Cheating

[Natalie.]

Have you cheated or been cheated on?

Do you think you would cheat on your partner if you knew they definitely wouldn't find out and therefore wouldn't get hurt?(from psychopath quiz)

[Pete.]

no and I would not.... ever. This IMO is one of the main commandments that should be followed religious or not

[Jesus.]

When I was younger I would have, but as soon as I had a dose of my own medicine, I'd never cheat on anyone again. If you're not happy, split up and have sex with different people, but there is no need to do it. Only peoples insecurities keeps them in relationships past them drifting past sell by date.

[Kazanne]

No,Ide feel too guilty besides I don't want to.

[Ammi]

Have you cheated or been cheated on?

Do you think you would cheat on your partner if you knew they definitely wouldn't find out and therefore wouldn't get hurt?(from psychopath quiz)

...no, not ever..I think if someone in a relationship is attracted to someone else then they should end the relationship if they want to pursue something with the other person...

[Braden]

We had a discussion on cheating the other day in one of my classes. It basically stemmed from the fact that a male in my year has been going back and forth to three different girls (one he's been dating for three years), and they seem to be taking their anger out on each other rather than him.

I would never say that cheating is acceptable because it can ruin a lot of things, especially if the person cheating is married and has kids.

Being 18, at this moment in time I can't imagine being committed to someone. I just don't understand how people can stay with one person, I'd rather keep my options open. But that's just my opinion generally, and I've never been in a genuine relationship where I loved someone, so maybe my view would change after I've had my first bf.

[Ammi]

We had a discussion on cheating the other day in one of my classes. It basically stemmed from the fact that a male in my year has been going back and forth to three different girls (one he's been dating for three years), and they seem to be taking their anger out on each other rather than him.
I would never say that cheating is acceptable because it can ruin a lot of things, especially if the person cheating is married and has kids.

Being 18, at this moment in time I can't imagine being committed to someone. I just don't understand how people can stay with one person, I'd rather keep my options open. But that's just my opinion generally, and I've never been in a genuine relationship where I loved someone, so maybe my view would change after I've had my first bf.


..yeah, I never really can understand why people seem to be more angry with the person the partner has cheated with than they are with the partner themselves...

[Kate!]

..yeah, I never really can understand why people seem to be more angry with the person the partner has cheated with than they are with the partner themselves...

Yes, but this is usually the case. I've done it myself, it's human nature - you want to blame the other person rather than analyse your relationship and accept your other half preferred someone else however briefly.

[Ramsay]

Noooo but I have been with some girls that have had boyfriends and yes i mostly got the blame :laugh:

[Tregard]

It's happened to me, and it's horrible, I could never do that to somebody.

And on the point of getting angry with the person they cheated with, if they're aware that the person has a boyfriend/girlfriend I personally think they're just as bad.

[Gstar]

Nope, not in any circumstances

[Ammi]

It's happened to me, and it's horrible, I could never do that to somebody.

And on the point of getting angry with the person they cheated with, if they're aware that the person has a boyfriend/girlfriend I personally think they're just as bad.

..yeah, I do understand that the other person outside the relationship has some blame as well, I think it's more that they quite often are blamed more than the partner who has betrayed/cheated...

[Natalie.]

To my knowledge I haven't been cheated on but I can imagine it's easier to blame the other person

[Jemal]

Yea ive cheate and been cheated on.
Im kinda glad in a way it all happened, makes me learn from the past

[lily.]

...no, not ever..I think if someone in a relationship is attracted to someone else then they should end the relationship if they want to pursue something with the other person...

This. 100%.

If I didn't want to be with him, I'd leave. I hope he would do the same. I wouldn't want someone staying with me out of habit or obligation, and I wouldn't do that to anyone else.

[Jesus.]

The person with whom your partner cheats is completely blameless imo. Unless they are a friend of yours - then it doubles.

If you are that person, then your responsibility is to your self, not to anyone else's relationship. Especially when one half of that same relationship can't keep it's knickers/y-fronts on.

[smudgie]

I would never even consider cheating on my hubby.
I made a commitment and as long as we are happy and love each other that is that.



However when I was young and free..I was never really faithful to anyone, but I was totally honest about it so they knew what to expect:devil:
Only rules for me was that they had to be free as well
You only live once :wink:

[Mystic Mock]

no and I would not.... ever. This IMO is one of the main commandments that should be followed religious or not

Agreed, if you're not in love with the other person anymore then dump them, I know it's easier said than done but I think the person would appreciate that more than being lied to I would think.

[x-evenstar-x]

There's no way I would! Why people don't just end the relation I'll never know, some people are just greedy!

[AnnieK]

I don't believe it's always cut and dried....speaking from experience of being the cheated on party....I wasn't angry because of the circumstances at the time, I actually understood but I was very very sad...

[Ammi]

I don't believe it's always cut and dried....speaking from experience of being the cheated on party....I wasn't angry because of the circumstances at the time, I actually understood but I was very very sad...

..yeah, I agree that often there is probably things that both partners should look into their relationship very carefully at and if there are problems there, it's very rarely one sided ...but I still don't think that a reaction to that should be to betray your partner when they are possibly unhappy too, it's kind of kicking them when they're down...do you know what I mean..?...

[Alf]

I just can't understand why anybody would want to only have sex with the same and only person for the rest of their days.

I'd call it punishing yourself.

And that's probably the reason I like the single life.

[Niamh.]

I just can't understand why anybody would want to only have sex with the same and only person for the rest of their days.

I'd call it punishing yourself.

And that's probably the reason I like the single life.

That's fair enough and you've stayed single because that's how you feel, nothing wrong with that but it's the people who think like you yet still pretend they're committing to one person and lie and cheat on them who are at fault.

In answer to the OP no I would never cheat on Gav he might not ever find out but I would know and I couldn't lie to his face like that, I hate liars more than anything else

[bwoty]

I've never cheated on my Malc, but I have been the other woman before. In my younger years

[Ammi]

That's fair enough and you've stayed single because that's how you feel, nothing wrong with that but it's the people who think like you yet still pretend they're committing to one person and lie and cheat on them who are at fault.

In answer to the OP no I would never cheat on Gav he might not ever find out but I would know and I couldn't lie to his face like that, I hate liars more than anything else

..I think that's it for me as well, it's not the sleeping with someone else so much as the deceit and lies, because it would be like not recognising your partner as the person you know and love...like you'd never known them at all...

[Ammi]

That's fair enough and you've stayed single because that's how you feel, nothing wrong with that but it's the people who think like you yet still pretend they're committing to one person and lie and cheat on them who are at fault.

In answer to the OP no I would never cheat on Gav he might not ever find out but I would know and I couldn't lie to his face like that, I hate liars more than anything else

..I think that's it for me as well, it's not the sleeping with someone else so much as the deceit and lies, because it would be like not recognising your partner as the person you know and love...like you'd never known them at all...

[Alf]

That's fair enough and you've stayed single because that's how you feel, nothing wrong with that but it's the people who think like you yet still pretend they're committing to one person and lie and cheat on them who are at fault.
Agree with that.

[LemonJam]

I was with a girl in a clearly dying relationship and I met another girl who I connected with very quickly over a week period. She was flying home the next day so I did what I had to do and never looked back.

I broke up with my girlfriend days after because she was interested in someone else anyway so **** her. :idc:

[Glenn.]

I've been cheated on. It's not a nice feeling. It's something I wouldn't inflict on any partner of mine.

[Jake.]

I've been cheated on. It's not a nice feeling. It's something I wouldn't inflict on any partner of mine.

Was you not going to have an affair with a married bloke? :laugh:

[Me. I Am Salman]

I've been cheated on. It's not a nice feeling. It's something I wouldn't inflict on any partner of mine.

Didn't you once contemplate having a relationship with a married man or am I just imagining things

[Jake.]

Snap

[Glenn.]

No I wasn't :hmph:

After I found he was married I ceased contact with him.

I came on to see what everyone's views on it thank you very much. Although I did consider it got like a fraction of a second coz he was hot :idc:

[Jake.]

Homewrecking *****

[Glenn.]

He was obviously unhappy in his marriage anyway :hmph:

[Mystic Mock]

Glenn nearly falling for a pretty face.

[Glenn.]

I'm so shallow :bored:

[Mystic Mock]

I am so too.

[Alf]

I'm so shallow :bored:
Swim to the deep end

[Glenn.]

Swim to the deep end

But that's effort though

[Mystic Mock]

Swim to the deep end

Post of the year potentially.:joker:

[Marsh.]

Shallow and deep? Is this another thread descending into smut?

[Z]

I've been cheated on in the only proper relationship I've ever been in and I would say it's completely ruined my ability to trust or be in another relationship and it will take a long time to work past it. It's already been two and a half years since it happened and I've remained single ever since, at the time it was the worst thing anyone had ever done to me and I'd still rank it up there even now. It takes a really scummy person to do that to someone they're supposed to care about. If you feel that you're with the wrong person - break up with them before you get with the person you'd rather be with. They'll still be upset about it but at least it won't undermine their confidence in themselves. It just makes you feel sick, that you'll never be good enough for anyone ever again and you end up blaming yourself; the person they cheated on you with and anything but the actual person to blame - the cheater.

I hated the person I was dumped for, for a very long time, until I realised very slowly that my anger was misplaced and that while they weren't exactly innocent, they weren't the one who deceived me over a period of months, lied to me about what they were up to or broke my heart, so I shouldn't be angry with him, not really.

[Gstar]

I was accused of having some sort of affair with someone from London :s all their friends added me on msn and were hyping so I was gonna get the coach to london and fight them, I was 15 I think

[Mystic Mock]

Don't mess with Germyle or you'll get your ass kicked.

The whole of the musclebound TIBB will help him out as well.

[Gstar]

Yeah those were my ratchet days lol, even though I'm still ratchet but im not as rude/short tempered (am I?)

[Mystic Mock]

Yeah those were my ratchet days lol, even though I'm still ratchet but im not as rude/short tempered (am I?)

You don't come across that way on here to me anyway.