Surrogate mothers

[thesheriff443]

What is your opinion on surrogate mothers?
Does this procedure have any negative affects apart from providing people with money the opportunity of a child
Will the child have any issues from being conceived in this way
would you ever consider it.

[smudgie]

Fortunately I was able to have my own babies, for those that can't then I think it is a wonderful opportunity.
Surrogacy normally involves the mother's egg and father's sperm so I don't see any great emotional problems for the child later in life. It will be with both biological parents.
Providing it is all above board and the surrogate mother is fit in both health and mind about it all then fine.
Not really sure about the money aspect, I suppose "hiring out" your body for nearly a year deserves something, you put yourself at the same risk as carrying your own baby as well.


Editing in the fact that of course when a child is born of surrogacy for a same sex couple then only one could be the biological parent.

[AnnieK]

I think it's an incredibly selfless and wonderful thing to do. I spent years having failed fertility treatments and a close friend (who had 3kids) offered to do it for me. I declined as I wanted to carry my own child and experience that and if it wasn't to be I would adopt (I later conceived naturally).

It takes an unbelievably strong person to do it though, you have to able to completely distance yourself emotionally and I'm sure that would be difficult.

[Kizzy]

There doesn't seem to be the stigma attached that there was, a 'womb for hire' can seem a little clinical.
But I guess it's just another service, and the money is for the associated risks.
I couldn't do it personally but I don't feel it's morally or ethically wrong to be a surrogate.

[AnnieK]

It is illegal to charge money (although you can claim expenses). Having been through the nightmare of infertility I could possibly do it but not for a stranger...I have been an egg donor as there is a shortage of eggs for women who are ale to carry a pregnancy but whose own egg qualities are poor etc.

[Niamh.]

I think it's a fantastic way for people who can't have kids to have them. I would consider doing it for a close friend or relative (as long as it wasn't my child biologically that is)

[Kazanne]

It's a lovely thing for someone to do,I am just not sure I could hand over a baby I had given birth to.

[Niamh.]

It's a lovely thing for someone to do,I am just not sure I could hand over a baby I had given birth to.

Even if it wasn't yours biologically? I think i could but I would only do it for someone close to me

[AnnieK]

Even if it wasn't yours biologically? I think i could but I would only do it for someone close to me

You would still "know" the baby though...still feel all the same sensations as if you were carrying your own. I agree, I could only do it for someone very close to me. It would be a huge thing to do....

[Niamh.]

You would still "know" the baby though...still feel all the same sensations as if you were carrying your own. I agree, I could only do it for someone very close to me. It would be a huge thing to do....

Ah yeah of course but I still think I'd be able to hand it over to a relative or close friend if it was their's biologically and I had it clear in my head from the get go that i was just baby sitting, in a way

[AnnieK]

Aw, yeah that's a great way of looking at it :love:

[Natalie.]

It's a very nice thing to do and selfless, I couldn't do it. I don't want children but if I did and I wasn't able to I don't think I'd have a surrogate.

[Kazanne]

Even if it wasn't yours biologically? I think i could but I would only do it for someone close to me

I would still have carried it Niamh,gone through all the things that come with pregnancy,thinking about it I may for immediate close family like daughter,sister brother,I'de consider it:hugesmile:

[Niamh.]

I would still have carried it Niamh,gone through all the things that come with pregnancy,thinking about it I may for immediate close family like daughter,sister brother,I'de consider it:hugesmile:

Yeah cos it would still be your grand child or niece/nephew etc

[Ammi]

You would still "know" the baby though...still feel all the same sensations as if you were carrying your own. I agree, I could only do it for someone very close to me. It would be a huge thing to do....

Ah yeah of course but I still think I'd be able to hand it over to a relative or close friend if it was their's biologically and I had it clear in my head from the get go that i was just baby sitting, in a way

..I do agree that it's a great thing to do and very difficult 'emotionally' ..and while inside you, you would feel the same sensations etc Annie, but for me, it wouldn't even be inside me unless the feelings were certain that I was committed to doing it for someone very close...and then once I'd had the baby, the 'emotions' of how that person/couple would feel if I kept the child..?..and how that would then make me feel for the rest of my life when I looked at that child..?...what would far outweigh a possible disappointment at giving that child to it's mother/parents....for me personally, it would be more like 'stealing' a child from someone, even though they haven't met that child yet...

[Ammi]

..actually, thinking about it, I don't think that I could 'fully love' the child because I know how much I'd hurt someone very close to me by keeping them..so for me, all that would achieve is to make many people miserable, including the child, I would think..to sense that from it's 'mother'....

[Jesus.]

If any attractive women need a surrogate father, then I'd be willing to step up to the plate. I'd take one for the team.

[Vicky.]

I think its amazing tbh. What an opportunity to give someone

I disagree that it should be illegal to pay someone to do it too. Its a massive risk you are taking with your body(even though pregnancy is seen as safe these days), and if the person is willing to pay, I think they should be able to. It sounds quite bad..but you are providing a service..

[Z]

Not even just because of the risks, but to give up a year of your life (9 months pregnancy + sufficient recovery time, should add up to about a year right?) - to change your diet, lifestyle, taking the toll of pregnancy - and all of that just to make other people happy, that's one of the most selfless things to do in the world.

[the truth]

how much do sperm banks pay?

[lostalex]

I feel the same way about surrogacy as I feel about abortion and prostitution. A woman should be free to make her own decisions about what she does with her own body.

I don't see how it would affect the baby in any negative way, no more of an affect than adoption i think.

[thesheriff443]

If any attractive women need a surrogate father, then I'd be willing to step up to the plate. I'd take one for the team.

jesus, they only let you put your donations in a jar!

[thesheriff443]

Even if it wasn't yours biologically? I think i could but I would only do it for someone close to me

im seriously!, interested how your husband would feel about this, if you get a moment, could you pose this question to him?

I don't think I would want my other half to do this.

[Niamh.]

im seriously!, interested how your husband would feel about this, if you get a moment, could you pose this question to him?

I don't think I would want my other half to do this.

I don't know actually. I think maybe if it were someone we were both close to he'd be ok with it. I will ask him and get back to you, I wouldn't do it if he was very against though :love: