People with kids/who want kids...

[Ninastar]

I know everyone thinks their own kids are beautiful, but did mothers (when pregnant) ever fear that their kids will be ugly?

that's like one of my biggest fears... that my kids will take after me and be hideous children. Like I'm scared I'll pass on my blindness and my god awful hair... Maybe its because those are the two things I'm really insecure about, but still.

If I do have kids when I'm older and its through IVF or w.e I always wonder if I'd actually want my kids to actually be from my cells. I wouldn't want to put them through the hell of being a mini me lol...

Did any mothers on here worry about this? Or does anyone worry about it now?

I was bullied for how I looked, so maybe its all to do with that.

[Ryan57]

No idea what you look like, but numerous 'ugly' parents have produced good looking children.

Steven Tyler produced Liv Tyler
Gordon McQueen produced Hayley McQueen

http://fabwags.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/lauren-moyes-parents.jpg

These pair produced:

http://www.thesportsbank.net/core/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/lauren-moyes.jpg

[Brother Leon]

My future wife is beautiful so I'll just hope her genes are strongest :joker:

/Sappy

[Kizzy]

No idea what you look like, but numerous 'ugly' parents have produced good looking children.

Steven Tyler produced Liv Tyler
Gordon McQueen produced Hayley McQueen

http://fabwags.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/lauren-moyes-parents.jpg

These pair produced:

http://www.thesportsbank.net/core/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/lauren-moyes.jpg

What on earth? this couple are older... many moons ago that lady will have looked much like her daughter, that's how aging works.

I think a healthy baby is important rather than what he/she might look like.

[Brother Leon]

What on earth? this couple are older... many moons ago that lady will have looked much like her daughter, that's how aging works.

I think a healthy baby is important rather than what he/she might look like.

Yes, but this is what the dad looked like younger...

http://www.whoateallthepies.tv/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/moyes-panini-e1382779047131.jpg

[Marsh.]

Then he aged well. :shrug:

[Kizzy]

http://e1.365dm.com/13/05/402x210/david-moyes-scotland-football_2941638.jpg?20130509142801

Just a normal looking lad, must just be a bad pic that one of yours :shrug:

[Jords]

Caitlin youre far from ugly.

And I think being 'ugly' can be relatively controlled... if they keep fit (diet + exercise), dress well and keep clean + trim (shower regularly, hair styles, shave etc. etc.) then the overall person will improve their appearance.

Maybe facially theyre not that easy going, and although I consider that most important, all those other factors do play a role and are in our control so I wouldnt fear having an 'ugly' child. They are somewhat responsible for that :tongue:

imo

[Jords]

That said I dont find that many people 'ugly' tbh, ok the lot on Jeremy Kyle fair enough but in everyday life whom I come across not really. Sure Id class many as 'not attractive' but not necessarily 'ugly'.

I dont know. I just find that adjective quite cruel so avoid using it.

I got called ugly and wouldnt find a gf about a year ago, by a drunk mate, and I was genuinely not impressed at all I found it very offensive had a go at the ****er. 'fat' meh, thats objective, but 'ugliness' and 'attractiveness' is very subjective and more personal, I find. I have since continued to lose weight, got some nice clothes for nights out etc., started geling my hair now and then... Im far from vain but I just take care of myself a little more and well I wouldnt class myself as attractive but ugly nah.

Anyway this mate liked this girl who flirted with me when I visted some of them at uni not too long ago, I was impressed then :pipe:

But Im one who feels uncomfortable when people talk about celebrities being 'fit' and wishing 'all lads looked like X' etc. etc. Makes me feel not very, um, comfortable with myself I guess.

Bit off topic, but wanting to expand my opinion on attractiveness :tongue:

[Kyle]

When I went on meet the members and posted my pic I'm sure I saw a few of yours and I would concur with the above poster your definitely not ugly at all.

Kids in school will grasp at straws to find anything to have a go at because that's what some kids are like.

[AnnieK]

Caitlin....I did. Obviously, his health was the main thing but I did worry terribly especially as I knew I was having a boy. I didnt want him to be ginger and deal with what I had to growing up. When he was born I didn't ask if he had 10 fingers and toes etc....once I knew he was fine I asked if he was ginger. He was. But although biased he is bloody beautiful. He has dark eyes which help and doesn't have the usual ginger extremely pale skiln but even if he did once they're here you'll have plenty of other things to worry about :love:

[Natalie.]

I don't think I want any but poor child if it looked like me :laugh: I wouldn't worry too much though as long as they're healthy

[Kazanne]

Cant say I ever worried about it and anyway beauty is in the eye of the beholder,those 'ugly' people named and pictured obviously weren't 'ugly' to their partners,like Kizzy said,I was much more worried about whether they would be healthy and have all their faciities,turns out they are all beautiful(in my eyes) plus,I'de worry more over what type of people they turn out to be.

[Jack.]

Caitlin I have seen photos of you on the meet the members page. Your not ugly. You a beautiful good lady :) and my sure that your kids would be aswell

[Kyle]

Cant say I ever worried about it and anyway beauty is in the eye of the beholder,those 'ugly' people named and pictured obviously weren't 'ugly' to their partners,like Kizzy said,I was much more worried about whether they would be healthy and have all their faciities,turns out they are all beautiful(in my eyes) plus,I'de worry more over what type of people they turn out to be.

That's something I've thought about sometimes. If I ever have the privilege of having a child I don't know what I would do if they turned out to be nasty sycophants that ruined other people's lives.

What can you do in that situation? They are your own flesh and blood. Huge grey area for me that. :think:

[Cherie]

What on earth? this couple are older... many moons ago that lady will have looked much like her daughter, that's how aging works.

I think a healthy baby is important rather than what he/she might look like.

agree, and Ryan I think you might need to go to specsavers as Mrs Moyes has great bone structure and lovely eyes so was probably a stunner in her day.

Then he aged well. :shrug:

Yes he has

That said I dont find that many people 'ugly' tbh, ok the lot on Jeremy Kyle fair enough but in everyday life whom I come across not really. Sure Id class many as 'not attractive' but not necessarily 'ugly'.

I dont know. I just find that adjective quite cruel so avoid using it.

I got called ugly and wouldnt find a gf about a year ago, by a drunk mate, and I was genuinely not impressed at all I found it very offensive had a go at the ****er. 'fat' meh, thats objective, but 'ugliness' and 'attractiveness' is very subjective and more personal, I find. I have since continued to lose weight, got some nice clothes for nights out etc., started geling my hair now and then... Im far from vain but I just take care of myself a little more and well I wouldnt class myself as attractive but ugly nah.

Anyway this mate liked this girl who flirted with me when I visted some of them at uni not too long ago, I was impressed then :pipe:

But Im one who feels uncomfortable when people talk about celebrities being 'fit' and wishing 'all lads looked like X' etc. etc. Makes me feel not very, um, comfortable with myself I guess.

Bit off topic, but wanting to expand my opinion on attractiveness :tongue:

Great point, beauty is as someone else said in the eye of the beholder. I think it is a very rare person indeed that hasn't been taunted in some way, shape or form at school, being beautiful will not protect you from being bullied, nor will be being clever, as whatever end of the scale you are some kids just find ways to taunt others.

When there are so many other things to worry about, being "ugly" whatever that is should be way down the list, at any rate mother nature has made all babies cute so no need to worry.

[chuff me dizzy]

What a sad and shallow opinion this is ? if your child was the ugliest baby born you would still love him/her ,and to you they would be beautiful, looks are nothing ,personality is what matters

[Kazanne]

That's something I've thought about sometimes. If I ever have the privilege of having a child I don't know what I would do if they turned out to be nasty sycophants that ruined other people's lives.

What can you do in that situation? They are your own flesh and blood. Huge grey area for me that. :think:

You just have to do your best to steer them in the right direction as you see it Kyle,that's all you can do really,anyway knowing you I'm sure you'de be a great dad with no problems,the kids would soon sort you out !:hugesmile:

[thesheriff443]

You just have to do your best to steer them in the right direction as you see it Kyle,that's all you can do really,anyway knowing you I'm sure you'de be a great dad with no problems,the kids would soon sort you out !:hugesmile:

they would have big problems with him making them support rubbish football teams,lol

[Kyle]

You just have to do your best to steer them in the right direction as you see it Kyle,that's all you can do really,anyway knowing you I'm sure you'de be a great dad with no problems,the kids would soon sort you out !:hugesmile:

Aye lol. No doubt the little bastards would end up looking after me, the big baby that I am :joker:

[Cherie]

What a sad and shallow opinion this is ? if your child was the ugliest baby born you would still love him/her ,and to you they would be beautiful, looks are nothing ,personality is what matters

Agreed Chuff.

[Kyle]

they would have big problems with him making them support rubbish football teams,lol

Less of that cheeky cooont. My football team is like a good woman. Beautiful to look at, every week you worship at her feet but alas in the end she only goes and breaks your heart :bawling:

[thesheriff443]

Less of that cheeky cooont. My football team is like a good woman. Beautiful to look at, every week you worship at her feet but alas in the end she only goes and breaks your heart :bawling:

you got no chance of scoring with that women:joker:

[Kazanne]

they would have big problems with him making them support rubbish football teams,lol

LOL,sheriff,there he could have a problem:hugesmile:

[thesheriff443]

LOL,sheriff,there he could have a problem:hugesmile:

kyle comes home goes in to his sons room and is shocked to the core!

his son is not wearing a dress but a rival teams shirt:joker::joker:

[Ninastar]

Thanks everyone... But pics I put up online are when I'm not wearing my glasses which make a huge difference because of how bad my eyesight is. And I'm so scared I'll pass that on.

[Kyle]

kyle comes home goes in to his sons room and is shocked to the core!

his son is not wearing a dress but a rival teams shirt:joker::joker:

I'll be bloody shocked if I don't come home to see my son in his bed under the covers fapping away with a dirty mag.

Like father like son they say :hugesmile:

[thesheriff443]

I'll be bloody shocked if I don't come home to see my son in his bed under the covers fapping away with a dirty mag.

Like father like son they say :hugesmile:

what mag kyle, mens health, lol falls over, lol

[Kazanne]

kyle comes home goes in to his sons room and is shocked to the core!

his son is not wearing a dress but a rival teams shirt:joker::joker:

:hugesmile:he wont be buying you a pint!

[Kyle]

what mag kyle, mens health, lol falls over, lol

Don't be daft.......















.....national geographic of course.

[thesheriff443]

Thanks everyone... But pics I put up online are when I'm not wearing my glasses which make a huge difference because of how bad my eyesight is. And I'm so scared I'll pass that on.

having a child, comes with risks, you can speak to someone about genetics and the odds of a child having you're eye condition, you have plenty of time to think about the pros and cons.

[Kyle]

Thanks everyone... But pics I put up online are when I'm not wearing my glasses which make a huge difference because of how bad my eyesight is. And I'm so scared I'll pass that on.

Marry a guy with 20/20 vision. :hugesmile:

Nah seriously if it happens it happens. It won't make you or her any less of a person anyway. People say when you have your kid you become this totally new person and I don't think any serious worries would come up after that. The bond between you and your child would be paramount.

[thesheriff443]

Marry a guy with 20/20 vision. :hugesmile:

Nah seriously if it happens it happens. It won't make you or her any less of a person anyway. People say when you have your kid you become this totally new person and I don't think any serious worries would come up after that. The bond between you and your child would be paramount.

marry me kyle:hugesmile:

[Kyle]

marry me kyle:hugesmile:

And who said fairy tales don't come true!

[thesheriff443]

And who said fairy tales don't come true!

they dont:joker:, you're love of football will drive us apart:bawling:
a messy divorce and custody battle to follow:bawling:

[Kyle]

they dont:joker:, you're love of football will drive us apart:bawling:
a messy divorce and custody battle to follow:bawling:

That's a messy custody battle alright. Which one of us gets my treasured cactus.

[thesheriff443]

That's a messy custody battle alright. Which one of us gets my treasured cactus.

you know where you can push that cactus kyle:joker:

[Kyle]

you know where you can push that cactus kyle:joker:

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ib8SjibYkiw/T1TNBuF-13I/AAAAAAAAAX0/y-jPhpHd7nY/s1600/kennethwilliams.jpg

[Livia]

I know everyone thinks their own kids are beautiful, but did mothers (when pregnant) ever fear that their kids will be ugly?

that's like one of my biggest fears... that my kids will take after me and be hideous children. Like I'm scared I'll pass on my blindness and my god awful hair... Maybe its because those are the two things I'm really insecure about, but still.

If I do have kids when I'm older and its through IVF or w.e I always wonder if I'd actually want my kids to actually be from my cells. I wouldn't want to put them through the hell of being a mini me lol...

Did any mothers on here worry about this? Or does anyone worry about it now?

I was bullied for how I looked, so maybe its all to do with that.

You are lovely... I don't understand this at all! If you have babies and they look like you, they'll be lucky kids.

[Jemal]

No idea what you look like, but numerous 'ugly' parents have produced good looking children.

Steven Tyler produced Liv Tyler
Gordon McQueen produced Hayley McQueen

http://fabwags.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/lauren-moyes-parents.jpg

These pair produced:

http://www.thesportsbank.net/core/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/lauren-moyes.jpg

No-wonder Nani and Zaha couldn't resist.

[smudgie]

Never ever did I think about what my kids would look like when I was pregnant.
I was more concerned first time around if I was really up to the job.


If you have children and they grow up with your personality, then you will have beautiful kids Caitlin.:hugesmile:

[Z]

I think every parent I've ever spoken to has said that as soon as the actual baby arrived they just fell completely in love with it and that was that, nothing else mattered - that baby boy or girl is a little person that's partly made up of you, you'll see features that you like about yourself in the baby etc...

Plus, you're not ugly at all Caitlin. I know loads of girls who would kill to have hair as thick as yours and having poor eyesight just isn't as big a deal now as it was when we were younger, glasses have become a bit cooler now! I was a pale, miserable looking child, an ugly ass teenager who was fat and spotty and had glasses and **** hair and none of that matters anymore because most teenagers are exactly the same. Some kids are cute and some teenagers are cute but they tend to be pretty average looking adults because everybody's too busy checking out the ugly duckling that turned into a beautiful swan. That's you, you swan. :love:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Often very small women target very tall men so that their offspring males will not also be short. its a very deep rooted Darwinian thang

[Josy]

I agree with everyone that's said you would love your kids to bits no matter what and that looks don't even come into it.

But seriously Caitlin you are lovely and you really shouldn't worry about passing on bad eyesight, there's lots more kids have bad eyes now than years ago anyway, have you seen how close they sit glued to the tv? :laugh:

[Niamh.]

I can't say it was something I worried about while I was pregnant no

[Jessica.]

You are beautiful Caitlin, I'm sure any child you have will be adorable! They make very nice glasses in this day and age, especially children. One of my nieces has VERY thick hair and been wearing glasses since she was three years old. It's like a part of her, nobody even notices them, she is 8 now and has lots of friends and we all love her. The main thing is though that if someone were to call her "four eyes" or something similar she wouldn't care in the slightest, once you teach kids that they have worth and to be confident they are set for life. Just my opinion.

Also, my bf wears glasses and has odd little curls but I honestly do not care at all, I didn't pick him for how he looks, looks aren't everything. :huh:

[Jesus.]

Often very small women target very tall men so that their offspring males will not also be short. its a very deep rooted Darwinian thang

Tall men in general are targetted by most women, due to the fact that size is an evolutionary hangover from the females search for Alpha males. It's the same reason that see's tall men more likely to be CEO's.

[Niamh.]

Tall men in general are targetted by most women, due to the fact that size is an evolutionary hangover from the females search for Alpha males. It's the same reason that see's tall men more likely to be CEO's.

As long as he's taller than me I don't mind, I'm only 5'4.5" so it's not difficult to find someone taller than me

[Crimson Dynamo]

Tall men in general are targetted by most women, due to the fact that size is an evolutionary hangover from the females search for Alpha males. It's the same reason that see's tall men more likely to be CEO's.

Yes but these small women are tenacious

[Livia]

Tall men in general are targetted by most women, due to the fact that size is an evolutionary hangover from the females search for Alpha males. It's the same reason that see's tall men more likely to be CEO's.

It's either an evolutionary hangover... or we're hoping they're in proportion. I like my theory best.

[Jessica.]

It's either an evolutionary hangover... or we're hoping they're in proportion. I like my theory best.

:joker: