everything to get my hair that colour actually :laugh:

[GiRTh]

Bliddy hell that sounds grim :(
I thought 'flaming red hair' was a very attractive too. Tried everything to get my hair that colour actually :laugh:I agree. I think flaming red hair on a woman is HOT. Rose Leslie is ten times more attractive cuz of her hair IMO.

[GypsyGoth]

Great post :joker:

:D

[Me. I Am Salman]

It baffles me ginger people actually get seriously bullied, there were three ginger people in my year at school and well absolutely no one gave a ****** about their hair