How close are you to your parents?

[Benjamin]

Just wondering? I myself haven't spoken to my mum in nearly 6 years, I don't even know where she lives anymore and I haven't really properly connected with her since I was about 15 when she kicked me out of the house for good. My father passed way when I was four so I'm not very close to him, lol.

[reece(:]

Never met my Dad but see my Mum every day.

[AnnieK]

Very close......not so much when I was younger but when I left home I realised just how much they did that I didn't even notice and how lucky I was...

[Z]

Pretty close, speak to them almost every day in some way or another, they know my friends, have them on all my social networking sites etc and don't feel the need to self censor or anything!

[Kizzy]

Ben that's very sad, I don't want to intrude on your feelings but is there nothing that could reconcile you and your mother?
I had a very volatile relationship with mine a few years back too, but for all her flaws (and mine) she is my mum so I let a lot go.
My dad passed away in 1996, I miss him a lot.

[joeysteele]

I consider myself really fortunate, I adore my Parents and I know they do me too. We are extremely close.

[Natalie.]

I am very close to them, have a good relationship with both of them

[Samm]

Yes,i think it's good to be close to your parents

[Lee.]

My dad was never a part if my life really, but I'm glad I had some contact with him before he died 8 years ago.. I'm very close to my mum though :love: I love her loads!

[smudgie]

I was neve close to my mother, no real love lost there.
I showed her much more respect than she deserved, something I was very pleased about because later in life I discovered she had been raped when she was seven. May well have made her the person she was.
My dad on the other hand, I just totally adored him. As did all his kids and grand kids. I was a proper daddy's girl. He passed away nealy 5 years ago and I still miss him so much.

[Jake.]

Closer to my mum because I live with her, but also pretty close to my dad, text him most days and see him perhaps every other weekend if I can, though things like work can get in the way... that's sad about your relationship with your mother though Ben :hug:

[LemonJam]

Super close. Especially over the last few years family has become the most important thing to me.

[Niamh.]

I'm very close to my mom, not at all with my dad

[MTVN]

Close enough, we don't have one of those talk about anything relationships but we get on well, though going to university while also making me appreciate them more also means I end up getting pretty fed up of them if I spend too long in their company and start getting nagged at :idc:

[Livia]

We are a very close family. I would choose to spend time with my family over friends... in fact, my brother is probably my best friend. Geographically I'm close to my parents too, they are my nearest neighbour.

[mizzy25]

my dad died nearly 21 years ago and my mam died last year, Id say I was pretty close to my mam. I have a very good memory of the last time I seen her alive though. I had called in on a Fri afternoon as Id left work and was bored she was out shopping but I waited, she came back asked if Id like to stay for tea which I did, we watched home & away which she loved and I do too, then we had a ridic conversation about where I had worked and where @ the time my sister was still working and we were laughing our heads off proper belly laughing taking the pee out of something, Im so glad I called on that fri as that was the last time I seen her alive she died on the Mon.

[Jords]

Very close with mum, closer with my dad than I used to be.

[Kazanne]

I don't know my biological mom she abandoned me and my brother when I was about 2 he was 3,although my dad was about he was pretty useless,we were both adopted together to a lovely family who I adore,they have been wonderful to us,my biological father and I never got on we didn't speak for a while,Infact he died without us ever having made up,but tbh,I'de be more upset over losing my 'parents' I have now as. I love them so much.i appreciate all they have done.

[LikeABoatOnWater]

Well considering there is 10,000 miles between us and I haven't spoke to them in months, id say we arent all that close.

[Josy]

My mum passed away when I was 21 and I was devastated because we were extremely close, we have a really large family including a few brothers that my parents adopted and we were all and still are really close.

My dad took my mums death really really hard and had a stroke the same morning she passed away (he ended up in the ward next to her in the hospital) he was ok for a while after that but recently had another stroke that affected his brain so atm he's in a brain recovery residence about 2 hours away and I phone him every day and visit every week, he has trouble remembering me though sometimes and that can be quite hard to deal with.

But I'm still as close to him as I possibly can be.

[Lee.]

My mum passed away when I was 21 and I was devastated because we were extremely close, we have a really large family including a few brothers that my parents adopted and we were all and still are really close.

My dad took my mums death really really hard and had a stroke the same morning she passed away (he ended up in the ward next to her in the hospital) he was ok for a while after that but recently had another stroke that affected his brain so atm he's in a brain recovery residence about 2 hours away and I phone him every day and visit every week, he has trouble remembering me though sometimes and that can be quite hard to deal with.

But I'm still as close to him as I possibly can be.

:hug: you speak to people on here every day and don't realise what some are having to cope with in real life.

That's really sad josy.

[Black Dagger]

I probably got closer to my parents since they split up.

I'm definitely close with mum and the new family that I never had that I now do, I have a step niece, a step brother who is younger and a step sister, it's crazy.

But yeah, I love my Dad, I live with him and when he's around we are always talking and ****.

[AnnieK]

My mum passed away when I was 21 and I was devastated because we were extremely close, we have a really large family including a few brothers that my parents adopted and we were all and still are really close.

My dad took my mums death really really hard and had a stroke the same morning she passed away (he ended up in the ward next to her in the hospital) he was ok for a while after that but recently had another stroke that affected his brain so atm he's in a brain recovery residence about 2 hours away and I phone him every day and visit every week, he has trouble remembering me though sometimes and that can be quite hard to deal with.

But I'm still as close to him as I possibly can be.

Pretty much what Lee said...:hug:
Nothing more I can add...except :love:

[Marc]

Not very, I mean I still live at home but I don't tend to spent much time with them what with work. But we're a lose family in general when we're all together we always talk

[Marc]

My mum passed away when I was 21 and I was devastated because we were extremely close, we have a really large family including a few brothers that my parents adopted and we were all and still are really close.

My dad took my mums death really really hard and had a stroke the same morning she passed away (he ended up in the ward next to her in the hospital) he was ok for a while after that but recently had another stroke that affected his brain so atm he's in a brain recovery residence about 2 hours away and I phone him every day and visit every week, he has trouble remembering me though sometimes and that can be quite hard to deal with.

But I'm still as close to him as I possibly can be.

:hug: Thanks for sharing that, I never knew this about you

[zakman440]

I'm so close to my mum, I don't know what I would do without her. My dad, however, is a completely different story.

[smeagol]

about 6 miles lol

[Kazanne]

about 6 miles lol

:joker::joker::joker: you are naughty,lol

[Kizzy]

I don't know my biological mom she abandoned me and my brother when I was about 2 he was 3,although my dad was about he was pretty useless,we were both adopted together to a lovely family who I adore,they have been wonderful to us,my biological father and I never got on we didn't speak for a while,Infact he died without us ever having made up,but tbh,I'de be more upset over losing my 'parents' I have now as. I love them so much.i appreciate all they have done.

If I've never said it before kazanne know I think you're a very special person in spite of your experiences as an infant. Your adoptive parents must be extra special too :hug:

[Kate!]

Josy :hug:

[Kate!]

And Kaz :hug:

[Harry!]

I am very close to my mother, I tell her most things and we get along well.

Sadly my father passed away in August so we are no longer together. We had a great relationship and I made the most of it in his last few months. I was closer to my mother because I had more in common and could identify myself more with her.

[Stu]

Sorry to hear about that, Harry, but it's good that you got to know him.

I'm pretty close with both my parents and thankful for it. I'd never admit to being close to my dad though because he is a miserable bastard. He's a carbon copy of me without all the psychedelic trappings.

[GypsyGoth]

I get on great with my mom, we're very close but I suppose my sister is more of a confidant.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

used to be close with my dad, was a daddy's girl but since his new wifey i'd be lucky to get a call once in a while.

Same with my mum, she's doing her own things.

[smudgie]

I don't know my biological mom she abandoned me and my brother when I was about 2 he was 3,although my dad was about he was pretty useless,we were both adopted together to a lovely family who I adore,they have been wonderful to us,my biological father and I never got on we didn't speak for a while,Infact he died without us ever having made up,but tbh,I'de be more upset over losing my 'parents' I have now as. I love them so much.i appreciate all they have done.

Your parents have brought you up to be such a lovely lass Kaz, they must be really proud of you :love:

[james130]

Very close......not so much when I was younger but when I left home I realised just how much they did that I didn't even notice and how lucky I was...

This is what happened to me.
I see my Mom, Dad and Sister as my best and closest friends now.
I have loads of best friends who I love. But prefer spending time with the fam.

[Z]

There are so many sad stories in this thread, I want to hug those of you who have lost your parents :hug:

[King Gizzard]

really close to my mum/love her more than anything

Not close to my dad, see him every now and then but we get on

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

really close to my mum/love her more than anything


So cute. Is it the type that if your mum disaproved a girlfriend you would dump her?

[King Gizzard]

Don't think she would disapprove anyone, that's whats so great Lol

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

aww sweet

[Benjamin]

Ben that's very sad, I don't want to intrude on your feelings but is there nothing that could reconcile you and your mother?
I had a very volatile relationship with mine a few years back too, but for all her flaws (and mine) she is my mum so I let a lot go.
My dad passed away in 1996, I miss him a lot.

You are not intruding, but no, I doubt much could reconcile us. I've learnt for the last 15 years to rely on myself to get where I want and in all honesty as much as I am happy with what I have done and where I have got myself, I do resent her a lot.

[Benjamin]

I am very close to my mother, I tell her most things and we get along well.

Sadly my father passed away in August so we are no longer together. We had a great relationship and I made the most of it in his last few months. I was closer to my mother because I had more in common and could identify myself more with her.

Harry, I wish more people in the world were like you, you are a genuinely lovely guy.

[Claymores]

My mum has just been diagnosed as having a tumour on the pancreas. In essence it means she has not long to go................another 6 months in pain?

I luvs my mum and have no good way to talk with her and goodbye Really sad

[Benjamin]

I'm sorry to hear that Claymores, I really am. I don't know what to say as I'm not the best person for sage advice but make the most of the time you have left with her and make it count.

[Roy Mars III]

My mom is one of the nicest people ever

my dad and I get on about half the time, we are basically the same person in terms of personality which means we're both kinda assholes

[Brother Leon]

So Close. Always been close with my mum, but me and my dad used to have an up and down relationship with alot of aggression and semi violence. Ever since School ended(that was always the thing that instigated it really lol) we have got really close and I love the bond I have with him.

I thank him so much now for being disciplined back then, because I see the fate of so many people who were around me then and realise that he knew exactly what he was doing and he was right all along. I was just too young and stupid to realise.

[Shaun]

There're a lot of things about my mum that I don't like. And there're times I don't respect her because she is, for all intents and purposes, a bigot. My sister's been dating this guy who's mum is black for about 6 months now and - whilst she likes him - she keeps making these "jokes" (or, she passes them off as such, and will then say them completely seriously another time) about how she wouldn't want them to have kids because "it's wrong" or w/e. Thinks that "it's the kids who suffer" (children of mixed races, I guess - despite me making the point that it's people like her who cause it :laugh:) And then the general homophobic remarks when she's angry with me. Fun.

But I can't hate her because a) how much she's done for me and who she is, and b) she is generally a good, thoughtful and generous person... just a really hotheaded and sometimes immature one lol.

As for my dad well he's dead lul x

but no I got on with him but there was never any father/son bonding moments lol. He was more of a "bloke who came over once in a while to chat about football" figure (they separated when I was about 11 - I don't remember much of him before that other than him being an alcoholic and being OK)

[Kizzy]

It's never easy losing a parent, nothing can prepare you... if you have any issues I would suggest trying to confront them, I did and it's really helped me make sense of a lot of things.
Being a parent myself and at times a bliddy dysfunctional one I've learned to be brutally honest and it's a brave thing to do as it's so easy to try to push hurt down.... Thing is like oil in water it always surfaces.

[Claymores]

I'm sorry to hear that Claymores, I really am. I don't know what to say as I'm not the best person for sage advice but make the most of the time you have left with her and make it count.

Cheers Ben - it was sad, she was in hospital her last birthday so not a good day for the family. On another thread I disclosed it is her only grandson's 21 birthday today so hope she has a great time in her short time left.

[Ammi]

My mum has just been diagnosed as having a tumour on the pancreas. In essence it means she has not long to go................another 6 months in pain?

I luvs my mum and have no good way to talk with her and goodbye Really sad

..I've just read this as well, Ian...I am very sorry to hear about your news, I myself have a very close friend who has just been diagnosed with breast cancer and another friend was about the same time last year, I don't know what it is about this time of year...but anyway, it's not the same prognosis as it is for your mum and I know there's nothing really I can say but when my dad died, the one thing that haunts me is that I never got time to say goodbye/talk to him etc...and just celebrate everything she is and has been by being with her as much as you can....

[Claymores]

..I've just read this as well, Ian...I am very sorry to hear about your news, I myself have a very close friend who has just been diagnosed with breast cancer and another friend was about the same time last year, I don't know what it is about this time of year...but anyway, it's not the same prognosis as it is for your mum and I know there's nothing really I can say but when my dad died, the one thing that haunts me is that I never got time to say goodbye/talk to him etc...and just celebrate everything she is and has been by being with her as much as you can....

@ 47 years old, I'm still "mammi's wee boy" so it is gonna be tough next months watching her die......c'est la vie, not

EDIT - and yes she will buy me socks n pants for Christmas!!!!!!! Gotta luv that!

[Ammi]

@ 47 years old, I'm still "mammi's wee boy" so it is gonna be tough next months watching her die......c'est la vie, not

EDIT - and yes she will buy me socks n pants for Christmas!!!!!!! Gotta luv that!

..I think that when we're around our parents, we will always be 'children', somehow all of those years of being a grown up are extinguished in their presence...but tbh, what would we really ever have done without those socks and underwear because it really is much easier than having to buy them ourselves and mums just seem to instinctively know that we would need them.... my mum still makes me casseroles to bring home when I see her because it's obvious that I might not have worked out how to work the cooker yet and she isn't taking any chances...it's probably not so much for me as it is for her grandchildren....

[Claymores]

..I think that when we're around our parents, we will always be 'children', somehow all of those years of being a grown up are extinguished in their presence...but tbh, what would we really ever have done without those socks and underwear because it really is much easier than having to buy them ourselves and mums just seem to instinctively know that we would need them.... my mum still makes me casseroles to bring home when I see her because it's obvious that I might not have worked out how to work the cooker yet and she isn't taking any chances...it's probably not so much for me as it is for her grandchildren....

LOL Ammi - same in many places.......my old mum has to ask me what tech to buy for her grandson for his 21st today.........but then tells me she also has socks n pants as worries he might run out of clean ones in his student flat!!!!

[Ammi]

LOL Ammi - same in many places.......my old mum has to ask me what tech to buy for her grandson for his 21st today.........but then tells me she also has socks n pants as worries he might run out of clean ones in his student flat!!!!

..the thing is about mums and grandmas is that they do want you to have the 'fun' things because they know those are the things that will put the smiles on faces and those smiles are what they live for but they're also extremely practical...because oh my lord at the thought of some kind of unforeseen disaster while he was using that tech stuff and he didn't have clean underwear or had holes in his socks through not having enough and a member of the public thinking he had a very remiss grandmother...only mums and grandmas can think about this important stuff, Ian and cover every single eventuality in life..they're almost magical in their capacities to do this....

[Claymores]

..the thing is about mums and grandmas is that they do want you to have the 'fun' things because they know those are the things that will put the smiles on faces and those smiles are what they live for but they're also extremely practical...because oh my lord at the thought of some kind of unforeseen disaster while he was using that tech stuff and he didn't have clean underwear or had holes in his socks through not having enough and a member of the public thinking he had a very remiss grandmother...only mums and grandmas can think about this important stuff, Ian and cover every single eventuality in life..they're almost magical in their capacities to do this....

LOL again Ammi - males are useless too............old mum phoned me the other day to check I'd sent a birthday card to a friend I've known over 20 years. I had completely forgotten about this, but she said it was OK, just visit us as we have a card ready for you to send!!!!!!

hahahahaha - what will I do if old Jean dies?!?!

[Ammi]

LOL again Ammi - males are useless too............old mum phoned me the other day to check I'd sent a birthday card to a friend I've known over 20 years. I had completely forgotten about this, but she said it was OK, just visit us as we have a card ready for you to send!!!!!!

hahahahaha - what will I do if old Jean dies?!?!


..I reckon that friend won't even care about that birthday card because of the other 19yrs you forgot to send them one ..you'll be absolutely fine Ian and the reason you will be fine is because that lady has spent all of this time teaching you everything she knows and imparting her wisdom to you...which you probably have absorbed a little bit and enough to get through as well as the rest of us do....but without that wisdom/love/support, you may just have struggled a little bit...you will do well and you will do her proud because she deserves that and because she is proud of her 'works'...

..anyway, I'm not so organised today, I have to get off and do some stuff...you enjoy your day, ok...I hope a good time is had by all at your nephew's birthday and your mums has lots of smiles on her face...

[Ammi]

..I reckon that friend won't even care about that birthday card because of the other 19yrs you forgot to send them one ..you'll be absolutely fine Ian and the reason you will be fine is because that lady has spent all of this time teaching you everything she knows and imparting her wisdom to you...which you probably have absorbed a little bit and enough to get through as well as the rest of us do....but without that wisdom/love/support, you may just have struggled a little bit...you will do well and you will do her proud because she deserves that and because she is proud of her 'works'...

..anyway, I'm not so organised today, I have to get off and do some stuff...you enjoy your day, ok...I hope a good time is had by all at your nephew's birthday and your mums has lots of smiles on her face...



..and because those are the things that matter and you'll remember and not the sadness...